Chapter 40: Being Well Liked and Why That’s Important by Leslie A. Fischman
Why Does Hate Breed Animosity by Leslie A. Fischman
Whenever you have a fear, that is not your own, that produces a worry for self or for others, to undo that fear, of popularity, that causes one to generate hatred toward another, also known as jealousy. Be very careful to whom and why you become jealous. Jealously is a tool for self-betterment, also a tool if misused, to cause hardship to another, that’s called trying to take the place of another, in place of oneself, to market oneself, with the identity of another, to make the other look stupid, and you better by comparison, that is the causes for jealousy and general reactions made by those who are jealous of another. Be very careful not to present self as someone who is jealous, but appreciate those around you. I’m no marketing expert, but any competition is good competition, it means bettering spaces, for everyone’s livelihood and that’s always a good thing. What you see and can make better, is usually called having a plan. When you see a plan its easier to make a plan, than it is to build something from scratch. Any website is time consuming to produce, with so many options at our disposal, its hard not looking put together these days, and if you’re not put together someone else will put something together. That’s how competition online works, who puts what together first, hopefully for good, we put together things, how we work together, the blogging community.
Why Tech was a Difficult Field by Leslie A. Fischman
Tech used to be a difficult field because people were not sure what information to put together and how to. Overtime as we realized what was causing beffudlement, we became more clear, with a more clear vision for how we want out sites to operate, within a whole, not stand out, as different, but supportive of one another. This took time. In any new field, there is competition for resources, after these resources become scarce, we realize that we need to be supportive of one another, in order to attract a larger audience. I think everyone is getting better at building websites, now that we are all working together, not separate spaces, but connected to a few spaces, social networks. Social networks are for websites and web personalities, to function we must always cater to ourselves first and our audiences secondly, that’s how to avoid repetition, and imitation results in unhealthy competition. When we build off one another, not on top of eachother, there results in a plentiful following to each site, when people move about, they follow those in connection to sites trusted, and where they can move from trusted site to trusted site with ease. When there is malfunction in the movement from site to site, then this results in questioning the sites functionality among. Why people create sites where once you get there you move from one page to the next within the site, to avoid confusion, and to keep people on their website. Some websites are landing zones, and some websites establish connections, and link you to other sites, that will not change. The sum of its parts, the person responsible for the identity, must be registered to be authenticated, be authentic, original, considered an original. –How do you make an original, when you do not copy or imitate others, how you stay unique, and maintain a following, when you base your identity off of others, online, you run the risk of devaluing yourself, if seeking to devalue the other, by being better than.
The Timeline of Care by Leslie A. Fischman
There is a timeline of how long someone will care, usually not unconditional, in the field of marketing. Generally people only care for a little bit while marketing, and then they leave and find something better. That is my experience with marketing, if you cannot offer better, then your following will leave in support of something that makes them feel better. That’s generally how people choose spaces to grow, is based upon who they listen to. Who you listen to matters, it affects how you grow, and what you see, and what you feel, do not allow the sicknesses of others to affect your being, or how well you see in life. Always be appropriate, when you give in to sin, and behave in a way that does not reflect accurately your words or your viewpoints, you look hypocritical, that is living in a way that does not match the words that you say. This causes other people to question you, whether you are mentally stable or not, and whether you are deserving of your audience members. #TrustFacebook
“Leave Things Alone” by Leslie A. Fischman
We are always told to just “leave things alone.” Why? Usually when things get to be too tough, or if there is fighting, we are told to leave things alone. To me leave things alone means “let the dust settle” or to walk away from whats bothering us, or a fight. These are called remedies, for dealing with what is difficult to us, to our minds, and to our well-being. If something is not in your best interests to continue, usually people walk away from what is bothering them to focus on something new. –I was just thinking about this, what we focus on matters. If we focus too much on the negatives, just like harping on the negatives, then we will become negative. If we focus on whats positive, then we will become positive. Never underestimate the power you hold, to undo what is negative in your life, so long as you continue to hold negative viewpoints toward self or others, you will never achieve happiness with yourself. –Ive once stated that whenever we hurt others, we only hurt ourselves, that is human nature, to empathize with people, so anyone in your life, who you hurt, you end up hurting because they become apart of your life once focused on. –Anything negative from your past can be brought forward to harm you in the present, why its important to move forward in life. When you are happy, I’ve said before, then everything around you will become positive, and happiness can be achieved. When you are negative happiness cannot be achieved. –Why its important to leave things alone, especially ideas and things causing you unhappiness.
