Value yourself, the people in your lives, and be thankful for the choices you make in life that bring you to where you are now, life could always be much different had we never tried nor pushed ourselves to do better in life, pace yourself.
Everyone strives for unconditional love and support but we don’t always get that, especially when we focus on what we don’t have instead of what we do have, becoming the bottomless pits we abhor, easily becoming something we are not -bitter. Have no fear, there are few among us perfect even at their best there will always be pain endured throughout the process of achieving in life nothing comes easy -especially if torn our self interests get the best of us taken off course, set back ... finding ourselves starting over again in life instead of where we left off from.
If the minute you feel good you feel bad, think for what purpose are you having a thought then from there correct your thinking, patience is a virtue.
If looking back everything haunts you then do your best to keep yourself from reliving your past. You are never responsible for the mistakes made by others we are all each responsible for our own social graces. Attraction is based upon commonalities not by looks or by empathy (ie feeling like, looking like, similar to, same as, or in conjunction to) it’s by our uniqueness we are liked and loved, don’t allow others to change you to replace you or change you to look better than or adjust as manipulated to the insecurities of others, make things out to be something they’re not. When things don’t work out it’s much to do with you or a difference that stands between that cannot be reversed some irreversible error on the part of any party to a communication from which each one rises as understanding, defensive to, or compassionate toward, it’s your choice always how you respond, don’t take things personally or blame others for your own discomforts in life, if you look bad it’s your own abilities and responses that get judged as well or in the wrong or as related to in reference to communications made, illness is an unsound mind, organized thoughts not people as to thought processes bind, it’s again by a unique viewpoint not an inside perspective that empowers, always maintain your sense of privacy and learn when to say no, not look like you’ve brought problems upon yourself and have everything previous and ongoing in your life be used to justify or reinforce a negative viewpoint of you, testing your ability to be genuine and have meaningful interactions with others ... allow room for growth, always be patient, don’t read into the words of others, and be your own best advisor in life, sometimes things don’t work out, keep going, and never give up.
Everything catches up to you when you’re in the wrong it’s easy to become defensive to cover your tracks in advance to make others feel like you to then look like the bearer of common sense -it’s by intuition and upbringing when left to your own devices not by your history are decisions made but by others passing judgment usually wait upon identified patterns to illustrate whether or not a pattern exists to prove fault previously and currently, that’s by assumption of fault negative judgments as to your good character are made, don’t allow your dispositions in life to be taken on by others trying to help you, that would be doing a disservice to everyone, once it becomes unclear allow people to be themselves you cannot control people or outlook it’s impossible to predict the future by relying on the past, nothing improved can occur if relying on weak character traits to be exhibited to prove right an opinion ... compassion is preferred.
Never let negativity get the best of you ... the more you harp on the negatives worrying to worse off you become moving forward. Life’s much about staying on positive tangents in life, listen but don’t internalize everything, take it with a grain of salt especially criticisms of you.
Allow time to let the dust settle. It’s usually during the lull of not knowing how to respond we assume what the other is thinking or think we know why it’s quiet. Enjoy moments of peace as much as you value clarity, sometimes we undervalue space or silence thinking it means something is wrong, instead think about what’s going right for you in life, not in the reverse manifest unnecessary failures and hardships in life, by fixating on the past, or what’s not being said, sometimes people prefer best to communicate by silence, less is more.
Eventually everything’s gets uncomfortable if you allow negativity to sit and don’t see the positive. That’s taking for granted what you do have in life and choosing to allow that negativity to affect you. Always be in control of your positive outlook in life, don’t allow other people’s issues to affect your sense of being. Never compare yourself to others, and learn how to be happy for others. We may not always be ready to face challenges head on and feel behind in life but you can only make due with what you do have in life not measure yourself by what you don’t have in life. It’s not your responsibility to correct others but it is your responsibility not to imitate what’s gone wrong and take it too far trying to justify what you think has gone wrong, that hurts everyone moving forward, it’s selfish to make yourself look better at the expense of putting someone down you think as deserved, no one deserves to be put down not for their past and certainly not for the inabilities in life to perform to standards under pressure, everyone responds differently to pressure, do what you know best, not enable others to get under your skin or disable you by being experimental with you, that’s not karma that’s focusing too much on what others think and as a result you end up worse off. You are always responsible for your own misthinking not theirs, there’s always room for improvement, never give up, let things go, take care of yourself, be there for others, don’t self harm.
Eventually there’s too much communication as to core issues and subjects, you have to learn how to let things go, and know how to stop, and when to stop confirming with outside parties as to what’s going on within a person, that causes pain. You cannot be close with everyone. It takes time to be yourself especially in any competitive environment. Steer away from psychoanalysis and allow room for growth, sometimes not until it’s too late do people realize what they’ve done wrong.