Chapter 63: You Can’t Change the Past by Leslie A. Fischman
02-01-18 You Cant Change the Past by Leslie A. Fischman 01-22-18 You cant change the past or what others think of you, why you should just be, rather than try to convince others you are something that you are not. There will be people that come and go from our lives, but we must always remain the same. Not one person won or lost in life, should make or break you, sometimes you just have to keep going in life, and think positively of others, that even without them in your lives, they would still want whats best for you. Its when you’re in the negative that things go wrong for you in your life, its when you think positively of self and others that things go right for you in life. Never take into question self or others, too willingly that it breaks you down. –Sometimes a little give and take goes a long way in life, assembling whats to keep and assembling whats to trash in life, and always keeping the best of us, in order to put our best foot forward in life. It takes time to understand what is wanted in life, and what is rejected in life, for some of us figure this out sooner than others in life. Nothing trashy ever gets returned, and nothing trashy ever gets respect or gains notoriety in this lifetime, but everything trashy gets remembered. Its usually the faults of others, they are known by, their weaknesses, not their strengths, even after they achieve success, this you learn the hard way. Respect is often times hard to achieve post trauma of seeing someone you admire get trashed, that’s the sad part. Theres always room for forgiveness, forgive all. Accept People for Who They Are by Leslie A. Fischman 01-22-18 Accept people for who they are, they know best themselves, it’s a waste of time to question others on their paths in life, everyone is responsible for their own choices in life. Deserved or not, sometimes we fall victim to the choices we make in life, and then have to make amends with ourselves, and move forward peaceably, without exhibiting behavioral health issues, associated to what pains us about our past lives. There is always time to move forward, no one is perfect. Never go back to where it hurts, that just re-instigates the cycle of violence, and enables people to harm you again and again, and again. Just move forward. Where there is non-acceptance there will never be acceptance again. That’s how you know whether or not you have ruined a relationship or messed up in life, when you can’t go backwards, or have trouble going backwards, or a friendship or professional association breaks. Not always resulting from a break of trust, but usually resulting from a break in character. When your best foot is not forward in life, you are more susceptible to relationships broken, increased odds against the maintenance of those relationships. When you best foot is forward, it then becomes easier to maintain those relationships both professionally and personally, how to keep going in life. Knowingly in the Wrong by Leslie A. Fischman 01-22-18 When you are knowingly in the wrong, own it. There is nothing you can do to make things right, by harping on the negatives, best you can do is be positive. There are no defenses to idiocracy or stupidity, you just have to represent yourself, well enough to keep up with the pace of life. No one can help you but yourself. Accept no blames for the illnesses of others, as they are a product of their own minds, not yours. You are always responsible for yourself first and foremost, you are never responsible for the wrongs of others. As directed means as directed means as directed. No one on medication should drink alcohol for those reasons, as directed not to. Always consult with your Doctor or Pharmacist should you take medications, in which the combination of alcohol, impairs any of your abilities, why I don’t drink, sober since 2003. Im knowingly retarded, Ive had a learning disability since I was little, learned multiplication tables by tracing my hands, numbers on the tips, and got zeros on my ERBs in Kindergarten, there is no news flash for those struggling with learning disabilities, you just need to be kind to all. How I was able to achieve in life, its through hard work, and effort, and with a strong faith in myself and others, as well as those around me, trusting their decision making skills, never paranoid. In order to be well, enough to hang out with the best of them, you have to do well in life, that means following rules of order, and doing your best to be apart of, not fall astray. There are no confessions to the wrongs made by others, only defenses. You cannot blame people for the wrongs of others, that is clearly wrong, you cannot blame innocent bystanders, you cannot blame people period when bad things occur, that is not the responsibility of people to be blamed, accept blame, place blame, or worry others to death via blame. You should always take responsibility for yourself in life, you are NEVER responsible for others in life, just yourself. When you represent yourself well, you represent all others well, that is the point of image. Image is when of and concerning you, you represent yourself best. Nothing that I have written has been learned in Law School, it is for and by my experiences I know best, and respond well, to circumstances, always see clearly. When you do right in the World, you will foster self, and others, when you do not do well in life, you cannot represent the best interests of others well, that’s plain and simple. The Confidences of Your Own by Leslie A. Fischman 01-31-18 Always keep the confidences of your own in your best interests. Never allow the confidences of others, to bolster your own insecurities or interfere with you abilities to function or work in congruent to your best interests. When you are sound your mind is sound, when your best interests are met you are congruent to your best interests, don’t overlap two negatives to build a positive inference for another’s to interpret you in the negative via adaptation of something said not said, or thought left unsaid purposefully, that is a wrong interpretation a forced saying of two stories at once to build an inference, and is wrong. Its two stories heard separately to be told at the same time in a separate space to build an additional inference or wrong or allude to any wrong present, future, or past, or ongoing presently, not present or past. –Don’t allow others to build confidences off of your achievements in life, or off of what gives you courage in life, and esteem, that’s a misrepresentation of purpose which is to help all, not help all, and the replace you. The writer in life, or take away my life, and hurt my ability to live and function, that’s a misuse of my writings. When I am harmed, that is a causal consequence of the misuse of my writings , for the purpose of causing harm to my mind, to my psyche, and to my well-being, overall health and well-being, that is wrong. And should be stopped. It is wrong to harm, stalk, molest, or otherwise harm others in a professional space, unknowingly. You should always be kind to others, and help others as best you can function well. When you give your confidence away to others, it can be misused and taken from you. When your confidence is taken from you, you are left with nothing. I’m not a confidence expert that is something that everyone figures out for themselves in life. Be in Control of Your Own Problems by Leslie A. Fischman 01-31-18 Always be in control of your problems, in your life, and never make your problems the business of others, or interfere with your relationships with others. It is not for others to know your problems in life or your problems with others, that only causes discord and rumor and distrust and paranoia. Paranoia results from upsets, when you are upset with yourself, a perfectionist, wanting all relationships to be sound and well, when one relationship or another falters, then you feel imbalanced and as a result, this may cause one to self-harm. Self-harming can result from failures, fighting, or from mistakes in life: sometimes caused by the use of drugs or alcohol. Never base judgments on others while under the influence of drugs or alcohol as they may be skewed or off base with reality when you are up or high on a tangent of life that is not in touch with the realities of situations present in another world, that is based upon your personal viewpoints or recollections. Sometimes our recollections may be based upon what we know and see, such as on social media, and sometimes our recollections may be based upon what we know, by experience, when our recollections cause us illness, that means we have a foundational problem, our interests are to [criticize] and when [those opinions held] cannot rest one may feel like they are not winning [until proven right], [and] not getting to the bottom of something, that means you are [hurting] the wrong person [you should never hurt anyone rightfully so, whether you think deserved or not], why people are turning on you [always be nice to people whether you think they are deserving or not of a good life, a job, or anything for that matter, is no ones business but that person living their life, should not bother anyone else's image or livelihood]. Its important not to prosecute people, and its important not to wrongfully accuse people of misconduct. That is the job of law enforcement. Not the job of civilians to involve themselves with. There are TV Shows for that, its not for public discourse to inflict pain upon others or dissect the minds of others, or to pick apart the genuiness of others hurt one another, you cannot hurt someone to do a good in life, that only makes one sick. Balance and Esteem by Leslie A. Fischman 01-31-18 Balance in life and esteem are important for positive functioning, without which, we often times feel lost. Sometimes its companionship that makes us feel complete sometimes, its relationships that make us feel whole. And sometimes its work that makes us feel complete. Whatever it is always makes sure you maintain a careful balance, so that one does not fall part, and so that each life does not affect the other. –When you are nervous its usually because things are not going right for you in your life, or you are not doing something right, this causes nervousness, imperfection. There is only so much you can do to be perfect before you fall apart, always go to help when and if so, that is what therapy is for and that is what friends and companions are for talking