You never know for what dispositions others falter, or lose esteem. You have to be patient with others, as they grow, learn, and come to know themselves. Everyone grows at different paces in life. We are not all strong, we are only human. Its important to understand the temperature of your surroundings. How to best behave and know and recognize patterns. Its not always obvious. How and for what reasons disturbances occur during times of peace. We have to just be happy for others, and allow others to shine for their own happinesses in life. Not make jealous, not make unhappy. There are times in life when we can explore the possibilities and there are other times when we have to just make due with what we have. Not everything is a joke. You have to be thankful and happy for others. Not everything is a manifestation or reaction based upon insecurities. Some of us are secure with ourselves but made insecure by others. Thats not how to make strong one another, by secrets or by pleasure, to one another pitfalls, happinesses, or unhappy adventures in life. Thats not how to make happy oneself by making fun of another's quiet life, and then amplifying that life to make certain is for reasons other than for good reasons. Thats not how to treat people, by putting them in a defensive position, made to look ill or bipolar. Thats not how to treat people, as pawns or to make them make you look smarter or better than. Thats not how to make strong others. By preying upon their weaknesses, thats not how to make strong others. It doesn't work that way, thats not how to empower others during times of need, by making them feel small or less than, thats not how you treat someone with an inferiority complex i.e. easily intimidated by others.