(1) Wake Up with a Daily Intention:  Whether that’s scheduling your week in advance, wake up with a plan for your day, something to do. Whenever I go to sleep, unmotivated about the day, that same feeling tends to carry over to the next day, and its not until I start doing something, that that work ethic carries over to the next day. So pick a schedule any schedule, and make sure you have things to do, besides work if you’re home.
(2) Start Your Day Doing Something You Love: “Splurge on the good coffee, have something delicious to make for breakfast, allow yourself to check your social media accounts if that brings you joy.”  Shower, practice good hygiene, and all that good stuff. I never leave the house, without putting on an outfit Im proud of and always make sure to wash my face, if I ever leave home without putting on makeup, the rest of my day tends to go badly, feeling sluggish. Always look your best as a general rule of thumb, you never know who you’ll bump into, or who will see you, it makes sense not to get lazy when it comes to maintaining appearances in life. Be proud of yourself, clean up!
(3) Exercise: A day without exercise, or some type of movement, is an unsuccessful day in my book. As a runner, you either keep running, or you stop, and if you don’t continue to run, the next run becomes more difficult to accomplish, running works on your momentum. Just like running, so does your fitness, if you get into the routine of doing something each day, to make you feel good, then it will be that much easier to improve upon your workout routine, rather than leaving it until the last minute at night. That’s pretty much why I got a gym membership, to go running at night. Its not the best time to exercise, but I always sleep like a rock. So figure out when is the best time, and do so.
(4) Go Slow and Stay in the Moment: Set your alarm, and give yourself time to wake up, and pick your outfit for the next day the day before, that also give you time to organize your closet and know where everything is the night before, resting easy, not panicking with you cant find something the morning of, that’s one way to avoid stress related to your wardrobe. In fact positivityblog.com suggests that they actually got more done, starting their day slowly.  -Don’t forget to read in the morning, I know sometimes, you can be in a rush, but make time to stay in touch with reality and whats going on in the world. Some suggestions are to, read posts from a website, listen to a podcast, or read a chapter from a book that inspires you. I just went to the bookstore today and bought 8 new books, I tend to read a pile of books every few months, read today, and energetic.
(5) Make Time to Be Grateful and Keep a Journal:  Who doesn’t like progress. Its always beneficial to our health and confidence, to see where we have been and compare ourselves to who we were then, and see where we are now, and notice whats working for us and whats not. Especially when it comes to exercise, be your own scientist or doctor, although that may be recommended against, who doesn’t check their blood pressure with a smart watch and count their steps with an iPhone these days, that’s normal, a good habit to get into. Be in control of your health, be grateful for the day, each day, and stay positive. Practicing gratitude means being thankful for your life, and paying attention to your surroundings, which can also be mindfulness too. It means “Notice all the good things you normally take for granted.” 
When negative thoughts are getting the best of you, ask yourself if you are having “all or nothing thinking” and do your best to change your thinking, to gear your thoughts in a direction that will lead you to better feelings, and better visualized outcomes. By definition cogbtherapy.com states: “All-or-nothing thinking refers to thinking in extremes. You are either a success or a failure. Your performance was totally good or totally bad. If you are not perfect, then you are a failure.”  For example, in a previous post, I said I have to be on meds for the rest of my life because I am bipolar, and then said, if Im not on meds will become suicidal again, that’s an example of negative thinking, to speak of yourself in a way, that illustrates, dependence and because of dependence on meds, you cannot survive without meds, or that your survival is based upon taking medications, for some people, that is an example of negative thinking, that because one is required to take meds, that they have given up in life, or on themselves. Taking meds does not mean that you are a failure, although people on meds may not understand why many are on meds, that doesn’t mean because someone is on meds, that it is because of their own doing, or that its their fault, they have to be on meds. More power to them. It takes a lot of diligence to get checked, and upon being checked, get help, and upon getting help, being put on meds, to correct our health ailments in life, that’s just life, sometimes, you need meds to recover from health related issues, and some people can function and survive without meds. I was one who functioned without meds until college, put on Adderrall for a learning disability, that was my choice, to medicate my learning disability, and to get better grades on meds, than struggle with no meds, getting Bs and Cs. Don’t allow the pressure to excel in life, to cause you to question your abilities in life, so long as you can get the work done, then do so, its hard to go backwards in life and live life differently, you just have to continue doing your best, no matter what your circumstances are. Another example of “all or nothing thinking” is a “A cognitive distortion is an automatic way of repeatedly interpreting a situation that causes us to not consider other ways of thinking about it.”  For example, don’t force your thinking, trust your intuition, if youre feeling off, chances are you can change your thinking to resituate yourself, in life, so that you can understand life in a way that’s not overwhelming. For example, just because things aren’t going right, doesn’t mean that everything is wrong, or things will continue to go wrong, sometimes even no matter how nervous you are about the future, having faith, that things will work out, makes it easier to live each day without worry, and doing what we can to prevent the furtherance of disturbances, is doing our part, not to contribute to mental disturbances, such as fear of environmental degradation, or thinking that everyones dying, and because everyone is dying means that apart of you will die inside, don’t convince yourself, of such nonsense, nor allow any pains in life, to affect your better judgments, you should not need meds to feel good, but there are meds to make you feel good, you should not need to drink to relax, but some drink to relax, you should not need to do a lot of things to enjoy life, but that is our right to enjoy life, and to live life, free from fear, free from fear of dying, and free from the nervousness experienced by others in response to fear producing incidences we hear and see on the news. Just like my disabilities don’t affect others abilities from making money and working everyday, we hope that fear will not inhibit our understanding of the beauty of life, and whats to live for, eachother, and for oneself. Just like people in recovery recover from their negative outlooks in life, that may or may not have caused them to drink and use, we hope that not all will be overcome with such selfishness, when it comes to the recovery of our society as a whole, coping with recent times, and continue to care just as much about one another, with compassion, for the wellness of others, not judgment, with hope and faith think about tomorrow, not be reduced by our fears. Whats winning is disease, now what can be done to prevent the spread of disease. Mental health issues are not a disease, although some may be treated as though they bear resemblance to those having disease, trust me, I used to go to an AIDS/HIV doctor to be blood tested, for my medications, to make sure I was being prescribed the proper doses, and no I did not contract any viruses, from having been a patient of my Mom’s friend. That’s not how disease is spread, by word of mouth, and never convince yourself otherwise, that the spoken word can cause illness to others, maybe emotional disturbances, but nothing that cannot be cured without positive thinking, or proper thinking. We live during educated times, although parts of the world, or undereducated, for the most part, if youre online, and have an iPhone, and able to hold an opinion, that means you grew up with the majority on earth, who have families that take care of them, took care of them, so that they could enter adulthood, and provide the same lives in return for their offspring, or work, and help support society, as a functioning member of society. Who’s Country’s goal is it to have ½ the population on disability not working, Im sure the goal is for everyone to work, or be taken care of by someone who works, and if all else fails, have a government, that can help take care of them, or institutionalize them if they are deemed problematic to society and committing crimes. If you haven’t been to rehab go, if you haven’t worked, apply, if you need to share your story, go to a meeting, if you have something to say, write, if you need help, talk, if its an emergency, call 911, if you feel unstable and don’t feel like yourself, call your doctor, and if its just worry about someones condition as not being well enough to be considered a role model, well then welcome to real world, lift yourself, before lifting others, and be less judgmental of those who care, they are only human afterall, me included. At what point do people settle down, nows a good time. At what point, is everything good enough, right now. At what point, do you stop thinking about life and how youre going to live in the future, and focus on being happy with where you are right now. Most people cant sleep at night, that’s a serious problem, I was put on Ambien for two years, prescribed, and just recently 90 days ago taken off Adderrall and Ambien. That’s not addiction, that being put on a schedule, that not all were in agreement with nor approved of, because of the name of the med and what the med does, not approved by others. At what point is it important for others who are not your caretakers or doctors, to stop being judgmental of those who are on meds, or in recovery, its not their job, to situate or resituate a person in life, based upon how they appear, look, or speak, as not refined enough.
