You can provide so much information and do your best and still not be good enough. Sometimes people don’t know when to stop when they’re feeling good or on to something, that’s a good time to remind yourself of your values and whats important to you moving forward, that’s how to be a good decision maker, not by relying on social cues alone, you are in charge of your own settings in life, you cannot blame others when you fall astray, you at the end of the day are responsible for how you react and respond, read, interpret and perceive others as toward or about you, that would be selfish to think that decisions are made based upon your being or sense of self, as worried, as offensive to others. Learn to be accepting of all, its not all about being well liked, but more about being comfortable with yourself, if and until then, it will be difficult to get along well with others. -Don’t waste the time of others.
Its usually the case, that if you bring up issues that have prevented you in the past from achieving in life, they will replay out again in your life, if so don't allow those issues to overpower your ability to stay present. You may assume that likewise others are similarly empowered by your misfortunes in life, but you only do yourself a disservice by reinforcing negative opinions or assumptions about you past, then watch yourself walk through those assumptions proving or disproving those deductions about you in the past, as causes for concern or reason for conditions exhibited, looking for justifiable reasons to reinforce negative judgments or reinforce the processing of negative deductions about people. Steer clear of negativity in the event of any opposition, further reinforcement of any negativity, only drains you of positive energy needed in order to achieve in life and move forward. Its common to get paranoid, once you reach a stopping point, or quiet lull, in a new space, or among new people, its not easy to start a new life for yourself, especially after failure, but if you focus on your imperfections in life, then you only leave room for further self loathing, and reinforcement of negatives existing or not existing past present or future. This is a common way in which sides are created, when a position past is replayed in the present, sometimes the past helps to remind us of what we have done right in life, and sometimes the past hurts, reminding us of what we have not done perfectly in life, and what we are now trying to do a better job of, forgiveness is everything, embarrassment is another, and losses occur, never lose your sense of self, its all apart of life learning to function without having everything in life, and once achieving privileges in life, maintaining positive momentum so that you are well received not burden others as taking a risk by interacting with you, as though they are doing you a favor and at their discretion reject you to see how you respond, either once they feel better, or once they let go, or once they achieve a sense of peace on their own, sometimes, its difficult to achieve a sense of peace on your own, often times with the help of others either directly or by indirect observation of their lives, do we see a clearer path for ourselves, rarely when people who do not get along, cross paths, see anything other than defects, you won’t know until you interact with people, who you mix well with or not, or who carries a prejudgment of you, and gears conversations to reinforce a more knowledgable position as to the issues, as though there is a need to reinforce or carry on a negative conversations about with someone present, and bring out characteristics they deem are undesirable or unpleasant, or a turn off. Anyone comfortable with themselves, speaks without caring what other people think, that is an attractive quality because that demonstrates confidence, and confidence reflects someone who is sure of themselves, a good decision maker.
