Chapter 69: Fairy Tales and Expectations by Leslie A. Fischman
You should need no input from others to write your own fairy tell ending to your life. When you are good good comes into your life. Life cannot be rehearsed or scripted that's not how life works it happens on its own good timing. Why it's important to always be good to have good timing in life in order for life's blessings to come your way, that is called good luck.
When you expect something to occur it won't happen for you its when you least expect it life happens. You cannot predict the future and that emptiness in front of you is always lack of trust. Fill your voids daily.
Too many competing agencies causes delusion mental illness. Know your pack. Stay close knit. It's about ingrouping.
You cannot blame others for your problems, they're your own, everyone is responsible for themselves in life.
Don't expect things to be taken lightly. When you offend others the only person you hurt is yourself. Don't take things personally to the point you fight back put yourself at risk of harm. It's not worth the trouble of fighting ever that's never the answer to your problems in life. Fighting usually only makes things worse not better. Always keep a level head on your shoulders about you, don't make everything personally no vendettas are complimenting usually look dramatic and unappealing to fight for and on behalf of ones self looks immature to look mature don't be defensive to the opinions of others.
I think things will go back to normal but not when people are trying to control others things generally don't work out well under duress.
You should never take offense to the behavior of others as directed toward you, that's called selfish thinking when you think everything is about you. You should instead think outside of yourself and those around you see the bigger picture when all else fails until you feel warm again and everything makes sense to you, some drink, some don't, some smoke pot, some don't, whatever it is that brings you back to reality make sure it's a healthy habit that fosters growth.
Usually your worries and your fears are a product of what you process, what you know, culminate your fears. To rid yourself of fear be grateful for what you do have in life think not of what you have not. Not one good enough for the other. Not one better than the other. Elitism. Is painfully harsh to social well being and welfare these things do not matter in the grand scheme of things what matters most are you achievements + education pitfalls do not make or break you or turn you into an example of anything good or bad you are a product of your own sufferings in life by your own mistakes in life not by others.
Love is not the solution to worry or problems those will always painfully exist, mistakes in life, in private, and mistakes made in public those are events you cannot live down in life or move on from, usually caused by low self-esteem do the decisions we make fall off hand in life leaving us feeling short handed, it's by our own defaults in life we end up where we are not a product of placements made by others but by our own choices we end up where we are in life trusted or not.
Painfully disabled. Always be kind to those with disabilities. Fear them not. It's your own fears of the unknown when you see them and their future that causes you to discriminate those with disabilities as not worth your care, time, and attention. Be courteous to all who walk the walk talk the talk. You never know they could be really blinde not trying hard or acting, but just accept them the way they are, some of us are not actors and it's painful to cause people to act, that's unwanted fame, attention.
You can't convince someone that you are something you are not. Usually they can tell by how you present yourself how well and fit you are to handle the stressors of life and the workplace. Some of us better suited than others to withstand a few blows here and there while some of us are more sensitive, taking things personally, getting hurt over the tiniest arguments, about nothing to do with either you or them but a mood one or the other is responsible for managing themselves.
Looking back it's always clear seeing forward from that stand point. The main point of this discussion is to appreciate now not go thru the past too much, especially not to look for errors in others who've now bettered themselves moved forward in life. You can always be forgiven but your actions/words will never be forgotten. Be frugal with you energy spent each day, don't maximize your potential for failure by giving in to past deductions too much, be instead in favor of new deductions to be made to promote the overall general health and well being of those around you.
If it's acceptance you seek than by trying for it you'll never receive it. It's weird how life works out that way that usually you get not what you're looking for in life but something else instead that either helps or hurts your ability to achieve in life. These are called decisions you make toward your future. Figuring out what helps you and what hurts you. Always know where you're at in life. -You cannot be figured out by others only you can voice your problems out loud so that others may best assist you. You sometimes need to be your own helper your own best friend.
You cannot predict the future. Future consequences or outcomes. What you do have control over is right now. What you do today to better your life tomorrow. Don't worry about the could've should've would'ves in life and do the best that you can. -You cannot control what people think of you, that's outside of your control. You can control what is said about you by what you say about yourself, helps.
Don't assume that everyone knows who you are. What is known among social circles are not widely held beliefs about people, places, or things. You have to just keep moving forward in life not worry about the past coming to fruition, but by being present thinking forward you have the power to change future outcomes for the better. Looking forward see yourself as you can be not as you are or have been past to better yourself. Only you can see from within, listen to yourself often and always follow your instincts.
Once you fall for someone it's like non of their flaws exist. That's called accepting someone for who they are, unique, just as they are. You cannot expect someone to love you if you do not love yourself. You cannot expect to have in life what you cannot build for yourself. Everything take time, care, and attention to detail. Always takes your time in life to figure out your cares and what's important to you. Your priorities in life make or break you. Choose wisely how you spend your time, as life is short or long depending on how present you are.
Sometimes you can't change your life and feel stuck. That's normal. With change comes fear, fear of the unknown. You won't know unless you try. Always do your best to see for yourselves and sometimes know when to stop and listen to others without having to go through painful learning processes alone. Always be a good listener, that's how you get and stay ahead in life, not by whining, complaining, or ruminating about mistakes past own it you lived it its your life, what more could you ask for. You are always in charge of you. Be the best version of yourself.
Take yourself seriously always. Even if no one else does.
You won't know your self-worth unless you try your best to be you. It's a worthless waste of time and energy fighting the opinions of others. Always be you. Don't worry what other people think that just causes insecurity and loss of self-esteem. When you worry too much things tend not to fair well for you why it's important not to worry.
When it comes to addiction and recovery there will be a lot of disappointments in life. You just have to keep going. Maintaining sobriety is so important for success. If you are going to be too nit picky toward yourself you'll never make it. Don't be so hard on yourself, just keep moving forward.
If you can't see beyond yourself it will be difficult to get far in life. Usually those who are compassionate and help others get the furthest in life. Don't worry about social status's as that comes later in life. Being yourself is most important, not attracting others to you is less of importance. What you project you get back on social media. Always be sure to put your best foot forward at all times.
Leslie A. Fischman
Please Note: I have finished writing the first draft of my first book, still editing Ch 5-25, my goal is to publish my book 2020 after I graduate, working on myself right now.