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What is a sensitive subject? Anything that when brought up, causes inner turmoil to any bystander, who is affected by the reading or rehashing of the issue being addressed. The solving of problems sometimes requires talking about problems out loud, most times problems are best dealt with speaking in private. However whenever social responsibility comes into play, we have a shared responsibility to have some of these discussions out loud, just in case, but not always, so that these incidences don’t happen again, nor for the same reasons. We can do our best to advise others not to drink or do drugs, and we can continue to do our best to advise people to seek help when help is needed, and call hotlines and 911. It seems pretty basic to anyone who is not experiencing mental health issues right now, but it really makes a difference to be reminded, of what resources are available, and to have easy access to those resources for coping. According to mcclone.com “7 Tips for Addressing Sensitive Issues …”  include:
Just like a personal crisis can affect our professional lives, I wonder if our personal crises affect the lives of others, as heard about. How much of that worry is about themselves their health, and how much of that worry is about your health, and hoping you get better. I’m not a Doctor, so I wouldn’t know what to say, but was raised to not let anyone affect me, and not to worry what people think, and upon asking my Doctor told me that Bipolar is not contagious. At what point then did you lose your grasp of reality? Upon drinking. And when you became suicidal what was going on in your life? I had relapsed on cocaine. Okay, so it seems that your mental health issues that actually led to suicide attempts was alcohol and drug related? True. In an article by forbes.com, “Fostering a culture of trust and transparency,” are hallmarks of effective leadership and “communication is part of that.”  Whenever someone comes forward, and shares their story, part of being a good leader, means listening, “The person has already put themselves in a vulnerable position by coming forward in the first place. It is imperative to be empathetic to their position and listen.”  The confidence you have in those who are helping you matters, to be open and willing to confide in your helper, what it is that is bothering you, so that it no longer bothers you, torments you to think about, or leads to additional mental health related problems. Its less important for you to explain your medical history out loud, that would just be a timeline, others may use to compare the years of their life to, instead, look at your life in the positive. I was thinking this the other day, it would less helpful to say that I struggled with bipolar for 5 years, then decided to write a book, that’s a heavy statement, that sends your audience backwards, instead, keep things brief, I struggled with mental health issues, and now I am doing this this and that, and have accomplished this, that shows your audience that you have overcome those issues, without discussion of your problems look like or sound like youre still suffering from those mental health issues, the less faith others have in you, also affects your confidence in life mental health wise. When others don’t believe in you, you feel less confident, and the more others baby you or think they need to control you, the more powerless you feel, as though you have not come a long way, it can be a very defeating process, to open up to another about your mental health issues, and for them not to understand. You cannot expect someone who is not you to think like you, no two people think alike, everyone thinks differently, that’s the beauty of being human, that people are mostly concerned with themselves. Have faith in that natural process of care, that those who care for themselves, wont drink and do drugs, and that the fewer people who put their lives at risk of harm and suffer, will become fewer as time goes on, and those who have managed to function in spite of their illnesses, will continue to be of service helping those currently struggling to come out of the messes in life they created for themselves. All I know is that mental health issues such as bipolar are life long, meaning I will be on meds for the rest of my life, that’s not addiction, and unlike most people who can go off of meds, I cannot go off of meds, because I become suicidal again. Some are better at dealing with reality than others, some find life more difficult than others, and without jobs, life is that way, difficult, until you get paid, manageable, that’s life.
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Whenever you post an interpretation of a series of events, to which you felt personally affected by, that always leaves room for wonder whether there is an actual connection to your thoughts and the events to which you felt affected by. Be careful not to become too attached to your feelings, and gear your thoughts toward making sense of what doesn’t make sense, and go by those feelings, those feelings are not your gut instincts, your gut instinct is what keeps you from fearing and taking actionable steps toward avoiding things that cause you fear, not face fear head on. There are times when it helps to face your fears, and there are times when facing your fears, tires your threshold for managing fear in your life, such as running at night, if you are scared of the dark, and sleep with a nightlight, then its probably not wise to run at night, and face your fears, that would only tire your threshold for responding to fear causing events, not make you stronger in case something happens that does cause you fear. -Bipolar is tricky to share out loud, for example like my experience at the Laker Game, I rarely go to games, since I was diagnosed with Bipolar, its very overwhelming for me to sit in a crowd of people, it took me awhile to just get used to going to the mall or going to Starbucks, Ive lived alone since 2004 and used to doing everything by myself, after being diagnosed with bipolar, a lot changed for me, including staying free of alcohol and drugs, which Ive managed to do, staying sober. Ive been on an off many meds, and have now finally found a set of meds that work for me, besides the weight gain, everything seems to be going much better for me, sometimes however my thoughts get the best of me, Im sure those mentioned might be wondering where Im coming from, Im sure not everyone is on the same page, when it comes to experiencing these losses in life, not all equally affected, or personally affected, by the loss of significant figures in history. -I think one solution to my social anxiety would be to focus on myself, and pay less attention to whats going on around me, and be more mindful, in the moment, focus on the day ahead, not on what has passed, and what others could be responding to, something Ive said, or over something theyve heard, not worry too much, so that those worries dont become my reality, this Ive had to get better at over the years as a blogger, how not to allow my fears to come to fruition, that is let bipolar take hold of my interpretations, and find my sense of normal again.
If I never tried, and never applied myself, I would not have attended two law schools, and be graduating with an LLM, a Top 100 Personal Development Blogger and ranked on Alexa 51,118 in the US, and have authored my first book, which is in the process of being edited, nor have been given the opportunity to work with Keidi Keating and edit my second manuscript. The trick to success is therefore getting started. I began my writing career writing quotes on squares, that’s how I wrote the majority of my first manuscript. If you set little goals for yourself each day, it eventually adds up, and you look like a multi-tasker. I am someone who can only focus on one thing at a time, it just looks like Im an overachiever or high functioning. In fact, I get at most 5 hours of work done each day, and sometimes those 5 hours of work are spread throughout the day. Blogging is a full time job, requiring you to keep track of: Stats, Build a Website, Learn how to Build a Website, and Do all the Writing Yourself. That’s a lot of time energy and effort on the side, I couldn’t imagine working full-time and being able to blog, I tried that last year, and quickly found myself overwhelmed. This year Im only working part-time 3 times a week, while editing my books, and finishing my Dissertation to graduate February 2020, and walk in May at Graduation. Are you proud of yourself? I think so, I think Ive been through a lot, have made a lot of mistakes, and that its taken many years to get back on track, and begin completing projects, not just beginning projects with a vague understanding of where Im headed and what I want in life. I even started dating again, which is a huge step for me in the right direction, trusting my heart with another, and not being afraid to love someone again. If all your troubles in life, have boiled down to losses, and the repercussions of those losses, then what can you do at the present moment to reduce the chances of experiencing those losses in life, without stopping to live life all together, and stay home. It takes awhile to get back out there, and begin living life again, after failure, but if you don’t want to be a failure in life, eventually you have to start trying again in life, achieving goal after goal, until youre proud of yourself again. It takes a lot of achievement to overcome failure, whether that’s picking up another degree, or finishing a project, website, blog, book, running a half-marathon, you can do all of these things to lift yourself back up, but that doesn’t mean you’ll be happy or that everything will go right for you in life. Without a steady income, shopping is just spending above your means, without a job, your hobby of blogging is viewed as avoidance from responsibility, without a job and a paycheck, you are viewed as someone who isn’t willing to buckle down or settle down in life, and be a full fledged adult. Where then does everyone go, who cant get a job, because of their past, or cannot achieve the same after experiencing disability and after being diagnosed bipolar, Im told not to talk about these things, it doesn’t seem to help, acceptance wise of me by others, or acceptance wise of myself. Who wants to be seen as liability anyways, doesn’t everyone deserve to be independent and provide for themselves, especially if they are educated, and have proven that they are intelligent, just how competitive is the job market these days, that people like me are not getting jobs, and not getting hired, why? To combat the mental illness associated with rejection, its important to keep going in life, and not wait around for life to happen to you or for you in life, you have to create opportunities for yourself in life, by keeping busy, being task oriented, learning from your mistakes past, and be a stronger person, resilient to those failures in life, and not stop going in life. That’s a true test of your good character, that after all those hardships, youre still a good person, and after all those failures, you still make time to help others, and after all your struggles, you have not become selfish in your shell, torn away from the world, blaming others, and pitying yourself. That’s being an adult, the world is tough place, and as we are told the real world is tough, I never quite understand why I received so much forewarning growing up, thinking that if I went on to graduate school, that that would improve my chances of getting a job, unfortunately its all about your work history, and whether you were able to keep a job for a year or longer, it doesn’t seem to matter that all you were given were internships limited in time, be sure to speak up, otherwise, that job will be given to someone else, if you don’t explain why. You will find yourself in shock a lot trying to explain yourself, if your resume is not perfect, and if there are gaps in your resume, due to mental health issues, addiction or alcoholism, those don’t ever seem to be understandable excuses, best to probably skip those subjects and do your best to keep working, whether it be from home, or unpaid volunteer work, which is what I have done. My get well job was working for OFA Fellows, making pages on Facebook, and working at Phone Banks, and attending meetings on getting people out to vote. That was while keeping in touch with Brady Campaign, who I connected with, but was never well enough to attend meetings, I think I attended two Moms Demands meetings too. -So long as you try, that’s all that can be asked of you, the requirements of caring and eventual participation really doesn’t take up any of your time to care, show up, and check your emails, and show up when there are events and sign up to events when volunteers are needed, these are things I should have done in addition to working, but at the time, that was all I had officially committed to, while finishing my Masters. I thought that writing a book, would be helpful, but unless you are successful, I don’t think a book will be very helpful unless I can show I have overcome hardships, and consistently doing well. I think Im at that point, and the numbers are showing on Alexa, a growing website, admitted to Facebook Groups, participating and getting replies from other Bloggers, interested in growing their blog audience too, and finally finding my place in life, as a “blogger.” It took awhile to self-identify in that way, without experience writing articles, Ive just applied my basic knowledge writing research papers for school, to my work here online. Thank you for following, and hope to continue to spread my wings online, and grow as a writer.