Don’t empower people at the expense of others, who are not well, end up worse off, as disconnected, proven deserved. That occurs upon communication through people to others, to get any communication across, no parts understood separately, as connected to previous statements, stand as argument toward in justification of responses, post disclosure of insult, no insults thereafter, pester nor affect the listener, as they are quiet, once an opinion is voiced, quiet follows, also known as a disability, or inability to speak, thats not difficulty or a reflection of a failed interaction or unwanted connection or disfavorable interests to any particular party, favored over the other, it represents, not being the butt of conversation or joke, and that begins where and when it starts, and causes for following, are not a product of the responses generated by others as in conjunction. There are many instances where communications fail, or words misrepresent the process of purpose for which words are spoken, never assume that anyone is speaking to you, or that words are directed toward you, passively, as warning, or test for disruption, to see what is taken personally, what effects, what relates, and what simplifies or creates a likeness to situations to prove if parallels exist then the problem existing under one set of conditions, are likely, occurring in the present, the past is the past, and if one does not understand the purposes for which troubles arose in the past, no troubles created presently communication wise, above, below, or about others to their face and behind their back should matter nor affect a persons output, behavior, or present itself as descriptive of their present condition, as affected presently, as resulting in the same set of consequences for them, thats picking apart a person, to understand a problem, and by simple focus on problems, if when trying to understand others, what they are thinking is negative of you based upon how you speak or what you write, then they are focused on the problems as stated, with privacy, if another problem occurs that they do not know about, then they are only responsible for the problems resulting from their miscommunications above, below, or toward you indirectly or as assumed understood. If telepathy existed then you could blame the thoughts of others, as affecting your current behavior or communication skills as resulting from their miscommunications toward you, about you, below, or above you. But that simply is not a justifiable excuse for having thoughts, positive or negative about others, be careful never to assume that one who is not well spoken is negative toward any one person or set of people, or a product of feelings of being above others, most instances of intimidation occur when we are not sure of ourselves, misguided through conversation by others, and then after the conversation looking back put things together, as purposefully directed toward you or not, learn to let things go, everyone is new upon meeting, and first impressions are everything, be careful never to assume, that any communications are when grouped intended to befuddle or belittle you, you know what you know and by what you know you understand, with or without help or acceptance from others, as understood, know your part, and by what you do so logically understand as representing any set of communications, do not assume as related to your own experiences are about you, or in communication to what you write about online. Everyone is different, thats the bottom line, we all have our moods, and preferences in life, sometimes feeling closer to people, and sometimes feeling at a distance from the present, thats a matter of focus and choice, and by my standards of normal, requires medication to effectively communicate with others, without running the risk of insulting them by assumption. No one wants to be the negative one who everyone goes out of their way to accommodate, what causes people to snap of commit suicide is much to do with misunderstanding i.e. my suicide attempt 2009, than it is about other people or how they communicate in written or spoken form, if you are you and others are themselves, than no manipulations of your character to bond or make closer you to themselves or vice versa should affect your sense of person or abilities in life, if by choice you choose to listen and allow others issue within themselves to affect your best judgments of them, why they tell you never to take anything personally, as time goes on, nothing post argument ever reflects positively of a person or their ability to communicate everything comes across as verbose and intended to likewise justify current emotions, if not neutral than taken personally, if not affected then compassion has obviously been shown, and in jest, a likewise sense of frustration about the individual to whom compassion is given, by and from the person to whom acceptance is waited upon, if nothing feels right, then check your best instincts not be cued by statements made by others, when a fight is created its by the placer of emotions, to whom responses are by choice illustrated, and based upon those illustrations of emotions or effects, you are judged presently irrespective of the past, the present, or what is said above or below you, you then separate yourself by choice, not by the statements of communications made by others, how to maintain under pressure of assumptions, its hard work.
Topic - Dumping Problems on People #righttoprivacy - Unwanted doctoring and diagnoses, why we have right to privacy, then people judge you based upon the meds you take, not accept you as normal as on meds, given that your on meds, get judged as slower than, at a different disposition in life, not the same as others, everyone runs at their own pace in life, its not about energy projected out in the open that shows whether someone has energy or not, we all express ourselves in different ways, hyper or not, well or not, but never as directed toward others, are feelings expressed, thats an unwanted reading of someone, and thats an unwanted projection of interests upon someone to create or share in a way that suffices a position other than the position from which a person writes, getting someone to articulate what is done to them, without allowing the person who is affected to be able to share in a coherent way, how they feel, not as related to others, or per interaction, but upon whats missing, a tertiary issue, related to organization of oneself, don’t assume that you know everything about a person based upon what they share about themselves, think you know someone better than they know themselves, or treat someone as readable based upon what they share in writing, its always to the beneficial interest of the reader, writing is a very draining and disempowering experience, by professionals, writing is written, that is because with experience as a writer grows, so does their ability to share, and understand what content, is appreciated, and what content benefits themselves and others, not just one side or the other, thats called achieving a balanced opinion, not get into the politics of thought processes, as about things that are not spoken, vague or ambiguous as to the foundation from which content is written is always written (breaking character) from my position in life, not from the position from others, from what I think is best to be said, not what causes further controversy or hardship on others, which is fighting, fighting is never justifiable, and to argue that someone’s (my) pre-existing conditions are due to outside circumstances, would be blaming those to whom help is received as though they are the cause for current turmoil or hardship experienced in the first person, as through my writing, thats called reading defensively, and as a result of reading defensively, setting up the writer to write in response to your defenses, and then further separating the issues, as circumscribed around the responder, and making the readers (tertiary) feel bad, as having read, and then interpreting what the issues are, themselves, or the writer, its always the writer who is responsible for the content written, however the writer is never responsible for the thoughts driven by others toward the content that is written, as assumed about them, or as applied to them, works, for the most part, I have written this way my whole life, not as by reading others or by my experiences with others, but by what is thought not as by reading others, but as by reading myself, and my ability to adapt to others, not overreact or respond to others in ways in which I have experienced others reacting and responding in the past, relive those experiences presently, as with others, and then as articulated get treated and responded to in a way that builds a side for others, further separating someone from being understood, as explained … benefiting the reader, not the writer, and leaving everyone in a state of wonder.