and sharing emotions with. Publically, the sharing of emotions is considered taboo, no one wants to hear your problems, usually people only want to hear good news, theres a reason for that, maintaining positivity. Maintaining positivity is so important, problems, can cause disarray, and disarray can cause mental illness, mental illness is caused by fighting, and fights started cause nervousness, and right before a fight there is tension, that’s the assumption of a fight about to begin, an anticipation of a fight, an anticipation of negativity, one should never anticipate negativity, but always see the positive in life, anticipate well. Always Stay Calm by Leslie A. Fischman 01-31-18 They say that social anxiety is: “Also known as social phobia, social anxiety disorder is the excessive and unreasonable fear of social interactions and situations. Often having the fear of being criticized, judged or closely watched, people with social anxiety tend to avoid social communication, especially outside of the world of anonymity offered through online services.” (https://www.learning-mind.com/social-anxiety-disorder/). If so … how can social media help curtail these disorders thoughts, not make worse, these conditions, that are already pre-existing, this I think is a big concern. People who are not heavily interacting in person, but interact online heavily, and have social anxiety, usually people who should be social online, should have knowledge or experience being social in real life, and able to therefore adjust online well. That would only make sense in the long run. Therefore its best to practice these skills in real life, and not run the risk of losing these positive life skills, with too much online interaction and not enough in person interaction, this may worsen this condition. Writing is one thing, and trauma therapy is another, and blogging is one thing, but interaction, social interaction, seems to be vital a key component to normalcy. Don’t Be Easily Offended by Others by Leslie A. Fischman 02-01-18 Don’t be so easily offended by others, always reminding yourself that its not about you, not everything rarely ever is, or ever if is about you, unless you make it so. When you call attention to yourself, expect others to listen and comment about you, when you are yourself, and in good spirits then have no fear about what people say or think about you, it is when you are not well or not in good spirits that you should worry about what others think of you. No one is ever plotting against you in life, that’s always in your head, people have their own lives and their own sets of problems, and to dos, rarely do people have time to go out of their way to make a mess of another’s life or cause hardship to another’s life, or cause or instill fear upon another, that’s always most likely in your head. A product of your own thoughts about others about you, usually due to insecurities, or lack of self-confidence, or maybe just not being busy enough, not feeling accomplished in life, with or without jobs, sometimes these conditions do not change, and we cannot change the way we are. Some people are worriers, some people do not worry, regardless, accept all. It Takes a Long Time to Know Yourself by Leslie A. Fischman 02-01-18 It takes a long time to know yourself, especially when questioned by others. Constant questioning by others affects your decision making skills. One should always be sound of mind and heart in order to make good decisions in life. People can help guide you, but you are in change or your own progress in life. Never make things more difficult for yourself than necessary. You usually make things worse when you stop trying and you stop doing your best in life. Why its important to always be diligent, determined, follow up, and show up, those are key to successes in life, being there for others, and being present. Presence is everything key to happiness. And when you yourself are happy then you too can enjoy life, and be happy too, and get back in life, what life has to offer back to you, when you are good.
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Chapter 62: You Can’t Go Backwards by Leslie A. Fischman
02-01-18 Never allow others to run conversations making things about you, regarding topics or anecdotes that do not regard your character traits, that only causes your head to hurt, in defense to, a waste of energy, per conversation to, and cause for hurt and mental anguish. Do not run misinformation on individuals to cause hardship or otherwise mischaracterize people to look bad to insinuate hardship to their minds or redirect their thoughts to defenses or redirect their thoughts toward explanations suited toward your judgments or interpretations of them if so state those judgments or interpretations yourself need not be stated by me to be heard or understood or clarified or used for good or proper judgment of my good character traits or person. Always be thankful for your blessings in life, and count them twice. There are many pains in life far graver than minor losses you incur socially, romantically, or financially. Always keep things in perspective. Health comes first, think about others. Life is precious. You only have one life to live, so appreciate everyone around you enough to do your best at all times and never give up, whether or not you are the weakest link is no excuse to cause trouble in your life or the lives of others misuse drugs or alcohol as a coping mechanism that just makes matters worse so does anything in excess. Take everything in life with a grain of salt life is best lived light on your feet light heartedly for the moment. Not in regret not bottled up not in the past not in resentment but with appreciation and pride. There are different types of understandings: General and Specific. Depending on what you know about others. What you know you apply to the facts and then analyze based upon that information make deductions. Never assume one is bad just because you think part of what you think about someone is bad force combinations of information to exist come into play to sabotage or increase likelihood of negative outlooks for interpretation of that individuals life so that you feel better than feel right and the other looks bad that's not a justified rallied effort against another that's too much teaming up on another to construct a viewpoint thought balanced justified to draw a label. Be careful when telling your story or the story of others, how it gets repeated in application via analysis through understanding of the present unknown or inapplicable by those without information or resources to apply that information with have proper bases for comparison for use of that information. There is a risk of misapplication of information in that event of misuse of story telling, that's a risk of purposeful conduct to illicit repeated story to curtail an idea through the voice of the story teller not reflecting accurately the sayers best interests. You can't go backwards in life you can only move forwards. Life is much about making mistakes as it is about learning lessons, you live and you learn. You will never know unless you try. What goes up must not necessarily come down, only if you allow circumstances to boot. There is always time to regroup in life and make amends nothing is permanent. Damages unforeseen are incapable of misplaced guilt, or displaced hatred for others. If it's to hate hate those who are bad if it's to love love those who are good if it's to envy envy those who are well these are choices we make and so be it not God's will upon us, but political errors we make, in life none to blame upon others or run risk of blame upon others. You're not always going to hear what you want to hear or need to hear in life in order to feel better. They say "you can't always get what you want." That is true. There's a reason for that. With expectation comes disappointment. When you set yourself up with expectation, when you do not measure up, those losses incurred weigh you down in life and you feel bad about yourself and when that occurs, you are hard on yourself or others are hard on you for not being successful. Successes in life are by achievement and by goal setting not by expectations expectations are by onlookers you should always do your best when you do your best you won't have to worry about expectations or what people think that's the key to happiness. Not everyone will be happy with you in life. It's not your job to please everyone. Don't expect people to say what you think they're going to say as an accurate or good indicator of what is right or wrong in your mind as what's necessary be said or expected be said following expectation of words spoken do not insult the minds of writers by criticism one should always be respectful of others that's common courtesy. When your heart breaks your World falls apart and that's a normal feeling you cry you get over it. You have to keep going in life be task oriented keep busy and always keep setting goals for yourself, so that you continue to recover, that's depression. Everyone has their moods in life to each his own always be respectful of the time and attention of others in your life. You can be anything you want to be in life without getting frustrated with yourself or others, you cannot control what people think or what they do to try and cause you harm in life or hurt your head to then cause you to harm yourself to make you look like you are mentally ill that's called emotional and mental abuse and intolerable. Never put up with the emotional abuses of others where your best interests are not at heart and only to make you look bad. You absolutely can't fake it until you make it. There's really no truth to that. When you lie to yourself you only set yourself up for self-sabatoge and failure. You cannot fool others into thinking you're something you are not you can only be yourself as best you can. It's always okay to share ideas and do your best to protect the foundations from which those ideas come from that's called leaving room for interpretation and use not being controlling and minimizing risk of error by being too controlling which causes nervousness under these heightened conditions when it's best for others to make decisions at their own will not by requirement or peer pressure. Fear is caused by assuming others are making false assumptions about you and casting you under a negative false light and that that false light is the cause of mental disturbances toward you or distrust or embarrassment. Don't try so hard to go backwards to undo hardships that don't exist presently you only make your life more difficult for yourself the more you try to fix. You cannot fix others. You can only fix yourself. You can best be there for others, you cannot change people, only yourself. These are constant dilemmas faced when you care about someone who matters to you who you have conflicting emotions about not sure about whether deserving of trust or your time and attention of risk of disappointment never be disappointed by those who care well for themselves it's by your own disappointments and judgments not others where that feeling of uneasiness comes from if so read something else, we are not all perfect but we all do our best to be loved. Stability takes time within self always have faith that better days are ahead of you stay put. Chapter 61: Learning to Love by Leslie A. Fischman
