Introduction (Add: LYS 12, 13)
By: Leslie Fischman
I’ve learned much about mental illness throughout the years, but especially while achieving well, are you reminded of where you have been in life. Every experience in life teaches you a lesson about value and time. When you are aware of how to manage your time, and are doing well things not only go smoothly but life passes you by uninterrupted. You can only go with the flow, once you have mastered your time management skills, otherwise, you get stuck, in what seems like procrastination but is really just lack of motivation and drive in life, not all successful people are driven, success is not a product necessarily of who surrounds you or by what you have done in life, but is much about staying positive in the process of living your life. We have memories in life, not to be scripted as remembered as poignant, that just reflects feelings of loss or fear of loss whenever anything poignant is established, that can demonstrate a break in a relationship or a forced memory to trigger recall of your past to see if true, that give power to the one creating a story rather than the one living their life as within a story. Everyone protects people differently from harm, and some think it justified to put others down to protect themselves, as not knowing what work has been accomplished by someone who does the same. There are a lot of changes you go through in the process of self discovery its usually when you are not paying attention that you are made to look different without you knowing and by the time you realize what has happened its too late, harm is never justified, and if others have already retaliated or become territorial to their own belief, well then just let them be, never respond to anyone who is negative toward you, no harm is justified especially not anyone claiming victim, when things do not go well in life its by connections and connections broken and knowing what causes discomforts in life, sometimes things occurring in private when made public are uncomfortable, don’t turn yourself into a reject conforming to negative opinions of you that you forget your life, the good years lived, and the time you weren’t caught up in the troubles of others, or your own troubles in life. I thought it was wise to make a pen name, not to use my own name for my writing, that was to protect my identity and it turns out that my own name was put through the system, irreparable, my identity. It takes years after something negative is said about you and set in stone, you don’t realize how affected you just don’t feel good, and certainly anything that makes you not feel good, you would think was intended to not make you feel good as deserved, but you never think twice about anything when you are hurt or heartbroken, you usually just focus then on what you are doing well in life irrespective of the opinions of others. Never assume that people understand why they are treated the way they are treated, as though a confirmed identity of them has been established, we cannot be matched with all, and certainly there is no type when it comes to love as a general rule of thumb you pick who picks you not the opposite if you are a woman, otherwise you look desperate or as insulted a reject, not special. People generally only want to connect or be social and physical with people who have desired traits that they themselves do not have. I have always been a star athlete and student not the prettiest, but certainly not of no value, I’ve always had high self esteem, that’s generally where confidence comes from, being good at what youre good at and because you are good at what your good at you shine, that’s in your realm of expertise, to know yourself well enough, its not expected that others know you well in order for you to feel whole or to live a good life, some people were not meant for closeness and bonding, its by who is sharing is empowered and vice versa the listener learns but that does not mean that the listener is not affected by what is heard or overheard. I found a term in college vicarious trauma, and shared my research and findings in an honors thesis, that took a semester to write. When people think its about them or reasons for conducting research as about them, take personally as though speaking from my own shoes how I felt in the first person, is an assumption, I am not a judgmental person only a judgmental person would be insulted by a title and think its about counselors insulting their client, as affect, take insult to the term “vicarious trauma” as applied, its not a subject existing why it was a thesis a new discussion and with new discussion further research is conducted to help the parties affected. A lot of people work and volunteer and for whatever reasons do not stay, this was a research study shared with me by another counselor, I had written a paper one semester on hotline counselors, and continued to research and get additional approvals to write a longer paper on a paper I wrote for class with research approval. It takes time to develop and learn, its not easy college, you have to learn and perform, as you get older, time does not move so slowly, and anything new goes slowly, for anyone with experience time moves fast, this is something that’s not generally understood, but is obvious looking back, as through your own life lived, how time moves, everyone is different. As you get older you mature making wiser decisions, no one really wants to know about your personal life, and its really no ones business who has liked you in the past, if youre a different person now or a reject then of course those who liked you in the past would be offended or not feel comfortable as attached to someone who is now a reject, of course those who are picked are not rejects but strong people, independent, and loving able to give love, if later in life they are not the same person, well that means theyre only human, not everyone finds a match in life, and its hard to