Chapter 70: Achieving Your Goals by Leslie Fischman
02-14-18 What You Know in Life by Leslie A. Fischman 02-10-18 When you know what you want in life, nothing can stop you from achieving your dreams. You only have to accept your past, and move forward, not lamenting incidences or worrying what others think or might say about you, is always outside of your control and not your responsibility to ever control the thoughts of others about you or about others. That’s called fighting when an opinion based on selfish needs is made, to promote an idea or a set of ideas that serves one, is called being selfish. Always be selfless when writing online, considering the emotions of the audience as well as how you may be looked at affected by your train of thoughts. It is very important to always be clear, in order to come across as neat and organized. When you are off center and not all together perfect, you run the risk of being attacked by aggressive people, that is juts how people are, trying to change you or trying to fix you, or trying to get what they want, or trying to manipulate your story or your character, or sense of being. That is called wrong behavior for or toward persons of interest. It is wrong to use people as pawns, for unnecessary causes but ego. That is an unnecessary use of force upon another to break a heart, and is undeserving. The only way to move forward is not to break, not to bind, but to let go. Its Never Too Late by Leslie A. Fischman 02-10-18 Hearts break, and its never too late to fix oneself, and move forward in life. We may cry, we may mourn, we may feel physically and psychologically ill, but its important to keep going in life, always important. The minute you give in to sad emotions, is the minute you break, recognize whats hurting you, but don’t let is make or break you in life. People will façade themselves toward you, to gather attention, they may even try to persuade you to think things you are not or behave in a way counterproductive to your well being and the well being of others. That’s just manipulation, and there is nothing you can do about it. Often times we feel powerless to the thoughts and emotions of others, and this causes concern. Always keep moving forward, report as you go, and always do your best to keep your private and professional life separate from socialization, that is how you stay centered. People will cause blame where no blame exists to try to figure out causes and circumstances for illness always meeting you with disappointment a disgrace. Every way a person treats you is a manifestation of their own weaknesses in life. If they are not doing well, it may be difficult for them to treat you well. If you are not doing well in life, you may be treated as less than, less than capable of deserving a good life for yourself. These are all commonalities of socialization, competition. Don’t Laugh Until It Hurts by Leslie A. Fischman 02-13-18 Don’t laugh until it hurts. There are some people who are still suffering from losses, who have not yet made their amends, and still in pain over who’s side to take. In life you are never obligated to fight, takes sides, or even participate in battles that are not your own. That only wreaks havoc on you psyche, mental health and well-being, and enters you into the blame game, which is a neverending story. Basically you have to be selfish when it comes to accepting any losses in life, that is time to only think about yourself, self-care is a number one priority, and so is caring for those around you. When you are ill, it is your responsibility not to make those around you ill too. It is your responsibility to make strong yourself, and to promote the general health and well-being of those around you. You cannot expect others to be there for you when you are down, why its important to be selfish when not well. You cannot care for others, when you are sick, as you run the risk of becoming overly (overtly ie needy) dependent on others, for serenity and peace. You have to find your own sense of peace in life, if you are to be surrounded by others in peace. You cannot expect others to provide for you something you cannot create for yourself. That is impossible to demand a life that you yourself cannot envision, and expect the same from others to provide for you a better life, you have to go out and do so yourself, make it happen, it will not happen for you lamenting and blaming.
