Not all relationships begin the same way and each has its own stages. Not occurring the same in every, but unique to each individual we meet in life. Why is that? For every experience that we have we have a new beginning in life, the lessons we learn from previous interactions with others, help to improve the basis upon which we make decisions in future interactions and relationships. A relationship is not defined solely on the intimacy that exists between between two people but can also vary in terms of closeness. In some relationships we desire closeness in others the opposite distance. It does not matter who attaches to us, for every relationships fosters our personal growth, both positive and negative. What does matter is to whom we attach to. To whom where and why we attach may often time baffle us, why attach to negatives, and why so few positives. Why are we so affected by those we do not get along with, and why is it so difficult to develop healthy attachments to those we do get along with. What is it about negative interactions that gets under our skin, that interferes with our ability to attach to the positives in our life. This is one area of relationships that has constantly created disturbance in my life and to the relationships that helped foster my growth, interfering with my ability to attach, because relationships to which negatives resulted from interfered with my ability to maintain current positive relationships and form new bonds and positive relationships. What I learned from these experiences was to not be too concerned with why I did not get along with these individuals and instead focus my attention on what it is that they said to me that caused me disturbance and interfered with my ability to achieve happiness in my life.