Chapter 73: Loving Yourself by Leslie A. Fischman
02-18-18 You may not be the best at everything but that doesn't mean don't try. You have to keep going in life. Never stop until you're done and always give your all to everything you do. It's hard to give it your all when you're not feeling well. Always be patient with yourself. It takes time to heal. Change doesn't happen overnight. You can't go backwards fixing things. You'll just drive yourself nuts. Once you make a mistake in life your best option is always to move forward and begin a new or better yourself, from where you're at. Always appreciate the present. You cannot fix yourself if you're stuck in the past getting upset over something that already happened. Do your best instead to engage in activities that help promote your future and overall health and well being. You cannot let the problems of others get you down in life. You have to keep your head up. In order to help others you have to maintain a positive attitude in life. Everybody wants to make a difference in life but it's no easy task. Never help others to make yourself look better or for the wrong reasons -you should only help others if your hearts in it and it's something that matters to you. It's easy to be affected by things especially when you do things against your free will it should always be by choice to decide to help others and for what causes. Always be gentle on yourself never too hard on yourself while helping others that's how you get sick fall off center in life. Never worry too much what other people think. It just so happens that usually people are so bottled up in their own lives they rarely notice. Everyone needs to focus on themselves in order to do well in life function, it's hard to function while focused on others. Therefore it's highly unlikely that you're that important to anyone that you're focused on in as much of an obsessive compulsive way as you focus on yourself. Learn to let go, always be in control of your emotions you cannot let the thoughts of others stifle you. If you don't talk about a subject it goes away if you focus on something else in your mind. What's in your mind and what you say if it's a match it will bother you. So only discuss what will not bother you only match up what your comfortable talking about on all sides of you. #mymollydollblog otherwise you turn on yourself if you run through the cones end up on the other side of an issue you brought up. If you want change to occur in your life, you yourself must be willing to change. You can't expect others to change for you to accommodate your needs. A certain willingness to adapt is required of you in order to achieve no matter what the circumstances are. You have to maintain a level head about yourself if you are to achieve happiness in your life. -You weren't meant to do everything only what you yourself are capable of. You know you best, set goals that are within reach. Be careful not to set the bar so high that you lose the necessary esteem required to accomplish your goals in life. You take your health for granted sometimes ... Don't wait until you're not well to get healthy then it takes twice as long and more energy than it would had you gotten started earlier. It's like losing weight it takes time but it's doable. Your mental health works in that fashion too the mind can heal itself if you follow Doctors orders and directions you can recover. It all takes time, nothing happens overnight. In order to achieve happiness one must know what makes them happy. Getting to know your needs and wants in life is just as important as it is to please others, don't get caught up on either side of the coin always maintain a healthy balance between people pleasing and finding your own happiness in life. If you're one of those who doesn't feel well when others around them are not feeling well then it's especially important that you focus on yourself get well in order to be there for others. If you're the type of person who gets sick easily when others are sick then it's especially important that you stay grounded in principles to function well among and not get pulled into sickness. There are some things we are able to withstand in life and there are some things we are not able to withstand in life. If you fear the judgments of others too much that means you're insecure and when you're insecure you have a higher likelihood of making bad decisions and second guessing yourself -have weak intuition. Why they say to get strong to help others because in order to be a good decision maker one must be secure with themselves. Usually by the time you realize you've messed up in life it's too late to talk about it and you have to just keep moving forward. Sometimes some of life's most difficult challenges hurt our ability to respond well under pressure and maintain a level head on our shoulders. It's common to backtrack when you're not doing well, but don't get depressed over it beat yourself up too much. So long as you are always doing your best nothing can break you. -Sometimes we don't see things until we ourselves go thru it. It's hard to believe in oneself after experiencing a failure in life. -It takes a strong sense of faith in oneself as well as those around you to achieve well in life. It's easy to get knocked off center these days and lose focus. It's more than just competitiveness that hurts our emotions and coping abilities ... but it's our sense of selves under the pressure of the public eye that makes it difficult to function freely and move about with ease. That's why they tell you less is more and not to share too much personal information about yourself. Work on yourself when times get tough. You'll be glad you did. There's no use sitting around wondering where you could be in life just go out there and get what you need to get done to get to where you want to be in life. Everything is a matter of hard work and discipline, nothing comes easy in life. You could think you have it all and one bad decision later could lose everything. You have to stay focused know what's important to you what's not. Get your priorities straight if you want to be successful in life. Always be thankful for what you have in life. Know that something better will always come along, so long as you do your best. Always be fearless in the pursuit of happiness. No one can keep you down but yourself. If you can't stomach it you're probably out of your league. Only handle what you're capable of handling. Don't venture outside the scope of your expertise. Only you know what you're capable of handling. No one deals with pressure well. Few of us perform well under pressure. This takes time and experience to perform well under pressure -requiring a certain comfort with self and comfort with self within the given arena pressure is felt. Only you know what is best for you, no one can make choices for you. Never put yourself in an uncomfortable situation in which you feel an overwhelming pressure you yourself cannot withstand. If so that either means (1) you have not set proper boundaries for yourself or (2) boundaries set have been crossed. Know your limits in life. What cannot be said often times is what is bothering us about self or others. Usually when boundaries are crossed do we feel an unnerving pressure to conform. Don't let that pressure to conform ruin your sense of self or make you forgo your usual boundaries you set with others. Sometimes when a boundary is crossed there is no going back, and sometimes when a boundary is crossed that's a way forward letting us know when to let go. Stress and anxiety can keep you from doing a lot of things in life. It can even interfere with your ability to live life altogether. Living on meds isn't easy, it takes a lot of adjustment to live life on meds. Some days can be depressing adjusting, feeling like things will never get better, but they do. No matter what never lose faith in yourself. Everything takes time. Change doesn't come to those who don't try. In order to get better sometimes you need to think better -this all takes time. It's easy to be stubborn, and try to avoid our problems, often times we are in denial that we have any problems, including stress and anxiety. You just have to keep going in life, you cannot let your emotions and fears get the best of you. It takes a certain willingness to admit when you are experiencing emotions or feelings you are having difficulty coping with and then go out there and ask for help. There comes a point of no return. And on social media you learn this sooner or later. Your reputation is everything. Believe it or not a lot goes unnoticed but a lot does not. Be careful not to worry others, as the rumor mill runs quick on social media Re: people checking on your well being. -Do everything with tact and always be mindful of your audience and onlookers. It should not matter who is reading and if so whoever is reading should not be made to feel uncomfortable. That is key. Your writing online should never cause discomfort for no reason it should always be settling and if not you must have mental health issues that need sorting out in private, that's always understandable.
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Chapter 72: Love and Relationships by Leslie A. Fischman
02-15-18 You know you best. Always follow your heart. If it doesn't feel right walk away. Something better always comes along. You never know who you'll meet in life if you don't put yourself out there. You can't go backwards in life when it comes to relationships you just have to keep moving forward. Sometimes you don't know what's best and you end up short handed in life and alone -that's part of growing up, finding your matches in life. You'll never know who you belong with if you don't do your best give it your all. That's how to find your match in life, when you are at your best the right person will come along. Always match with someone who loves you for who you are and loves you unconditionally no matter what, that's how you know who to be with -someone who accepts you as you are, isn't trying to change you, but loves you as is. That's how you know who the one is. You must also have similar interests in common, by having things in common you have things to talk about. Find someone who matches you intellectually, spiritually, and mentally. That's how you know who's the one. When you're feeling troubled take a step back. Be careful not to repeat old patterns of thinking that keep you from reaching your goals in life. It's easy to self-sabotage when we are not feeling well and paranoid that's normal. You have to keep your head up not be defined by your weaknesses but by your strengths -that's how you get strong. When you feel lost -always go to someone in a position of trust for help don't, actually never