A key characteristic of people trying to harm you, are people who begin with a conclusion and then do everything they can to create circumstances to justify the conclusion they have come to. When what they create and when what they say does not add up to the conclusion they seek, is when they become frustrated and when they become hostile toward the one they seek to dismember or otherwise render insignificant, troublesome, or of harm to anyone, including themselves. Those with mental illness face stigma. That is understood, I am not mentally ill. I have been caused to become mentally ill because people are trying to say I am mentally ill and because I am mentally ill that is why I am threatened by them. No I am threatened by this person because they hit on my boyfriend. Its been 4 years, get over it, no one cares, no one has been harmed, and no one cares what you do or who you date or what you are doing in your life so long as you are happy and able to move forward, that does not mean attack me and hurt me because you cannot move forward from a situation that you are being defensive about, no one said you were wrong, these things happen, just move forward.