Instability is caused by lack of stability not fear. It's what you think is going to happen that keeps things from happening in your life leaves you at a stand still unachieved. In order to achieve in life you need to be moving forward and doing daily things that better not only yourself but help prepare you for your future becoming steadily someone your future self will be proud of. Never do anything you would ever regret. That causes one to resent oneself, whether in private or in public never do anything that you're uncomfortable with. For those of us who are very conservative it's hard for us to let down our guard and when we do let down our guard easily taken advantage of then in the reverse rejected treated as less than I don't get it.
Even in times of hardship, mistakes are made. You would think that the fewer the options in life one has the better the choices that person would make in their life. But that simply is not the case. -People subject themselves to harm when in the public sphere under a microscope why it's important to maintain your sense of privacy to keep a level head about you, now that makes sense.
You cant wonder how things could have been that never were, if not -if things were never good then no such losses in life should bring you down now. You would think that that were the case so but its not. Sometimes we suffer immeasurable harms from mistakes made in our lives that cannot be corrected no matter how hard we try.
Sometimes you don't full understand concepts until things happen in your own life or to the lives of others presently to understand values, that's the sad truth that losses bring, added value to life, by leaving us with less to value, that should not dictate to us what's important or who.
We may gain confidence we may lose confidence it's all a matter of how you present yourself. Be kind to yourself and others throughout the process of recovery unyielding emotions of self-doubt due to lack of trust causes us not only to second guess ourselves but to second guess others -also known as paranoia. Be wary of the consequences of withdrawal from any stimuli as the fog is only momentary and requires a certain back for regrouping and focus on attentions elsewhere toward happier places in life sources of light in sadness and strength in doubt and courage in hardship those are marks of a good person willing to move forward of strong character not weak attributes. Be gentle toward yourself -you cannot fix all things about yourself but you can learn to accept the parts that have caused you pain in the past, resentments, harm, and pain personally, professionally, and academically we call these failures in life due to (1) lack of focus (2) treated as lack of focus due to self-error not error on behalf of others focus or needs. That's called a resentment when we blame others for our current status for a time passed.
When someone doesn't like you they won't like things about you and you will sense that outside of yourself dislike toward you that interferes with your own ability to be happy function positively among. Your ability to adapt becomes circumvented by the characteristics traits opinions of another not your own to whom you've come into contact with that's called a voice. How one hears voices, paranoid.