trust strangers with your problems it could turn around to bite you later on. In order to move forward, with problems, you have to discuss those problems out loud, they won't go away on their own. Don't run the risk of not discussing problems as they may fester again in the future of you bottle up. No one can tell you the right answer when it comes to relationships ... It's all about: (1) Respect (2) Admiration (3) Representation (4) Care (5) Health (6) Conditions (7) Love; and (8) Dedication. If you don't know what love means to you then you are not ready for love or to be in love if love embarrasses you or you worry about being embarrassed about being in love. You should always choose someone who (9) compliments you. That means you need to know who you are, what you're about, what your needs are in order to begin any new relationship or fall in love. Don't wait on the timing of others to decide what is best for you, or go by the standards of others when choosing a mate, you should choose who you think best suits you and who best to love and represents your best interests, that's love. You won't always meet the expectations of your mate and that's okay. Only do what you feel comfortable with. You are never required to do anything you're not comfortable with. Always be the backbone to any relationship, always provide a steady voice of reason that's how to stay together. When you love someone nothing should keep you apart. You learn to accept your spaces from one another together and apart, still able to function as a unit. That's called love, that no matter what comes between you your relationship stays the same. And is not easily affected by outside factors or forces. There should be no perceived interferences or threats when there is love, nothing should matter more than the person to whom you share love for, an undivided compassion for one another, that's called love. You can have a better life for yourself, when you're ready. You can't just give up when it comes to love there's some give and take. There will be expectations but you just have to stay steady not get too wrapped up in emotions. You never know your self-worth until you lose your self-esteem that's when you know you've messed up in life and cannot go backwards. Always keep a good head on your shoulders and always react in a non-selfish way that's the mark of maturity that when bothered we don't react and only react to positive cues not respond to negativity and feed into it or give negative attention away, draining ourselves of positive energy. Do as your told, do unto others as you expect done to you, and don't do anything you'll regret later on in life, that is what keeps you either moving forward or backward in life. Chapter 71: Addiction and Recovery by Leslie A. Fischman
02-15-18 When it comes to addiction and recovery there will be a lot of disappointments in life. You just have to keep going. Maintaining sobriety is so important for success. If you are going to be too nit picky toward yourself you'll never make it. Don't be so hard on yourself, just keep moving forward. You can't make someone talk to you who doesn't want to talk to you. Once you get the silent treatment that relationship is pretty much over, meaning move on, and find someone else to talk to. Never play games with the heart of another. You never know what anyone is going through in life to judge them. Always be kind to others, be understanding of the difficulties they face, but don't make them your problem. Always keep a certain emotional distance from others, to maintain stability. You can't go backwards in life. Fighting with people that only creates more problems for you moving forward. It's always best to let go, once you let go you can form new relationships and new bonds. When you start to feel better new people will come into your life, but you first need to change in order to appreciate life's blessings. You have to move forward. That's how to find peace. Don't give your power away to others when you're down and out not feeling well that's a recipe for disaster and self-harming behaviors such as drinking and drug use. You have to let go when a relationship ends. Where one ends another will blossom have faith. So long as you keep busy you should never be so desperate as to wait and get hurt when they return. -Best to just move forward then. Negativity is a tough subject. There will be interferences. There will be blame. But be careful never to justify the bad acts of others or play accustom to their bad behavior, that's just feeding into it. You cannot stop the future from happening but you can do your best to always have positive foresight, when you cast doubts and fears that generates negative reactions within yourself and to those in your immediate surroundings if you're bothered don't bother others with your troubles in life that causes harm. Fears are nothing but delusions, about what is, normal vs reality. Some realities are unacceptable but not all realities are a consequence of stimuli generated by negativity but a byproduct of an existing mess that is disorganization. Always do your best to stay organized no matter what state of mind, is no excuse. Don't allow your fears to come to fruition always think positive forward -don't give in to hate toward self or others, that manifests blame & nothing gets done, that's when failure occurs. There's no solution or cure for