Chapter Two by Leslie A. Fischman (Book Draft)

Chapter Two by Leslie A. Fischman 09/26/17
 
Don't give your power away to anyone discourse over anyone is time wasted better spent on other things positive. That's their point to take power away from you thru discussion on their interests which is to discuss them to take away from your best interests and right to be heard, then they take away your voice, project their from your own, use you, misuse, take, and reject you, devalue you, and say is deserved, as though, you write as punishment for any time served or deserved not as philanthropic efforts or for goodwill is ridiculous on its face. I don't have to write online, I write because I clearly care, and always with a good heart.
 
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Life isn't always easy and troubles usually occur when we least expect it, most likely because we are too busy focused on something else, that's typically when something goes wrong in another area of our lives. Much of life requires us to be strong multi-taskers, managing multiple roles at once: caretakers, employees, significant others, these are roles we can all relate to, roles everyone takes on in life to feel whole, needed, and important to others, fulfilled.
 
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We can either be led by our past or be led by our future. It's your choice which direction you do choose to take in life. Some of us move forward better than others depending upon how much weight we give to moments past or present that in turn affect our decision making for better or worse, moving forward. >
 
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Love. It's not the end of the world when things don't work out. We all meet for a reason, we are either strengthened or weakened by interaction with one another, everything apart of the growing process, how we learn, and hopefully find better stronger matches in the future.
 
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You can have everything and you can have nothing. It all depends on what you value in life. What you put first in your order of priorities. You choose to make happen what comes to fruition in your life based on what you choose to focus on. Generally that is the order of things in life, what comes first, appears so, because we made a conscious effort to make things the way they are in our lives because of what we deem most important to us individually. Everyone has their own timing in life, one must be patient with themselves first before understanding the timing of others. There's no such thing as instant, everyone busy, do not expect others to always be there for you. Sometimes you have to figure out life for yourself, you can only be told so many times, warned, and guided -sometimes you have to see things for yourself.
 
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Always be yourself. Set your standards high. And never expect anything in return. The best way forward is to forgive those who have harmed you, why? So that you are not hurt in the future, by the same set of circumstances. It's important to let go, when things are not working out: job or relationship wise.
 
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I've always been a good friend to my friends and sounding board when they needed me. Eventually I grew up started dating and experienced problems of my own. It happens. Growing up is a process. It's important to be strong and independent before entering into any relationship, it's never necessary to be co-dependent, when we rely on others too much for stability the only ones who get harmed are ourselves. It's therefore always important to be self-reliant during difficult times, and rely on Professionals for support when you're down. >
 
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Nothing's impossible and everything takes hardwork, to both achieve in life and overcome hardship. No one ever said that life was easy. Anything is possible, if enough believe. #bloggingcampaign
 
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You pick and choose your battles in life. Nothing worthwhile is earned resting on our laurels or by being a doormat. Sometimes you have to fight for what you believe in and deserve in life, energy then is best spent proving others wrong, on our own merits we build trust and earn the respect of others, fighting passively is for the weak, always be up front honest and true to yourself, react less to others prompts, be guided by your own principles of what's right and wrong, the use of violence or force is never the answer to our problems. Whenever one drifts from reality, the only way back to normal is by discipline. If we rise by lifting others, then one must first lift themselves in order to help lift others. One cannot lift themselves by focusing on the negatives or pointing out the weaknesses of others, that's a waste of time and energy better spent on focusing on the positives, maintaining ones integrity, not giving up on oneself, or enabling others to control their direction in life. Those who find themselves lead, those who lean on others for support depend upon the utmost professionalism demonstrated by those we trust in the helping professions. Not everyone is to be trusted and for good reason, only few of us become Professionals in life, and it is the responsibility of all to trust those who have achieved in life and been put in positions of power to take care of us all. Main Point: Even Professionals struggle, become ill, and misguided. Why I write.
 