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Chapter 69: Fairy Tales and Expectations by Leslie A. Fischman
02-14-18 You should need no input from others to write your own fairy tell ending to your life. When you are good good comes into your life. Life cannot be rehearsed or scripted that's not how life works it happens on its own good timing. Why it's important to always be good to have good timing in life in order for life's blessings to come your way, that is called good luck. When you expect something to occur it won't happen for you its when you least expect it life happens. You cannot predict the future and that emptiness in front of you is always lack of trust. Fill your voids daily. Too many competing agencies causes delusion mental illness. Know your pack. Stay close knit. It's about ingrouping. You cannot blame others for your problems, they're your own, everyone is responsible for themselves in life. Don't expect things to be taken lightly. When you offend others the only person you hurt is yourself. Don't take things personally to the point you fight back put yourself at risk of harm. It's not worth the trouble of fighting ever that's never the answer to your problems in life. Fighting usually only makes things worse not better. Always keep a level head on your shoulders about you, don't make everything personally no vendettas are complimenting usually look dramatic and unappealing to fight for and on behalf of ones self looks immature to look mature don't be defensive to the opinions of others. I think things will go back to normal but not when people are trying to control others things generally don't work out well under duress. You should never take offense to the behavior of others as directed toward you, that's called selfish thinking when you think everything is about you. You should instead think outside of yourself and those around you see the bigger picture when all else fails until you feel warm again and everything makes sense to you, some drink, some don't, some smoke pot, some don't, whatever it is that brings you back to reality make sure it's a healthy habit that fosters growth. Usually your worries and your fears are a product of what you process, what you know, culminate your fears. To rid yourself of fear be grateful for what you do have in life think not of what you have not. Not one good enough for the other. Not one better than the other. Elitism. Is painfully harsh to social well being and welfare these things do not matter in the grand scheme of things what matters most are you achievements + education pitfalls do not make or break you or turn you into an example of anything good or bad you are a product of your own sufferings in life by your own mistakes in life not by others. Love is not the solution to worry or problems those will always painfully exist, mistakes in life, in private, and mistakes made in public those are events you cannot live down in life or move on from, usually caused by low self-esteem do the decisions we make fall off hand in life leaving us feeling short handed, it's by our own defaults in life we end up where we are not a product of placements made by others but by our own choices we end up where we are in life trusted or not. Painfully disabled. Always be kind to those with disabilities. Fear them not. It's your own fears of the unknown when you see them and their future that causes you to discriminate those with disabilities as not worth your care, time, and attention. Be courteous to all who walk the walk talk the talk. You never know they could be really blinde not trying hard or acting, but just accept them the way they are, some of us are not actors and it's painful to cause people to act, that's unwanted fame, attention. You can't convince someone that you are something you are not. Usually they can tell by how you present yourself how well and fit you are to handle the stressors of life and the workplace. Some of us better suited than others to withstand a few blows here and there while some of us are more sensitive, taking things personally, getting hurt over the tiniest arguments, about nothing to do with either you or them but a mood one or the other is responsible for managing themselves. Looking back it's always clear seeing forward from that stand point. The main point of this discussion is to appreciate now not go thru the past too much, especially not to look for errors in others who've now bettered themselves moved forward in life. You can always be forgiven but your actions/words will never be forgotten. Be frugal with you energy spent each day, don't maximize your potential for failure by giving in to past deductions too much, be instead in favor of new deductions to be made to promote the overall general health and well being of those around you. If it's acceptance you seek than by trying for it you'll never receive it. It's weird how life works out that way that usually you get not what you're looking for in life but something else instead that either helps or hurts your ability to achieve in life. These are called decisions you make toward your future. Figuring out what helps you and what hurts you. Always know where you're at in life. -You cannot be figured out by others only you can voice your problems out loud so that others may best assist you. You sometimes need to be your own helper your own best friend. You cannot predict the future. Future consequences or outcomes. What you do have control over is right now. What you do today to better your life tomorrow. Don't worry about the could've should've would'ves in life and do the best that you can. -You cannot control what people think of you, that's outside of your control. You can control what is said about you by what you say about yourself, helps. Don't assume that everyone knows who you are. What is known among social circles are not widely held beliefs about people, places, or things. You have to just keep moving forward in life not worry about the past coming to fruition, but by being present thinking forward you have the power to change future outcomes for the better. Looking forward see yourself as you can be not as you are or have been past to better yourself. Only you can see from within, listen to yourself often and always follow your instincts. Once you fall for someone it's