You can’t force things to happen for you in life, when things are not working out they’re not working out and that’s not a reflection of anything wrong with either party, sometimes things don’t work out, after awhile you get tired of trying, and with enough rejection give up. That is your body telling you to let go, you cannot manipulate the disposition of others to suit your needs, expect to be spoken to in a helpful way, and in return put someone down, that creates a toxic relationship. Whenever we feel like our buttons are being pushed when overwhelmed, it can create a situation where one feels like self-harming, that’s just your mind telling you youre tired, with added support, and help from others, when needed, that feeling can stop -these are just readings, when you cannot read your surroundings, that doesn’t mean dig deeper … from where does the benefit run, from the wrongdoer, certainly not, from the person retaliating on behalf of another, certainly not, if you allow people to affect you they will have an impact on your best decision making skills, and events will occur that translate to others, that you are the wrongdoer, that’s called manipulation, space means everything, sometimes you just have to let certain subjects go, and certain people go from your life when things are not working out. You cannot judge a book by its cover, or allow people to get help at your expense make you feel bad about yourself, and cause you physical disability, we all have our limits, know when to stop. You cannot build a stronger position in life by putting someone else down, theres no such benefit or positive end result when someone snaps, it always hurts, when people are not themselves. That disillusionment is real, not purposeful, and never deserved, that doesn’t mean someone is senile, it just means that they are not themselves, because they are too busy accommodating the best interests of others. It’s a no win situation, whenever someone becomes the butt of a joke, or the bearer of guilt placed upon them by others, that’s called guilt tripping, when someone does not feel good, blaming people around them or others for their illnesses, its not necessarily anyones fault when someone is not doing well in life, try not to be too hard on others, life is short, and it certainly does not need to made shorter, when benefit is taken, and anothers disposition is preyed upon or weaknesses brought about to see what they are made of good or bad, that’s measuring someone up to a negative, it is never advantageous for any party to bring about weaknesses or negativity in others, that doesn’t make anyone look good or better than, and then everyone feels bad, then its by who feels worse, is empathized or offered sympathy for, and the one who is not responding in sadness, deemed the provoker or guilty party for causing a series of consequences disfavorable to the outcomes lived by others. You are at most responsible for yourself, if you so choose to get help, we expect that that help does not misdirect others, as bullying often does, telling someone one thing, that sets them off on a negative tangent, while the other relishes in excitement of having power of the lives of others or any one person in particular. That is not how to control a situation, allow people to live their own lives, without chokeholding people to a set of standards befitting to personal interests not in the best interests of everyone, the totality of the circumstances is dependent always upon wellness, and based upon wellness, others feel well, and when one is not well one gets help. Who that person chooses to get help from, should not be taken in offense to anyone trying to help a person or group of people, don’t place blame upon someone for not asking for help, help is always on an as needed basis, allow people to be well on their own, thats co-dependency to leave one feeling better than the other, at the expense of either party. That is not how one looks like the helper or a bigger or better person, let them come to you.
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