maintain your good health and give love to others, that’s not what life is about, giving love to others, finding love, but about what value you add to your life experience wise, if you do things to attract others attentions, or behave in a way that attracts attention then you are likely to be deemed as someone with low self esteem and worthy of being devalued, its all a matter of what kind of attention you draw towards yourself you are judged by, not all separations in life are due to fighting and rejections sometimes its about managing your own health, its not your responsibility to take into consideration the private lives of others, or be affected by their health, unless youre a doctor that’s not your responsibility, most people get turned off by those who are not normal or weird, looking sounding and behavior wise, deemed as not intelligent, and thought contagious, its really a matter of how you feel on the inside, does it make you feel small or less then, then surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself, its all a matter of reaction, not a matter of sexuality or attractiveness, people who attract or engage in physical touching or relationships are people who are well, its not by how many lives you have touched that give you experience in life but about how well you are in spite of allowing others to share their life with you, as a woman, you take a risk, being open with others making others feel good, and we hope that the benefit goes both ways, usually upon complaining or disclosure, are you deemed as someone unappreciative once declared a reject, as deserved and whether or not you have marriage or kids, deemed to not be of value even if in the work force, second guessed as defective or rejected as possessing undesirable traits, or loved just the same, eve if hooked on exes, or bearing a defect. Love certainly is not the solution then to cure an already defective condition and everytime love is given, not only do you look bad, but once a reject the others are left as perfect as you are further from yourself, and the further away you are from yourself, the further away you are from realizing your potential, I think physicality is gifted to those who focus on physicality, and those who focus on intelligence and bettering themselves by education learning or achieving in life awards for affirmation, then that’s what makes them feel good not their looks as looks are a strength of the well, you can do your best to manage your health but don’t highlight your bad years to encourage questioning of your relationship statuses and attractions, being overweight does not mean butch and not being able to phot well does not mean butch or jealous or negative or absorbing negativity as directed toward them it could just mean that someone who does not look well uncharacteristically because as not well was a way to discourage bad behavior or drug use, that’s called being a good friend, I had many good friends in high school. Depression is about self esteem, when you get rejected don’t take it personally, when you find out later why or how come or told who you’ve been replaced by, just let things go, don’t years later, bring things up as a premise for why mentally ill at that point in time, they will just attack your character based upon what they think bothered you to see if you are telling the truth about your wellness and looks, and keep testing you until you can no longer repair yourself, and actually look and become a reject, that’s people on the outside thinking they can control the inside of a conversation or underlying dialogue as to be about them or by what they remember, every audience is different in life, and sometimes if you don’t hear from someone, that does not mean that they are someplace else in life, worse off, usually when someone is focusing on themselves its to better themselves for the job and friends, return to socialization. If a return to socialization cannot exist based upon negative judgments reported as occurring outside a set of interactions than those ideas are furthered on a smaller scale, with the initial incident of heartbreak rehashing itself, you cannot treat someone as a reject based upon what they hear or think that someone is not smart because their point of view is different than their own point of view, or attack the character of people as knowing and not disclosing what they know as playing along with jokes their whole life, some see and realize how individuals were affected, and this promotes positivity in those who understand jokes, the jokes that people make about others, should never affect the person to whom the joke is made about, if you find out much later in life the premise for the jokes, then you realize by lawsuit and punishment, which imitations in life, promoted which dialogues interpretations and furthered stories about others, until those ideas poor of others came to fruition, that is turning someone well into a reject. I think that all people are intelligent on the inside of any story, having a unique perspective if you think my hand in life is better than how everyone else felt as viewing from the outside, then don’t switch places with me as deserved, to then make me feel like Im missing something in life, or because not on point, its my responsibility to stop of help those who get lost in the understandings of others, never lose faith, its not by who you know its by what you know based upon your education not based upon what you hear, that just affects your memory, how people try to become special or apart of your life, before you have even been given an opportunity to get well, not everything is instant in life, it can only be lived once through, don’t treat people as you judge them, you have no idea what they’ve been through or why they look the way they do, always trust that people heal get better over time, and that the more good time they have the more opportunities in life they are afforded to start over or live a new or better life.