02-01-18 There's a lot to learn in life about love. You have to respect yourself in order to be respected by others and in order for others to be well respected the ones they love must be respected and admired too otherwise must be discredited. It's called putting one on a pedestal. Some are put on pedestals in life and some are not it depends on who you are and who you are not. When you are well off and doing well for yourself and representing yourself and others well then you are best suited to care for and represent others well too. That's how representations are made and assigned. Love takes time and adjustment. There are a lot of requirements necessary in order to love someone: give and receive love and be valued back. It's not easy. Not all are welcomed, many are rejected, it's a first come first serve basis, the best are chosen first, and secondly the rest when it comes to dating the best that life has to offer, or so it seems. You just have to be patient with yourself and not pass yourself around, timing is everything it's important to preserve yourself and be chaste, that gives meaning to self and added value to the time you put forth toward the time spent on your career and on your journey in life. Everything you do in life is a reflection of your care and consideration for yourself and others, how well you take care of yourself, will communicate to your future partner how well you are capable of caring for them, and that is how one is picked in life or not or friended based upon wellness. There's a lot of pressure for support in life. There's a lot of pressure of traits and character traits in life. There's a lot of pressure period in life. Character traits and influences in life are based upon experiences in life by learning experiences what you know. What you know affects how you respond. How you respond is based upon what you know. What you know is based upon what you learn. Life is not lived by mimicry. That's not how life is lived. Life is not lived by imitation that's not how life is lived. Life is lived by how life is known by what is known by how one is. That is how one lives. Not to imitate. To imitate is to insult. People pleasers never insult, as insult causes pain to a people pleaser who's goal is always to please all. Chapter 60: Why Dating is Hard by Leslie A. Fischman
02-01-18 You are a product of your own thoughts no one can change the way you think about yourself. It's never deserved. Harsh treatment where underserved. It's never deserved. Equal treatment if so, doesn't always exist. You have to just be accepting of your present circumstances and own your wrongs in life and move forward, nothing's a big deal unless you make it a big deal. For a perfectionist it's hard to identify with oneself once ones own identity becomes dismembered or taken apart. You know yourself best. We cannot be at our best always. There is some give and take in life. Sometimes life requires of us compromise. Sometimes life requires of us peace and sometimes life requires us to stick up for ourselves and that's okay too. You cannot stop everything you're doing and figure everything out always for yourself sometimes you need the help of others to figure things out for yourself in life. Always know that you are loved by friends and family no matter where you go or who you're with. Running away from your problems is not the solution to bettering your life. It never is. When you beat yourself up you have no one to blame but yourself. Always pick yourself up from your bootstraps and begin again a new life for yourself once you falter. You cannot change your past or make perfect your present by being too opinionated about others who may feel as though they are being blamed for your present discord defensive to your present circumstances ignore them if so, you are always your number one priority in life it is not your priority to defend the best interests of others in life or their concerns about you or defenses to your well being in defense to their own interpretations of you threatening that they misused you or there was any misconduct toward you to begin with that's them being defensive in advance to you saying anything or accusing anyone of harming you, where no wrongful accusations have been made no accusations of wrongful accusations can be claimed were made against them in public. You have to have a very strong mind to write online, otherwise you fall apart easily, everything you write gets heavily scrutinized picked apart, and when if so there's a possibility for hearing voices feeling like your under attack by others. Never write anything you yourself would take personally or others would take personally otherwise you run the risk for retaliation upon your good character traits, likeness, and positivity. That's why those who are strong are well known well liked because they are well versed and have a solid head on their shoulders. When under duress we are forced to be on sides that causes disturbance and unrest resulting in distrust and paranoia. These are called thought disorders when you assume the thoughts of others toward you against you or others or just in general. Never assume the thoughts of others only hold your own, best interests at heart and those you care for without interfering with the interests of others to better your own position(s) in life, that's called being fair minded cordial, diplomatic. What was meaningful at one point but not meaningful now does not mean not meaningful at all. It just takes time to settle. Not everything makes sense to us in the immediate, but eventually everything works itself out right. You just have to be patient with others and trust in God's timing, you can't rush through life trying to make ends meet or beat the clocks, you have to work hard day in and day out to achieve well in life and status among the well, be accepted as well or good enough. You don't always know what you want out of life. Sometimes you what you think you need and want is different than what is really needed. Always think first based upon what you do have in life. Is it necessary? If not necessary, how important is it to you? If not important than not necessary and if not necessary than not important and if not necessary and not important than you can decide how high of a priority it is for you to deal with, that's called love, it's icing on the cake. When you know you're right about someone it needs no convincing to others in the positive or negative. You should always be sound at heart never unsteady through the outward discussion of personal interests best suited for private discussion not public discussion or discourse. That's how you get your hands tied and your heart broken or torn left beside yourself then defensive and combative. You should always be yourself, offense is always taken when you try to be others or when others try to be you, never use the likeness of others for ones own benefit that causes disruption of interests. You can allow people to read your writings but you cannot dictate to people how to use your writings for benefit or interpretation you cannot control what people think to do so is an overstep of your boundaries as a writer and a waste of time and energy and input to explain and try to voice the opinions of others or of the reader that's best left unsaid. When you realize what's been done and you know who's been wronged it's important not to over involve oneself in the matters belonging to others that's how you get tied up in nonsense then overly defensive ill to the concerns of others not originally your own but belonging to another. It's important to care but never that much to the point that you completely put all together your needs aside in place of the needs of another unless necessary to do so, required by laws or if it's your job to do so care for another's well being other than your own. When you love someone you'd do anything right to make better yourself for them and for others for the sake of normalcy set right self. That's called caring, letting go of self interests and cares and thinking instead of what's in the best interests of the one you love and care for that's called love putting your needs aside to benefit the needs of another, it's about who's more important you or the one you love and why and when if so that love is returned you know you've made the right decision to whom where and why love is given and for what purpose. Respect takes time. You don't always get what you deserve in life. You can't always win. You have to respect the current statuses and relationships of others and make best your role in another's life as a positive support system without interfering with their ability to love and provide support to their loved ones focus on their needs too. That's always important too, not to be too needy of ones time and attention be independent self-sufficient. Its difficult to date when you yourself are not put together it's hard to give and receive love. When you are 100% you are more likely to get picked and more likely to be able to sustain any long term relationship. It all takes time getting used to. Getting to know each others temperaments needs and wants in life. The better you know and understand your companion the better able you are to serve their best interests as well as meet you best interests along the way. Understand yourself best. Know the difference between well and not well and when to get help. That's always important when it comes to mental health issues. There's a stopping point. You cannot keep running to others for help with your problems medical or not, that need tending to from a medical professional or legal professional. Where there is love there is sanity, where there is friendship there is peace of mind, and balance of opinion. Always be independent of others to have it all in life. When things get overwhelming you have to slow down and regroup you cannot push yourself over the edge that's how you fall apart or get lost or lose your audience. In order to maintain standing or be appreciated perceived as normal fit in you have to stay centered not jump off the cliff so to speak and be at a normal equilibrium not too high not too low but at an even pace in life otherwise you get knocked off center treated as abnormal. You cannot win them all in life. You will not be everyone's favorite in life. You will not be well liked by all and that's okay. Best you can do is try to fit in anyways and do your best to get along well with others. It's never in your best interests to fight at that point when you're not doing well it usually makes things worse for you. Always protect your best interests but never at your own expense in life, do as your told but not if it puts you at a worse off disposition in life. There's always balance to every decision rendered. You should always keep in mind the best interests of others as you try to better your life make better decisions for yourself as you correct the mistakes you've made in your life not repeat mistakes you've made in your life and hurt people again or the same people again in the same way you've been accused of hurting anyone. Chapter 59: It’s Okay to Have Dreams by Leslie A. Fischman
