#leverageyourstory (Days 21-24) (07/26/18 -08/05/18)
08-01-18 (Day 21)
When things are not going well for you in life its easy to blame others for our illnesses. -You cant go backwards from errors or mistakes in life you can only move forward. -Accept what help you get in life but don’t make worse your problems or the problems of others. Knowing when to stop is knowing to stop self-harming and start valuing yourself and your future endeavors put together or not.
08-04-18 (Day 22)
Being mysterious means not allowing people to control your sense of being in life. You cannot predict the actions of others and you cannot stop the feelings that others have toward you, that does not make better situations in life. You have to be in control of yourself and your emotions, not by embarrassment respond to others. You cant stop people from not liking you in life you have to stay positive.
08-05-18 (Day 23)
It takes awhile to continue to do well after you have hit a low in life or struggled with maintaining your sense of self and self-worth. When you are not strong in life it makes it difficult to connect well with others, old patterns of behavior repeat themselves when you are not doing well in life to any bystander it becomes obvious who is well off or not doing well in life. It doesn’t matter how much money you have if people don’t like you -they will still try to connect to you to cause you harm. -That’s why you let go in life. When things are not going well for you in life always take a step back. You cant relive your life differently if you are not happy with where you are in life. It should not matter what people think -or whether they empathize with you or not misread or try to read or dictate your path in life -to align with their interests as about them. That is why its important to disconnect with others who put you in the forefront of your mind affects always your sense of self and identity as a writer -sheltered this is something I understand but not most -How me as a writer gets affected by others. -Whether or not that’s purposeful knowing who I am -is not my fault. For the purposes of embodiments and honesty its who you put in charge of you that affects your sense of person -and acceptance of you is based upon your behavior and how you feel about yourself. What may be tested for is how others feel about me -not my responsibility.
08-05-18 (Day 23 – continued)
There comes a point when you stop blaming others for your problems in life and start accepting your life as it is now. There is no cure for acceptance of negativity -either toward you or about you. -In these cases best a person can do is lay low not subject themselves to negative judgement or put themselves up as vulnerable in need of acceptance. Learn to walk away from anything that causes you emotional disturbance. What occurs outside your sense of self is not your responsibility to correct. -Just identify your own happiness in life and what works best for you. When you are not doing well in life it becomes next to impossible to make others happy around you or be accepting of you as looking weird, or weak, or with low self-esteem without a strong sense of self-identity. Whenever something negative in your life occurs always do your best to separate yourself from whats hurting you or your sense of identity in life sense of being whole. Until you are happy with your own image will others be understanding and accepting of you. You are always affected by who offends you -don’t enable the wrong kinds of people to become apart of your life and hurt your ability to succeed in life, no one deserves that kind of power over you to hurt your ability to exist and function in life hurt your sense of inner peace and ability to adapt to your surroundings and hurt your ability to connect well with others whole now [at your own expense] imperfect [as compared to the wellness that surrounds you].
Leverage Your Story
Days 14-20 Handwritten (07/21/18 to 07/29/18)
Book #3 on mymollydoll.com
Day 15: 07-21-18
Not everything in life will work out in your favor. -Always be careful while in pursuit of your dreams not be offensive toward anyone -i.e. take your feelings out on others, or have your own unhappiness manifest as unhappy toward happy people. Whenever you see someone doing well in life -that is because they are focused on themselves not others. -Even if burdened bu the troubles of others -does not require you to fix them, always be yourself, never take anything personally as directed toward you, or make things about you, that are not about you, to better connect to others. You are your own worst enemy in that way. So long as you enable others to cause harm to you and your psyche, you will in turn empower others, not yourself. ~Not everyone knows you -and when an overall judgment is passed of you -make sure that its positive.