How people are affected, what affects a writer, the content. Sensitivity required for writers, not to get under their skin to be written about or read, thats cause for unwanted reading of persons, not to be read or written about, thats purposeful an abuse, to be thought about, and responded to. What is a reading, not of people, or particulars, but of energy, not personalities, or reading into a persons psyche, or by digesting the emotions of others, is a reading made, but with forethought always as to the consequences for words shared, always a degree of sensitivity is applied, whenever a discussion is lead as to thoughts, not to undermine others, who by reading, read into the thoughts of yours, the readers privilege, not the writers, to see the big picture, as applied. Looking for outside of a person, and by application to people in their lives, assumptions are made as to content, as being about them, always keep things general as a writer, how to be most relatable, whenever words are shared to make sense, need not be in tone with a theme other than the words shared, but in theme with the content of the discussion, not bringing in outside references required to understand the contents of any conversation, that would be sending information overhead, or sending everything overhead, and by word dropping, send messages to as understood by words, not by overall content of the discussion had. Be careful not to insult others, as to your discussions or shared thoughts through writing, which can be misunderstood as about people, or in reference to people or subjects, known by the readers, but not to the writer, who is on stage so to speak, reading and listening for audience reactions within our heads, not sending information overhead, and being as clear as possible, not vague and abstract so as to lead to conclusions, or to cause a fog that hurts in the transcription of deductions drawn form the writing, or from the thoughts shared, a further abstract that would be purposefully misguiding thoughts toward confusion, not a popular style of writing, but a type of prose, not conducive for supporting seriousness required for language shared, which is to be comprehensible, not outside of comprehension toward graver confusion of the issues, or thoughts had, not about people, or because people are in their life, but because the thoughts come across, some shared, some not, but all thoughts shared, are relevant, as to conditions present, and to help or assist people in their own lives, adjust their settings to meet the needs of others, at this time, why I write.
A lot of work goes into campaigning for anything you believe in, less is more, and its important to always simplify. Its easy to get caught up in argument, don’t overwhelm yourself trying to make a difference in the world, its all about staying connected, negotiation skills are not required. The more you care, the more you are affected by end results, if they do not fit with your belief systems, be forgiving, if the end results do not match your goals, try harder … never give up. -Why did you get involved with @bradybuzz? I grew up best friends with Sydney Simpson and while her Father was in jail, I decided to stay in Law School, wanting to do more to help others, besides picking her and Arnelle up from the airport to visit their Dad who was in jail for a gun, a ring, and memorabilia. I decided to go to Law School 2006, taking my first LSAT before any of this happened. Its important never to assume the reasons for people making committments in life, as having anything to do with whats gone wrong, its mostly because we want to live a good life outside of controversy that we make decisions for ourselves, not to step directly into any controversy. Rarely are we rewarded for such endeavors, motivated by interests other than our own, make sure to always do whats in your best interests, not do for others what they would not do for you if you were in the same shoes in life. Everyone is there for you at the top, but few are there for you when you are at your bottom in life. Let this be a lesson, in positivity … the more you seek accolade the less you receive credit for work completed … there is still much work to be done, it never ends, advocacy, its something to work towards every day, doing what is in the best interests of yourself, and those in need, don’t be easily misguided by the selfish decisions made by others, to benefit themselves, you’re likely to get caught up in the wrong arguments in life, and pushed further away from your purpose in life, taken off course. *I was hospitalized for 112 days while in Law School, this is a difficult subject for me, staying sober is the best decision I have ever made in my life, and I hope to continue to make positive progress and graduate from Law School, complete my Dissertation for an LLM Masters in Law studying Risk Management and Compliance. It’s important never to blame others for your hardships in life, and to always be thankful for your life and life experiences, without whom, we would not be where we are today, popular, well liked, well adjusted, and achieved, in the face of any controversy, always do your best, you’ll thank yourself later for it, fighting is rarely the best response for us, and usually puts us in a position of adversity, consequences we have to overcome, making our lives more difficult. Never make your life more difficult than it needs to be, and always continue to move forward.