like non of their flaws exist. That's called accepting someone for who they are, unique, just as they are. You cannot expect someone to love you if you do not love yourself. You cannot expect to have in life what you cannot build for yourself. Everything take time, care, and attention to detail. Always takes your time in life to figure out your cares and what's important to you. Your priorities in life make or break you. Choose wisely how you spend your time, as life is short or long depending on how present you are. Sometimes you can't change your life and feel stuck. That's normal. With change comes fear, fear of the unknown. You won't know unless you try. Always do your best to see for yourselves and sometimes know when to stop and listen to others without having to go through painful learning processes alone. Always be a good listener, that's how you get and stay ahead in life, not by whining, complaining, or ruminating about mistakes past own it you lived it its your life, what more could you ask for. You are always in charge of you. Be the best version of yourself. Take yourself seriously always. Even if no one else does. You won't know your self-worth unless you try your best to be you. It's a worthless waste of time and energy fighting the opinions of others. Always be you. Don't worry what other people think that just causes insecurity and loss of self-esteem. When you worry too much things tend not to fair well for you why it's important not to worry. When it comes to addiction and recovery there will be a lot of disappointments in life. You just have to keep going. Maintaining sobriety is so important for success. If you are going to be too nit picky toward yourself you'll never make it. Don't be so hard on yourself, just keep moving forward. If you can't see beyond yourself it will be difficult to get far in life. Usually those who are compassionate and help others get the furthest in life. Don't worry about social status's as that comes later in life. Being yourself is most important, not attracting others to you is less of importance. What you project you get back on social media. Always be sure to put your best foot forward at all times. Chapter 68: Don’t Wait by Leslie A. Fischman
02-13-18 Dont wait around for life to happen to you. You have to go out there and make it work for you if that's what you want in life go out and get it. Nothing comes easy in life. It all takes hard work. Having it all requires that you pace yourself. You can't burn out trying to make ends meet. Never force yourself to try when you're not ready. Always know when to stop. Love takes time and patience. We're not always ready for it. Relationships come and they go but you always have to stay focused on yourself in order for any relationship to work out. You can't be the best at everything. Sometimes you have to settle for just good enough -and be happy with yourself no matter what. What happens happens. You don't have to live with your mistakes forever. Chapter 67: Timing by Leslie A. Fischman
02-11-18 You can't be scared of the past. In order to move forward you have to be present. Know when. When you're timing is off beat you're off beat -that occurs when you feel behind in life. Know your presence present matters well enough to let go of the past. How you get worked up over nothing. -and by the time you realize it it's too late or your timing is off you feel ill, burning. Don't traumatize yourself into believing things that don't exist. You can only voice yourself so often before it becomes unclear unnecessary a waste of time purpose not solid perfect anymore. Once you become defensive to the thoughts of others you become ill. People with problems will think what they want to think absent of what they are told that's called delusional fears you cause oneself by engaging in risky behaviors. -There's a such thing as fame. Some are fame retardant some are fame attractors it all depends on your leadership skills whether you feel good to others light up a room or you light up in a room -shows what kind of person you are liking to watch or be watched. Affects how you light up to others. Always let the room light you up if you don't light up in a room means there's something wrong with you that needs to be fixed your surroundings should always feel greater than yourself more important than you, others. That's self-awareness of others, good behavior. Some people specialize in being funny they're called comedians. Once you go funny serious scares funny. That's why you have to be careful how funny smart you are. To others your audience always read their needs not your own in order to be well liked. You get good attention by being good and you get bad attention by being bad. You won't know where you're headed in life until you get there. Always be patient with yourself if you're not where you want to be in life -you should always appreciate now and who's around you -focused on what you have not what you have not. Timing is everything in a World of fear your best timing keeps you out of trouble not off balance in life. You cannot go backwards in life, that's where blame and abuse lies. You just have to keep moving forward in life, step away from your problems, forgive, and move on. The more you stir the pot the more it burns and pains others to see you, then no one wants anything to do with you when you're off putting. That's why you have to be good to have good things happen for you in life. How to stay well. Chapter 66: Much Bigger Picture by Leslie A. Fischman