stupidity. That's always on you. For the long term, consequences for which are your duty to deal with on your best timing not the timing of others, as your luck has run its course when you know you've got bad luck in life when you're timing is off, and you feel behind in life, that's normal. You just have to recover from your mistakes, follow directions and move forward peaceably -that is the solution. There's no underground movement when it comes to normal that's up to each individual to achieve for themselves by themselves sometimes a normal cannot be taught must be seen for oneself. When you feel larger than life, take a step back, and think twice. Are you sure you are thinking right, or is it a product of your ego or worry. You cannot succumb to your weaknesses and expect to make a good decision when down, you have to be up in life to make good decisions for self and others. That's how life works, stay well. Recovery is a process of downs, once you get going in life don't stop at normal, stop at stable. Always do your best to live comfortably as one of all, included. You can't go backwards and correct mistakes made you can only move forwards, when you feel that way like you can't move forwards stuck, means there's some error on your part you've overlooked. So long as what you are doing now reflects well upon you the past should not matter as to your present. Sometimes you need to let go. #mymollydollblog Focus on new ideas. Always be sensitive to the needs of others, you never know what anyone is going through in life, some of us struggle more than others to make ends meet. You just have to have compassion for those who do their best, try their best, and do only what they're capable of achieving in life. You cannot live in regret, life is short if you so choose it to be, looking back too much, can cause harm to your outlook, why they tell you to focus on right now bettering yourself each day. There's always room for self-improvement. Once you go negative the happiness of others threatens you seems unachievable unattainable. As a result you feel down, or wonder why am I where I am in life and how do I too achieve happiness for myself. Those who are fulfilled in life, have happiness. Those who are not fulfilled in life have unhappiness. There are also differences between those who are surrounded by people versus those who are alone in the World. Those who are alone are more likely to be resentful of those who have it all, thinking that it's because they have more they have less when really it's a matter of what you put out into the World you get back. Chapter 70: Achieving Your Goals by Leslie Fischman
02-14-18 What You Know in Life by Leslie A. Fischman 02-10-18 When you know what you want in life, nothing can stop you from achieving your dreams. You only have to accept your past, and move forward, not lamenting incidences or worrying what others think or might say about you, is always outside of your control and not your responsibility to ever control the thoughts of others about you or about others. That’s called fighting when an opinion based on selfish needs is made, to promote an idea or a set of ideas that serves one, is called being selfish. Always be selfless when writing online, considering the emotions of the audience as well as how you may be looked at affected by your train of thoughts. It is very important to always be clear, in order to come across as neat and organized. When you are off center and not all together perfect, you run the risk of being attacked by aggressive people, that is juts how people are, trying to change you or trying to fix you, or trying to get what they want, or trying to manipulate your story or your character, or sense of being. That is called wrong behavior for or toward persons of interest. It is wrong to use people as pawns, for unnecessary causes but ego. That is an unnecessary use of force upon another to break a heart, and is undeserving. The only way to move forward is not to break, not to bind, but to let go. Its Never Too Late by Leslie A. Fischman 02-10-18 Hearts break, and its never too late to fix oneself, and move forward in life. We may cry, we may mourn, we may feel physically and psychologically ill, but its important to keep going in life, always important. The minute you give in to sad emotions, is the minute you break, recognize whats hurting you, but don’t let is make or break you in life. People will façade themselves toward you, to gather attention, they may even try to persuade you to think things you are not or behave in a way counterproductive to your well being and the well being of others. That’s just manipulation, and there is nothing you can do about it. Often times we feel powerless to the thoughts and emotions of others, and this causes concern. Always keep moving forward, report as you go, and always do your best to keep your private and professional life separate from socialization, that is how you stay centered. People will cause blame where no blame exists to try to figure out causes and circumstances for illness always meeting you with disappointment a disgrace. Every way a person treats you is a manifestation of their own weaknesses in life. If they are not doing well, it may be difficult for them to treat you well. If you are not doing well in life, you may be treated as less than, less than capable of deserving a good life for yourself. These