Chapter 31: Promoting Your Best Interests by Leslie A. Fischman
12-22-17 (cc: #JusticeAlito)
Fears and resentments go hand in hand especially when dealing with compounding issues and complex emotions -you go astray it feels like out of orbit. Hang tight, stick to your roots, what makes sense to you, ground yourself in principles that help keep you strong. That's more important during times of need -so that you can best be able to be there for others.
Whenever someone aggravates you -which can cause or trigger self-harm, do not jump down the downward spiral to suicide. -There is more to life than just the negative opinions shared by others. This should not pin ball machine toward negatives upon yourself, when it's them being negative towards you to make or trigger conversation or quotes to be of or related to them. This is called manipulation. When someone with an emotion not shared is triggered upon you to see if their unhappiness transfers to you. Unhappy people cannot make unhappy people, do not test the flip side of events, nor ever place blame to any one good person, this causes unreasonable pain and suffering to those who seek to protect to whom I relate would die for, quiet. Why I'm quiet, the flip side.
Life is composed of end points. End points of discussion. End points of discussion thought to highlight the totality of what's said. And there are points in life we fixate to and give memory to. That is always your choice what matters to you. What's important to you is what you base your life on. -In any argument there are sides: the majority and minority. The side taken and the side against, or least traveled, or side no one takes.
When as soon as you say something something happens after given fire warnings to self that's called a self-fulfilling prophecy what you project or what others project on you becomes seen.
Life happens based upon what's fixated on. What you focus toward brings about.
You are a consequence of you're own actions. What so follows is evident.
When you search for causes you create consequences much like karma present based on karma past to create future misunderstandings and pitfalls present to discern the past, characteristics traits. Carried then present now if related. I'm not a campaign I'm myself. -Or Deja-vu repetition of past present in ones life.
Never belittle yourself by comparison to others. You are you no matter what and no one can change you but you. It's what you perceive is as changed based upon interactions with another that cause you to regress, no do well, self-harm or cause unreasonable delays or hardships. When you are accepting of yourself all else should fall into place. No issues should collide irrelevant or to pass negative judgments upon groups or individuals for their characteristics or traits given and had. Everyone should be accepting of all. With growth in acceptance comes self-growth and maturity of the issues soon follows a compassionate a better understanding of self and others, in relationship to and upon interaction. When we grow we learn to be true to ourselves growth creates equality of purposes forward a quality of acceptance is followed by growth in understanding and showing compassion for others.
Post selfies to decrease seriousness. My go to device to decrease seriousness. You are all you have others are more important than yourself, always remember self-worth. -It's not about you, this is about me. My writing is about me, conversations with self -to understand derivatives.
The more you share of your personal life in public the more critical of yourself you become. Be careful not to personify insecurities out loud become something your not based on (-) judgments of self.
Still cleaning up my website. Bigger audience calls for different material settings. Appropriateness goes with crowd size how you develop your audience.
Always stop at a point in which a conversation goes well when you shift blame to others it causes disruption.
What you allow will continue to occur if you let it. The cycle of abuse always begins with you. Never blame yourself or others always get help or talk to a professional to create positive outcomes in the future for yourself and those you care about. Sometimes people who we trust let us down in life, not everyone can be trusted, trust first yourself before others, and all else should fall into place. When you empower yourself you blame people less for your problems and become better able to take control of your emotions and your future, present.
When you put others before yourself you give yourself the responsibility to take better care of yourself. In order to be there for others one must be whole. In order to be whole one must be complete. To be complete one must be present. To be present one must be there first for ones self before others. Once you figure that much out, peace can be achieved, first from within. It's not by helping others problems can be solved within self, it's through helping others one helps others, you must always consistently help yourself separately in order to properly be there for others and of use, useful, helpful, a positive influence. It starts with you.
Life isn't about promoting your best interests it's about promoting the best interests of others.
Leslie A. Fischman
Please Note: I have finished writing the first draft of my first book, still editing Ch 5-25, my goal is to publish my book 2020 after I graduate, working on myself right now.