By bringing up the past sometimes you ruin future opportunities for success, there is a difference between a recommendation and a mention. A recommendation is by someone who speaks positively of you, for a future connection to be made, whereas a mention by someone about someone from their past can be interpreted in the negative as toward you and make the mention appear better than. Especially when it comes to references, referencing your past … don’t be so defiant by mentions, or defensive as to others, chances are less is more, the more you talk about yourself in the past and the less you talk about what it is youre doing now, the more anxious you’ll be and the more likely your audience will be anxious, not knowing whether you are living in the past, or presently situated at peace with yourself and others, don’t be bitter toward your past or others, everyone deserves acceptance and an opportunity to move forward in life. Reading Option B I realized its more important to forgive oneself for expressions past then it is to talk about or later try to justify how you have expressed yourself, people are most forgiving when you are honest, and about yourself not about others. People mostly want to hear about you, when reading, not about you speaking positively about others at your own expense make yourself look bad, its no ones responsibility to by mention defend others from your past, if everyone loves you thinks highly of you then do your best to promote the same, by speaking highly of yourself, and thinking highly of yourself, not allow the worst to come to fruition, there are many friends to be made along the way in life … its up to you based upon how well you speak of yourself to make friends. If you are uncomfortable … chances are you’ll make others uncomfortable … know your matches in life, and always do your best to bring comfort when comfort is needed, and never hesitate to ask for help when help is needed, you cant get anywhere in life living in the past as blaming others for your problems … if its addiction then stop, if its self harm then stop, and if its procrastination then do what you need to do in order to keep moving forward in life … life is short, meant to be lived to the fullest and without regrets … don’t overfill your plate with more than you can handle in life and always be thankful.