are all commonalities of socialization, competition. Don’t Laugh Until It Hurts by Leslie A. Fischman 02-13-18 Don’t laugh until it hurts. There are some people who are still suffering from losses, who have not yet made their amends, and still in pain over who’s side to take. In life you are never obligated to fight, takes sides, or even participate in battles that are not your own. That only wreaks havoc on you psyche, mental health and well-being, and enters you into the blame game, which is a neverending story. Basically you have to be selfish when it comes to accepting any losses in life, that is time to only think about yourself, self-care is a number one priority, and so is caring for those around you. When you are ill, it is your responsibility not to make those around you ill too. It is your responsibility to make strong yourself, and to promote the general health and well-being of those around you. You cannot expect others to be there for you when you are down, why its important to be selfish when not well. You cannot care for others, when you are sick, as you run the risk of becoming overly (overtly ie needy) dependent on others, for serenity and peace. You have to find your own sense of peace in life, if you are to be surrounded by others in peace. You cannot expect others to provide for you something you cannot create for yourself. That is impossible to demand a life that you yourself cannot envision, and expect the same from others to provide for you a better life, you have to go out and do so yourself, make it happen, it will not happen for you lamenting and blaming. Chapter 69: Fairy Tales and Expectations by Leslie A. Fischman
02-14-18 You should need no input from others to write your own fairy tell ending to your life. When you are good good comes into your life. Life cannot be rehearsed or scripted that's not how life works it happens on its own good timing. Why it's important to always be good to have good timing in life in order for life's blessings to come your way, that is called good luck. When you expect something to occur it won't happen for you its when you least expect it life happens. You cannot predict the future and that emptiness in front of you is always lack of trust. Fill your voids daily. Too many competing agencies causes delusion mental illness. Know your pack. Stay close knit. It's about ingrouping. You cannot blame others for your problems, they're your own, everyone is responsible for themselves in life. Don't expect things to be taken lightly. When you offend others the only person you hurt is yourself. Don't take things personally to the point you fight back put yourself at risk of harm. It's not worth the trouble of fighting ever that's never the answer to your problems in life. Fighting usually only makes things worse not better. Always keep a level head on your shoulders about you, don't make everything personally no vendettas are complimenting usually look dramatic and unappealing to fight for and on behalf of ones self looks immature to look mature don't be defensive to the opinions of others. I think things will go back to normal but not when people are trying to control others things generally don't work out well under duress. You should never take offense to the behavior of others as directed toward you, that's called selfish thinking when you think everything is about you. You should instead think outside of yourself and those around you see the bigger picture when all else fails until you feel warm again and everything makes sense to you, some drink, some don't, some smoke pot, some don't, whatever it is that brings you back to reality make sure it's a healthy habit that fosters growth. Usually your worries and your fears are a product of what you process, what you know, culminate your fears. To rid yourself of fear be grateful for what you do have in life think not of what you have not. Not one good enough for the other. Not one better than the other. Elitism. Is painfully harsh to social well being and welfare these things do not matter in the grand scheme of things what matters most are you achievements + education pitfalls do not make or break you or turn you into an example of anything good or bad you are a product of your own sufferings in life by your own mistakes in life not by others. Love is not the solution to worry or problems those will always painfully exist, mistakes in life, in private, and mistakes made in public those are events you cannot live down in life or move on from, usually caused by low self-esteem do the decisions we make fall off hand in life leaving us feeling short handed, it's by our own defaults in life we end up where we are not a product of placements made by others but by our own choices we end up where we are in life trusted or not. Painfully disabled. Always be kind to those with disabilities. Fear them not. It's your own fears of the unknown when you see them and their future that causes you to discriminate those with disabilities as not worth your care, time, and attention. Be courteous to all who walk the walk talk the talk. You never know they could be really blinde not trying hard or acting, but just accept them the way they are, some of us are not actors and it's painful to cause people to act, that's unwanted fame, attention. You can't convince someone that you are something you are not. Usually they can tell by how you present