Warning: Fighting Online is hazardous to your health, arguing about events that occurred in the past that caused either you or another harm either then or presently by rehashing can either (1) make present circumstances worse (2) affect positive outcomes to come to fruition (3) exacerbate an already fragile set of circumstances (4) improve circumstances only for one party but not both in your favor or in the favor of your opposition (5) resolve an otherwise dysfunctional set of circumstances by clear statement of the issues which would not otherwise be known without shedding light on the cause for negative outcomes or recurring harm to oneself or others (6) why I dont fight online but share stories about life and lessons Ive learned and what bothers me what makes me tick and how I think through a problem or a set of emotions I cant handle on my own and need to put it in writing in order for that issue affecting me or others to be resolved (7) learned to follow my heart and write based on how Im feeling not based on how another is making me feel that is important for avoiding conversation that deflects blame or identifies causes for problems misfortune hardship failure or negative outcomes and requires accepting all emotions felt as a product of the choices and decisions I make in life and what I choose to focus on in life or thoughts I have about life means accepting that Im a product of what I put in myself and therefore responsible for the words and thoughts that come out of my head in writing if within my control than when I fall off path and do not do a good job representing myself or presenting myself and freak out or get embarrassed I have no one to blame but myself includes accepting the consequences of misrepresenting myself, relationships lost, trust built and broken, and lowered self esteem from being defensive instead of private, I need to change only what I think and do a better job of how I respond rather than respond to change the way another sees me is draining, but well worth the explanation and clearing the air being free from future harm unless I put myself in a position to be harmed.
Im sorry that your Father passed away. Sounds like your going through a difficult time. Im sorry I was not uplifting, and too hard on you for making a pass at me, it affects me in that then I have to tell my boyfriend and he gets turned off, so it makes my life more difficult when Im not trusted, why I cannot be friends with men or homies anymore, I prefer to be trusted without a doubt not questioned, why I was uncomfortable. Hope you are doing well and found a girlfriend :) Take Care.