Never obligate yourself to become concerned with matters to which do not affect you or have no affect upon you to then be affected by things that don’t matter. What concerns us are things that matter to us and what matters to us is up to each individual by likes to determine for themselves, there is no correct order for the choosing and the liking of public options in life, to be liked or unliked, is a determination set by your characteristics which you exhibit in public spaces determined by the level of confidence and output you produce when in public settings, your personal performances in life, in the end determine the level of success you are able to achieve in life. These things are not certain, not all together fitting for any one person in any one given trade or profession, but ability is achieved by disciplined and thorough study of self, knowledge of weakness and strengths that upon which one learns and moves forward in life, that is how we grow, that is how one grows, that is how one achieves, that is how one matures.
Obsessions are a manifestation of weakness that we endure when not made strong, when we think we need to be something we are not, or that someone has something that we do not, never obsess over others as that is bad omen to your sense of self, self-esteem, and personal development. Be whole.