It’s a very popular expression, to take it “one day at a time” but who does it apply to and why? For most people in recovery, healing occurs one day at a time, and much like everything else in life, occurring one day at a time, we are told to be that patient, when it comes to change.  What does this phrase mean to someone in recovery? It “represent[s] the gratitude an individual feels about their sobriety, and the importance of it presently.”  Its acknowledging that, “there is no cure for addiction, just a responsibility to the self upon each new day to remain sober.”  Part of being sober, or being in recovery, requires us to take things one day at a time, because that’s all that is expected of someone who has struggled with alcoholism or substance abuse issues. Like recovery, living with bipolar is a life long struggle, and the symptoms don’t go away with meds, just like those in recovery experience problems, that don’t go away simply because they stopped drinking. To this I can relate. When I went out in 2013, I figured they would just be more stories to share at an AA meeting, not really understanding the mental health issues, that grew from drinking everyday, they weren’t lying afterall, the disease is real, and if you cannot handle your liquor, the disease takes over quickly, turning in and out of mental illness, it destroys relationships, and prevents you from moving forward, I don’t understand how people can drink in the first place, I’ve never been a drinker myself, never at dinners, and never on weekends with friends, except for in college when I turned 21. So when they say take it one day at a time, that’s not just a nice way of saying you’ll get through this, its reminding you, that the disease is living in you, and if you don’t manage your symptoms, like people with bipolar who have to manage their symptoms taking meds, then the disease can come back, or the bipolar can take hold, of your thinking, and the choices you make, for some who struggle with addiction its using again, and for alcoholics its drinking again. If all problems could be solved by cessation, we would be a higher functioning society, but that’s not the case, problems exist whether or not we are drinking, whether or not we are using, and whether or not its our fault for drinking or using, or for others drinking or using. There really is no social responsibility when it comes to bipolar, however there are AA meetings, who take social responsibility for caring for alcoholics and addicts, who may still be suffering. It you don’t fit into a meeting, don’t make yourself fit, that’s the lesson. It you are taking it one day at a time, don’t not listen the first time you walk through the door to get help, and think that by drinking or using, things will get better on their own, as though you don’t need help or assistance from anyone, usually things get worse, and they tell you that not as a marketing technique to scare you away from relapsing, it’s true, the longer you wait, the worse things get, coping wise, the stronger your coping skills are presently, taking things one day at a time, the better off you’ll feel in the long run, having dealt with your problems. For bloggers, everything is out in the open, be careful not to leave things out to worsen your relationships, or further inhibit your communication skills. Can you handle whats out in front of you? No. Then don’t leave out more than you can manage to process emotionally. And if you are taking it one day at a time, make sure not to drink or use, as a coping mechanism for dealing with your problems, it will surely affect your writing, and make everyone else worry if you are drinking or using. -That’s the thing with mental health issues, not being given the benefit of the doubt, if you self-identify as an alcoholic or ex-addict, they will see you only under a negative light, and that negative light is hard to defend oneself against, especially if ones issue are mental health related not related to substance use or abuse, or alcoholism. For me it’s a matter of perception, based on how I grew up, and upon sharing now, how I am looked at by others, for sharing my thoughts, that’s whats at issue presently, and no its not required that I state my associations in life, presently or in the past, to make anyone more empathetic to my problems, as being rational, or irrationally based on my own understanding of the world, which could be very different from the viewpoint of another, when I used to be well, and now am not well, I wonder, how did that go, the sharing of my story, if I was not someone who benefited from sharing, but everyone else feels better, is that a win? Unless the person telling the story has overcome their problems in life, or deficits, it makes it hard to listen to someone who is not put together successful in life. Sometimes you just have to accept people for who they are not by how much money they make, respect them. When you love and respect yourself, you'll find others who love and respect themselves too, otherwise you'll keep finding yourself amongst people and places where you dont feel you totally belong. And if you dont totally belong there, then dont expect to belong anywhere else, thats acceptance, when it comes to social standing and wellness.
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This Winter’s Essentials include: Paperbag Jeans, Cargo Pants, Long Cardigan Sweaters, Ribbed Skirts, Cropped Sweaters, Velvet Tanks, Long Dresses, Laced Boots, Ankle Boots, Sneakers, Moto Jackets, Overalls and Sherpa. All of which can be bought without spending over $200 at once. Its all about shopping wisely, if you set a max limit to your spending per store, you’ll likely wind up a happy shopper, without breaking your bank accounts, just trying to score a look. Most of what has been listed has recently been put on sale, at: Zara, Forever 21, Banana Republic, Gap, & HM. The best inventory can be found on the Promenade, and at Century City Mall. For some reason, the Beverly Center and Culver City Mall, is low on inventory, making it best to shop online if youre thinking about spending less on a style and getting tops and skirts at Forever 21 or HM. Zara makes the best tops, for work, and for public outtings, always eye catching, and on trend, they made my favorite long sweater this year, striped, I wear everywhere. Banana Republic did an excellent job this year, making long sweaters, and stretch t-shirts, the fabrics are amazingly soft, and you can dress them up or down, depending on what type of sweater or jacket you wear. For Sherpa, I shopped around, and ended up with a Gap long jacket Sherpa, and a short tan version I found on Last Call Neiman Marcus, its still available in black and green. I found Cargo pants at Zara, theyre leggings, stretch, and a blousy pink version of a Cargo pant. For Overalls, I shopped around, first siting them at Abercrombie and Fitch, and then later bought them at Forever 21, a black skinny jeans version. For dresses to dress down with boots, find a zipper dress, theyre so cute on, and you can wear your favorite crop tops underneath you bought over summer, and match with a sweater. The first overall dresses I spotted were at TopShop, made over summer, now in corduroy at various locations. For workout clothes, I don’t shop-around, its either Gap or Gap, or Macy's, but if you are in a rush and don’t feel like spending Forever 21, has a ton of workout leggings, that fit all body types.
Must-Have Items for Your Winter Wardrobe:
Splurge or Shop-Around?