yourself how well and fit you are to handle the stressors of life and the workplace. Some of us better suited than others to withstand a few blows here and there while some of us are more sensitive, taking things personally, getting hurt over the tiniest arguments, about nothing to do with either you or them but a mood one or the other is responsible for managing themselves. Looking back it's always clear seeing forward from that stand point. The main point of this discussion is to appreciate now not go thru the past too much, especially not to look for errors in others who've now bettered themselves moved forward in life. You can always be forgiven but your actions/words will never be forgotten. Be frugal with you energy spent each day, don't maximize your potential for failure by giving in to past deductions too much, be instead in favor of new deductions to be made to promote the overall general health and well being of those around you. If it's acceptance you seek than by trying for it you'll never receive it. It's weird how life works out that way that usually you get not what you're looking for in life but something else instead that either helps or hurts your ability to achieve in life. These are called decisions you make toward your future. Figuring out what helps you and what hurts you. Always know where you're at in life. -You cannot be figured out by others only you can voice your problems out loud so that others may best assist you. You sometimes need to be your own helper your own best friend. You cannot predict the future. Future consequences or outcomes. What you do have control over is right now. What you do today to better your life tomorrow. Don't worry about the could've should've would'ves in life and do the best that you can. -You cannot control what people think of you, that's outside of your control. You can control what is said about you by what you say about yourself, helps. Don't assume that everyone knows who you are. What is known among social circles are not widely held beliefs about people, places, or things. You have to just keep moving forward in life not worry about the past coming to fruition, but by being present thinking forward you have the power to change future outcomes for the better. Looking forward see yourself as you can be not as you are or have been past to better yourself. Only you can see from within, listen to yourself often and always follow your instincts. Once you fall for someone it's like non of their flaws exist. That's called accepting someone for who they are, unique, just as they are. You cannot expect someone to love you if you do not love yourself. You cannot expect to have in life what you cannot build for yourself. Everything take time, care, and attention to detail. Always takes your time in life to figure out your cares and what's important to you. Your priorities in life make or break you. Choose wisely how you spend your time, as life is short or long depending on how present you are. Sometimes you can't change your life and feel stuck. That's normal. With change comes fear, fear of the unknown. You won't know unless you try. Always do your best to see for yourselves and sometimes know when to stop and listen to others without having to go through painful learning processes alone. Always be a good listener, that's how you get and stay ahead in life, not by whining, complaining, or ruminating about mistakes past own it you lived it its your life, what more could you ask for. You are always in charge of you. Be the best version of yourself. Take yourself seriously always. Even if no one else does. You won't know your self-worth unless you try your best to be you. It's a worthless waste of time and energy fighting the opinions of others. Always be you. Don't worry what other people think that just causes insecurity and loss of self-esteem. When you worry too much things tend not to fair well for you why it's important not to worry. When it comes to addiction and recovery there will be a lot of disappointments in life. You just have to keep going. Maintaining sobriety is so important for success. If you are going to be too nit picky toward yourself you'll never make it. Don't be so hard on yourself, just keep moving forward. If you can't see beyond yourself it will be difficult to get far in life. Usually those who are compassionate and help others get the furthest in life. Don't worry about social status's as that comes later in life. Being yourself is most important, not attracting others to you is less of importance. What you project you get back on social media. Always be sure to put your best foot forward at all times. Chapter 68: Don’t Wait by Leslie A. Fischman
02-13-18 Dont wait around for life to happen to you. You have to go out there and make it work for you if that's what you want in life go out and get it. Nothing comes easy in life. It all takes hard work. Having it all requires that you pace yourself. You can't burn out trying to make ends meet. Never force yourself to try when you're not ready. Always know when to stop. Love takes time and patience. We're not always ready for it. Relationships come and they go but you always have to stay focused on yourself in order for any relationship to work out. You can't be the best at everything. Sometimes you have to settle for just good enough -and be happy with yourself no matter what. What happens happens. You don't have to live with your mistakes forever. Chapter 67: Timing by Leslie A. Fischman
