There's a lot to learn in life about love. You have to respect yourself in order to be respected by others and in order for others to be well respected the ones they love must be respected and admired too otherwise must be discredited. It's called putting one on a pedestal. Some are put on pedestals in life and some are not it depends on who you are and who you are not. When you are well off and doing well for yourself and representing yourself and others well then you are best suited to care for and represent others well too. That's how representations are made and assigned.
Love takes time and adjustment. There are a lot of requirements necessary in order to love someone: give and receive love and be valued back. It's not easy. Not all are welcomed, many are rejected, it's a first come first serve basis, the best are chosen first, and secondly the rest when it comes to dating the best that life has to offer, or so it seems. You just have to be patient with yourself and not pass yourself around, timing is everything it's important to preserve yourself and be chaste, that gives meaning to self and added value to the time you put forth toward the time spent on your career and on your journey in life. Everything you do in life is a reflection of your care and consideration for yourself and others, how well you take care of yourself, will communicate to your future partner how well you are capable of caring for them, and that is how one is picked in life or not or friended based upon wellness.
There's a lot of pressure for support in life. There's a lot of pressure of traits and character traits in life. There's a lot of pressure period in life. Character traits and influences in life are based upon experiences in life by learning experiences what you know. What you know affects how you respond. How you respond is based upon what you know. What you know is based upon what you learn. Life is not lived by mimicry. That's not how life is lived. Life is not lived by imitation that's not how life is lived. Life is lived by how life is known by what is known by how one is. That is how one lives. Not to imitate. To imitate is to insult. People pleasers never insult, as insult causes pain to a people pleaser who's goal is always to please all.