Leggings? >>> Shop-Around
Sweaters? >>> Shop-Around
Pants (ie Jeans)? >>> Splurge
Skirts? >>> Shop-Around
Cargo Pants? >>> Shop-Around
Overalls? >>> Shop-Around
Dresses? >>> Splurge
Camis and Tops? >>> Shop-Around
Wrap-Around Blouses? >>> Splurge
Boots? >>> Splurge
Mules? >>> Shop-Around
Ballet Flats >>> Splurge
Work Pants? >>> Splurge
Sneakers >>> Splurge
With everything that’s going on in the world its easy to second guess yourself. However its always easier to rise to the occasion of being happy for others, or lifting the spirits of others when they are down, when we are not thinking of ourselves. It seems like most people are great friends at this, but do a lousy job of lifting themselves up in life. Why is it easier to help others, than it is to help ourselves? Psychologytoday.com explains that, “People can only change themselves and only if they want to.”  You can’t wait for everything to happen in life, and live a life based on responding to everything in your environment, that would be living passively, allowing life to happen to you, rather than making life happen for you in life. And although life happens on its own terms, theres no one telling us to stop living life, just because things are not going our way, that’s our choice to stop showing up to meetings, events, public outtings, and attend work. According to m.quiethabits.net, “a passive life is one that lacks power, growth and fulfillment.”  If youre just doing the bare minimum, than youre living a passive life -some seem to never get tired of monotony, and find comfort in keeping everything the way it is, and not try new things, and that’s okay, but don’t complain, when a problem arises, and you get sick, and have no experience coping, or changing your routine, to overcome those symtoms in life, always be prepared for changes that come into your life, learn to be flexible, and willing to change with the times, not feel injured everytime something doesn’t go right for you or others in life. “Leading a passive life means letting life happen without trying to change and improve anything.”  For instance, “If you notice yourself handling certain situations in a less-than-ideal way, come up with a better alternative, and make a conscious effort to handle future situations like that.”  When you feel the anxiety of the day getting the best of you, “do not try to do everything at once” what you need to focus on then is “helping yourself feel better.”  Living with anxiety can sometimes “be a lonely and isolating experience,” know that youre not alone, and we all feel the weirdness of the day, following any anxiety producing incidences, which cause us fear.  Like most mental health issues, “For the most part, anxiety is a condition that comes and goes. But for some, anxiety never goes away completely. That's the bad news. The good news is you can manage the symptoms so they don't manage you.”  Which is why its important not to live passively, once you stop a routine, and stop consciously taking proactive steps to reducing symptoms, the more they can creep up, and before you know it, find yourself starting all over again, recovering from these symptoms. Life isn’t hard unless you make it so. Note that, “Passive communication is a style in which you avoid directly saying what you think or want and that often involves uncomfortable body language.”  The less you communicate, the more difficult self-expression can become, if you allow all your problems to pile up, and think that they’ll just go away on their own. “Passive communication is a pattern of not sharing your opinions and failing to protect your rights and get your needs met.”  Its okay to address whats bothering you, in fact it has been shown that by addressing conflicts you are not enabling passive communications to occur, which if they go unnoticed for long enough, can lead to irritation. So Im glad to have these talks online, sometimes, I may seem like Im out of whack, and have lost my marbles, but I too am just doing my best to be a good communicator, and not allow problems to fester, but let the dust settle.
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Unless youre on meds, there are a lot of issues that may difficult to speak about out loud, and suicide is one of those issues, whether you’ve experienced feelings of being suicidal, or whether you’ve been affected by the suicide of another, healing takes time. And just because you are a survivor of suicide, doesn’t necessarily mean that talking about the issues, with someone who has no history of suicide ie Ari Emanuel, would be best to talk to about the issues, likely has been affected in his own way, throughout this mental health crisis. -Last night I had trouble sleeping, thinking of self-harming, this usually occurs, when you have said something, you later regret, or worry if anyone is judging you in the negative, self-harm is not the correct response. Unless you can help to build a better understanding among others, then its best not to speak on subjects you know less about, including associations and whether by associations others have been equally affected by recent events. If you have trouble sleeping, its best not to talk about things right before you go to bed, this I realize now, the morning after making such a shocking disclosure, about whether teams have had an affect in life on the suicides of others, no I don’t think so, based upon an assessment of Ari Emanuel’s connections in life, he’s doing just fine. Not all are equally affected by substance abuse, alcoholism, and mental health issues. If Im not writing about it, then it must be because I was not personally affected by it, and sometimes if Im writing about it, its because I feel like my audience is compelling me to write about something that has been bothering them. There is no one way to think about, learn, and accept, the issues others face in life, and become failures to what transpires, or backfires to their own wellness, one thing I can say is that if you can manage to stay sober throughout your mental health crisis, you have a higher likelihood of coming out of whatever depression, or mental health issues, are affecting your thinking, and start feeling like youre on the good side of life again. -We all get down on ourselves, its all a matter of staying well, not being haunted by our past, or the allowing the lives of others, to haunt our own well being. In today’s world the less you shock others, the better they feel, the less shocking your life is, the more accepted you are, when stability is required of us, that’s the best way to be accepted by others, is to be stable. Especially now, when thinking about the times, a stable opinion is always best to share, an unstable opinion would be when someone can question your interpretation, and when youre interpretation is off, either by assuming, or trying to relate things that do not relate, but by your knowledge, when speaking about everything together looks like everything relates. That would best describe my last post, regarding suicides and my recent hospitalization. There was no connection, but as affected I was treated, why so that my symptoms would not get worse, and result in further suicide by me or by those who in support of me follow my blog. That’s taking social responsibility for my health, as a blogger, and not affecting my audience, if Im not feeling well I get help, and likewise we expect that if others are not well they get help too. Most people have to work everyday, and only get the weekend to rest, in Ari Emanuel’s case he only has Sundays to play golf, and maybe get to a Laker Game, he’s probably at work now, and feeling bothered, that he may have affected anyone in the negative, and was not meaning to communicate at all to me, and probably doesnt even know who I am or what I look like, but by including him in my blog, maybe he knows who I am now. That’s being realistic. Others on the outside, think that I know who everyone is, and that everyone knows who I am, that’s to help assist them in interpretations, to think that I am being made fun of not to my knowledge, or that things are about me in the abstract to cast blame on my blogging as being a cause for the mental health issues of others, Im an “A” writer, and have been treated for bipolar on meds, in addition, I have been hospitalized 9x as a law student, and doing my best. As my UCLA Psychiatrist said, “bipolar is not contagious,” this is much to do about educating the public on mental health issues, and not passing negative judgment on those who do have mental health issues, especially mental health issues, related to fame and who you know or don’t know in life. Leave it up to them to speak on their behalves, my interpretation, really is ineffective when it comes to describing those who are doing well, as I am not doing well in life, , however blogging seems to be working well for me in life.