02-10-18 There's always a much bigger picture to resolve when it comes to mental illnesses always have compassion for others you never know what anyone's going through in life without asking from the outside in having not known anyone in person to know who's well not well perfect imperfect. No one knows anyone this well these days always be grateful for predictable. There's much to be learned from someone honest predictable, harmless. #StopBullying Sometimes you need to take a break and detach separate yourself and regroup think about what's important to you in life when scared or have fear of losses in life when your options are limited or your life is in danger these feelings and emotions are triggered so are mental illnesses beware I too have suffered a share of my own illnesses it takes time to say hear see right always report to those with good sight to protect the best interests of all manage crises. It's to each ones responsibility to care for themselves - here is where I care for myself. #mymollydoll Lesson learned don't upset be upset for the fallen but appreciate them how far they got in life. 🌸 Fighting is not the solution blame. Mostly: Don't worry for them. You can't expect others to understand you as you see best fit. Sometimes we are judged in the wrong and that's no ones fault but your own. You cannot undo the past you can only move forwards in life not backwards, tracing. Wondering how life occurs dating is on your own best timing not the timing of others always when you're ready to be hit on call attention to yourself. How the game works, when it comes to attention. It's easy to choose yourself. Better to have lived life than not at all. It is never for others to judge your disposition in life treat you like you're a machine when you're not. It takes time to forgive and move on. Be treated as human. You can't force anything to happen that won't happen on its own. When it comes to physics one must be positive in order to attract others, when we are negative, worried, or sad we are most likely going to be rejected. Insert yellow quote here * You live and you learn how best to protect yourself and others from harm always be a good decision maker and stay out of trouble. To have a good life one must be good. That doesn't mean you have to help people to be good only that you yourself are good to others from which all other goods come. You can't go backwards in life to fix your problems you have to move forward. There's nothing you can do to change the past you just have to keep moving forward in life. What you say comes true for you only if you allow your storyline to be repeated in elements forward in your life that's knowing about someone and triggering consequences for them for sight. Disappointment hurts and expectations hurt + needing to be heard to see me well where I'm at in life hurts me to not be trusted. Life stories are for those who've lived life not those in cubicles with few memories out to share why seldom spoken, quiet. Usually those with the most experiences are most comfortable with themselves and around others. When there is fear there's a clear lack of trust over old beef. That cannot be undone. You just have to move forward in life not open a can of worms. That cannot be closed, be wary of the buttons you push and some cannot go backwards in life once broken, taken over the hill. Figure yourself out before others that way your more likely to read a situation from a grounded perspective without running the risk of offending anyone off beat. Off beat and bad luck occurs when we are not patient don't listen to others the first thing we do is bump into something counterproductive or set ourselves up in a trap we can't get out of. That's what puts you in a rush in life when you have to catch up after being off beat feeling behind in time that's how you burn out trying to hard to be where you want to be in life. Always pace yourself. Be patient with others as they have their own struggles too get offended easily just as you, victims of crime. Chapter 65: Create a Life for Yourself by Leslie A. Fischman
02-10-18 When you panic nothing turns out right. When you're quiet you look like a pushover or consumed by guilt. If you cannot speak sharp you are considered dull or ill. Always do your best not to pass judgment upon others for their past lives. You should not over analyze the past but accept people for who they are now presently, over analysis of the past causes recurrence of hardship and recidivism. Be mindful of the past not to stir emotions presently over jobs well done, past. They cannot be recreated presently the past wrongs of others to make anything right right now. You have to move forward in life be thankful for who is in your life not who is not and why not. It's all a matter of good faith principles -what memories we honor recall put forward and apply to the present is everything certain, just, correct, sensical when ever a decision is made it gets applied presently to ascertain fact from fiction. We have books for this you know complete records of thoughts in time and space why books are so cool. For time travel. Chapter 64: Imitation and Anxiety by Leslie A. Fischman
02-03-18 Never overexpose yourself to others. Your private life is your personal business not the business of others or a need to know basis it only causes nervousness. That's your right to privacy. Who you date is your right to privacy. Heightened anxieties due to losses are from your own mistakes in life not from the rejections of others but from you not being a good enough match for them you will always find better in life. So long as you always do as your told, work hard, play by the rules, good fortune and good luck comes to those who wait, date monogamously. Imitation is a form of flattery. Never seek to be seen and heard that's how you get sick trying to be known in life by calling attention to yourself how you run the risk of getting unwanted attention. In order to be loved you must first love yourself. Popularity online comes at a price you psychologically feel unsafe, politically normalcies drain out unwanted cues but if online regrouping into society some unwanted cues within you can be easily triggered by environmental stimuli sensitive to your surroundings not blend in as well. It's important to always blend in you will never stick out or stand in life if you try to its by selection you stand out not by the choice of the individual but by the audiences selection who's of interest. I created mymollydoll.com then ran a campaign from my website that may have been a mistake for that I'm sorry for the confusion I was just trying to help. If not good enough then please don't criticize me personally thank you. Always be frugal about how much information you share about yourself and about your interactions with others as this depersonalizes social interactions. If you have intimacy problems it's likely for you to over share and ruin your private relationships and run the risk of making others uncomfortable around you. It's not mental illness it just makes you a poor decision maker when it comes to sharing and building intimate trusted bonds in life it's not a big deal you live and you learn how to cope with relationships and the unknown not question others or be questioned but accept all as is without worry or fear. Always be yourself. You cannot go backwards in life, it's too time consuming and you run the risk of hurting yourself in the long run when you do so or blame others for your problems. Always be in control you are always responsible for your current hardships, successes, and/or failures in life, there's always time to regroup be the best version of yourself and better yourself each day you have to just be, be kind always, and always work hard. You have to feel good to want to do well in life for yourself, find your life forces in life, what makes you feel well, not be a burden to others but independent, a survivor. Chapter 63: You Can’t Change the Past by Leslie A. Fischman