01-28-18 Never let others get under your skin enough to hurt you. When you love yourself nothing can get to you, not even those who hate you. You should always get along well with others. Fighting is for those with sides to fight not for the innocent or for bystanders to over involve themselves with. When you have disability it's difficult to function in the World normally that's understandable everything takes time and adjustment. Some people are too far gone to return and rehabilitate themselves some are able to adapt and some never make it back to full swing, never get back to 100% and that's okay. It takes time to readjust, heal. When you're doing well cherish those moments in life they are far a few in between. You never know, what life throws at you, you sometimes have to deal with on your own, figure out for yourself, rights from wrongs, on your own terms, not by the terms of others, make decisions for yourself. Do not be easily misled by others always be best in charge of yourself not bossed by others but independent of others decision making skills be the best decision maker you can be for yourself in life. You have to be you no matter what anyone says about you. If it affects you too much, in one ear out the other. You should not let anyone affect you. Always be natural about how you react to others. Never blow things out of proportion be overly dramatic and selfish. Think twice before you react and respond to others. Always take the commentary of others lightly, never assume anything is about you. You cannot control what people think. When you lose your marbles in public you have no one to blame but yourself. Always have dreams and aspirations in life. How you stay afloat. Never let anyone bring you down in life. Never stoop to any ones level. Let you be you and they be them. Words can be said but never forgotten always be mindful of what you say and keep in mind how remembered. Sometimes the best decisions aren't made when we are tired but when we are well rested and can think clearly. This is important for positive functioning. It's when we're not doing well we make decisions that may in turn hurt ourselves if we're not careful. Never think too highly of yourself. How you set yourself up for disaster psychologically when your too high up, not careful, and more likely to take risks in life. Always be a cautious decision maker in life. When things just don't feel the same anymore usually it's because a change is needed within you not within others in order to regroup adapt to your present circumstances get back into the swing of things. That's how you fit in again by being apart of not separate. Always be careful how you contribute online as it reflects your beliefs to whom and what you contribute and why. Always be careful. When you love yourself everything seems to fall into place. No longer nit picky over mistakes in life but able to embrace the moment and live life on life's set of terms not by the terms set by others. The best memories are the ones you keep to yourself. TMI Causes Depression: Why? When you share too much about yourself others feel bad for you that in turn makes people distance themselves from you and when that occurs you feel bad about yourself. Why it's important to always be approachable online. You have to make it on your own in life, no one takes you under their wing. They can support you, but you have to always do your best to bring yourself up in life. You should never create problems in your mind you yourself cannot properly deal with on your own without the help of others. There are always people to go to in times of need. You are never so alone in life that hurting yourself should ever be an option, that's just you stuck in your own head or you stuck in a rut you can't get out of, always be proactive and do your best to achieve a normal life. Never let the problems of others get you down in life. Everyone has problems. Always be understanding and compassionate with that comes compromise empathy. No matter how you feel always put the feelings of others before your own when listening to avoid insult, why it's important to be a good listener not interrupt others while they're speaking. We all have problems some more or less unique to ourselves but none greater than the other, they're just problems any problem can be dealt with maturely and need not be a deal breaker or ruin ones life, it's important to get over stuff quick in order to fair well in life not allow yourself to get so easily beaten up and off track in life. You have to be doing well in life to be surrounded by those who are well too. You cannot do well in life when you are not doing well not feeling well or the sick are making you sick. You have to be independent of others in order to do well in life. Its usually people close to you or in your life who become defensive when you yourself are not doing well. Then blame it on drugs, alcohol, or mental health issues claim your difficult not their attitude toward you as being hard on you for no reason. Always be kind, courteous, and respectful of the time and attention of others. Detailed responses are not necessary to let others know everything about you. Heard and understood sometimes just makes people feel less than, to be heard and understood is to be listened to that's at best you can do for anyone going through a lot is to just be there for them be present. When things are going well for you in life usually happiness follows. When things are not going right for you in life, usually unhappiness follows. Know your part, and always do your best to fix whatever errors exist in your life that are keeping you from achieving happiness and centeredness. When you know your wants in life it's like nothing can stop you from achieving your goals in life. Its never advantageous for you to quit while you're ahead in life, it only sets you back, the more indecisive you become, the worse your situation present seems. Always think positively in order to know best and to be a good decision maker in times of need. When you realize your self-worth it seems like everything falls into place and you begin to function normally again as suited to your best interests not the best interests of others or to whom those you care for. You are your best advocate in life know that by helping others when you are not well you only put yourself at a worse off disposition in life not better off. Why it's important not to help others when not well only when well. Chapter 58: Nothing is Perfect by Leslie A. Fischman
01-27-18 Worst comes to worse always have a backup plan in life. Nothing is ever perfect unless we are, or so it seems. It's never too late to change or dream a new dream. When you have a strong sense of faith within yourself nothing can bring you down in life, not you not anyone. When you lose support there is always another who gains support that is how support works. When one side is taken both sides are argued and both sides suffer loss of support and attention given to those who do or do not support each side that is always the group empowered not the groups or individuals in controversy. Love yourself for who you are not who you are not. You don't ever have to embrace the harsh judgments made by others. Always be yourself. The only pressure that can ever be is pressure you put on yourself. Know your limits learn to let go and always pride yourself in the work that you do. Somethings are beyond you in life and that's okay. Always stick to what you're good at. Never set expectations of yourself higher than you're capable of achieving in life. It's never your fault in life when you do your best and still not good enough. When you fear what others think of worry too much you run yourself for risk of paranoid thinking -which only leads you to ruin. To stay afloat always be centered think positive thoughts about self and others. What gets you going in life is your business not the business of others. To each his own. Your personal motivations in life are not necessary to be shared in the public sphere or need be known to be heard with more or less scrutiny. Balanced minded equals balance of opinion. Knowing your likes and dislikes in life, takes time. Not everybody likes the same things. Not everybody agrees upon the same intuitions in life. You cannot be well-liked by all, but that doesn't mean rebel and stop trying to be well-liked at all. What does in good faith mean to me? It means doing things with a good heart with no intended personal benefit present or future. For the betterment of the majority not few and with no particular individual interests involved nor your own personally. From where do ideas originate. Usually from our best interests, ideas are brought forward. Never to undermine our good wits about us, but to bring about changes in our lives thought with pride and looked up to with envy for those reasons we usually share ideas, however some ideas get rejected, that's marketing, not every idea is best or good, some ideas are