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Ari Emanuel is “an American talent agent and the co-CEO of William Morris Endeavor (WME), an entertainment and media agency.  Endeavor Agency is his new agency founded “after the merger of the William Morris Agency,” WME represents “artists in movies, television, music, theater, digital media, and publishing.  According to deadline.com, “June 1, 2019 marks the official 10-year anniversary of the William Morris Agency-Endeavor merger.”  WME is one of the top agencies according to the observer.com, with clients “Ben Affleck, Charlize Theron, Amy Adams, and Martin Scorsese.”  Another agency is UTA, which was “founded in 1991 following the merger of Bauer-Benedek and Leading Artists.”  UTA’s clients include: “Angelina Jolie, Channing Tatum, Chris Pratt, and Mariah Carey.”  -Where does mymollydoll.com stand in the mix, as a friend of the Son who’s father founded UTA, he was the one who helped get me sober December 2006, and attended rehab shortly thereafter at Boulder Community Hospital, later graduating with Honors Cum Laude in Sociology, at CU Boulder. One of Bauer’s client’s Jim Carrey was recently struck by the suicide of his girlfriend, similarly we were recently struck with the suicide of Saoirse Kennedy Hill, a mental health advocate  and Asian pop star and beauty icon “Sulli.” As soon as I heard the news, I checked myself into UCLA Resnick Neuropsychiatric Center, for Bipolar, and attended an IOP, which I finished, and signed an agreement with UCLA, asked to speak about my recovery, my social worker told me that is was the fastest recovery she’s ever seen. After speaking to the LAPD twice in front of my house, leading up to that point, they decided to hospitalize me. Meanwhile, back at the Laker Game, Ari Emanuel kept, moving around, eventually with his hand on his chin, and friend gesturing, I thought his friend mouthed something toward me ... meanwhile opposite their bench area, I saw someone who looked like a character from the TV Show Jersey Shore, with a Birkin bag, at his feet. What about Kate Spade? Of course I was traumatized by her passing, I had attended a birthday party in Las Vegas in Louboutins (August 2008) and was told that David Spade was present in the audience, while Dita Von Teese danced in a Martini glass, I sat alone at the bar drinking, attended with my boyfriend and friends. -After the school shootings it was me who flew to DC twice for $2000, and met with the US Supreme Court, writing down what happened in Law School, explaining to them why I was not graduating and ended up crying. I don’t think that blogging is the only solution to combat hate, but it certainly does an excellent job of bringing the people together on subjects via hashtags, Id like to think that I was someone, who with permissions from the court, was able to put together a tech savy series of campaign(s) via quotes and fashion and music and movie jokes, to help kick start everyone in the right direction, including the sharing of my law school notes. I’m sure by connections, others have been equally affected mental health wise, whenever you are so dedicated to a cause, anything occurring not in alignment with the best interests of others, calls attention to those who are in the middle of the spotlight, and doing their best to shed light on the issues, without rehashing too many negatives, or triggering other parties directly affected by the issues. At this point we may not all know eachother, but we all know eachother well enough to understand the ramifications of mental health issues, and the necessity for causes to protect the well being of those who are doing well in life, to serve as cornerstones to our positive self-development, and not shed light on issues such as addiction and recovery which have plagued many in the past, and led often to times to their demise, and/or death. -What do you think when you see Ari Emanuel, obviously still confident, not as confident or as comfortable as him, but having met SCOTUS, I have a very strong sense of faith, and have taken on a more conservative approach to the wellness of those around me, blogging my best work, intended for books, not for notoriety, or for sharing and stories, shocking or accusatory toward others. That would not be the solution, to wrongfully accuse others who have equally been affected, as being the cause of anyones hardships, or point blames toward those who as they are coming up in life, met with discord, or dissatisfaction, or offended by their sense of comfort and being online and likeability, that has nothing to do with who I knew growing up, and has never affected who I have mentioned or followed, as though by agency only nice to. I am nice to everyone, and get along sound with everyone, and by my issues, maybe some have been able to relate, and those who can relate is not only limited to those who have experienced hardship, its not all about recovery, meeting attendance is important, but its not the end all be all of your ability to survive, you have to be conscious of your wellness and how it affects the wellness of others, and you should always only show up if youre doing well, that’s a great rule of thumb when it comes to public appearances, and if you cant work, don’t work, blogging is my primary form of work, besides working in film distribution on the Lot with Showtime and OWN, whats my connection, my job, and losing a Shorty Award to HBO, which makes my job funny. -If there is any advice I could give to onlookers, it would be to stay strong, work hard, and to focus on yourself, when things get crazy, these losses have had a tremendous affect on the way people do business in each industry Im sure, and its obvious more resources are needed to help other begin to cope with their mental health issues, and stop blaming those for their ability to recover in life, as contributing to the social ills in society, as though their recovery or inability to recover puts them at fault for any illness or suffering by anyone who has committed suicide. I take responsibility for my blogging, I call the police, often they know my stats, and get help whenever I hear voices, that doesn’t mean that I should not be able to blog, it means I help. -Its those who dont care dont get help, and dont fix themselves, or try to better themselves (getting certified) to help others, thats the difference between an advocate or someone who helps to make themselves look better, or to undo a wrong they have done, look like part of the majority, not without permissions who cant help others. What I'm doing online is writing, communicating, and helping to clear the air, not to add more hardships to the table, than there already are, or have been faced. There are many obstacles to being successful one things thats required is being politically correct.
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I just finished reading “Unf*ck Yourself” by Gary John Bishop, it was a really fast read, action packed with motivational tips to subscribe to while conquering your fears in life, and beginning to take actionable steps toward achieving again in life. The book really ends on a high note, reminding us to “keep going … [with] the momentum to keep moving and moving, no matter what happens.” (p. 146)  One of the fears he discusses in his book, that many of us face, is fear of the “world stop[ping] us from succeeding” he makes a point to tell the reader that “you’re not a big deal.” (p. 147) So much of life is just about that, deflating ones ego, as Im told to do at AA meetings. Don’t get paranoid, Gary tells us “the universe is neither conspiring for nor against you, and the only thing that stops you is when you buy into the notion that you are stopped.” (p. 147) Are you doing what youre supposed to be doing? And if youre not doing what youre supposed to be doing then its time to get started. (p. 163) Lifes all about “discovery and exploration” and if youre not too busy following in the footsteps of others, then “blaz[e]” your own trail in life, like Arnold Schwarzenegger, who became Governor of California. (p. 154). The way Gary deals with his problems is by focusing on the problem, not being avoidant, encouraging us to “expect nothing and accept everything” (p. 161) and that “the key to becoming relentless” and being able to weather any storm in life “is to focus on the problem [directly] in front of you.” (p. 155) When you give your full time and attention to the work that needs to get done to achieve in life, that’s how you “keep the momentum going.” (p. 157). When it comes to relationships, Gary says to “accept things for what they are” … once you are able to “quie[t] the mind … rather than succum[b] to your internal and external upsets” is how you will be able to accept things the way they are. (p. 182) “Learn from defeat.” (p. 183) don’t expect people to love and admire you, if that’s what you want then don’t expect that much from anyone in order to receive those blessings in life in return. What is lost comes back to you tenfold in life, my Mother always reminds me, so long as you are doing what you are supposed to be doing, and deserve that much, then God rewards you for your hardwork, when you get to those points in life, where what matters less is what others are doing, and when you are focusing on how you can be a better person, things start to magically work out for you again in life, that’s just how life works sometimes. Therefore “free yourself from the burden and melodrama of expectation, let the chips fall where they may.” (p. 183). He describes the process of being loved and loving as this “Be free to love them the way they are and be loved the way that they love you.” (p. 183) “Get out of your mind and into your life” (p. 189), that requires more than just positive thinking, he suggesting more doing, and that “in order to improve your internal world, you have to start by taking action in the external world. “ (p. 193) Although there “is no perfect mood” (p. 193) that can be set to get going sometimes, you just have to get started. I really enjoyed reading this book, I think there was a lot I could relate to.
Building and creating a blog can be a frustrating process of getting followers and building steady traffic to your website. The following has been suggested in order to grow your blog:
There are many reasons, why you may be chosen to be read, “It could be about content quality. It could be about your personality. Your style. Your professionalism. Your level of detail. Your ability to explain things in a way which your audience understands.”  Based on my personal experience unless the material sits well with you, as a general rule of thumb don’t post it. Sometimes we get carried away writing, that we disclose too much about ourselves, and wind up frustrating ourselves, and maybe even our audience. Give time for the dust to settle, you can always go back to a post that your not fully comfortable with at a later point in time and rework it, in fact, I keep a page of posts hidden on my website, or all my posts Ive removed over the years, but on issues I felt passionate about. Don’t throw away material! Save everything. As a writer, its easy to be hard on yourself, balancing the need to be professional, and at the same time, be approachable and likeable. Its not all about pleasing your audience. Its about writing about what is of interest currently for discussion, then creating a post that speaks to those issues, in a way to which all can relate. Always have some balanced perspective in mind, when it comes to talking about anything controversial, being sure not to insult anyone, including making yourself, seem like the bearer of problems, or negativities, that could cause your audience to worry about you or others, theres always a way to end things on a positive note.