You will meet a lot of people in life some who will try to tell your story for you and some who think telling your story for you does a service to others as told as they see evens occurring always speak from the first person not to others as though you are them for reaction or be offended take personally when others see you as something you are not they may expect more of you given your age education and training to be “pleased” is by what you expect seeing come to fruition in others that’s forecasting based upon what you get what reactions you get in life not by your own conduct but by what makes sense to you as affirmed by others wellness and good deeds no affirmation to be furthered if you need affirmation from others to share a perspective you think is proper then that’s waiting for reaction from others to confirm beliefs as though I think I’m Kim or Skylar or think they think they are me or I think I’m someone I’m not to see how high school happened? I was always a caretaker share clothes everything I’m not a selfish person what is borrowed like clothes is not given back if it makes others feel special to have something of yours then don’t devalue the source of empowerment to others as though I’m an imitation of others not myself. Beauty is not by looking at imitated its an exchange and not between women as affected spoken to given or received but by strength empowerment not by shrinking one another or through the sharing of emotions usually that makes the other feel smarter or better than don’t make yourself vulnerable to others as affected become the reject or sensitive one how you lose your beauty and how another feels beauty as loved or better than not both can be pretty it’s usually who looks up to who or who gets more attention than the other that’s just women + beauty.
Don’t get depressed thinking that life is short that just drags you down in life, don’t be led astray in life be thankful for what you have and be empowered by that. You will encounter a lot of illness in life think what is it that you can do to stay well in spite of suffering from illness. The positive interpretation is always best not by interpreting things in the negative do we grow.
You can only stay positive so long before something does not go right or runs afoul, think first what it is that you are focusing on positives or negatives to make happen for you in life a weller state of mind. Nothing negative sought to be proven ever led anyone to a better state of mind it’s usually the opposite when positive if focusing on negatives in avoidance of proof the negative occurs, why it’s important to either focus or create a more positive outlook even when things are not going right so that things fall toward the well not fall backwards into illness - give people time to heal, you cannot study the illnesses of others to help make them well you cannot not listen to those who are not well to think you can control their wellness play god or make yourself look better as caretaker to that’s not empowerment that’s disempowering the ill to make the well more well at the expense of those who are ill kept ill or going backwards toward illness. Allow people time to move forward and get well why we have right to privacy to not relive events or illnesses move forward in life. God forgives everyone has the responsibility to do the same not do up dirt about people who are well to prove smarter than or not well by comparison
Some people are privileged to keep going in life find a better life improve. Some of us stay put. You have to keep going in life if you want to find happiness you can’t just stop living life upon rejection that just means that that person is not right for you if they can’t see long term with you. Always do your best, recovery takes time, change doesn’t happen overnight, you just have to count your losses in life and earn your wins. Some people wait on bad things to happen to do well in life some of us need no catalyst to make change happen in our lives. You matter so long as you don’t interfere with the happinesses is others, never change for the worst it’s that instability that turns people off prevents people from getting close to you and likewise makes you not trust yourself once you lose your positive outlook in life not able to see yourself long term, that’s how you know you’ve given your heart to someone who’s not a match you lose your positive outlook.
Sometimes you get lost in life led astray God forgives you. You need love in order to feel at peace with yourself and others, we don’t always get that much in life. Least you can do is be there for others, give unconditionally and allow the best to shine with or without you. Not everyone is fit for leadership -we all wish to be admired looked up to but that is not always the case sometimes we have to work on ourselves. The best third wheels in life are those who give not take from others why they are well liked by couples, the benefit going to those who share love given by someone without love or who has love gives love to them. Know your part always don’t separate people from loved ones and do your best to help people grow not stifle the development of others taking love away. #presidenttrump
Be patient with those who care about you know that everyone is going through something different at this time processing the past and planning for their future. Do your best always to be of service to others without sacrificing what it is that makes you happy. Love to love but when in Rome know when to back off and let people get to work to stay afloat.
As you reflect on your past don’t beat yourself up over it. Think what can you do now at the present moving forward to fix yourself. You can’t remix history, it will always be there the same. You’ll wish a lot of things in life, but nothing will happen for you unless you first forgive yourself and others. Fighting is never the answer to your problems. Connect well to what helps you grow not what holds you back in life.
It is possible to love more than one thing or person in life ... even if you love yourself to bits. Mostly completed by the people we have in our lives who help make us feel whole. When you’re ready to present yourself to the world always present the best version of yourself others are only happy for you when you’re at your best realize your best in life that’s when they’re most proud of you, love yourself, but never to the extent that you hurt yourself not happy with where you are in life. You will never stop being a day older another year wiser #agingisaprocess.