Day 16: 07-22-18
There will always be believers and non believers in your abilities, either supporting you or not -affect your well being, that is their opinions of you. You can rarely when trying [to] please a crowd. -Be careful never to please or do things in response to others disfavorable toward your best interests. That is not how to do well in life. You can never assume that everyone knows the same information as you, your attention, recall, memory, and best judgments usually affect your particular experience with a person as well or not don’t assume they know everything you know. Always be positive toward others the world is a big place and it certainly doesn’t need to be made smaller by sharing your problems out loud – affecting others, including yourself. We all have problems. What you read you either do or do not see well in others, always have well thoughts about others, whereas grievances can always be explained privately. -If you see your life a certain way allow your life to happen irrespective of whats going on around you. You cant change people, but you should also not make people feel small or less than value people for who they are not necessarily base your care for them amount, based upon a negative perception of them caring less for you than they do -simply because they care for themselves more, be open-minded.
Day 17: 07-23-18
When you decide to get sober (2014) that is a commitment you make to yourself in order to get well and stay well. But you still have to do the work, no one can push you to be a certain way to achieve well in life, that is work you have to do on your own. -When you finally achieve well in life, that’s a product of others or communications to you. Negative people tend to be selfish in that way all about themselves achieving well, much like those who are not well trying to achieve well not in competition with others. -You can’t judge a book by its cover. Some of us are well and some of us are not well, and some deserve to achieve well and while doing their best to appear well be treated so. -Not everything is about their wellness in life, not necessarily inspired to achieve well based upon your ideas of wellness -interfere with your ability to do well in life. -What people try to assemble on their own without you present, is not your responsibility to help or assist others achieve well at your own expense in life, end up not doing as well as others, and your competitive edge broken by the ideas others have of you, if in the negative, wrongfully interfere with your direction and course in life, by wellness one is always judged, how well do you have to be for acceptance? Not better than. When you know yourself, no excuses are necessary to explain your behavior or the behavior of others toward you, judge or misjudge you as in need of help or declare you as too ill to console until a set of responses from you benefits their position in life as against you and their discrimination of you as justified. You cannot change people, everyone has their own confidences in life. And when you are not doing well if you share your vulnerabilities with others that may only give them confidence over you ~Think twice before you speak and remember to never blame others for your illnesses in life. -Don’t build things up within yourself or get worked up by the troubles of others, that’s not how to connect well to others past or present. To sell yourself short in life, as example or interference provoked by the words or actions of others. To create circumstances by your own hard work and effort to benefit others and enable them to cause you pain and suffering unreasonably, because they either have or have not expressed an interest in belittling you or purposefully casting you away to benefit from your struggles your identity -treat you as not good enough. -That is by their own merits trying to prove or disprove conditions as existing by labeling you poorly to prove existence of a poor condition, conditions caused by others is never your responsibility to solve, so does being defensive to the wrongs of others toward you. To me #stopsuicide means not going backwards and moving forward in life -appreciating what is likeable about you and at the same time accept what is not liked about you -and not allowing others to change you. -You cant T up consequences backward to set someone up as not well presently, that does no good moving forward. ~In order to see the future as well, you have to first appreciate and recognize your present condition as well irrespective of the negative opinions of others toward you. Knowing you matter (talking to myself now) is important to let go of your past -and not allow past memories to dictate you recollections now -meaning -we all have positive memories and (some have) negative memories. What you remember or recall in the past moving forward affects how you see now ie presently. Everyone present is different, and based upon my own experiences in life I write. -You can either write by prompts and get paid or you can follow your heart and write from the heart. That means writing based upon present exposures and maintaining wellness in spite of negative exposures. People may present themselves to you for reaction, input, inference, delay, or consequence, but you are always in control of how you think -regardless of the thoughts or opinions others may have of you. Just always do your best to keep yourself separate from the interests of others to see yourself best.
Day 18: 07-25-18
Your hopes and dreams can easily be lost when stuck or misguided by the truths of others, Ive been told in the past that “we all have our own truth” and that’s what Im currently working on. What is my truth? Knowing yourself is one thing, responding to your audience is another thing. -What you know best -is figuring out what is your strongest suit in life and sticking to that. We all have our ups and downs in life. Just always do your best, and no matter what, stay true to your good character. To be smart is to be appreciative, life is short -much too short to blame others for your illnesses in life. Taking charge and responsibility for your own happiness in life -means not getting caught up in the delusion of the past.