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How, when, and why does defamation occur. Make sure not to read in alignment to the interests of those who are talking $hit about others, its usually to their benefit to be mentioned, so as if to create a side justifiably toward, make no mention of people who are being negative toward you, or who are in their own best interests putting you down in life. No ones successes in life, no matter how big or small, should ever be deemed as a threat to the successes of others in life, that’s not what success is about. Success is about being happy, and upon being happy, achieving, and upon achieving able to work with and help others, achieve likewise positive goals for themselves, that’s why work makes people feel good, and why people who work feel good. People who are given jobs in life, either have a lot going for them in life, or have made their very best effort to illustrate that they have the potential to get the job done, based upon some reference to work they have completed in the past either for school or via extracurricular activities. Don’t make my work history of difficulty finding a job, your excuse to blame me that as associated you are not able to find a job that you like in life, or think that you deserve better in life, than where you are right now. Never for the reasons of who I have known have I ever faced difficulties in life, neither to get into school or to be accepted to jobs, I have always been hired, everytime Ive applied, maybe sometimes to more than 200 places, but those were just my odds at the time, given my education and work history. Defamation, can impact you in very negative ways, especially mental health wise, that is not the purpose of this blog, to bring anyone down in life, by lifting myself up or others, the purposes of this blog, is to help enable others to begin coping, and resume their lives as they have been living life, absent minded what is going on in the world, the purpose for blogging, is to show those who care, that the work is being done, and while they are away focusing on themselves, that they don’t have to worry, that the problems we are currently facing are in good hands, and that a lot of work is being done behind the scenes, to ensure that proper and positive services are still being provided to those in need, and will continue to be provided, by whoever is strongest and able, and certified, and willing to put their work needs aside, to volunteer, and put their relationship needs aside, to focus on career, and to put their need to drink or do drugs on the side, to focus on themselves, and achieve higher education degrees in life. Its a lot of sacrifice to get into graduate school, you cant go out, you have to stay home, and you have to get good grades to get into any of the schools accepting college graduates. -Defamation occurs whenever someone commits the “ac[t] of damaging the good reputation of someone; [via] slander or libel.”  What is slander or libel? Slander is the “the action or crime of making a false spoken statement damaging to a person's reputation” and Libel is “a published false statement that is damaging to a person's reputation; a written defamation.”  -Make sure that when sharing your stories online, not to make any public mention of the identities of others in your stories, whom you have been affected by in life, that only adds fuel to the fire, and doesn’t help you, recover from whatever injuries to your reputation you suffered along the way. Its obvious that as a blogger, you are exposed to a lot of things that people say, and depending on how social you are, should make no difference, unless you repeat anything that anyone says, can be in the reversed used to say that you purposefully mentioned, to purposefully cast blame toward others, as being responsible for your mental health issues now, it’s a very touchy subject, who is to blame, for mental health issues, and why people who do have mental health issues, especially, are easier to blame, than those who suffer no symptoms of voices or bipolar. If you or someone you love is in an environment in which people are taking advantage of their neediness, or fragile state of mind, then its best to always go to a licensed physician or speak to the police or to an attorney who can define for you what the problem is and be able to identify when and if any problems have occurred, to which you or others, are being blamed for, is why I think people were defamed left and right, its to free others from blame to single out a few as being problematic to their own health and then further accuse them as affecting the mental health of others. -What I have learned is that no matter how hostile anyone is toward me, always compliant with the requests of others, and whether or not I am harmed in the process of getting help have never blamed anyone who has helped me as being at fault for my mental health issues. *Why to go to therapy to talk.
There so much pressure these days to take the perfect photo, or to paint the perfect picture of your life online to others. While you may not be able to take the best photos, its better to take photos when well, than to let those moments pass you by in life. Great photography is not all about being beautiful or being expressive about your views on social well-being, some may think that your lifestyle is not good enough, others may think gee shes a really nice person, and doesn’t really care what other people think about her or who she chooses to be friends with in life. And even if you don’t have friends to photo with, that doesn’t mean you still cant capture the times on your own, and watch yourself grow up. Photos are a great way of connecting with your audience, so are videos, but too much of anything, runs the risk of making things uncomfortable to you or your audience. It doesn’t matter what other peoples photos are about, never assume that anything is about you, once you decide to start sharing your life out loud. Photos are always about capturing memories from their own lives, not about capturing memories of turbulence in your life, as though they have been affected knowing you. If you haven’t shared parts about your life, that would ever be found to be shocking to others, its not necessary that you photo when well just to show that you are well. Know that upon being found as well, your wellness gets compared to the wellness of those around you, and that’s how you will be judged, as whether you are among the majority, or among the minority. If the majority are well, and those moments are captured, then what makes it so shocking to see others who are not well by photography, either they haven’t figured out their own wellness yet, or maybe they just aren’t competitive when it comes to sharing their wellness to others. -As a general rule, always make sure you are in a good place when you decide to photograph yourself, that is when you are opening your heart up to the lens, and if you share photos to the world. Not everyone is in stable places in their lives, where they are able to open up so freely to others in public places, by photo or video. It takes awhile to be comfortable sharing yourself to the world, by photo, not everyone will be in agreement as to your openness with your audience, or how you take a photo, or by how you look, think that you make a good representative sample of what wellness or beauty looks like, to be a role model to others. No one ever said I was trying to be a role model to others, that was one job given to me, selected to be among, not applied for. And have not yet begun participation to myneedtolive.com, and posted on their wordpress wesbite, I just got my account information, and need to post. That being said … taking photos of yourself, is a tiring process of acceptance of yourself, and unless you love yourself, or are in a good place in your life, is it suggested not to selfie and share selfies of yourself. According to sciencedirect.com, “Harmful effects of selfies were found even when participants could retake and retouch their selfies. This is the first experimental study showing that taking and posting selfies on social media causes adverse psychological effects for women.”  Based on my own personal experience self-harm usually followed the taking of photos of myself, which were being judged by a correspondent, and when self-harming, had opened myself up to another, who responded on a separate occasion negatively toward me not doing well, sometimes they want photos for pleasure, and other times, they are not there for you during the time it takes to recoup from having taken those types of photos of yourself, with worry for others seeing, not a party to the transaction. That is one example of why not to photo yourself in compromising ways, and receive negative attentions from online hackers or people going through your computer and phone accounts without permissions, that’s an unreasonable exposure of oneself to an audience, not approved by you, who uses that information to cause harm to your public reputation, as being someone of low standing in life. Always photo yourself in the positive, that means do not wear anything that would cause onlookers to judge you as not mature, or not chaste, or deserving of being defamed by others in public, that’s what compromising photos are for, to trash the good reputation of someone who otherwise was doing well in life, as a high achieving law student, getting As. Does someone who loves you, ask for compromising photos of you? And why? At what point is it okay to say no, at what point in your career is it okay to say no, I’m too big online for putting myself down in private to another, or to others who are looking for a trashy representation of who I am. How I fractured my hand self-harming. It never feels good to be asked to open up to someone, and then be rejected by them, because you are not doing well, or become needy. -It requires a certain confidence, in that no matter how you look, and given the process of self-photography, if viewed in the negative, not allow those negative reactions to affect you in the negative and self-harm. It is about how you look, it is about beauty, and unless everyone is willing to be less judgmental, than it will always be a time-consuming process to take good photos of ourselves, for profile photos, or for work purposes. If you don’t photo well, you don’t photo well, and if you look overweight in some iPhones, then don’t photo by iPhone, and if you don’t feel pretty that day, then its okay not to photo, that is how you are judged in terms of beauty, how you look on your best days, and how you look on your worst days, all days captured, get remembered of you, seen by others. That’s another form of defamation that can occur, the taking of a bad photo of someone, and then having that photo be shared, and be judged by how someone looks in a photo, whether it be present or in the past. Always be mindful, of what you share about yourself online, you cannot control what photos get posted of you elsewhere online, that is not your responsibility to determine why people think of you in the negative based upon how you look presently or in the past, that’s them passing negative judgment on you based upon how you look, as not seeing the beauty in your effort, or the smarts in your achievements, or the pride you have in yourself sharing your face online.