best left in the wood work. Never allow others to harm you or think justified to harm you no harm is ever deserved always remind yourself of that. When you're lost and to no avail cannot find yourself well enough in life to make good decisions for yourself know that your best is always required in order to achieve well or better than in life or to better your present circumstances, not be worse off, worse off only ruins your worst and makes worse your present not better anything, to be better you have to continuously make yourself new again, better yourself everyday. Its never too late to turn around and make mends where needed and ties where tightened needed. You cannot change things but you should not leave things undone, there's no room for error in life, only room for improvement, constant improvement and correction. Everybody has issues. Some more apparent than others. That doesn't mean that your defective or that there's something wrong with you it just means that everyone's got their own issues and not to take anything too personally, some blend better than others, depending on their dispositions in life and confidence click or don't click. Never let them win not haters not anyone in competition with you who try to bring you down or hurt you. That's never okay. Everyone should be able to achieve in life absent hurt or dismemberment be able to behave as a unit without interference from outside forces trying to keep apart or prevent relationships from occurring if so must be for good reason. Good reason alone is enough to prevent relationships from happening but only by good reason should relationships not happen in life. You can't undo the past you can only move forwards. Sometimes there's nothing you can do to undo a wrong that's been done to you by another that doesn't mean fight that just means walk away move on, that's not time for an amends or time to talk that's just how you get hit with low blows in life always move on never fight, otherwise if you go backwards in life you get hit below the belt. Always be in good humor about yourself and others. Hope is never lost its always around. It's all a matter of manifestation what is lost is always enthusiasm when there's too much negativity out why it's important to be positive to help maintain positive energy around to help set positive events in motion. Never be defensive to the emotions of others. You are you and they are them. You cannot control people or their thoughts only your own. If people don't like you so be it, it's not the end of the World. Always be mindful of the thoughts and feelings of others never say anything under duress you'd later regret or take responsibility for the actions of others not your own you are never responsible where others are wrong that's not your responsibility to care for those who are wrong toward you or others. When you win some you lose some. You cannot be perfect always. There will always be some who will not be on your side in life and that's okay. Not everything in life will be agreed upon, if so you're setting yourself up for disappointment and unreasonable standards. Always set yourself up for success in life by reporting to your superiors in life, that's how you stay on base, on par, on point in life by following the direction of others under the direction of others. Chapter 57: Know Your Limits in Life by Leslie A. Fischman
01-26-18 Know your limits in life some people don't know when to stop until it's too late don't be one of them. It's not your responsibility to control others. Wonderful things happen the minute you stop worrying and start living your life. There are times when you need others and times when you just want to be alone. Always be understanding of the time and spaces of others. Remember the good and the bad times and move forward from there. Love the life you're in you never know for whatever reason things in life take a turn for the worse, to get back on track, stay on track in life. You are your number one priority in life always. Love yourself enough to know when it's time to quit. Sometimes it's not worth it to keep trying. Once you hit a dead end in life often times you have to begin again. When you're down you're down when you're up you're up: then and only then are your clear headed enough to make good decisions for yourself and others. Always think twice before overexposing yourself. You never know who's watching. Be kind be well be you be sweet be noble be caring always be nice how to stay well minded not minding the thoughts of others. Who ever said that caring was a sign of weakness but of good character. Those who care and are mindful of the thoughts of others are signs of intelligence. As you get more and more normal your sense of privacy becomes safer and safer. It's when you're not doing well or not doing what you're supposed to be doing that you fear others or think others are out to get you or harm you in life, those delusions are called: (1) fear (2) anxiety and (3) paranoia. #RighttoPrivacy What is it that bothers you about others? Always put the best interests of others before your own, before you react in anyway incongruent to your best interests. Never stop believing in yourself. When you get too cocky in life you usually misstep somewhere along the way. Take it easy on yourselves don't become defensive to the best interests of others. Always put your best interests first. Never over consume yourself with the problems of others. There is a method to everyone's madness. Just when you think you've made it in life your World can just as easily crumble down if your not careful. Why it's important to always take good care of yourself. Just when you think you've made it in life your World can just as easily crumble down if your not careful. Why it's important to always take good care of yourself. Energy and Companionship How you behave toward those you love, resonates energy back to you you apply to yourself by how you view yourself based upon the energy and reactions of others toward you. What energy you put out into the World, you get back. In order to be high energy one must maintain a low public profile and maintain private contacts, it's by private communications we are empowered whether to one or some. #SocialMedia #Companionship Everything happens for a reason whether we know for what reasons or not at the time should not matter much. When your chips are down and you lose your crown, think what can I do for myself to lift myself back up. Always do what's expected of you and avoid the unexpected. Disappointment denotes some failure, by your choice or actions. Don't bring yourself down by focusing too much on your problems. Always be in the solution. You cannot change what others think of you once they have their minds made up about you based on what they hear thinking you're deserving or not deserving of punishment for what when and why is no ones business but my own. That's an overstep of boundaries to intrude into the private spaces of others to exploit them or extort the truth without ready explanation of the circumstances present for each ones self, depends on choices made to engage not engage others only when good can one engage in conversation with others. You have to love yourself enough to know when to quit trying so hard and just be yourself, accept you for you and not try so hard to be loved. Anger is a product of unwanted attention toward or a break in one's right to privacy to pull out a reaction out of someone to then trigger another to respond in a way that suits them. No anger is ever justified all anger is wrong. Never be angry toward others. I'm nice to everyone cordial always I don't have anger management issues I'm an overachiever. Always keep in mind the thoughts and feelings of others who are sensitive or desensitized by the lives of others and the sharing of their experiences in life. I never write about others only myself. Not my style. 012118 Chapter 56: The Recovery Process by Leslie A. Fischman
Everybody Has a Mind of Their Own by Leslie A. Fischman 01-18-18 Everybody has a mind of their own. It’s not up to you to decide how people should think about you or others, never persuade others to hold a negative viewpoint about individuals or groups of individuals in life, as that is holding prejudice toward any group of people or set of individuals within a group. Everybody has a mind of their own meaning, we cannot control the thoughts of others, only our own. What we see best fit is a matter of manifestation of how we see the World, and our position in it. When we feel as though we are wronged we may behave differently. When we feel that others may be wrong to others or toward us, we may behave differently. Always know that you are not your associations in life, and only you can be you in life. Always Focus on What Matters Most by Leslie A. Fischman 01-18-18 Always focus on what maters most, during times of controversy, never assume that everyone knows your whole story but what you share out loud with them about you. That is an assumption, that others can read you, or know what you are thinking, or what’s going on in your head, and in your life at any given moment in time. –Mental illness is a daily struggle, something that must be managed everyday and cared for, its like diabetes, you have to take your medication in order to stay well. Therefore when you are not well, it is difficult for you to be strong and to be there for others and likewise do well. Drugs and alcohol may amplify this disability, and further impede on your progress health wise, recovery time takes time, especially from drugs and alcohol. Recovery is defined by Google as: “a return to a normal state of health, mind, or strength. [or] the action or process of regaining possession or control of something stolen or lost.” This is a loss of a stable mental health condition in place an unstable mental health condition, caused by the use of drugs or alcohol. This lack of stability causes one to question self as well as others, can induce paranoia. Why when in paranoid states and not doing well, its important to refrain from the use of alcohol and drugs. -The well see well, and the well looking at those with mental illness, apply mental illnesses to the well, to figure out what is causing mental illness. That will never change, people will always wonder for what reasons caused the use of drugs and or alcohol, usually its not conspiracy, but pressures upon pressures, that cause mental illness, and eventually turning on oneself, or others, paranoid. Its important