Day 19: 07-26-18
Its important to think for others not just yourself, some are predispositioned to respond selflessly well taken care of with no problems and some of us have problems in life. Its not required to share your problems -or make worse your outlook in life -people pleasing those who do not like you. I get no advice in life, stayed in school. Some of us are blessed with confidence and some of us need to work hard. -Focus on your own wellness. I have trouble staying well myself now, alone, away from others. It happens in life that people get mischaracterized when talked about, you can do your best to reverse negative judgments past of you, but for me -only makes my present condition worse to respond to people past who have hurt me either directly or indirectly. Learn to leave people alone. Its best not to trigger me for reactions poor -to prove bullying of me is deserved when its not deserved. Everyone has their own solution in life, and their own set of problems, mine are private.
Day 20: 07-29-18
Not everyone knows the same information as you in life that’s next to impossible. For writers we can only do our best to share our thoughts without becoming frustrated by the thoughts of others about us. That’s not how to properly take care of someone, by passing negative judgment of them. Allow people to be themselves whether or not you are apart of their life or able to influence them. Acceptance is not always about being understood but by our own actions and thoughts are we judged.
Leverage Your Story #6
By: Leslie A. Fischman
If you’re not feeling well rest, yes it’s true people disappear, their lights on and off, that’s normal it’s not required we be hyper vigilant all the time it just means there’s not enough love coming from within or around, usually in love we make the best decisions and when broken it’s love that puts us back together. When people are well do your best to care and when people are not doing well do your best to make practical decisions for yourself and others not overstep your boundaries trying to get people to care for you or think about you that’s called being needy to be wanted by someone who has it all they have it all because they’re put together.
You can’t please them all, stay well, don’t get sick trying too hard in life for the wrong things ... especially for attention. The best decisions are made not by imitating others but by being original and by following your intuitions in life, that’s what makes people look and feel beautiful to be unique is to be admired those are qualities we seek to have in life not necessarily to be looked up to or admired that’s for the well to decide, who to trust and who to ignore. When you have it all don’t lose it all over bad decisions and excess, everything in moderation, sometimes discipline hurts, don’t try too hard for the wrong things in life, love comes and it goes.
When things are going well don’t make things worse by rehashing the past that can do more harm than good. Your thoughts are your own don’t allow others to make you look or feel less than you are in charge of what you think about yourself and others. Don’t confuse your emotions with the treatment of others toward you everyone has their own issues and problems in life it’s not all about you.
Advice to self ... you live and you learn don’t stop dreaming and never give up, only time will tell how far you’ll get happiness wise. Be in control of your emotions and don’t let the day get the best of you, you can’t please them all just be happy with yourself and where you are now. The past is the past if you keep thinking about the past you’ll keep reliving those experiences over and over again, learn from your mistakes.
Be your own person, you should not rely on others to feel whole. Be a good decision maker, and know when to stop. Neediness is a product of lack of self confidence, if so, don’t be too dependent on others for affirmation, that’s how you get hurt.
Life isn’t fair, not everything works out, you can convince yourself of anything when your defenses are up. Listen well to others sometimes you don’t always know what’s best. Good timing is everything ... be patient.
Feeling good is not all about you ... that’s the hard part, feeling good and making people feel good around you, you cannot please them all. Taking into consideration how others feel sometimes sends you back on track to the right thinking -stepping outside of yourself and thinking about others is not all that bad, don’t be too selfish, less is more, and there’s more to life than perfection.
Based upon what people say things either happen for you in life or don’t happen for you. Don’t let pet peeves get the best of you fighting is not the solution to your problems. Do not engage with bullies it’s by words you empower the wrong people and by your allowances others are enabled to cause harm to you and your well being. Nothing past can remedy what is not going well now, always do your best to focus on the present what you can do for yourself moving forward to live a better life, not make your problems the problems of others.
We all wish we could be the one with all the bells and whistles but that simply isn’t the case some look better than others and on any given day healthier looking or not as healthy looking. Stop comparing yourself to people who are well, that’s not something to rub in someone’s face your wellness that’s not what causes jealousy and if jealousy makes you feel better about yourself then you’re going about wellness in the wrong way and it’s your own fault if you don’t feel well. Get well to do well don’t get well in competition with others for wellness that’s not the way to be well liked.
