Whats the difference between being small minded and having a big mind? I woke up thinking the same thing too, and did a little research. According to merriam-webster.com, being small-minded means: “1 : having narrow interests, sympathies, or outlook. 2 : typical of a small-minded person : marked by pettiness, narrowness, or meanness small-minded conduct.”  When you’re small minded you typically have a “narrow perspective [that is] very firm, [or have an] unchangeable opinion on things.”  Being “tolerant of those with different opinions or experiences” therefore requires one to have an “[un]biased view of the world.”  Perhaps what being so-called worldly is about, is that why people travel? So, someone who is worldly is someone “having or showing devotion to the affairs and interests of this world.”  Now that makes sense. Which bring us to what does Big Minded mean? A “big-mind” means something completely different, referring to “the Zen tradition, an awareness of reality that transcends the merely personal or subjective.”  So why are we having this discussion? Because to me, being small minded is a criticism taken of someone who is not viewed as intelligent, who does not speak to the masses, with insights or with the amount of care that demonstrates that they carry a big picture perspective and therefore their interests and what they have to say, will or can or is accommodating the best interests of the whole of people, not just directed to a specific organization of people, or class of people, beneficial to all, I guess would be the goal of blogging, to cater to more interests than just my own. Which leads us to our next question … Why is being small-minded wrong? When it comes to success “successful people tend to approach life with an open mindset” versus someone who is small-minded or narrow minded, does the opposite, with concern only for themselves “at the first sign of disagreement … would rather die than be wrong” whereas someone who is open-minded is “eager to learn and willing to be wrong.”  According to fs.blog, “the ability to change your mind is a superpower,” to them it’s the difference between moving forward and being sent backwards in life . I can agree ... so many times, when I am worried what others think, I hesitate, and upon hesitating erase, or make mistakes in thinking, which wind up leaving me feeling embarrassed in life, it took awhile for me to just let go, and go with the flow, and no matter what is said, allow myself to change naturally throughout the learning process, its hard to get started as a perfectionist, you are constantly questioning yourself, wanting to sound right and if you sound wrong, retract your steps and just feel like giving up completely when there is no window for you to grow, just be patient, I would tell myself now. Ive learned so much through blogging. So why is being small-minded wrong? I just went off on a tangent. Excuse the elaboration. According to quora.com, “unless [a] person has a verified developmental disability … unable to learn … [that its] a choice – of living in [the] dark ages and not knowing anything.”  I guess there is some truth to that, but how and why is that wrong? Isnt that just being sheltered? To me there is nothing wrong with being sheltered, some people just cant handle knowing it all. Okay so here is where it cuts to the chase on wikihow.com, “they often think they’re right and everyone else is wrong. Narrow-minded people can be difficult to deal with in relationships, work settings, and other situations.”  Basically they can be viewed as "toxic." I guess that makes sense, when I think of an addict, who thinks they are not doing anything wrong until it is brought to the attention of others, and in defiance, don’t recognize that they are not well, and hard to get through to or change. So as an overall deduction, I would say that your ability to change and be open determines your likeability and success when it comes to getting along with others, so don’t be small-minded, and instead carry on an attitude in life that is open and perhaps big-minded as suggested by the Zen following, so that you can transcend your happiness outward into the world, and similarly be happy for others, and create environments of trust not conflict.
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