when mentally ill to express yourself in a safe space so that does not occur, so that you don’t say anything that causes others to question your stability and ability in life to represent self and others well, to the best of your ability, to do well in life. Reference: https://www.google.com/search?source=hp&ei=945gWu2REs7wjwOXtrCIBQ&q=recovery+definition&oq=recovery+definition&gs_l=psy-ab.3..0l10.480.4754.0.5191.24.15.2.6.6.0.184.1449.11j4.15.0....0...1c.1.64.psy-ab..1.23.1522.0..0i131k1j0i10k1j33i160k1.0.xxT6biRZFPI Friendships Can Never Be Wrecked by Leslie A. Fischman 01-17-18 Friendships can never be wrecked, only mended, by bettering yourself. When one friendship ends another will blossom, never lose faith, and always keep going in life. You cannot go backwards in life, you can only move forwards. “Life is no Nintendo Game” in the wise words of Eminem. –Going backwards only does you harm in life, does not make better situations for self or for others, but only festers wounds. Know you best and be that, don’t compare yourself to others, as that will prevent you from blossoming in life, and being at your best, always do well, to be well, and likewise be kind to others appreciate well, to be well, not be jealous of well to make well. There will always be different types of people, with different mood settings, that will not change we are only human, and like the water within us, we change. Don’t think too much of others, as their problems become your problems, if thought about. You will always be yourself, and no one can change that about you. What you see is what you know, and what you hear is what you think, and what becomes of you is how you become toward self and around others, is a product of your work ethic put toward bettering yourself everyday, that is what will surround you, you have to work for it. Nothing comes easy in life, including having friends, and being around others, that is something you have to earn by good merits to be surrounded by good people, if not there are plenty of people to surround yourself with on social media, that will never change, there will always be systems of support online for those in need, on social media and away from social media, to help us identify whats bothering us. Sometimes its difficult to share out loud what is bothering us, and that’s okay. Its never too late to change, and its never too late to make better self, never trash yourself. Always be kind to yourself, when you are kind to yourself. Others will not trash you or think different of you, when you are well, others will be well around you. Never stop at just okay, and always do your best, perfection is everything in life, when you get good at catching your mistakes in life, you get better at catching the mistakes of others in life, and that’s how you see and become a better person having known them, not all people are perfect, and sometimes we have to see it to believe it, believe in ourselves and in others, what is true and real are our own realities. When we fixate on others, we can become real, if our Worlds feel unreal how TV helps adjust us, to reality. To be cured is to see well the thoughts of self as well as the thoughts of others. To what becomes justified is by traits seen and shown. Never accept blame for the wrongs of others, I’ve said this before, always be true. Its by who you identify with you become, identify with whole people to be real, all knowing. Everybody Has a Mind of Their Own by Leslie A. Fischman 01-18-18 Everybody has a mind of their own. It’s not up to you to decide how people should think about you or others, never persuade others to hold a negative viewpoint about individuals or groups of individuals in life, as that is holding prejudice toward any group of people or set of individuals within a group. Everybody has a mind of their own meaning, we cannot control the thoughts of others, only our own. What we see best fit is a matter of manifestation of how we see the World, and our position in it. When we feel as though we are wronged we may behave differently. When we feel that others may be wrong to others or toward us, we may behave differently. Always know that you are not your associations in life, and only you can be you in life. Negative Opinions Don’t Matter by Leslie A. Fischman 01-17-18 Negative opinions, don’t matter, those are things, words, places and people that get under your skin, make you not think about you, only think about, and cause illness. –What matters is proper maintenance of positive opinion, its not what you do that matters but what you say, interjects a negative opinion or positive opinion toward self, and reflects your belief systems. How you were raised does not matter, its what you do with your life that matters most, importance to accolades, and holding virtues that help not just yourself, but everyone around you. Be well minded in order to have well thoughts, about self and other. Causes for disruption are your own thoughts disturbing your own sense of peace, and whereabouts mentally. When you circle about, make it not collapse on negatives but by focusing on rebuilding off of positive tangents, is how to get from one point to the next without stumbling or falling into a pile of oopses and controversies. –Negativity is when you try to discern whereabouts or causess for controversy [where] exist[ent] then stumble and fall into the pile of negativity, always look out for one another, but not to the point where it bears too much burden upon one or others or many. Think before you speak, crime is crime, and people are people. People are not crimes, and crimes are not people, crimes are caused by criminals, criminally minded, and crimes are caused by those who commit crimes, crimes upon people, places, and people. Some words are considered crimes, such as words directed at people, specifically, and words directed at self that harm, or words directed toward others that harm. Those who get harm are never forgiven nor never forgotten, and will always be remembered, including those who harmed them, that’s a sad truth, to be ignored. Whats most important is to focus on the living, respect the oldest as well as the deceased, and to always do whats best, its by [respect for your elders], we become special [I was thought to have become special by death], unique [no not unique], we are all apart of someone who has passed come before us, that will not change. We are a product of ourselves, not of the deceased, that’s your life as applied. Do not apply your current life to the deceased or compare self to the deceased that is considered sin. Worship things not people. People with many things, why they are worshipped, its by things, not by people. -Guilt gets passed over much like a lawsuit, gets passed on from generation to generation, harships, that’s the law. When you become too involved in the problems of others, you tend to take it personally, don’t take anything in life too personally, including the wrongs of others, on others, and including yourself, do not internalize hate as directed toward self when on others. Do not mimic hate as a representation of self toward others, by sight seen. How people die, is a discussion for medical professionals, not for the commoners to discern or think about, always focus on the living, NEVER play Doctor, that is sin. When you hurt others, you only hurt yourselves, Ive said this before. When you share a lot you become paranoid, because those are your inner workings, keep all inner workings to yourselves, to not be duplicated among yourselves in life. When you get your hand dirty in life, its because you’ve entrapped yourselves in the problems of others, or the thinking about of problems of others, that are not your own, always focus on yourselves not others. Always help one another group by group, not in groups, but person-to-person, connections are made one on one. So its always important to be yourself, why its important to be yourself. The best gift you can give in life, is to be yourself to others, that’s how to avoid trading in yourself, or giving up your identity to another or others, always stick to your roots. You don’t’ talk about victims, that’s disempowering, to empower, let them come to you. You cannot empower vicitms, you can only redirect them to someone more qualified. Likeness or bear minded I don’t look at anyone or them or read any such things or people, I am myself, I bear no identifiable traits of anyone. Whats to know whats to hear whats thought whats said whats felt inklings [are] not true until said don’t go away. To help others, you must be whole. #Sober #Clean What is Racism? By Leslie A. Fischman 01-17-18 What is racism. Racism occurs when you do not like a particular person or group of people, and because of that dislike you either (1) fear (2) taunt (3) belittle (4) hurt (5) threaten (6) injure esteem or (7) put down because one thinks that it predominates because ones beliefs are better than or more sound than the other. That is called racism. When one is discriminated that occurs because based on ones behaviors, use of likeness, they determine that one if like that one is and therefore not to like someone who is characterized or mischaracterized, denominates. To denominate in mass media, occurs when a likeness, is used and portrayed as a kind, so when identified in public is disliked, that is to denominate a particular group or class of individuals as lesser than, and that the predominant view –goal to be seen as greater than. Beliefs are not a race, and to no beliefs can be discriminated, as these are ideas inside of you that cannot be seen outside of you. Therefore racism does not exist as to belief systems, because inwardly you cannot see outwardly beliefs or resentments or fears held toward any groups of people or individuals. –When one is put down, for me for instance, that occurs due to bullying at home, and as a result of bullying at home, that caused failure, and because of failure, that caused loss of esteem, and because of loss of esteem, that caused loss of focus, and because of loss of focus that caused lack of achievement, and because of lack of achievement that caused resentments toward me as not good enough, and because that not hired, because I was not an Attorney and he only hires Attorneys, I was a Housekeeper and Intern ABA Certified Paralegal. Bullying at home, was because of cocaine use in college 2006 for a semester. Recognizing Failures by Leslie A. Fischman 01-16-18 When you recognize your own failures in life, you can fix yourself. Until