Your motivations in life should never be self-serving, unless to improve upon your best. Always put the needs of others before your own, is how I was raised. To come second to the needs of those around you, not to be selfish. With addictions, you are told that because of selfish reasons, you have turned to drugs or alcohol as a means for coping, sometimes we are responsible for that suffering that caused us to drink or do drugs and some times we are not responsible for that suffering. The longer you get left behind in life, the sooner you should move on dating wise, that’s the trick to now allowing others to convince people by your personal history that you are the defective one or that there was something wrong with you why a relationship did not work out. People from your past should mostly be supportive of you and if they are not, then move on in life, don’t allow others to allow you to get left behind in life, convinced otherwise that you are not deserving of being well and doing well in life too. Whenever there is discussion about relationships, are the hardest talks for me, self-harm wise, easily empathizing with both sides, the sides of my ex, as well as being defensive to my own mental health needs to be alone, or to be able to move forward in life not be brought down by tertiary issues, as to why a match was not perfect, I was raised to believe that you will always find better in life, and whether or not you deserve better in life, is the argument, is whats up for debate, I think the healthier you are the better matches you find in life, and the less well you are, well that’s when you wont always match up and need to be alone to better yourself, so that you can eventually match with someone one day. Be careful not to go backwards in life, as that ignites argument to your health, neve take a beating for your own illnesses in life, that’s not the job of others to criticize your wellness or question you, if you are doing everything you can to stay well, and on good merits succeed in life, life is not easy, not easy to work, work from home, manage your health, stay on meds, go to therapy, and prove them wrong, how I was raised. Do not let others belittle you or be critical of you, everyone has their own sadness and unhappiness’s in life, just do your best to blend in and not be a fire starter or get put down.
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