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It was never my intent to write a book. I don't think anyone lives and plans to write a book about themselves at any point, it just happens. Usually one must be successful in order to write a book. I have not achieved the level of success I feel is necessary to write a book. But while I have time, I thought I might as well try.
 
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It just so happens that even the sweetest people are unlucky in love. Or so I've noticed. If you are one who attracts the kind who once feel better leave you, then that's okay. That's normal who we empower usually attract, once independence is lost they will look for better, someone who improves them not weakens them.
 
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The best lives are led by those who put others before themselves. Usually end up in the right places in life. Karma is a product of who you benefit weaken in life, for every failure or miss, your chances of being thrown off point in the future increase if you don't improve someone else will bring about circumstances in the future where you've failed in the past. Recognize your best, always do your best, and never interfere with the positive progress of others, always compete against oneself. Everyone should be better off having known you, whether or not they stay.
 
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You are a product of the choices you make in life, determine where you end up in life. For better or worse sometimes we realize as we go and correct problems, sometimes we fall thru the cracks, and end up behind in life. You have no one to blame but yourselves, the minute you start pointing fingers, you are in the wrong. You get nowhere in life fighting and blaming others for your misfortunes. The only one who has the power to change you is yourself.
 
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It's not necessary you be happy in order to accomplish your goals in life. Just stay focused. Happiness will come when you're good and ready. What's most important is that you are working doing something with your life that you'll thank yourself later for.
You go through so many changes in life. Sometimes life gets overwhelming. Just take it one step at a time. Every day is worth your best. You won't know your worth unless you try.
It's all a matter of self-control, knowing your limits. In order to exceed expectations you must be healthy. It's not required you be a workhorse overextending yourself, but just do your best. It's all about timing. You're best timing in life occurs when you are ready. Leading a disciplined life is what improves your good timing in life. When your life falls apart so does everything around you.
Don't overthink. Sometimes when you overthink things you wind up feeling lost. Much about life is being in action. It's important to think things through but not to the point where it worries you. You only have one life to live.
 
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No matter how long it takes, hope you get to where you are going in one piece. Never look back, and never stop dreaming. It doesn't matter how long it takes what matters most is how you spend your time. Don't procrastinate. Don't overextend yourself. Set limits. And always do your best. Live life to the fullest.
 
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You're never really ready for change when it occurs. Usually when we are not paying close attention change happens and we just have to adjust to the circumstances. Some people are in your life and some people are not but you can't make anyone be in your life if they don't want to be -you have to allow things to occur naturally. Nothing forced ever works out -let them come to you.
 
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It's not always about winning and losing in life. Some battles are best lived unsung. This is mostly to save face but sometimes in your best interests not to fight. Always rise above controversy these adversities in life will only make you stronger. In the long run you'll thank yourself later sparring yourself the unnecessary heartache.
 
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My mind is rather quiet these days. I don't have much to say, but I feel better now. Just continue to move forward -I'll have to remind myself. Such devastating losses in friends and relationships are nothing that anyone should find easy to overcome. Everything heals with time, should just be thankful -never stop counting my blessings in life. At the right time when Im ready everything should come together again, that I hope.
 
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Some things never change -most of all people. It's not that I'm any different now with or without him but we hope that it's for the better that we part. Unfortunately you can't get everything you want in life. Sometimes you click and sometimes you don't. Not my happily ever after I envisioned for myself -in love, in a psych ward. I guess it was all in my head afterall, just my imagination playing tricks on me, running wild.
 
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Never take anyone for granted. Life is precious, short, and never worth aggravating the ones you love while you recover from what ails you in life. Share less problems, the less you share, the more positive memories you can share. The most important relationship is your relationship with yourself and how well you take care of yourself. Until you take good care of yourself can you be a positive influence on others.
 