02-01-18 You Cant Change the Past by Leslie A. Fischman 01-22-18 You cant change the past or what others think of you, why you should just be, rather than try to convince others you are something that you are not. There will be people that come and go from our lives, but we must always remain the same. Not one person won or lost in life, should make or break you, sometimes you just have to keep going in life, and think positively of others, that even without them in your lives, they would still want whats best for you. Its when you’re in the negative that things go wrong for you in your life, its when you think positively of self and others that things go right for you in life. Never take into question self or others, too willingly that it breaks you down. –Sometimes a little give and take goes a long way in life, assembling whats to keep and assembling whats to trash in life, and always keeping the best of us, in order to put our best foot forward in life. It takes time to understand what is wanted in life, and what is rejected in life, for some of us figure this out sooner than others in life. Nothing trashy ever gets returned, and nothing trashy ever gets respect or gains notoriety in this lifetime, but everything trashy gets remembered. Its usually the faults of others, they are known by, their weaknesses, not their strengths, even after they achieve success, this you learn the hard way. Respect is often times hard to achieve post trauma of seeing someone you admire get trashed, that’s the sad part. Theres always room for forgiveness, forgive all. Accept People for Who They Are by Leslie A. Fischman 01-22-18 Accept people for who they are, they know best themselves, it’s a waste of time to question others on their paths in life, everyone is responsible for their own choices in life. Deserved or not, sometimes we fall victim to the choices we make in life, and then have to make amends with ourselves, and move forward peaceably, without exhibiting behavioral health issues, associated to what pains us about our past lives. There is always time to move forward, no one is perfect. Never go back to where it hurts, that just re-instigates the cycle of violence, and enables people to harm you again and again, and again. Just move forward. Where there is non-acceptance there will never be acceptance again. That’s how you know whether or not you have ruined a relationship or messed up in life, when you can’t go backwards, or have trouble going backwards, or a friendship or professional association breaks. Not always resulting from a break of trust, but usually resulting from a break in character. When your best foot is not forward in life, you are more susceptible to relationships broken, increased odds against the maintenance of those relationships. When you best foot is forward, it then becomes easier to maintain those relationships both professionally and personally, how to keep going in life. Knowingly in the Wrong by Leslie A. Fischman 01-22-18 When you are knowingly in the wrong, own it. There is nothing you can do to make things right, by harping on the negatives, best you can do is be positive. There are no defenses to idiocracy or stupidity, you just have to represent yourself, well enough to keep up with the pace of life. No one can help you but yourself. Accept no blames for the illnesses of others, as they are a product of their own minds, not yours. You are always responsible for yourself first and foremost, you are never responsible for the wrongs of others. As directed means as directed means as directed. No one on medication should drink alcohol for those reasons, as directed not to. Always consult with your Doctor or Pharmacist should you take medications, in which the combination of alcohol, impairs any of your abilities, why I don’t drink, sober since 2003. Im knowingly retarded, Ive had a learning disability since I was little, learned multiplication tables by tracing my hands, numbers on the tips, and got zeros on my ERBs in Kindergarten, there is no news flash for those struggling with learning disabilities, you just need to be kind to all. How I was able to achieve in life, its through hard work, and effort, and with a strong faith in myself and others, as well as those around me, trusting their decision making skills, never paranoid. In order to be well, enough to hang out with the best of them, you have to do well in life, that means following rules of order, and doing your best to be apart of, not fall astray. There are no confessions to the wrongs made by others, only defenses. You cannot blame people for the wrongs of others, that is clearly wrong, you cannot blame innocent bystanders, you cannot blame people period when bad things occur, that is not the responsibility of people to be blamed, accept blame, place blame, or worry others to death via blame. You should always take responsibility for yourself in life, you are NEVER responsible for others in life, just yourself. When you represent yourself well, you represent all others well, that is the point of image. Image is when of and concerning you, you represent yourself best. Nothing that I have written has been learned in Law School, it is for and by my experiences I know best, and respond well, to circumstances, always see clearly. When you do right in the World, you will foster self, and others, when you do not do well in life, you cannot represent the best interests of