Chapter 23: Dealing with Negativity by Leslie A. Fischman
Always be open to the criticisms of others. Usually people who comment are people who care. Sometimes helpful sometimes not. Take what you need from it and always strengthen yourself. It never hurts to listen to others so long as you know you best there's nothing anyone can say to change the way you feel about yourself, it shouldn't make you feel less than, but thought of ... that's always a compliment. At the end of the day, the goal is to better yourself in relationship to others. Always do your best. Be the best version of yourself.
Some days may not be your best days. It's important not to take your anger and frustrations out on others who are also trying to live their lives and stay strong. Always be positive. Others will appreciate you more for it. When you live a great life you'll be sure to be surrounded by others too who live well for themselves and for those they care for. Never react in reaction to others. What people think should not matter to you. Never let anyone affect you.
What people think is generally none of your business. Sometimes you don't always know why and for what reasons. Only time can tell. What's in your best interests may not be the same for all. What benefits your position in life may not be to the benefit of all if your successes interfere with their ability to succeed, that is called competition. Competition is never an excuse for failure or for treating others badly or poorly. Always do your best under all circumstances to choose wisely your thoughts. From which memories persist in your mind are all that matter not the memories of you that persist in the minds of others about you. Only you can change your view of self your change in your view of yourself comes before others change their views about you. Not all will like you but no one persons negative opinion of you should hurt you so bad you hurt yourself and don't achieve or function in life, that would be inhumane. All people deserve to be treated well, all peoples thoughts matter, no matter who they are, mentally ill or not, should never be treated poorly by others. Always best to keep to yourself. Engage with others only when you're doing well successful otherwise you run chances of colliding with misinformation and hostility because of misinformation.
Appreciate the light that you're in. You're side of the street is always greener. You should never want to be anyone other than yourself. -When you compare yourself to others the only person who brings you down is you. Never let your character fall victim to poor choices. Good character is built upon strong foundations. And a true test of character is how you respond to others: (1) on your worst days (2) on your best days (3) under pressure (4) in times of need (5) when defensive (6) when you're up (7) and when you're down. Never lose sight of yourself first and secondly those that matter to you, upon all other things -should fall into place.
Achieving a break from the norm requires that you do everything you can to achieve your best. Then it so follows that you have time to enjoy life and the blessings that life has to offer. Only through disciplined activities can we achieve this. Sometimes living a normal life is best without all the excitement. Risks in life don't always bring reward. Instead take your time.
Recognize first within what is bothering you before disrupting the progress of others with your problems. Never make your problems the problems of others. When we are selfish we forget how we affect people. Try to always be compassionate and understanding of the time of others. People don’t have all day to wait for you to come around, sometimes you have to take it upon yourself to please others in that respect. It’s not always about you in life, sometimes life is about people pleasing.
You can't change who you are you can only move forward in life: accept your past not ruminate over it and preserve your future happiness by doing today what will bring you happiness tomorrow.
Usually it follows that understanding brings compassion for others as well as empathy. Who we care for is determined by what we so choose to care about in life. If what we choose to care about in life brings us more compassion for others, then that's how one understands the concept of empathy, caring for others.
Don't be easily fooled by others. You know you best. It's easy to succumb to the wrong interpretations of others and set bad expectations of ourselves, that interfere with our progress moving forward. That's called a guilty consciousness you bear for the wrongs of others toward you who are not in agreement with you and cannot stand to see you succeed in life. That's not competition that's just pure rivalry. Success comes with competitive vibes that's hostility coupled with grandiosity in your face anything to bring you down to size or make you feel small compared to them. You should not be bothered by others. Always focus on yourself. When you are focused on yourself nothing affects you not even people who are negative towards you.
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Please Note: I have finished writing the first draft of my first book, still editing Ch 5-25, my goal is to publish my book 2020 after I graduate, working on myself right now.