How to Get Your Cool Back by Leslie A. Fischman
How to get your cool back, after loosing your self-esteem on Social Media, is a complicated task. Once you make yourself look stupid, you have to repair yourself. Repairing yourself, requires that you engage in less re-blogging, less sharing, and be a minimalist. Minimalism is good for people who have a lot of issues, and do not want to be read, or suffer from misguided thoughts about self or others. Theres a reason for this. When you expose too much of yourself online, you give more ammunition to be criticized about you, the less you share about yourself, the less critical others will be of you, and you decrease your chances of looking or appearing hypocritical, meaning going against your word. Don’t make promises to others you cannot keep online, why less is more, when expectations of you are low, you improve your chances of excelling, when expectations of you are high, you increase your risk of choking under the spotlight, why its important to be frugal with sharing information about yourself in public, online, and on Social Media.
Look at the Big Picture.
Focus on Yourselves.
You see more clear when you are you, not focused on others.
How You Present Yourself:
Reflects (1) Your Drive and (2) Your Motivations in Life.
Always Be Positive.
It takes time to process trauma, usually its best to leave things alone, and give your friends time to breathe. There is a time and a place for everything. Given the circumstances, its best not to say anything that would denote blame to any parties, or appear in a way, that denotes blame to self. How overreaction is perceived is someone who is not in touch with reality, or appears insensitive. Always be sensitive to the needs of others, especially during times of trauma. –Share the good time, but be wary of sharing the moments, you regret and/or are embarrassed by. Be kind to your connections in life, and be kind to those we remember, always. The memory of yourself, is something that you work on everyday of your life, how you will be remembered, is by the positive differences you make in your life, to live a better life, for self and for others. –Your problems should never be the problems of others, only your own, as they apply your words to themselves, those reactions you are not responsible for, how you are perceived by others, that is always outside of your control. –How you present yourself, reflects your drives and your motivations in life. Everything you say and everything you do, is used against you to prove or disprove your theories and rationales in life, purpose for living. Everything is always grounded in past behavior and achievements. How you are if the same as how you’ve been, will be judged in the positive. If how you are is different now than how you’ve been, you will be judged in the negative. Be careful what you share about yourself, after you become well known, everything then gets applied to relate to you, to better understand you, everything should always come from you, not sources. That is for the purposes of protecting the identities of others, not using the identities of others to make better the look of oneself, you will always be you in defense of you.
Where is this coming from? I applied to Law School (2006) wrote my statements. How I am now, is much different than I have been in the past, why I’m upset with myself. Im not happy with where I am in life, but that’s no reason to give up, in and out of the psych ward, mentally ill. Its not fun being me at all, I have depression, not running as much.
Conversations by Leslie A. Fischman
I think conversations are supposed to be slow motion. Not to overwhelm the other party to whom you're having a conversation with. In today's day in age with text messaging it's easy to get carried away in any conversation. Often times stating too much without a response in anticipation of a response or in defense of self. -It's important to never be too defensive over ones thoughts and emotions and to always think of others first. -This is how to achieve balance in any conversation. How your reader feels should always come first in any conversation. -Too much of anything is annoying especially to your readers I've found this out the hard way. -Social Media therefore should be a place of limited communications in order to preserve real life communications which can be instead by text or by telecommunications. -Everything you say has an impact on the person to whom you're speaking too, always be wary of their feelings and responses. Timing is everything, it's never too late to earn a reply, this is often achieved by how we carry ourselves online -in turn affects our real life communications. Don't make things awkward for yourself over sharing amongst your friends, and always choose friends who know you best not likely to pass judgment upon you.
Over-Dependence by Leslie A. Fischman
You should never become too dependent on any one thing or person for love. That is up to you how you play your cards in life and where you end up in life is up to you. Don’t fret the small stuff in life. Always focus on the big picture. If you’re not where you need to be in life and not happy then think about what will make you happy in life. Never get too caught up in the delusion of unhappiness. Don’t lock yourself into unhappy or unwanted thoughts. Think about what it is that will make you happy. Is what you’re doing right now going to help you achieve happiness in life? Why or why not? Don’t let anyone bring you down in life. –We all get sick sometimes its all a matter of getting well and staying well.
Journal Entry #5 by Leslie A. Fischman
You have to be careful –what you consume affects you. What is becoming of you –is when you represent yourselves and others well. Always be in control of your emotions. What you send out (energy) gets sent back to you –especially on Social Media –where we are easily affected by others and easily misread. Who you are and who you are associated to matters. You build these associations to you by the likes you choose. –How people see what matters to you –and what you’re affected by. Always see the big picture. –Nothings a big deal if you don’t make it out to be a big deal. Think in terms of consequences. –How does your audience feel. That’s always a good indicator of how you should project yourself online to others –help make normal others. When you are normal everything around you will feel normal too.
