The less you put yourself down in life, the less you give way for others, to take it upon themselves to explain your discomforts in life, or even worse argue that there was always something about you, that they knew was special about you, and thought that that something special about you meant “a secret” and if a secret, that concerned your sexuality, gender, identity, mental health, wants, cares, or needs in life, in such a derogatory sense, no one should ever be sized up in life, based upon how they identify, who with, and whether by who they identify with give reasonable cause to judge someone, as having some kind of deficit, which is later related or fruit for relation as to: (1) causes (2) when (3) and for how long was it known. To me “gay” is a sexual attraction to the same gender as oneself, occurring upon the exposure of your body or upon the exposure of another persons body to your eyes, which you can readily identify as being translated within to some kind of sexual need, or inferiority as to a quality or trait you are lacking, and by being attracted to the same sex, want to be closer to that person in the same way you have desired to be close to a man youre whole life, that’s gay to me, as identified to me. Its not a fun identity, once it gets disclosed and “when disclosed” as being about you (and thought deserved), because others think that they are doing you a service in life by coming out for you, as though you need help or any favors in life, as they have identified something about you, that you have not even thought about yet, especially since you have only had boyfriends. Not only does that do someone a disservice in life, to identify a persons sexuality for them, but you interfere with their choice in life, to identify themselves as they want to be identified and to whom they wish to be identified with, and for what types of attractions they seek to attract in life, for sexual pleasure be judged, as being labeled “gay” that a girly name for a company was chosen to attract women, as though you do not identify as girly yourself having been a law student and meticulous notetaker margin writer and highlight and underlined passages in your textbooks. How insulting. And to view your stats as whether accomplishing your goal to (1) fit in or (2) attract and by what you are attracting argue, that its by what you attract that you are given choices in life, and that its purposeful, the gifts you are given in life. Well if I was not born, then I would not have choices in life, and I have chosen to be straight, absent minded any confusions along the way, and by what causes for attraction occurred along the way, to negate any later argument, that gay is some kind of defense to jealously, as though one has a quality about them, they seek to negate in addition to blaming women for any other women becoming confused or attracted to them, as though I am not attractive myself, a woman, and as though feelings going both ways, can run the risk of normal misinterpretation. And that that type of misinterpretation occurs, after a “gay” judgment of you has been made.
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