When all is lost think first what it is that you have in life, what do you have to offer the world, that’s self-worth. What gives you energy makes you feel good are activities that are good for your health, don’t be led astray by quick remedies in life, not everything that feels good is good for you. What is it that’s important to you in life and think how can I be best suited to achieve goals in life that make you feel important. You are guided after all by those thoughts and goals you set for yourself in life. #presidenttrump
Those looking in from the outside always do their best to control what information gets sent in, that’s called being overprotective, when you have people around you who care #enough to not let you turn into someone who is disliked by association, why new associations help reinforce what is good about you while disempowering those who thought less of you. At what point can all sides win, at what point can you just be yourself and stop fighting mental illness -is it life long? When does your battle with mental illness give way to negative commentary about you, is it deserved when your defenses are down not sharp at a loss in life. When do the jokes stop and what are we coding to exactly which causes should we support and what is it that’s causing people to look and feel like $hit is it deserved, where has beauty gone, and what is causing beauty loss?
You only have one life to live. Love is important but not to the extent that it becomes the end all be all to your sense of happiness. Who is it that gets love in life and what makes people loveable. We’re not always in the mood when love comes around but that doesn’t mean shut the door on those opportunities to be loved. There’s a lot of give and take when it comes to valuing yourself while giving love to others, never at your own expense make others feel better unless you yourself feel good, that’s love. #slutwalk
Be careful not to repeat elements knowing causes for illness learn how to leave things alone when someone is taken doing well in life able to give their heart online not expect more of them for some of us it takes a long time to get well not burn people out when things are well.
It’s easy to feel offended when someone does not give you love in return don’t take things personally people have only so much to give in life cannot be responsible for the happinesses of others expect that people are always doing their best.
Slept well for the first time last night in awhile have been waking up at 2 or 3 am unable to go back to sleep. Know your limits in life. When things are peaceful know how to let things go and not push peoples limits in life how people burn out unable to keep up with the times.
Don’t be resistant to help from others, they come a dime a dozen. Be appreciative always of your blessings in life and good fortune, without whom you would not be where you are today. Good luck comes to those who know and value themselves and others.
The less time you spend worrying what other people think the more time you get to spend being you. Forgive yourself often and always set your standards high. You can’t cut corners in life just do your best and work with what you’ve got.
Help yourself first before helping others, nothing gets done right when complacent, everyday is an opportunity to better yourself. That being said, know when to stop, nothing lasts forever. In order to set a good example you yourself must be well, otherwise let those who are well lead.
“Just stay positive” is sometimes easier said than done. You can’t always get your way in life if so then we would all be happy right? But life isn’t perfect, we all have our flaws, it’s to the betterment of all that we find some positive purpose in life, driven by goals, not needs and wants, finding comfort in the fact that you are not alone.
Some people don’t change you can’t change people. They may adapt themselves to their environments but that still may not be enough. Learn to let things go forgiveness is a virtue not everyone is adept at owning up to their wrongs in life, would never stoop to that level to make someone appear ambivalent when they care or aloof a sign of self-centeredness not righteousness. People can only be themselves. People take their own courses in life that will never stop, what can be stopped are expectations, what can be changed are hearts, know yours and allow others to choose for themselves who to change for, love, trust, admire, or empower that’s up to people not places.
It’s just a bad day not a bad life. Be careful not to vent your frustrations out to others -that’s not the solution to your problems to complain you usually end up worse off. It’s hard to keep a good head on your shoulders and avoid getting in trouble in life when carefree. Love often, trust more, and always be thankful for the people in your lives.
You only get one chance at hello people either welcome you into your hearts or speak above you, that’s usually a manifestation of their own insecurities reacting and responding as others would more or less understanding given the times ... some rise to the occasion and others sit back and are led by those who are well. Find yourself first and everything else will fall into place. Be patient.
Don’t let your troubles get the best of you. If you stay negative you’ll never get to experience the blessings that life has to offer. The only ones we let down when in fear are ourselves, your strengths generally come out during times of turmoil when pushed to our limits, how the best shine. Everyone gets upset and let down in life you are your own best friend in life what’s most important is being able to pull yourself out of a mess not allow the voices to fester.
Publish // Rule #1: Don’t complain. Sometimes life has it that you learn the hard way to be accepting of all, not everything is about you in life. People are mostly concerned with themselves. If paranoid think first what it is that you could be doing better in life then go out and do that.