Never underestimate the power of forgiveness. We all make mistakes in life … life is not perfect, nor are we. When you finally get outside of your head, and the head of others, you enter a space called focus. Its a wonderful place to be, without worry, making a productive use of your time, not watching the minutes and hours go by, thinking about life, especially the past. Its hard to live life, thinking about what you couldve shouldve done better, if you aren’t happy with who you are now, well you have no other options, you only have yourself. People will be more accepting of you the less you complain, complaining rarely gets you far in life, usually ends up in argument, with one or the other feeling better or bigger than, what a waste of energy trying to convince someone of something, you believe and need the other to believe in order to feel better, less is more, sometimes, saying less is better than saying too much. You create more options for yourself in life, not the less you care, but the more care you demonstrate through your actions, always be a person of your word.
You can’t undo the past but you can certainly move forward. No one ever intends to hurt ones feelings, whether we know whats wrong with someone, acceptance is key. When we accept people for who they are thats how best to get to know someone. Living for the moment to me, is about doing the work, and watching the work get done. Similarly, relationships are about the same. Seeing an Ex from 6 years ago, a DA, I realized a lot, what I left behind, compared to where I am now moving forward. He’s moving to Texas … You have to let go, in order to move forward … easier said than done. Whenever we learn something new about ourselves, it usually hurts. Not just to know, how useless fighting is, but especially fighting in the past moving forward, in retrospect what we see now, should usually be thought of in the positive the past. You cannot undo harm, once it occurs you just have to move forward, whether or not our feelings are hurt, if we return to the same place, chances are you are bound to get hurt again under the same or similar circumstances. Where to now? If you can’t see your future, that doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you, it just means that you’re not psychic. Its just that you’re either doing something wrong now, or means you’re not where you want to be in life. Its through accomplishment, that we find a better road for ourselves in life. You get your power back, not by trying to reconcile the past, or by making amends with what hurts, but by being strong and in the now. The better you can see yourself as you are now, the better off you’ll be moving forward. Things happen that way, one good thing to the next. Thats empowerment, not just believing in yourself and others, but always seeing the good in others, and in doing so, good will follow. If you accept yourself as you are, and not easily fixed, finagled, and tormented by others, then you will too feel the same as everyone else around you well. If you don’t give yourself time to repair, you’ll never know what well is. It’s something everyone lives with regret, and not being perfect. That doesn’t mean stop what you’re doing and change yourself, to meet the needs of others, it just means being yourself, and owning it, while accommodating the best interests of others, thats how to be well liked, at peace with yourself, once you find peace from within, your options become less than few, but with a greater likelihood of overcoming whatever setbacks get thrown your way. Good luck!