Usually by this time of night, Im hearing voices, usually from people reviewing my work, who do not think highly of me, or are questioning the value of my time online, as worth my while or worth the expense of my legal education. I have (1) gotten jobs and (2) have been accepted to organizations to help others. That makes my time online, worthwhile. In order to get a job, you need to have a job, and without making things too personal, and ruffle my feathers, its all about staying well. There are always stopping points to caring, about what others think, and that’s when to stop, when it gets to the point when you feel like self-harming, that means not to allow those voices into your life, or allow those types of voices to affect your well being. That is one example of ignoring negativity. Not everyone experiences negativity the same, some have auditory delusions, which is normal among people who have bipolar, and some just think about what others are thinking in the negative, and worry in that way, experience physiological symptoms of worry related to negativity. What makes me a good advocate. I am balanced. I am on meds. I am careful. I get permissions. I join organizations. I do research. I read. I write. And I stay in tune with others online, as best I can, to see how they are doing. When everyone is doing well that’s another example of when to stop being negative. Usually those who are negative when others are not stand out, and because they stand out negative, don’t feel good about themselves, because they were used to being the positive one, and now are seemingly negative or in a rut. We all go through periods, when we want things to be a certain way, and things do not turn out in our favor, that’s another example of allowing negativity into your life. Who is to say, how you should be, or should behave, or should speak, or should live life. We only have time to think for ourselves sometimes, that is another example of not letting negativity into your life, not allowing what you think others are thinking, to affect how you live life, absent proof of what is being said about you, that is another cause for bipolar delusion, thinking you know what is being said about you, and then thinking others are speaking badly of you, and upon sharing of those concerns, be blamed as having assumed others were speaking badly of you, to explain why you were having bipolar delusions, about what others were thinking. That’s a tough problem, the causes for alienation, or bipolar, it happens, at this point no one is responsible, and to make a problem less of a problem, its important not to further a problem, by spreading more rumors about a person to see if they behave or think bipolar to see if you have power to change how they are treated by others in public, that would be another example of not allowing negativity into your life, you cannot control people, you can only control yourself, the more you try to understand why people are speaking negatively of you, and the more you think about what could be said about you in the negative, the more you struggle with your own health, in terms of accepting others as they are, even when they do not accept you as you are, that’s another example of not letting negativity into your life, and always rising above the traumas and troubles that others experience, giving them the benefit of the doubt, and not allowing anyones negativity to be taken personally, that’s another example of not allowing negativity into your life. There are plenty of ways to cope, I am not a Doctor, just by my own experience battling with mental health issues over the years, this is something I have gotten better at, not self-harming in response to what people think or say about me, not drink, not do drugs, and especially not allow bipolar to affect my ability to live my life as best I can. It may not be lived to your expectations of livelihood, or to your expectations of success, but in my book, I think Im doing a pretty darn good job of living life, just the way I am.
It doesn’t hurt to care, in fact it does you and everyone else around you a favor, to become aware of the issues, that you think matter and are important. Saving everyone from the heartache of being the last to know, or the last to become aware, or the last to feel apart of the solution to the causes for which you care for. That is the benefit of sharing the causes you support of social media, you give everyone who follows you, and all your friends, an opportunity to likewise care and support what is trending, what is necessary, or what is important at this time to pay attention to. Some of us work, and do not have the opportunity to blog, or even share on social media, and most of what is shared on social media, is to promote the best interests of the company to which the post supports, sometimes companies support causes, sometimes people support causes, one thing is for certain, unless we share, will others know, and unless others know, can others care, and unless others care, can support be given. According to curatti.com, Social Media as a platform, “creates awareness and helps people to discover various innovations that help them enhance their own lives” and “can be used for various noble causes like social welfare.”  If you think about the “profound impacts” that social media has had on the “modern world” you’ll notice that early speculation, according to one study by web.stanford.edu, predicted that “widespread concern about possible harms” would impact social welfare in a positive way, not frighten others as some would assume. In fact, just as I have described, “encouraging activism” has led to “widespread improvements to individual welfare.”  One of the negative consequences of social media, is the polarization of misinformation which is one concern addressed in the Social Media Certification Course by training.fema.gov during emergent times, while there is an ongoing crisis taking place.  How do we then inform one another, without scaring one another, and provide support systems, without focusing too much on what is going wrong, and focus instead on things that are going right, at what point do we stop grieving and complaining, and start taking action? What are the contributory factors to loneliness and depression, if its more “face-to-face interaction” that we need, how can that need be supplemented for, for those of us studying or working from home, still be well adjusted, when we are out in public, and be ready for job interviews, when the time comes. Reading the news, is not a hobby, it’s a daily activity that most people grew up with, their parents reading the paper delivered to their homes, and much the same we are a product of the stability that the news was able to provide to the worldly input given to us by our Parents. In trying to be the same, we read social media as religiously as our parents read the newspapers growing up, I think we should be just as smart as them, but are we? How could be we be more efficient, in sharing the news, without scaring one another. What are the consequences of fear? Fear stops us from engaging socially, it stops us from working productively, it stops us from going to the gym, and the harder and more difficult we make our reality out to be, the more difficult it then becomes to live life, without feeding the wrong cells in life, with things to make us feel good, instead of being more well adjusted, accustomed to a more addictive style of coping with the times, which is not beneficial to our health overall. What is social media addiction? According to addictioncenter.com, “Social media addiction is a behavioral addiction that is characterized as being overly concerned about social media, driven by an uncontrollable urge to log on to or use social media, and devoting so much time and effort to social media that it impairs other important life areas.”  If we were all defined as “bloggers” how would that change the definition of “addiction” as it concerns our uses of social media, I don’t even think that most of us deserve to be called addicts in the first place, and its because there is a negative connotation with too much social media use, that those who do use social media for good purposes, are fraught with frustration, over compelling others to care and participate in awareness campaigns, but at the same time, feel responsible for enabling others to participate online in ways, that others have defined as addiction. To care is to care, and how one is expected to care, will always change, especially with the internet, it becomes a more formal process of caring as you get older, donating money, going to functions, and running in half-marathons, and donating to causes. Online, is where it starts, don’t get all rallied up in the energy of caring, without participating, attending marches, volunteering, or joining group discussions online, it could be the difference between feeling powerless, and being empowered.
Recently, after joining Facebook Group “Boss Girl Bloggers” we were given the opportunity on a thread to work with each other, while creating and sharing our posts online. Two bloggers were kind enough to respond, as guest-post bloggers to mymollydoll.com! Here they are:
 Welcome to mymollydoll.com:
“Kenya Chesnut!” overwhelmedbeauty.com
Blog Post About: “9 Ways You Can Live a Happier Life by Kenya Chesnut.”
According to Kenya Chesnut of overwhelmedbeauty.com, there are “definitely ways for you to be more joyful, positive and set yourself up for a better day.” One way in which Kenya is able to take care of herself is to practice a “strict self-care routine” recommending “alone time to really focus on yourself.” To feel better about yourself and to “improve your appearance” stay “healthy on the inside” to “look healthy on the outside” her suggested routine is to drink [lots of] water, eat a balanced diet and have an exercise routine, giving your “body everything it needs to work at its full potential.” She encourages letting go of toxic people from your life, reminding us that “life is short” and that there is no need to waste “precious years upset about someone else who [doesn’t] recognize your worth.” She recommends “surround[ing] yourself with people who respect you and care for you and watch you become happier.” In regards to mental health issues, Kenya believes that “the first step towards getting help” is knowing that “there are support systems and tools to help you” and shares a few of her favorite blogs …
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“Rebecca Branham!” modavatecoaching.com
Blog Post About: “You are Beautiful Just as You Are by Rebecca Branham”
According to Rebecca Branham of modavatecoaching.com, in order to start feeling beautiful you have to start believing that you are. She describes the “vicious cycle” of voices we hear, telling us that we are “less [than the] desirable” individuals that we are, further convincing ourselves to “take care of” ourselves less. To stop this cycle of convincing ourselves that we are less than, she suggests stopping this “self-fulfilling prophecy” by focusing less on what you don’t want and calling that in, and worry less about how much feedback you receive, especially from other women. Reminding us that “men and women don’t find the same things desirable” and that we “have been taught to have an extremely narrow view of what we consider beautiful and desirable in other women.” Don’t “isolate” and “smile,” always “acknowledge others and sincerely appreciate them, when we take on the day “excited” we are more likely to bring back things into our lives that “feel good, [while] you prioritize you.” She reminds us to ignore our fears and that “[we] are capable of loving [ourselves as we are] now” -don’t wait.