You just have to stay positive even if things are not going right for you in life not cause disturbance to those who are emotionally well and sound ... you too can achieve a well state of mind if you so choose to see the good in life not by focusing solely on what’s not going well for you in life, fear is contagious much like confidence requires us to be good decision makers so more things go right than wrong.
People either support you in life or don’t support you and for whatever reasons seek to justify that disposition whether things are going well or not place blames, we are all human, no one is perfect for what obvious purposes we care those who do care are never to blame for caring it’s by our cares we are productive members of society, approval ratings are for political figures and public figures who’s job is to influence wellness in others they change to accommodate the times, set examples, and bars for achievement. Not all are good leaders it’s not a natural trait.
I think that everyone took the bullying and stealing too far and that’s okay for whatever purposes good luck is made stay original, sometimes we are made to look stupid be reminded of our well moments and lowest of low moments and those able to move forward are those who are right and for those of in in correct or in need of correction get reminded every so often to be put back in our place, sometimes we deserve to repent and other times we don’t ... if you let them win you only do yourself a disservice in life why they say to prove them wrong but when it’s difficult to do right and others feel poorly then do so with balance not be the provider of guilt, every action has a reaction, including self-esteems.
Control your empathy ... that doesn’t mean don’t care that just means be careful not to take on the emotions of who’s bothering you that defeats the purpose of self-care as influenced by something or someone that gets under your skin. Always do your best to stay positive, and when in doubt rely upon strengths of character for advice not focus on the weaknesses of others, which can lead you astray.
11-06-18 (Update to Now) Introduction
By: Leslie A. Fischman
Living with mental health issues is no easy task, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to handle negativity you just need not respond to it. If I could give out any advice that has helped me move forward it would be not to look back, and focus on putting together your present so that things happen for you in life. I don’t agree that misery loves company, usually when we are not doing well in life we avoid people who are not doing well and look toward those who are achieving for guidance on how to do better in life. Unfortunately I am no good example of that, have struggled with weight my whole life, and have never been the prettiest or the most popular, but always well liked, let alone maintain a relationship to marriage, that I cannot relate to, people who have it all. What hurts the most is people trying to relate to you who do not know you, and then try to be a spokesperson for you, or by talking to others you know, make you feel more isolated in life, that’s breaking connections, and creating wellness around a person, and leaving them worse off, that’s just how I feel. When no one wants you to be happy and when happiness is offensive to others, or they think is weird, for whatever reasons, your happiness is your own, its not your job to make others like you or be happy around you, so long as you are not the cause for their unhappiness, no retaliation upon your own happiness is necessary to make them look better or the caretaker, take care of yourself, and don’t rely on others to be there for you when you are not well, if they are too busy networking with the well. This is reminiscent of familial relationships, sometimes we all get along, and sometimes we fight, but for the most part, everyones best interests are at heart, and that is something people in families can agree upon. You have to learn how to let things go, we are not all perfect, and most of us just try to do well in life, and avoid getting in the way of others, that’s a natural condition, not to do well and prevent others from doing well in life, that’s a waste of energy, being competitive with others, always be yourself, especially when not well my best advice would be to steer away from competition, then you just look possessive and controlling, if you cannot control yourself, don’t expect likewise for people to gravitate toward you as well.
For: Leverage Your Story: (30 Days)
Days 1-27: 07/04/18 - 08/05/18
By: Leslie A. Fischman
Handwritten 30 Day Assignment (Days 1-15)
I was thinking today, I wonder what people think of me, or if that really even matters. You just have to be strong not worry about what other people think. The best part about staying well is getting well and once you get well moving past illness, recognizing what was causing you illness, and staying well in spite of recognizing those thoughts. “We all have demons” but its what you say and how you say it that matters most. “The Journey of 1,000 miles begins with one step” staying sober is a choice not for a comeback, you have to be well for that.