When You Put Yourself Under a Microscope by Leslie A. Fischman
When you put yourself under a microscope you will be judged for what you put under that microscope. Feelings about you and towards you will change, viewpoints. Some will like you and not all will, but you have to be accepting of all crowds around you. You cannot control your audience, or people who do not like you, they will watch anyways and read along anyways, and that you have no control over. People will always be judgmental, you have to maintain a positive attitude, there is no secret to positivity, there is no position or costume you can put on in order to be perfect, you just have to be yourself. That’s key. When you like yourself others will like you, when you do not like yourself others will not like you, you cannot read your audience, you can only read who writes you back, that is the bottom line. You cannot read what is not written to you, you cannot read words that are not spoken to you, you can only be yourself. You should not predict or anticipate the reactions of others toward you, that will only make you sick, the only thing you can control are your thoughts and your perceptions, do not make yourself sick anticipating the reactions of others, walking into puddles and dead ends in life, to their chagrin, those are those who are not accepting of you, and for whatever reasons, based upon what they hear or say when they look at you, should not be your problem, but problems of their own with you, and you should not be adversely affected by the problems that other people have with you, that and those are their judgments of you, accepting or not, and should not lead to self-harming behaviors and or dislike for self, you can only be you. Its impossible to please everyone, you can only have so many fans, and have so many people turn on you in your mind, that you eventually hurt yourself, life is not mortal kombat, never finish yourself off, just because one person does not like you, there is likely to be someone else who will. Be forgiving of yourself, life is not perfect, and you cannot be well-liked by all, but you should always like yourself.
Whats in Good Taste Whats in Bad Taste by Leslie A. Fischman
Its never in good taste to speak poorly of others, including oneself, whether it be in jest, or to paint a picture. You can never build yourself up by telling stories about self or others, it just makes you look like a gossip or a yenta (Jews call it).
Always be respectful of others, and do not make mention of the problems of others, or have pity for those who do not need your pity nor ask for it, that’s you subjecting yourself to harm, by speaking negatively of others or at others to generate a reaction from them to please yourself, that’s called selfish behavior, in poor taste.
What is bad taste, in bad taste is called to be disrespectful toward others, whether it be the customer, or the consumer, or of the work product of the writer, always be respectful of others, for their craftsmanship and their bravamente. Without whom we would not be here today, those who give us life, and protect us from harm. They are people generally in positions of trust who we admire, and hold dear, everyone else is subject for scrutiny that is a given, not one more important than the other.
People will often times try to make things about themselves to cause hardship to others, that is called unwanted solicitation and unwanted adherence to comment. It is never ones responsibility to respond to any outside commentary, outside of the arena of a writing space, there are plenty of spaces to comment herein. –My following is not very big, I have calculated numbers, and it has not risen to the level where anyone should treat me as famous or hold me to that expectation I’m not.
I am a private citizen, I do not currently have a job, was recently hospitalized because they thought I was suicidal when I was not suicidal, and am beginning work for my Mom this week. I am an on and off again Law Student at Thomas Jefferson School of Law, studying Risk Management and Compliance in Finance.
In my free time, I study trauma, trying to build a better understanding of trauma victims, including myself, and how to build better coping mechanisms suited to my individual needs as well as to the individual needs of those responding to others. That’s always in good taste to put yourself before others when sick, and to put others before yourself when well. What causes sickness, is God’s understanding.
Ideologies and Happenings by Leslie A. Fischman
Who you put in charge of ideologies matters as to happenings, is by popular opinions and by likeness whether imitated or consumed. There are consumer trends which we identify which tell us the likes of our audiences, and by those trends dictate the material that is produced for our audiences. That is the only mathematical way in which to please all. People in the entertainment business cater to their audiences, by listening services, understand what are the likes and dislikes of individuals so that they can best provide for their audiences. Based upon those numbers provided by servers like Google, we can tell what is in demand and what is not in demand, by what is helping us to cope and what is hurting our abilities to cope. –How things happen is by choice, the choices you make, are what influence your thinking and what makes up your mind, is how your life happens, what happens around you is your environment, and that you cannot control what people think about you and what happens around you, you can only control you. –When you are in control of you, then everything around you seems in control. When you are not in control of you then everything around you seems out of control. Its important to always maintain a level head about you, why those in positions of power, with earning power, are put in caretaking positions of trust to help us.
Leslie A. Fischman
Please Note: I have finished writing the first draft of my first book, still editing Ch 13-25, my goal is to publish my book 2020 after I graduate, working on myself right now.