others well, that’s plain and simple. The Confidences of Your Own by Leslie A. Fischman 01-31-18 Always keep the confidences of your own in your best interests. Never allow the confidences of others, to bolster your own insecurities or interfere with you abilities to function or work in congruent to your best interests. When you are sound your mind is sound, when your best interests are met you are congruent to your best interests, don’t overlap two negatives to build a positive inference for another’s to interpret you in the negative via adaptation of something said not said, or thought left unsaid purposefully, that is a wrong interpretation a forced saying of two stories at once to build an inference, and is wrong. Its two stories heard separately to be told at the same time in a separate space to build an additional inference or wrong or allude to any wrong present, future, or past, or ongoing presently, not present or past. –Don’t allow others to build confidences off of your achievements in life, or off of what gives you courage in life, and esteem, that’s a misrepresentation of purpose which is to help all, not help all, and the replace you. The writer in life, or take away my life, and hurt my ability to live and function, that’s a misuse of my writings. When I am harmed, that is a causal consequence of the misuse of my writings , for the purpose of causing harm to my mind, to my psyche, and to my well-being, overall health and well-being, that is wrong. And should be stopped. It is wrong to harm, stalk, molest, or otherwise harm others in a professional space, unknowingly. You should always be kind to others, and help others as best you can function well. When you give your confidence away to others, it can be misused and taken from you. When your confidence is taken from you, you are left with nothing. I’m not a confidence expert that is something that everyone figures out for themselves in life. Be in Control of Your Own Problems by Leslie A. Fischman 01-31-18 Always be in control of your problems, in your life, and never make your problems the business of others, or interfere with your relationships with others. It is not for others to know your problems in life or your problems with others, that only causes discord and rumor and distrust and paranoia. Paranoia results from upsets, when you are upset with yourself, a perfectionist, wanting all relationships to be sound and well, when one relationship or another falters, then you feel imbalanced and as a result, this may cause one to self-harm. Self-harming can result from failures, fighting, or from mistakes in life: sometimes caused by the use of drugs or alcohol. Never base judgments on others while under the influence of drugs or alcohol as they may be skewed or off base with reality when you are up or high on a tangent of life that is not in touch with the realities of situations present in another world, that is based upon your personal viewpoints or recollections. Sometimes our recollections may be based upon what we know and see, such as on social media, and sometimes our recollections may be based upon what we know, by experience, when our recollections cause us illness, that means we have a foundational problem, our interests are to [criticize] and when [those opinions held] cannot rest one may feel like they are not winning [until proven right], [and] not getting to the bottom of something, that means you are [hurting] the wrong person [you should never hurt anyone rightfully so, whether you think deserved or not], why people are turning on you [always be nice to people whether you think they are deserving or not of a good life, a job, or anything for that matter, is no ones business but that person living their life, should not bother anyone else's image or livelihood]. Its important not to prosecute people, and its important not to wrongfully accuse people of misconduct. That is the job of law enforcement. Not the job of civilians to involve themselves with. There are TV Shows for that, its not for public discourse to inflict pain upon others or dissect the minds of others, or to pick apart the genuiness of others hurt one another, you cannot hurt someone to do a good in life, that only makes one sick. Balance and Esteem by Leslie A. Fischman 01-31-18 Balance in life and esteem are important for positive functioning, without which, we often times feel lost. Sometimes its companionship that makes us feel complete sometimes, its relationships that make us feel whole. And sometimes its work that makes us feel complete. Whatever it is always makes sure you maintain a careful balance, so that one does not fall part, and so that each life does not affect the other. –When you are nervous its usually because things are not going right for you in your life, or you are not doing something right, this causes nervousness, imperfection. There is only so much you can do to be perfect before you fall apart, always go to help when and if so, that is what therapy is for and that is what friends and companions are for talking and sharing emotions with. Publically, the sharing of emotions is considered taboo, no one wants to hear your problems, usually people only want to hear good news, theres a reason for that, maintaining positivity. Maintaining positivity is so important, problems, can cause disarray, and disarray can cause mental illness, mental illness is caused by fighting, and fights started cause nervousness, and right before a fight there is tension, that’s the assumption of a fight about to begin, an anticipation of a fight, an anticipation of negativity, one should never anticipate negativity, but always see the positive in life, anticipate well. Always Stay Calm by Leslie A. Fischman 01-31-18 They say that social anxiety is: “Also known as social phobia, social anxiety disorder is the excessive and unreasonable fear of social interactions and situations. Often having the fear of being criticized, judged or closely watched, people with social anxiety tend to avoid social communication, especially outside of the world of anonymity offered through online services.” (https://www.learning-mind.com/social-anxiety-disorder/). If so … how can social media help curtail these disorders thoughts, not make worse, these conditions, that are already pre-existing, this I think