Living at home has presented a lot of changes for me in life. Im no longer alone all the time, wondering what people think, but get immediate feedback as to how Im doing in life. I never really understood the importance of feedback until it was needed, in order to do well in life. We don’t always know what to do, that’s the thing, sometimes we are more adept at figuring things out on our own and other times we cant make the right decision even if we get all the help and support we need. Be remined of where you come from in life, but never forget where you’ve been.
You cant go backwards in life pre-planning how you want your life to turn out looking back, some days you just have to move forward whether with others or not. Not everyone will be on your side in life and that’s okay. Just stay positive.
Not everything makes sense completely -you just have to move forward in life not get wrapped up in the nonsense provoked by others, thoughts or actions. I think this is why they say not to worry about what other people think. You just have to stay positive not everything works out in life. Whether you understand or not whats is wrong, should not gear your actions toward others right or wrong. That does no good moving forward negative deductions.
I don’t think anyone ever intentionally tries to hurt your feelings, but sometimes our feelings get hurt, when overexposed we may feel a tendency to relish in fear of our opposing forces in life, afraid to say what is, that [is] a normal feeling, talking helps its quiet that causes emotional disturbance when combined with negative thoughts toward ourselves, in our heads, as coming from another, or anticipated so. -Just stay positive, rome was not built in one day and neither was life as simple as good choices and best decision making skills exhibited. You never know whats in store for you, you cannot predict the future, you can only deal with and handle best whats directly in front of you. Always stay calm some of the best deciions we make are often times a product of not only having a clear conscious but also a matter of being a good person. -We are not always perfect. We may try our best, sometimes get thrown into messes and competitions in life, but always know your limits in life. You cannot be in two places at once. Whereever the grass is green, know your best and stick to that.
I don’t think anyone ever plans to get defamed. It just happens. Where you are or are not in the wrong if an opinion in the negative gets drawn as to your [good] character, then its your responsibility to correct that negative judgement of you. Blaming others for negative or poor judgment of you -only leads you astray further from your goals of acceptance of who you are or are not, proven wrong. By proving wrong negative judgment of you, that does not necessarily bring out positive consequences for you or past negative judgment changed as to your well being, in or in not your favor or in your best interests. -You are responsible for how others see you, well or not is always in your control -reversing the consequences of negative judgment is a matter of having (1) positive insight (2) positive outlook which upon negative insight and outlooks get frowned upon as deserving or not. What energies you feed into -reflects upon your well being -catering to crowds or yourself, well or not is based upon your (1) success(es) (2) determinations (3) energies. No one can read your thoughts, that’s only a delusion. From conversation to writing, your fathomed thoughts, translate to well or put together at length. That’s how you know whether positive or negative conversations are affecting your intellect, responses, and behavior, about or within you.
When you understand the difference between right and wrong you understand that much more about life, how to behave well, whos watching, whos not. When you get that much clear, you can then develop a better understanding of yourself, absent the expressions of others. -Know your best. Its not required that you receive acceptance from others in order to do well in life, you need only -not behave in a way that undermines your sense of being and your wellness. Always be courteous to the emotions of others, whether toward you or others, you need not always respond -simply being there for others is sometimes better than not being there at all for anyone. Always do your best. Don’t succumb to the weakness or words of others in conversation, make right those who have wronged you -learn to let go and forgive. The more you move forward in life, the better off you’ll be. -Don’t exploit the privacies of others. That’s not how to best help others whether or not you are well suited to be there for others -should not guide nor direct treatment of persons. Be kind to all, nothing insulting is ever if ever taken rightly always personally. Before you come up in life if theres lack of respect that’s outside of your control what others think of you.
People well do and say things you don’t want to hear in life but you cannot let anyone hurt your sense of inner peace. When in trauma and when you cannot express yourself, pause. Don’t enable others to hurt your sense of self, stability and self-esteem. That only hurts your image to enable others to make you look bad or cause you to self-harm to make them look or appear well or better than. All associations get disconnected once you lose your sense of cool and wellness. You cannot allow others to destroy your sense of self. [Took meds] if you are not happy with who you are or where you are in life, you cannot take your unhappiness out on others. There is a breaking point. Don’t aggravate people who are doing well in life. Past their breaking point in life, fall ill to well. Allow well to do well in life irrespective of what you think.