I just finished running for 45 x 3x = 2hrs 15 mins. I wasn’t quite sure what David Cay Johnston meant when he said good luck with your dissertation and defense, certainly not buy $300 purple headphones from mac … I didn’t have a car for a year. I just drank ¼ bottle of vodka and ran for 2 hrs and 15 mins, should’ve taken the breathalyzer, but its one selfie too late, “we saw a light” ya that was me crying rejected, driving home after 3 drinks sent to a bar by another bar I sang at after getting F’d in my car, walked to my car, and chatted two for awhile about life. Its doesn’t matter at this point, I drive a ford focus now, no one is on my team in life, now its time to find a purpose to live life … no excuses about it, I’m only 33 and ready to go, why? I love myself, but its love from others that is not certain, that is not unique to me, it doesn’t matter where you come from, we all shout things, before making bad decisions, that doesn’t necessarily mean that we are in the wrong, or with the intent of doing wrong in life, but left with fewer options than necessary to get by, and forced to look differently to appease others, or to undo the wrongs about others toward us, as justified if we put ourselves up to it. To avoid pleasing the wrong crowds in life, its important not to justify behavior towards by instigating argument towards oneself, when others are cold toward us, just assume that it may be a matter of comfort toward you not judgment, and that’s not your responsibility to reinforce, or later justify as deserved rightfully so. 3 drinks and driving ruined my life … no matter how well off your are in life, you are never well enough to make someone else happy who is not happy with themselves, that’s the lesson to be learned, no matter how good you make them feel it is not your responsibility to make another feel good to feel good or to feel good making someone else feel good, that usually drains and disempowers you in doing so, be wary of momentary instances of happiness, you are your own best friend, you’re soul only leave you if you allow others to control you, its when frozen we are hardest on ourselves, don’t allow others to feel better at your expense, you will always at the time know if its not a match, and if so, don’t let the moment pass, its okay to walk away from moments in life, everything sticks when awake, and when blacked out, those moments too stick, do not respond to the discomforts of others toward you, and at your own expense, react and respond to negativity, when you rise above those feelings of insecurity you are less likely to be judged as less than, and deserve more in life, beyond just simple things as respect and being heard or listened to, but exist for your own good, not live for others, and set ourselves up for disappointment in life, there is more to life than love, and sometimes, doing the right things means living for yourselves to get along best with others, assume that everyone is doing their best to move forward not relive the past.
Communications, received, and voices heard how to interpret communications around you and to an audience -what words are for interpretation, dont assume directed at you a persons story is their own, not belonging to a member of the audience -be respectful of people to whom information is shared to -to be trusted means not to repeat private information out loud -know your boundaries, and dont allow others to test them, by testing for your aptitude everyones listening comprehension is different, higher ordered thinking takes time, not by commentary, thought about, thats not how to connect well with others, giving them something past to think about. -Reading with judgment, versus what the writer is saying, who is reading connect to self not audience, thats not how to write, by communicating whats going on inside of the listeners, the best communications come from within. -One the fighting starts it doesn’t stop, and especially hurts when within the family, I never fight, I report, and if I complain, Im not responded to in the positive, why I just stay quiet and work hard, not try hard socially. -Why it took so long to build the internet maintaining confidentiality - conversations sharing and compliance - how people communicate why when shared, that disempowers the writer how to empower the writer, not via confidence given or stolen without a transfer of confidence how can confidence be achieved. -What causes #selfharm? A combination of voices and incoming negatives from within toward oneself, reinforced by negativity or passivity toward testing for your impulses in life, trying to get under your skin, dont allow people to mess with your psyche thats how you give your power away, do so freely, not take things personally, thats how you let others easily affect you or try to make you feel like them to change your voice or opinion or tone, thats called being manipulated to empower oneself, as toward someone, which afterward gets ignored or denied, as having done so, dont waste your energy engaging with people who do that to you, always be compassionate and understanding assuming that people care for themselves without intent o cause harm to you, that is how to be good judge of character not by allowing others to enable you to harm yourself, that they will never take responsibility for and that creates “burns bridges” not reinforces strengths. Your instincts in life, mean everything, in order to be the best predictor of self, you have to coordinate your own thoughts to the best of your memory, not to the memories of others, about you, what you recall having said past not go by what others say always, sometimes you know best. Trust those who care for others, not just in talking to verbatim.