is a big concern. People who are not heavily interacting in person, but interact online heavily, and have social anxiety, usually people who should be social online, should have knowledge or experience being social in real life, and able to therefore adjust online well. That would only make sense in the long run. Therefore its best to practice these skills in real life, and not run the risk of losing these positive life skills, with too much online interaction and not enough in person interaction, this may worsen this condition. Writing is one thing, and trauma therapy is another, and blogging is one thing, but interaction, social interaction, seems to be vital a key component to normalcy. Don’t Be Easily Offended by Others by Leslie A. Fischman 02-01-18 Don’t be so easily offended by others, always reminding yourself that its not about you, not everything rarely ever is, or ever if is about you, unless you make it so. When you call attention to yourself, expect others to listen and comment about you, when you are yourself, and in good spirits then have no fear about what people say or think about you, it is when you are not well or not in good spirits that you should worry about what others think of you. No one is ever plotting against you in life, that’s always in your head, people have their own lives and their own sets of problems, and to dos, rarely do people have time to go out of their way to make a mess of another’s life or cause hardship to another’s life, or cause or instill fear upon another, that’s always most likely in your head. A product of your own thoughts about others about you, usually due to insecurities, or lack of self-confidence, or maybe just not being busy enough, not feeling accomplished in life, with or without jobs, sometimes these conditions do not change, and we cannot change the way we are. Some people are worriers, some people do not worry, regardless, accept all. It Takes a Long Time to Know Yourself by Leslie A. Fischman 02-01-18 It takes a long time to know yourself, especially when questioned by others. Constant questioning by others affects your decision making skills. One should always be sound of mind and heart in order to make good decisions in life. People can help guide you, but you are in change or your own progress in life. Never make things more difficult for yourself than necessary. You usually make things worse when you stop trying and you stop doing your best in life. Why its important to always be diligent, determined, follow up, and show up, those are key to successes in life, being there for others, and being present. Presence is everything key to happiness. And when you yourself are happy then you too can enjoy life, and be happy too, and get back in life, what life has to offer back to you, when you are good. Chapter 62: You Can’t Go Backwards by Leslie A. Fischman
02-01-18 Never allow others to run conversations making things about you, regarding topics or anecdotes that do not regard your character traits, that only causes your head to hurt, in defense to, a waste of energy, per conversation to, and cause for hurt and mental anguish. Do not run misinformation on individuals to cause hardship or otherwise mischaracterize people to look bad to insinuate hardship to their minds or redirect their thoughts to defenses or redirect their thoughts toward explanations suited toward your judgments or interpretations of them if so state those judgments or interpretations yourself need not be stated by me to be heard or understood or clarified or used for good or proper judgment of my good character traits or person. Always be thankful for your blessings in life, and count them twice. There are many pains in life far graver than minor losses you incur socially, romantically, or financially. Always keep things in perspective. Health comes first, think about others. Life is precious. You only have one life to live, so appreciate everyone around you enough to do your best at all times and never give up, whether or not you are the weakest link is no excuse to cause trouble in your life or the lives of others misuse drugs or alcohol as a coping mechanism that just makes matters worse so does anything in excess. Take everything in life with a grain of salt life is best lived light on your feet light heartedly for the moment. Not in regret not bottled up not in the past not in resentment but with appreciation and pride. There are different types of understandings: General and Specific. Depending on what you know about others. What you know you apply to the facts and then analyze based upon that information make deductions. Never assume one is bad just because you think part of what you think about someone is bad force combinations of information to exist come into play to sabotage or increase likelihood of negative outlooks for interpretation of that individuals life so that you feel better than feel right and the other looks bad that's not a justified rallied effort against another that's too much teaming up on another to construct a viewpoint thought balanced justified to draw a label. Be careful when telling your story or the story of others, how it gets repeated in application via analysis through understanding of the present unknown or inapplicable by those without information or resources to apply that information with have proper bases for comparison for use of that information. There is a risk of misapplication of information in that event of misuse of story telling, that's a risk of purposeful conduct to illicit repeated story to curtail an idea through the voice of the story teller not reflecting accurately the sayers best interests. You can't go backwards in life you can only move forwards. Life is much about making mistakes as it is about learning lessons, you live and you learn. You will never know unless you try. What goes up must not necessarily come down, only if you allow circumstances to boot. There is always time to regroup in life and make amends nothing is permanent. Damages unforeseen are incapable of misplaced guilt, or displaced hatred for others. If it's to hate hate those who are bad if it's to love love those who are good if it's to envy envy those who are well these are choices we make and so be it not God's will upon us, but political errors we make, in life none to