The only person you should be competing against in life when it comes to wellness is yourself. Its at that point, of not feeling well, that you have to put your best interests first, making your own wellness a priority, irrespective of how well others are doing around you, sounds selfish, but in the immediate, comparing yourself to others wellness, will only make you feel worse off, or by recognizing what is not going right for you in life, feeling less than others wellness wise. Do not compare your worst to the best versions of others, everyone reaches their point of normalcy at their own paces in life, we are not all together perfect at all times, everyone struggles. Just do your best, to blend in, whether that’s functioning in public normally, or speaking to others without bringing them down, that’s the best way to be cognizant of the health of others, not affect them by your downs in life, even if in the immediate you cannot comprehend recognizable comparisons others viewing you may see. That’s not your responsibility to control what others think, or to be judged by others, based upon the progress you have made, be seen as someone who is behind in life, or could’ve achieved more, had they been more focused, everyone is on their own timing in life, and on that note sometimes your timing is not to the best timing of others, that you have to let go of, that’s when forgiveness kicks in and you move forward in life, we may not all be here forever, but that doesn’t mean don’t value and appreciate those around you in your life, while everyone is still here, I’m glad that for the most part, we have found better ways of coping with losses, and not losing ourselves over those losses in life. Its okay to feel sad, its okay to feel embarrassed, its okay to feel down, its okay to feel defeated, its okay to feel depressed, its okay to think that everyone is judging you, its okay for you to be judging others, its okay to add humor to your life, its okay to smile, its okay to laugh, its okay to try to fit in, its okay to pay attention to trends, its okay to make mistakes, its okay to love others, its okay to lose friends, its okay to leave jobs, its okay to find new jobs, its okay to maintain contacts, its okay to have friends, its okay to share in public your feelings, its okay to change, its okay to grow, its okay to notice patterns, its okay to have delusions, its okay to freak out, its okay to see things wrong, its okay to be wrong, and its okay to question yourself sometimes, we don’t always have the right answers to our problems, and that’s okay, whats most important is learning how to deal with your symptoms, and get the help that you need so that your symptoms don’t worsen, that’s the main point. The longer you leave things off to resolve themselves, the harder it becomes to start managing those issues one by one, as you try to get better, and overcome those setbacks or difficulties in life, that’s what hardships are all about, learning when to stop moving backwards and when to move forwards, when to forgive, when to let go, and when the silent treatment becomes unbearable, when to rise above, you cant always measure your own self-worth based upon how others feel about you, then you’d spend the majority of your time waiting for acceptances from others, to feel whole, or to feel apart of, its okay to live life, and allow life to catch up to you, its not necessary to catch up with everyone, or to have people in your life, right now, to feel needed or of value, one should value themselves, before needing to be valued by others, that’s not a right, to be valued by others, and if you are feeling lost that’s not the time to test your value in life.
"God helps those who help themselves" quoting my Dad.