then you will be lost. Know your weaknesses, and know your errors in life, and regroup. There is always time to regroup in life, and think positively of self and others. What causes a loss, and causes a gain, is a matter of manifestation, what you in your heart think is real, true or not true about others, and upon that you react to others, and to people in your lives. Never take out your failures or unhappinesses out on others, as they are not to blame, never to blame for ones own current hardships. Know that until you are willing to move forward in life, and see best your interests and the best interests of others, then and only then will you be able to move past reasonings or people in your li[fe] who have caused you hardship or illness. Know you best suits in life, and always follow the rules and regulations of others, as well as protocols, how best to respond during crisis conditions, not make ill but make better self and others. That is how to build strong foundations, a willingness to surrender to your own faults in life, and help make better self and others. That is how to rebuild. When you are not doing well, that is not the time to confront or attack others, as you are wrong when you take out your aggression or unhappiness out on others. When your energy is calm, and when your energy is not directed toward others, that is when you will do well in life. When you communicate wrongs of others to build sides that’s when you are wrong, and when your side will not be taken in life. Never turn on people, to whom you confide in, those are people on your team in life. Intent to Communicate by Leslie A. Fischman 01-16-18 Intent to communicate is defined by Google as: “Non-intentional communicative intent is the communication of a message that is automatic and completed without thinking (spontaneous). Intentional communicative intent is the deliberate communication of a message to a person, whether it's via gestures, gaze, or vocalizations.” [1] –Online you have to be very careful what you communicate about self and to others, what you think. It is always a reflection of self what is communicated to and from any one person. Be careful not of what you think but of what you interpret via those communications, formulate your thoughts and response in return. Its important to always have a balanced perspective whenever passing judgment upon others. What you think, see, feel and hear is always a matter of manifestation of self, and a reflection of your safety needs, and the needs of those around you. What you relate to reflects your own needs, and who you relate to affects your needs also and the needs of those around you. What is public safety? Google defines public safety as: “Public Safety refers to the welfare and protection of the general public. It is usually expressed as a governmental responsibility. Most states have departments for public safety. The primary goal of the department is prevention and protection of the public from dangers affecting safety such as crimes or disasters.” [2] Public safety is a learned phenomenon, something that can always be perfected when it comes to oral communications and written communications, how you communicate to others, is how you will be judged, as conservative or not, helpful or not, or considered a problem, exuding problematic behavior, or deemed influential in a bad way, that denotes harm causing agents attracting harm causing agents. Always be respectful of the spaces of others, written and orally in communication, any unwanted communications result in aggravation and loss of sleep, to those whom communications are unwanted. For all wanted communications speak to your local Government officials, like Michael Moore. That is how to make change happen, not by attacking within groups or other groups. Reference: [1] https://www.google.com/search?source=hp&ei=1YJeWtrmCsGU0wKVtbigBA&q=intent+to+communicate+definition&oq=intent+to+communicate+definition&gs_l=psy-ab.3..0i22i10i30k1.900.8959.0.9501.49.37.6.2.2.0.378.3575.26j6j0j1.33.0....0...1c.1.64.psy-ab..8.41.3658.0..0j0i131k1j0i13k1j0i22i30k1j0i13i30k1j33i22i29i30k1.0.XXD85oVWZms [2] https://www.google.com/search?ei=34JeWp7-GsnujwOptqKYAQ&q=public+safety+definition&oq=public+safety+definition&gs_l=psy-ab.3..0l2j0i22i30k1l8.182082.189533.0.189872.56.47.0.4.4.0.252.4449.32j11j1.45.0....0...1c.1.64.psy-ab..23.32.2550.0..0i22i10i30k1j33i22i29i30k1j0i67k1j0i131k1j0i131i67k1.100.pcmV6NVGim Chapter 55: Struggling With Mental Illness by Leslie A. Fischman
01-21-18 The latest craze is always about something secret becoming known, something special that gets mass marketed and well known, pulls the focus away from something someone's doing to focus on something else, a work product or product. It's not about fame, but about principles, why people become famous, to take care of others, including themselves, it's an achieved state of being, for the well. Rarely have we ever seen someone struggling with mental illness achieve fame, usually they are ignored and for good reason. Always be kind to yourself, you never know who's lives you've made a difference in, without having known them. Never let yourself go. Never compare yourself to others. Always be thankful for where you're at in life. You can only be you. Never obsess over others. Focus on yourself. Don't get caught up focusing on others. You are your own best friend in life. Always be real, never let anyone bring you down in life. Always rise above drama. Never pack your plate up with more than you can carry. Dream but not bigger than the voice you carry. Love yourself to know when to quit. Never belittle others. Lift yourself first before lifting others. You know you best, always listen to those who care for you. #MentalHealth Intelligence is in the eye of the beholder. Never doubt yourself. Every effort toward bettering yourself matters. Whether you win or fail in life, never stop trying to do good, know your best, and do well in life. Know that you're worth it. Always try your best no matter what. You are your own best critic in life, don't be so easily fooled by others. Follow your heart. Always be ambitious but never at your own expense. Keep yourself separate from your problems, and your personal life separate from your professional life. Accept people as they are. Everyone you meet on a person-to-person basis you know individually through those interactions, you cannot know everyone well, some people you only know professionally. Give it time as you settle back to normal and never give up. Dont ever stop to wonder what could've would've should've been. You should always be you no matter what else anyone says about you. Know that you are wonderful on the inside out and no one can change you. When everyone is feeling better, that's you're cue to do better for yourself. Learn how to let go in life. Be there for others, but don't be overbearing let others walk on their own without you. You don't need to have it all or know it all in order to have a good life. You just need to be grateful. When you're doing well. Keep doing well. It's all a state of mind wellness. When you think well thoughts about self and others you too can fair well in life. You can't control what people think of you. You can only do your best. Always be a good judge of character. No mental illness is an excuse for hurting the esteems of others including your own. Always represent yourself best. Keep things in a balanced perspective. Rise above hate. You should always know yourself well enough to know who you are who you are not. Never let the opinions or judgments of others to bring you down in life. Never assume that everybody knows you. That's usually all in your head. Never push people away who love you. Usually they are just trying to help you get back on your feet stay centered. You are a product of your own mistakes in life. Just keep going in life you cannot change others or their thoughts about you, not all people think the same. Just because one passes negative judgment upon you doesn't mean they all do. You just have to keep going in life. Always do the right thing. Love yourself enough to know your limits in life. What you think things are about and what they are actually about are two different things. Usually looking back if applied to the present sounds wrong or off. Always stick to present interpretations of present not interpret the past with present interpretations or knowledge, that's called passing judgment on the past. Its always a compliment to be compared. Whether thought you are something you are or you aren't own it. Not all people are given the attention of the time of day to even be compared in the first place. All attention is good attention, don't attract unwanted attention to self, you're not prepared for. Never wait until it's too late to speak. Have no regrets in life and always participate. To feel apart of is everything worthwhile. If it's not possible it's not probable. Know the difference between right and wrong. You should never have to convince anyone of your thought processes. Always think well in order to do well in life. You are always a product of your thoughts. Never become too paranoid to think others have it better in life than you and get sick. You always know best. You are always capable of living your best life if you just make good choice always putting your best foot forward. Always think best of others to bring out the best in others, think positive. Your take from matters should always be in the positive, to learn positive lessons back to self, not inherit the problems of others, internalize blame. That causes history to repeat itself, when you internalize the issues of the past. Your problems are your problems you should not make your problems the problems of others in order to feel understood. Always be understanding of one another's time and effort put towards trying to understand you and your problems. The best solution is always one that takes into consideration the problems of all. Be careful with your words, once said cannot be taken back. Who you offend does not forgive easily. Always speak well of others in order to do well in life. You have to be careful when confronting what's bothering you, not to offend others during the process of recovery or over the course of discussion. It's easy to become alienated by use of drugs and alcohol. Why it's important to maintain sobriety once you go sober or else judged in the negative. Maintaining sobriety has been key to my recovery. It's been said that "things only get worse" upon