You can’t get a headstart in life piggy backing off the successes of others. All roads lead to one. For reasons not stated, one is or is not trusted by the thoughts of others about. To create defenses is to respond to whats it about. That is for no one to judge the wellness of others -or bring about consequences to them as in defense to learn to let issues go not correlate to prove causation of elements leading to goods or bad choices in life. You cannot blame people for what they think people will always think what they want to, we all respond differently to stimuli, always do your best to report and speak up, not cause consequences for negatives to occur in peoples lives -hurt their position and ability to speak on their own.
Whenever you feel like youre in disarray focus on the present what you can do now for yourself moving forward to make yourself well again. Everybody has their struggles in life its by what you do at the present moment that matters as to your self esteem, as you see best fit, how to be, during good times and times of turmoil, stay well in spite of others. Don’t be ashamed of your past. If you keep reliving the past you’ll never move forward. Life is about being able to simplify your needs and wants in life, do well. Know your limits in life don’t test them. What is well is well and leave it at that. Don’t push your limits in life and especially don’t push the limits of others. Always do your best to stay positive. You cannot control people if everyone was under control of the same person, life would be boring. Therefore always do your best to have fun enjoy life.
Staying positive, and moving forward requires more than just letting go. Part of us -feels torn this can make it difficult to make decisions in life. Who to trust and why -and who is best to speak to. Not everything in life goes smoothly, you are a product of your environment that will never change, you can do your best to appreciate and value life, but that will not change your circumstances in life, bring you happiness or effect the way you see things.
I don’t think its necessary to do things for the short blurbs about you you just have to move forward regardless of what other people think about you, a success or not. -What and who you are attached to does not matter in the long run its what you’re about that matters most. People are driven by different things in life, success, jobs, love -you have to find what it is in your heart that makes you happy. No one can be you. You have to just be yourself, until you are happy no one can make you happy. That is something you have to realize for yourself. The value of hardwork -knowing the difference between right and wrong and when tired, being immune from anything that causes you turmoil or illness. Just be who you are. Until you like yourself its hard to make anything go right for you in life. You cant get worked up over the small things in life, just do your best to stay well and not let anyone affect you. Lifes not a competition for wellness and its certainly not a race to success. You cant be made jealous by the successes of others. You just have to be happy with who you are and are not.
Having a positive effect on others means not engaging in any activities that cause harm to your reputation and by that harm not feel well or achieve well in life. -You cannot go backwards with people once they don’t accept you is to prove them wrong. Life is short, memorable, but too short to worry about things in life or the opinions of others. You can either live life -accepted or -rub people in the wrong way in life and turn them off. Not everybody knows you and just because you blog does not mean that everyone will like you. Just be thankful for where you are in life, not compete with others -be hardworking. Not everything in like makes sense -and you cant T things up for success, much of life requires us to roll with the punches -not make everything about you, stories, or people -you cant just wake up one day connect everything you know and at the same time try to prove yourself, that you’re smart and deserve respect. Not everyone will respect you and that’s okay, most of the time people are just being provocative to get a reaction from you, ignore those you don’t get along with that only causes illness.
How you communicate in private spaces and in public spaces changes, you are not the same everyday of the week, sometimes we need to be alone sometimes we need to bond and sometimes we can focus, that’s not being condescending toward others that’s being in need of space not in need of others, a sign of independence not a ramifications of codependency, everyone matures at their own rate it’s not by exposure alone to others we grow and mature come to find ourselves find our voice.
It’s true that people don’t appreciate you until your gone. Don’t squeeze people to see what they’re made of good or bad that’s an unnecessary use of force to empower by prediction the wrongdoer, who’s intent whether for good or bad reasons if need proven is called being experimental with you. Don’t wait until it’s too late when left to your own devices fight with the past, that’s always a waste of energy, time, and cause for embarrassment, learn to leave things alone, not rehash the weaknesses of others or expose their vulnerabilities to make people look good or bad, people should represent themselves always and let the best interests of others be represented by good conduct not by exposure to bad traits, highlight the weaknesses of others to see how wrongs occur if they’re in the right or not, let the past be the best and move forward. That’s digging too deep at issues, when there is nothing left to share, enjoy moments of peace and clarity, not hurt people when they’re open, that’s not the time to try new things, be experimental with people as vulnerable or unassuming, that’s how people get blindsided uncomfortable, positions taken in life, as the lesser of the two, not good enough.