The “Global Climate Strike” took place on September 20th, before the UN “Climate Action Summit” September 23, 2019.   The purpose of the summit was to “curb greenhouse gases under the 2015 Paris climate agreement.  It was “one of the largest youth-led demonstrations in history.”  More than “185 countries” participated , in that Friday’s strike, one of whom, Italy, being the “first country to institute a mandatory course on climate change and sustainable development in all public schools.”  Students protested “rising sea levels, air pollution, plastic waste, and coal expansion” with a “powerful demand for urgent step-change in action to cut emissions and stabilize the climate.”  Many of whom are fearful of “droughts, floods, [and] natural disasters.”  The “Climate Action Network” represents “an umbrella group of environmental non-governmental organizations (NGOs)” who attend meetings with the UN’s UNFCCC who provides daily newsletters which “present the views of the Environmental NGO community.”  Members of CAN “place a high priority on both a healthy environment and development that meets the needs of the present without compromising the ability of future generations to meet their own needs.”  “Fridays for Future” now takes place every Friday in order to “demand more aggressive action from their governments and the international community.”  Which is good, considering that marchers have demanded for “transformative change” and change that requires for all “Leaders [to] listen to what the climate scientists are saying. [Stating that] No leader should forfeit the future of younger generation” , meaning with a “dismal” future, we have no “way out of this” but to “unite behind science.”  According to un.org, there are “only 11 years left to prevent irreversible damage from climate change,” stating that “we are the last generation that can prevent irreparable damage to our planet.”  The UNFCCC ie the “UN Framework on Climate Change” began its mission 1992, with the intent to reduce “concentrations of greenhouse gases (GHGs) to avoid dangerous anthropogenic interference with the climate system.”  That’s sustainable development as described by un.org. Later, the “adopt[ion] of the Paris Agreement” was made with the “aim to keep a global temperature rise for this century well below 2 degrees Celcius, … and limit to 1.5 degrees Celcius above pre-industrial levels.”  Why, is this change important? The countries most affected by sustainable development, are the “least developed countries and small island developing states” who are being seriously affected and in need of “biological support systems of the planet, [who] [are] [also] at risk.”  “Human activities … chang[e] the natural greenhouse” on earth, such that “the clearing of land for agriculture, industry, and other human activities [have] increased concentrations of greenhouse gases” although climate.nasa.gov argues that the “consequences of changing the natural atmospheric greenhouse are difficult to predict” that hasn’t stop people from preparing for the worst, and doing their best to reduce their human footprint when it comes to greenhouse emissions. When it comes to “electricity” “solar energy decreases greenhouse gas emissions, [by] generating electricity with solar power instead of fossil fuels … [to] dramatically reduce greenhouse gas …. produced when fossil fuels are burned, [which] lead to rising global temperatures and climate change.”  -The “United Nations climate action summit in New York” was brought together for “world leaders to discuss mitigation strategies” one of which was the “transitioning from fossil fuels to renewable energy sources.”  The “UK Student Climate Network” … “is calling on politicians to bring in a “Green New Deal” to cut Britain’s emissions to zero and improve lives, [and] changes to education [like in Italy] to equip children to deal with the climate crisis and votes … to give them a voice.”  The Green New Deal is a plan that “fights the climate crisis at the scale … scientists say is necessary” requiring the “transform[ation] [of] our economy and society at the scale needed to stop the climate crisis”  and much like the students argued, hoping to “influence” not only “global forces contributing to climate change” but also to help “compel leaders to make the choices necessary to halt the world’s warming” temperatures.  According to un.org: “Climate change is the defining issue of our time and now is the defining moment to do something about it.” 
Usually when Im feeling overwhelmed, or when my heart is somewhere other than where it needs to be, I freeze, that’s common, for you to have to be somewhere, physically present, but not mentally present. Its hard to focus during those moments in life, its okay to take a step back, and to take a break, to figure out where you need to be in life, in order to stay happy. When youre in a good place in life, as a general rule of thumb, you are expected to share that positivity and happiness with others, it would therefore be selfish to stay at home, once you’ve made it, and not share your know how with others, who are trying to make it on their own online. There comes a point in your writing career when you have to take certain steps, ie invest in your writing, and produce with the intent to earn an income from what you are writing. Just because something is not professionally published does not mean that it is not of value, or of equal level skill or deficit of others who have learning disabilities, I am different in that writing has been my focus as a law student, and Ive improved over the years, because it’s a practiced profession, not simply just a sharing of emotions, that happens to make sense. In order to make sense, you have to be a balanced person and a balanced thinker, in addition, I have taken Princeton Review twice and Kaplan Twice, scoring near perfect scores in the games sections and arguments sections of the LSAT practice exams, which may explain why my writing style stands out compared to other writing styles, that’s because I write logically, everything can be tested, via alphanumerics, with arrows and lines, to see if it makes sense, that’s how I was trained to write, to not only memorize a set of rules, but as applied, and later analyzed, forced to make sense of the rules I learned, as applied to factual settings, and problems. Im not sure whether everyone handles their problems, logically, and is this analytical when it comes to hashing out their problems out loud, but its better to work and develop slowly, think methodicaly, than to venture out into the world thinking you know everything, much of what you think you know, has already been said well, the challenge of being a good writer is saying what you know well, and as you learn to speak in a way that represents others well, that you mention. Its not easy to become well known as a writer, I have been writing on squares for years, and rarely achieved a following, if not 13 likes at most and a few comments per post. There must be more to this, than originally thought, how to be of influence, without losing your flair in life, how to be of influence, without becoming outnumbered by your competitors, and how to be of influence while staying original, and continuing to grow not have your audience outgrow you intelligence wise, why its so important to continue your education as a writer.
Being a sensitive person, means that you actually think about what others are thinking, understand how they are feeling, and not at your expense nor their own, cognizant of how you are behaving and speaking, so that no one is affected in the negative, including yourself. If you are too sensitive to write in a public space then don’t, if you have too many skeletons in your closet, facing constant fear of exposure, then don’t write, and if others believe that you don’t deserve to be successful online then don’t write. No positivity can be shared, whenever there is argument, and no positivity can be shared, where there is argument without explanation. It does you a disservice to self-harm in response to whatever issues you have been thrown into the middle of, its not your responsibility to explain all sides, and if everyone thinks that youre the culprit of that misinformation or sides taken, then don’t write. You don’t have to explain why people do not like you, or why people hold reservations toward you, that’s for them to discern, it may be nice to know that you have compassion for those who do not like you, but its not necessary for that compassion to be shown online, its most likely an unwanted shared understanding. If you do not feel like you are winning in life then don’t write. There are plenty of opportunities for you to better yourself, without sacrificing your good standing in life, to please those who think that they are worse off in life, as compared to you, we all experience heartache, that’s not unique to anyone, we all experience hardship, that’s not unique to anyone, and we all experience failure that’s not unique to anyone. Writing online, requires an ability to be able to withstand heartache and rejection, not all will believe in you. That’s normal the fight between being normal, and pleasing everyone, that’s a normal feeling to have. And when at your best, if you are received with any negativity, that’s normal to get upset, just don’t turn that upset into more heartache, and self-harm, that’s not the solution. You cant expect to be perfect in order to be loved, just do your best, no relationship is perfect, not even for those of us who have boyfriends, who are generally not needy of us, we have to be strong on our own, to keep them coming back, and to be attracted to us, if we were negative then we would be alone, if we were not sweet, than we would be lonely, and if we were bitter or jealous, we would not be able to move on in the first place. Lifes all about staying positive. No one can direct you out of a bad feeling, and no one can direct you out of heartache, and no one can make you feel better any longer than youre able to make yourself feel better, at the end of the day, all you have is you, to live the hours and days of your life, choose wisely how you plan to spend your time on earth, and never give up, no matter how bad the day is, no matter how tired you are, and no matter what anyone thinks of you, and no matter how successful or not you are, don’t allow any setbacks to keep you from growing and moving forward in life. People choose to believe whatever they need to believe to keep them feeling in the right, and sometimes when there is fighting and sides taken, its easier to take the side of the person who is more successful than the other, or more put together, we all suffer hardship whenever there is a fight, its not only the winners of fights, who feel good, they suffer too the wasted energy spent caring and fighting, that’s where compassion comes into play, always display good sportsmanship whenever it comes to social graces, there is no etiquette book on how to represent others, that’s something you learn over time, as you mature, and online become a better representation of yourself, to the point that it no longer matters to you or anyone what negatives are said about you, and you are given equal opportunity in life to better yourself. -How things are now, are not how they were then, life was better in your younger years, and it will always seem that way, with less responsibility in life, comes less pressure, and with less pressure, less hard on ourselves, and the easier we are on ourselves, the better able we are at achieving our goals in life, that’s simple. Always keep in mind, what is it that youre doing now, and “is what youre doing now going to get you to where you want to be in life.” Some may look at your life, and think that it’s a joke, that youre blogging in spite of who you were or are not associated to in life, and some may not understand why youre writer, and think she is motivated to write to make herself look good, in spite of her troubles. That’s her story. Don’t let anyone undermine your abilities in life, to lift themselves above you, as though they know better than you, how they would navigate through the issues, had they been you with your education, background, and friends. Once everything is put together it seems easy, but its not.
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