Everyone wants to be special but that is not always the case there is a fine line not to be tampered with and that is a good image mistaken for a bad image then treated poorly to confirm the negative about someone that’s no way moving forward how to help others, by setting standards so high that once a good standard is shown or achieved put down as deserved this disables a persons ability to achieve well in spite of the circumstances to prove the past moving forward is not a result of rejection or the silent treatment that is deserved when someone is not good enough made to feel like a reject or not able. The well can be playful those who are not well do not partake in experimental behavior play with your own image not the wellness of others that’s what’s at issue when someone knowingly does something wrong it’s that response that is looked for and if in the reverse negative circumstances occur for them prove as justified or deserving as karma, allow people to grow at their own pace in life and do not be affected by the negative commentary made by others or as misdirected toward you as deserved to see how you respond the same or similar to as provoked to prove treatment of another is likewise deserved by reaction generated to confirm a similarity non-existent prior to causes creating controversy or discomfort is not then the responsibility of the person affected to be looked up for help as to the side that who while trying to identify the wrong illustrated a wrong by affecting the person believed to be a wrongdoer that’s not helpful for the provoked to defend themselves as being mischaracterized to justify a non-existing discord toward them to test to see if a discord exists as made fun of, that’s not the solution to bring about consequences or reactions to prove certain a given set of conditions occur prior to reaction to make the person reacting look defensive making others look well or better than by comparison.
You can’t always get what you want. Sometimes you are in the wrong when you’re thinkings not clear it’s easy to convince yourself that you are in the right. Never be too stubborn to think outside the box, maybe you don’t know everything, and your intuitions could be off. Let people be people you can’t control what other people think, your version of how the world works is not by the same interpretation how others see the world everyone lives different lives. By your upbringing and experiences in life contribute what you can without sacrificing what you know best yourself, all others to help you change comes slowly it’s not inevitable it take patient and good decision making skills to act and behave in a way that’s appropriate under any types of pressures to change better yourself.
No one will ever be on one side in life people will always hold their own opinions in life that’s just how it works. When a side is created by default upon the happening of any wrong, the bigger person is the one least affected and by default a chosen side. Don’t therefore by default reinforce sides and become a side or create a side or justify oneself unnecessarily to set ones self aside. When the voices linger as to your own conduct do what is right now correct what is wrong by stating what is wrong that rarely is the solution moving forward, those are called opinions you hear. Once you’ve arrived to well allow the voices to stop on their own it’s usually by good deeds and well managed thoughts we steer clear of controversy not place oneself within for unwanted attentions in life.
Not everyone is going to be on your team in life and that’s okay, in a perfect world people take sides, that doesn’t necessarily mean there is something to continue to fight about, learn to let the dust settle, let things go, and move forward without rehashing the past. Learn from your mistakes and those still accepting of you in spite of your imperfections should be valued. The more you allow your worries to dictate your thought the less of you you hear and the more of them you hear. Try not to reinforce negative opinions of you and everything you say matters and how you say everything matters as to how you will be judged.
You can’t get very far in life calling people out on their stuff to feel better about yourself, one side ends up losing the side that takes it too far or the side in defense of self wasting their energies on preventing problems can also lead to contributing to causing problems when the other side does not feel well or feel like it’s won in life, that’s called a fight. Always rise above, nothing can be solved by asserting yourself to prove another side wrong the best of them win not by proving anyone wrong but by avoiding all forms of competition for rights. To do right in life one must only be good.
Always do your best, less is more. If it would hurt someone to talk about better to talk about positives, what it is you are happy about in life rather than talk about your problems. We all have problems in life it’s selfish to assume that your life is more difficult than the lives lead by others, we all face challenges in life, we all have disabilities, and we all have pasts filled with moments we are either proud of or regret ashamed of. No one is perfect. Just do your best to stand tall and moving forward not allow your past to define you ... let go more often, enjoy who’s here now, and be of value. #thankyou #lebronjames
In order to build a better future for yourself process your past but not to the extent that it disables your present ability to move forward. Those who are successful are light on their feet, they may have been through a lot in life but they don’t easily take to heart commentary as directed toward them or others empathize with either side, are focused on being the best version of themselves. Life can be painful especially while wasting time, energy, and effort conforming to a set of ideals instead of valuing what there is to love about yourself. People who truly love you will accept you just the way you are and if you change so be it. Always do your best to better yourself everyday you’ve got and not give in to negativity that is processing the negative sentiments shared by others about you or others, stay on track and never give up. You are only allowed so many energy points per day spend them wisely on what matters and who matters to you in life, you’ll be lucky enough to be rewarded ten fold if you don’t lose sight of your cares in life and your way of handling reality coping see best fit.