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When you love someone you would do anything to make them happy. That includes putting your needs aside in place of theirs -do what you think will please them. Sometimes this helps us with our best decision making and sometimes to our detriment -at our expense we please others. I guess that's how you find out who your best match is for you in life, whether their needs -pleasing their needs brings out your best or your worst. Everything in life requires balance including meeting the needs of the ones you love and in all relationships. Therefore always use your best judgment on top of everything never quit applying basic skills general sense of moral and principle to your decision making -that should ensure common sense is always at play not ruled by the feelings of others which aren't always correct nor lead you to the best decisions. Pleasing others is one step toward happiness and self fulfillment but always use your best judgment at the end of the day, be compassionate & empathetic without sacrificing your basic needs as well which is to feel whole complete independent with or without them needing you all the time.
 
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People will think what they want to think about you you cannot change that about others. You cannot control what people think no matter how hard you try. People will judge you based on what you say, how you look, and what you share about yourself & by what others share about you. That is how opinions of you are drawn. Opinions are just inferences drawn from the facts given to them. Often times people are misrepresented and judgments made from opinions geared by a series of assumptions (rumors) not the facts as they are given. People will always think in terms of what makes sense to them not always have your best interests in mind. Why it's best not to share too much personal information about yourselves and others, that's a basic skill necessary for protecting ones own sense of privacy.
 
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People talk $hit to empower themselves by putting others down. Don't engage with people who do so -in one ear out the other. Spread no rumors about people that only makes you look bad, obsessed with the lives of others other than your own. It's called illness an obsession for the problems of others to make you feel better about yourself, and if there are none created by you to reaffirm your negative expectations, judgments, thoughts, opinions, and assumptions about others. Learn how to just leave things alone, sometimes less is more, bullying is not the answer to social ills. The purposes of this campaign is to help others by writing a self help book. Its not a biography or book about others it's a book about myself my thoughts my psyche do not project your problems onto me for added discussion.
 
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People will always say things to cause you to think things, say things, repeat the harm its called a cycle. To break the cycle don't contribute to your causes for paranoia by similarly spreading rumor or defaming others it is what is making you look bad. To rehabilitate your good character sometimes you need to just be quiet, listen more, talk less. Everyone is going through a difficult time right now it's not just you. We all suffer we all experience pain & failure in life. You just have to keep moving forward. Rehashing the past is not going to help anyone including you it only makes everyone look bad. Represent yourself first before others, if you figure that much out you make it half way out of the insanity caused by rumors & people talking $hit.
 
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Sometimes you have to learn how to just let things go. Talking $hit only makes things worse, it makes you worse off and those you talk about worse off -it's never the way forward, only causing mental illness and paranoia. It is not required we be accepting of all people, it helps, but sometimes you have to learn how to just coexist especially online, with hashtags shoutouts etc are never meant to cause harm only tell a story with citation. If you do not wish to be included to not bother me or defriend me cause trouble or grounds for inference leading to paranoia. I don't care about the past, what's gone is gone that's #TaylorAdamsAM personal life and previous associations none of my business -don't try to then make it my business by defriending me. That's mean.
 
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If we could be anything in the world what would we be? Where would you be without your family, friends, and loved ones. Much about life requires us to weigh the positives too, not just the negatives. It's important to be grateful everyday, this helps you stay positive moving forward. What drives you in life? What do you live for? Having a purpose driven life means being goal oriented and living life for some higher purpose greater than yourself or for your own benefit. It takes a long time to find higher purpose. Most of the time we get stuck in daily drama and mishaps and forget to look at the big picture. The big picture helps us to put ourselves into perspective so that no problem is too big for us to deal with everything in manageable loads. There are so many reasons to live, surely not for the acceptance from others, then you'll never be happy -trust me I would know. I do best when I'm achieving in life, acceptance comes later, you just have to continue believing in yourself -you know yourself best don't let the opinions of others affect your self esteem or how you feel about yourself.
 