relapse, and that I understand, understand clearly. That in order to manage ones own emotions well, one must be able to manage their lives well, both personally and professionally. Your recovery is always based upon your willingness to change. Who you become thereafter is a product of your positive influences in life, those who support you when your down. Always be grateful for those systems of support in your life that help guide you through the basics of life. The basics of life include your communication skills both positive and negative, and your ability to comprehend comprehend well the matters of others, including deciphering well your own problems, and being able to effectively communicate what's bothering you, so that you can do well too in life. Always stay positive. Love yourself always. You never know who could walk into your life and change your life for good and for the better. Always note you're no big deal until someone loves you and you become a big deal to them. Not one more important than the other. Willingness to love is based upon a willingness to change which is based upon a willingness to trust. Without trust there cannot be love and without love no relationship to keep trust and confidences in. When you feel like you need to be important in someone else's life, usually you are not given the attention back you think you deserve. Always think first for yourself before putting the needs of others before your own. Always be professional in all relationships be careful not to overwhelm others with your problems. That's not the solution. What Matters People matter not things. When you value things not people you know your off base off point with reality. Always maintain a healthy balance between what you value and don't value in life. Be hard on yourself not hard on others, in order to achieve greatness in life one must value themselves not take themselves or their careers lightly but be independent of the thoughts of others. Quelled not rampaging or complaining but getting what needs to be done, done. Knowing ones priorities in life helps one to understand the value of people and their time. That's how you get jobs and get things in life by valuing yourself as well as others too. When you don't feel good don't think badly of yourself. -When things happen behind your back usually it's because people care, not because they don't care about you. Always be mindful of the thoughts and feelings of others to show genuine care back. Its by wellness we achieve in life, not by dislike. -When you're doing well others doing well too will stand out to you. It's when you're not doing well that everything negative stands out to you. When things are not going your way in life you have to think positive in order to do well in life. When you're not doing well in life it's important to perfect yourself until you do well feel well in life, otherwise you get picked apart. Nothing is a facade in life, all recovery takes time. There's a fine line between well and not well when it comes to mental illness and bipolar, you have to maintain steady progress do well in order to achieve and maintain well in life. Never be aggravated by others. Usually when aggravated we say and hear things in the wrong, what suits us, what perfects us, what makes sense to us. Never argue with an angry person, always walk away. You cannot change people only yourself. Never change yourself or gear yourself to people please those who do not like you, that's just recipe for disaster. Always focus on positive changes you can make in your life to please those who care for you. The solution is never to pick yourself apart at your own expense. You are all you've got. Self-harm willingly never makes sense. Never knowingly put yourself at risk of harm. You live and you learn in life how to be how to behave and how to see in life. What you know about yourself will dictate how you should react and respond to others, always take into consideration the thoughts and feelings of others, know your best, your strengths and weaknesses. Never respond in the negative to others expected or not, that just makes you look bad. Always stay positive not one person is ever all knowing. You know yourself best. Don't succumb to the default judgments of others upon you. You cannot concern yourself with the problems of others, if you want to do well in life, you have to be at your best, focused on yourself, how to think best. When others are negative towards you there's nothing you can do about it. Don't feel hopeless with resentments that's not how to overcome resentments. One must be positive in order to think positive, no one can harm you when you do the right thing, it's when you're in the wrong you get harmed by the thoughts of others. Bipolar is not Schizophrenia and it's not psychic powers, it's just the difference between reading yourself and reading those toward you misreading them as negative or positive toward you. Always think well of self not one is famous or recognizably famous as those who are. Private people are private people and will always be treated as such, special, apart of, one of. Dont underestimate the power of forgiveness. We all have our moments in life, some forgivable some not, but we are always understandable when in hardship when not when okay when not okay that's always clear. Bipolar is not contagious, it's just understanding what's real what's not real is the problem. When you are focused on yourself not stalking others, focused on your likes not your dislikes you too will feel favorable to your best interests not the interests of others, behave in a people pleasing way, but follow best your instincts not be reliant upon others co-dependent. An independent mindset is always best. You can't always predict the future of what others will think of you after sharing secrets about yourself. Allow others to pass judgment on you. Allow forgiveness to happen on its own, you must first forgive yourself for your mistakes in life before others can forgive you. There is no room for error past 30 that's for sure. You're either perfect or not, and if you mess up in life it's on you, no one can fix you but you in life. Don't worry what others think, always be right minded to do well in life, and get help when needed. Chapter 54: Finding Yourself by Leslie A. Fischman
01-20-18 Whenever we experience a loss in life whether by failure or shortcoming, we realize what's important to us. These are not embarrassments but simply how to adjust to the times. Not worry about losses incoming, you should always focus on what you do have, not fear consequences non-existent based upon previous or past concerns. Always be present. Never underestimate the power of forgiveness. To whom we associate to any why. Usually the well stick together, and the not well gets rejected for whatever reasons sound. Always behave well and have good people skills, not be an angry or disgruntled person in order to do well achieve well in life, not have paranoia or embarrassment. That's just you being hard on yourself. Always be thankful for what you have in life. What goes up must come down. Always be ready for whatever gets thrown your way in life. Even if you're not happy in life, sometimes you still need to move forward. That's called making a compromise. Letting go of what you fear and in its place sound judgment and rationale for proper decision making skills to occur. Never let negativity get the best of you. You won't always like what people have to say about you but that doesn't mean quit and give up in life, it simply just means that maybe you need to regroup and figure out what's important to you in life. Always care for others. Live each day as though it were your last. Always be thankful for others. Who help you in life be you. Not everything is for everyone. You will always be you no matter who steps into your life. Let that be known. Who cares what people think about you. Always love yourself. Not everything is about you in life. Then and until then will you realize you're own self-worth. Part of staying level headed is about feeling good for yourself and others, do well always. When your life flashes before your eyes, you know you've gone too far backwards in life to comprehend the present. Always stay focused on what's important and what matters, because as soon as you complain or play victim any other side will deny any wrongdoing toward you or others. No wars private should ever be made public for exposure or for political duress. Never be too abrasive always be understanding of others. Your stresses in life should not stress those around you out. Always be kind first to yourself and others secondly, how to keep and maintain friendships. Always follow suit. When you see what matters and you know what matters, you know who to blame for your present circumstances. You then either (1) play victim (2) depart or (3) fight. Fighting is never the answer to your problems best to always walk away (1) and (2) are easy to recognize but once you (3) fight, it's hard to see, through your lense, and then you get blamed for your own hardships. Why if you're a V1 never fight, always ask for help, play by the rules. Don't take matters into your own hands ever, always be professional, representing you yourself and those around you best as you can. When you're delusional wear it with a crown and be proud of yourself anyways. We all have our shortcomings in life, it's hard to stay normal, and keep a level head on your shoulders, stay separate from others. Know that success first comes from within. No one wants to get blamed. It's hard enough starting over in life, let alone thinking that anything is about you when it's not about you. Always stay calm, never be in on anything, everything sound always protects others from harm its the unsound that hurts, never do drugs or drink alcohol it causes delusion and mental illness. Always know your best, and let the rest go. Your esteem makes you who you are, always be humble. Never lose your sense of self-worth and value. What you see is what you get. What others see in you is based upon what you put out there gets communicated back to you. Always be kind to yourself. Lift others in order to feel lifted, how to socialize, by being well minded, putting others before yourself. |
AuthorLeslie A. Fischman Please Note: I have finished writing the first draft of my first book, still editing Ch 13-25, my goal is to publish my book 2020 after I graduate, working on myself right now.
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