02-11-18 You can't be scared of the past. In order to move forward you have to be present. Know when. When you're timing is off beat you're off beat -that occurs when you feel behind in life. Know your presence present matters well enough to let go of the past. How you get worked up over nothing. -and by the time you realize it it's too late or your timing is off you feel ill, burning. Don't traumatize yourself into believing things that don't exist. You can only voice yourself so often before it becomes unclear unnecessary a waste of time purpose not solid perfect anymore. Once you become defensive to the thoughts of others you become ill. People with problems will think what they want to think absent of what they are told that's called delusional fears you cause oneself by engaging in risky behaviors. -There's a such thing as fame. Some are fame retardant some are fame attractors it all depends on your leadership skills whether you feel good to others light up a room or you light up in a room -shows what kind of person you are liking to watch or be watched. Affects how you light up to others. Always let the room light you up if you don't light up in a room means there's something wrong with you that needs to be fixed your surroundings should always feel greater than yourself more important than you, others. That's self-awareness of others, good behavior. Some people specialize in being funny they're called comedians. Once you go funny serious scares funny. That's why you have to be careful how funny smart you are. To others your audience always read their needs not your own in order to be well liked. You get good attention by being good and you get bad attention by being bad. You won't know where you're headed in life until you get there. Always be patient with yourself if you're not where you want to be in life -you should always appreciate now and who's around you -focused on what you have not what you have not. Timing is everything in a World of fear your best timing keeps you out of trouble not off balance in life. You cannot go backwards in life, that's where blame and abuse lies. You just have to keep moving forward in life, step away from your problems, forgive, and move on. The more you stir the pot the more it burns and pains others to see you, then no one wants anything to do with you when you're off putting. That's why you have to be good to have good things happen for you in life. How to stay well. Chapter 66: Much Bigger Picture by Leslie A. Fischman
02-10-18 There's always a much bigger picture to resolve when it comes to mental illnesses always have compassion for others you never know what anyone's going through in life without asking from the outside in having not known anyone in person to know who's well not well perfect imperfect. No one knows anyone this well these days always be grateful for predictable. There's much to be learned from someone honest predictable, harmless. #StopBullying Sometimes you need to take a break and detach separate yourself and regroup think about what's important to you in life when scared or have fear of losses in life when your options are limited or your life is in danger these feelings and emotions are triggered so are mental illnesses beware I too have suffered a share of my own illnesses it takes time to say hear see right always report to those with good sight to protect the best interests of all manage crises. It's to each ones responsibility to care for themselves - here is where I care for myself. #mymollydoll Lesson learned don't upset be upset for the fallen but appreciate them how far they got in life. 🌸 Fighting is not the solution blame. Mostly: Don't worry for them. You can't expect others to understand you as you see best fit. Sometimes we are judged in the wrong and that's no ones fault but your own. You cannot undo the past you can only move forwards in life not backwards, tracing. Wondering how life occurs dating is on your own best timing not the timing of others always when you're ready to be hit on call attention to yourself. How the game works, when it comes to attention. It's easy to choose yourself. Better to have lived life than not at all. It is never for others to judge your disposition in life treat you like you're a machine when you're not. It takes time to forgive and move on. Be treated as human. You can't force anything to happen that won't happen on its own. When it comes to physics one must be positive in order to attract others, when we are negative, worried, or sad we are most likely going to be rejected. Insert yellow quote here * You live and you learn how best to protect yourself and others from harm always be a good decision maker and stay out of trouble. To have a good life one must be good. That doesn't mean you have to help people to be good only that you yourself are good to others from which all other goods come. You can't go backwards in life to fix your problems you have to move forward. There's nothing you can do to change the past you just have to keep moving forward in life. What you say comes true for you only if you allow your storyline to be repeated in elements forward in your life that's knowing about someone and triggering consequences for them for sight. Disappointment hurts and expectations hurt + needing to be heard to