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If we could be anything in the world what would we be? Where would you be without your family, friends, and loved ones. Much about life requires us to weigh the positives too, not just the negatives. It's important to be grateful everyday, this helps you stay positive moving forward. What drives you in life? What do you live for? Having a purpose driven life means being goal oriented and living life for some higher purpose greater than yourself or for your own benefit. It takes a long time to find higher purpose. Most of the time we get stuck in daily drama and mishaps and forget to look at the big picture. The big picture helps us to put ourselves into perspective so that no problem is too big for us to deal with everything in manageable loads. There are so many reasons to live, surely not for the acceptance from others, then you'll never be happy -trust me I would know. I do best when I'm achieving in life, acceptance comes later, you just have to continue believing in yourself -you know yourself best don't let the opinions of others affect your self esteem or how you feel about yourself.
 
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We can't be perfect always. Sometimes our timing is off and everything goes wrong. It's not the end of the world. We can't read the mind of others, sometimes we can't even control what goes on within us. It's a loss of control of self and the direction of our thoughts that cause us mental illness and debilitation. Writing and reading is so important for the process of recovery from mental illness, learn how to gear our thoughts toward the positive and how to control the intake of negative voices in our minds. The more we listen the more we grow. The less we react to stimuli the better off we will be. Don't be anyone's experiment in life -always be in control.
 
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Don't let others interfere with your ability to succeed in life. There will always be haters, i.e. people not on your team in life and that's okay. Don't engage in argument that just makes people pick sides, don't allow others to force you to fight back, that only creates teams. Best you can do is always be diplomatic. Never lose composure, don't allow others to defeat your peaceful progress or affect your goals of peace in life. Don't let others make you suicidal when disabled unable to achieve your goals in life. At the end of the day those who harm you are the ones who suffer, always rise above, and continue to wish everyone well. Your success in life should never negatively impact others, it's all in their head. Don't fall victim to hatred toward you or bullying.
 
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Always wish others well no matter how upset you get, less is more, better to bite your tongue than express grievances out loud. People will continue to harm you only if you allow them to. Your happiness threatens unhappy people because they do not feel you deserve happiness, always prove them wrong under those circumstances. Life is all about letting the best person win, those who are most composed tend to be winners in life, those who more easily lose composure are the ones who struggle in life and some of us die. Best to keep sober, clean, celibate marry have families and children -and don't let anyone ruin your positive outlook in life and success they're just jealous. In order for others to be happy for you you must represent what they think is deserving of success so make money lots of it and earn the respect you deserve rich or poor.
 
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When in love be patient with the one you're with. Everyone deserves a chance at love including those suffering from mental illness. We are not easy ones to love, a handful. Just understand that others love and care for you and want what's best for you. The right person will come along.
 
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There are plenty of ways to see forward. You can either see your glass as half full or half empty. That's your decision. Just don't be surprised when depression hits -allowing negativity to affect your day. We feel most defeated in life when we succumb to negative voices -those who are people pleaser are most vulnerable, pleasing the wrong voices can often times lead you astray. To avoid being misled in life, caught off guard, put in uncomfortable positions in life -always stay true to your values and have a sense of faith. See the good in people and don't beat yourself up too much, it happens to the best of us.
 
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In order to not be easily affected requires a certain degree of maturity and consistency in thought, demeanor, and decision making skills demonstrated.
 
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It doesn't matter how long it takes for you to get there but so long as you know where you are going in life you should never get lost. These things take time: love and career. It's not always obvious at the time which direction to go but if you follow your heart you will always end up in the right place at the right time. Being successful in love and career sometimes requires you to take risks in life -never be afraid of a challenge.
 
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Life hits you hard sometimes. And you don't know how to be. Always behave with class, appropriate, you'll thank yourself later for it and be glad you did. It's not required you respond to negativity, but if you do, don't let it get the best of you -afterall they're just voices. You choose which voice is heard, yours or theirs, always represent yourself best. People will try to make you uncomfortable or bring out your worst -don't let them. They do so to make you say things to compromise your position of power in life -cast you off as underserving of the position you hold in society, well earned, by your own merits. Nothing is given to us in life, including answers to problems, that is something we must all figure out for ourselves.
 
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