blame upon others or run risk of blame upon others. You're not always going to hear what you want to hear or need to hear in life in order to feel better. They say "you can't always get what you want." That is true. There's a reason for that. With expectation comes disappointment. When you set yourself up with expectation, when you do not measure up, those losses incurred weigh you down in life and you feel bad about yourself and when that occurs, you are hard on yourself or others are hard on you for not being successful. Successes in life are by achievement and by goal setting not by expectations expectations are by onlookers you should always do your best when you do your best you won't have to worry about expectations or what people think that's the key to happiness. Not everyone will be happy with you in life. It's not your job to please everyone. Don't expect people to say what you think they're going to say as an accurate or good indicator of what is right or wrong in your mind as what's necessary be said or expected be said following expectation of words spoken do not insult the minds of writers by criticism one should always be respectful of others that's common courtesy. When your heart breaks your World falls apart and that's a normal feeling you cry you get over it. You have to keep going in life be task oriented keep busy and always keep setting goals for yourself, so that you continue to recover, that's depression. Everyone has their moods in life to each his own always be respectful of the time and attention of others in your life. You can be anything you want to be in life without getting frustrated with yourself or others, you cannot control what people think or what they do to try and cause you harm in life or hurt your head to then cause you to harm yourself to make you look like you are mentally ill that's called emotional and mental abuse and intolerable. Never put up with the emotional abuses of others where your best interests are not at heart and only to make you look bad. You absolutely can't fake it until you make it. There's really no truth to that. When you lie to yourself you only set yourself up for self-sabatoge and failure. You cannot fool others into thinking you're something you are not you can only be yourself as best you can. It's always okay to share ideas and do your best to protect the foundations from which those ideas come from that's called leaving room for interpretation and use not being controlling and minimizing risk of error by being too controlling which causes nervousness under these heightened conditions when it's best for others to make decisions at their own will not by requirement or peer pressure. Fear is caused by assuming others are making false assumptions about you and casting you under a negative false light and that that false light is the cause of mental disturbances toward you or distrust or embarrassment. Don't try so hard to go backwards to undo hardships that don't exist presently you only make your life more difficult for yourself the more you try to fix. You cannot fix others. You can only fix yourself. You can best be there for others, you cannot change people, only yourself. These are constant dilemmas faced when you care about someone who matters to you who you have conflicting emotions about not sure about whether deserving of trust or your time and attention of risk of disappointment never be disappointed by those who care well for themselves it's by your own disappointments and judgments not others where that feeling of uneasiness comes from if so read something else, we are not all perfect but we all do our best to be loved. Stability takes time within self always have faith that better days are ahead of you stay put. Chapter 61: Learning to Love by Leslie A. Fischman
02-01-18 There's a lot to learn in life about love. You have to respect yourself in order to be respected by others and in order for others to be well respected the ones they love must be respected and admired too otherwise must be discredited. It's called putting one on a pedestal. Some are put on pedestals in life and some are not it depends on who you are and who you are not. When you are well off and doing well for yourself and representing yourself and others well then you are best suited to care for and represent others well too. That's how representations are made and assigned. Love takes time and adjustment. There are a lot of requirements necessary in order to love someone: give and receive love and be valued back. It's not easy. Not all are welcomed, many are rejected, it's a first come first serve basis, the best are chosen first, and secondly the rest when it comes to dating the best that life has to offer, or so it seems. You just have to be patient with yourself and not pass yourself around, timing is everything it's important to preserve yourself and be chaste, that gives meaning to self and added value to the time you put forth toward the time spent on your career and on your journey in life. Everything you do in life is a reflection of your care and consideration for yourself and others, how well you take care of yourself, will communicate to your future partner how well you are capable of caring for them, and that is how one is picked in life or not or friended based upon wellness. There's a lot of pressure for support in life. There's a lot of pressure of traits and character traits in life. There's a lot of pressure period in life. Character traits and influences in life are based upon experiences in life by learning experiences what you know. What you know affects how you respond. How you respond is based upon what you know. What you know is based upon what you learn. Life is not lived by mimicry. That's not how life is lived. Life is not lived by imitation that's not how life is lived. Life is lived by how life is known by what is known by how one is. That is how one lives. Not to imitate. To imitate is to insult. People pleasers never insult, as insult causes pain to a people pleaser who's goal is always to please all. |
AuthorLeslie A. Fischman Please Note: I have finished writing the first draft of my first book, still editing Ch 13-25, my goal is to publish my book 2020 after I graduate, working on myself right now.
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