When you lose all support in life do your best to make a better person of yourself not rely on others dispositions in life to dictate your direction in life. Some have it all and some have nothing whether or not they are included, made to be ill on their own merits, trust that God knows best, not to manipulate people based upon your experiences in life think you know a person better than they know themselves, only help when needed it’s unnecessary to help those who cannot help themselves, be patient and give people time to grow, apart. Sometimes distance helps, closeness is not required for acceptance, learn to leave people alone, not embarrass them in public by aggravating them when everyone is watching to make them make themselves look stupid. There’s nothing embarrassing about someone who tries hard in life for whatever reasons it’s none of anyone’s business why people try hard.
When you make your first public appearance after going through hardship do your best to be understanding of others mixed positions toward you not all will be accepting of you, some will expect better from you, for whatever reasons that may be, don’t push your limits with people, that sends a bad message to all, makes everyone look bad. Always do your best to consider the best interests of others before your own, whether or not they show care for you, no one deserves to be retaliated upon for leaving relationships, let people go, there’s always room for growth the more people get along than not.
Things may not be perfect but that doesn’t mean stop trying. Never stop working on yourself, everyday is a chance to better yourself -you can never stop learning. Don’t give up at the last minute before allowing much needed change to occur in you life, fall backwards. The more present you are, valuing what you do have, the better off you’ll be.
Whenever you get upset take ownership of your feelings and always stay in control of your emotions. Things won’t get better before they get worse if you don’t let go every once in awhile, change doesn’t happen overnight. Always do your best to prove them wrong, meaning be the best version of yourself and things tend to fall into place, if you allow any negativity to sit for too long things rarely work out in your favor.
Eventually everything gets to be too much and you find yourself running for 5 hours in the dark and in the rain and the next day and a few weeks later, finally give up and lay in the ocean, that’s when you wake up and realize it’s all in your head, and at that point you have no one to blame but yourself, the rest of the thoughts may cause you to laugh at yourself about, how could you be so serious or how could you be so stupid, or how could you allow someone to affect you so badly that you yourself cave in -never give up. Some people have it all and able to rise to the occasion and some are less than able to arise to any occasion.
Sometimes you think you have it all figured out, but until you are well, makes it difficult to show care for others in a way that suits their needs, you can’t please them all. What does being loyal mean to me? All things aside never passing judgment upon others or doing or saying anything to make them feel bad, we can’t make everyone feel good, some decisions and choice words ... well there’s no turning back. In order to mix well with others you have to be forgiving and with an open mind think, your heart is your heart you are never required to share what’s bothering you if it has nothing to do with what’s around you, never vent your frustrations toward those who care for you, and always leave room for growth, that’s best how to help others while helping yourself stay fit to care for others. You can’t have it all ... be patient, there’s no in group to wellness or feeling apart of, just what makes you feel good, is no one’s business but your own.
If you keep on blaming other people for your problems they won’t go away. That just reinforces the negativity that’s keeping you from accomplishing your goals in life. If everything you hear sounds negative, still think the positive. Don’t allow negativity to get the best of you!
Know yourself well enough to quit, move on, move forward, and let go. We don’t all have it great in life some better off than others. Don’t be one of them, too stubborn to change or be accepting of others. We are all important. You may not matter to some people but that doesn’t mean you don’t matter at all. Everyone has their way with people, with words, and how they choose to be remembered by others, you are always in control of what you say and what you do to make your life better and the lives of others as you exist in time and space. Dont make your problems the problems of others.
If nothing makes you feel better no one will make you feel better including drugs and alcohol are especially not your friend during times of need. Knowing that rely on the good things that life has to offer not sit and waste away wondering what could’ve should’ve would’ve happened for you in life. You are responsible for the life that you lead including your systems of belief and people you believe in and trust.