see me well where I'm at in life hurts me to not be trusted. Life stories are for those who've lived life not those in cubicles with few memories out to share why seldom spoken, quiet. Usually those with the most experiences are most comfortable with themselves and around others. When there is fear there's a clear lack of trust over old beef. That cannot be undone. You just have to move forward in life not open a can of worms. That cannot be closed, be wary of the buttons you push and some cannot go backwards in life once broken, taken over the hill. Figure yourself out before others that way your more likely to read a situation from a grounded perspective without running the risk of offending anyone off beat. Off beat and bad luck occurs when we are not patient don't listen to others the first thing we do is bump into something counterproductive or set ourselves up in a trap we can't get out of. That's what puts you in a rush in life when you have to catch up after being off beat feeling behind in time that's how you burn out trying to hard to be where you want to be in life. Always pace yourself. Be patient with others as they have their own struggles too get offended easily just as you, victims of crime. Chapter 65: Create a Life for Yourself by Leslie A. Fischman
02-10-18 When you panic nothing turns out right. When you're quiet you look like a pushover or consumed by guilt. If you cannot speak sharp you are considered dull or ill. Always do your best not to pass judgment upon others for their past lives. You should not over analyze the past but accept people for who they are now presently, over analysis of the past causes recurrence of hardship and recidivism. Be mindful of the past not to stir emotions presently over jobs well done, past. They cannot be recreated presently the past wrongs of others to make anything right right now. You have to move forward in life be thankful for who is in your life not who is not and why not. It's all a matter of good faith principles -what memories we honor recall put forward and apply to the present is everything certain, just, correct, sensical when ever a decision is made it gets applied presently to ascertain fact from fiction. We have books for this you know complete records of thoughts in time and space why books are so cool. For time travel. Chapter 64: Imitation and Anxiety by Leslie A. Fischman
02-03-18 Never overexpose yourself to others. Your private life is your personal business not the business of others or a need to know basis it only causes nervousness. That's your right to privacy. Who you date is your right to privacy. Heightened anxieties due to losses are from your own mistakes in life not from the rejections of others but from you not being a good enough match for them you will always find better in life. So long as you always do as your told, work hard, play by the rules, good fortune and good luck comes to those who wait, date monogamously. Imitation is a form of flattery. Never seek to be seen and heard that's how you get sick trying to be known in life by calling attention to yourself how you run the risk of getting unwanted attention. In order to be loved you must first love yourself. Popularity online comes at a price you psychologically feel unsafe, politically normalcies drain out unwanted cues but if online regrouping into society some unwanted cues within you can be easily triggered by environmental stimuli sensitive to your surroundings not blend in as well. It's important to always blend in you will never stick out or stand in life if you try to its by selection you stand out not by the choice of the individual but by the audiences selection who's of interest. I created mymollydoll.com then ran a campaign from my website that may have been a mistake for that I'm sorry for the confusion I was just trying to help. If not good enough then please don't criticize me personally thank you. Always be frugal about how much information you share about yourself and about your interactions with others as this depersonalizes social interactions. If you have intimacy problems it's likely for you to over share and ruin your private relationships and run the risk of making others uncomfortable around you. It's not mental illness it just makes you a poor decision maker when it comes to sharing and building intimate trusted bonds in life it's not a big deal you live and you learn how to cope with relationships and the unknown not question others or be questioned but accept all as is without worry or fear. Always be yourself. You cannot go backwards in life, it's too time consuming and you run the risk of hurting yourself in the long run when you do so or blame others for your problems. Always be in control you are always responsible for your current hardships, successes, and/or failures in life, there's always time to regroup be the best version of yourself and better yourself each day you have to just be, be kind always, and always work hard. You have to feel good to want to do well in life for yourself, find your life forces in life, what makes you feel well, not be a burden to others but independent, a survivor. |
AuthorLeslie A. Fischman Please Note: I have finished writing the first draft of my first book, still editing Ch 13-25, my goal is to publish my book 2020 after I graduate, working on myself right now.
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