“If you don’t know me by now” you never will ... is how most relationships feel after the 1-3 year mark ... if you have to question staying or leaving stay, love is more important as a challenge than it is coming to you easily -sometimes what’s best for you are the boundaries, nights alone, and silent treatment it’s not all about you allow your partner their alone time that’s allowable. Do they make your heart sing? ... Well then trust them. Do you feel like you can’t live without them? ... Well then be patient. We wait for the best things that life has to offer ... you won’t always get your way.
Be grateful for systems put in place to help others if we did not have flyers, a website, music, or film we all would not have marched continued to do nothing about people dying: DJs and Public Figures ... its way too much pressure on the inside over a few off beat movies and songs ... never assume entertainment intends to insult reality it’s mostly to help all make sense of reality not to poke fun at people to cause them illness as associates or create experiences for them to share ... be like or incite jealousy or blames by casting them out to look like had I not made a website my opinions would not be known for insult comment or reply because I have a website and wrote 5 books my opinion is valued. I’m finishing my dissertation under the professional guidance of my professor ... and I am excited to graduate from law school this year and work on establishing a career for myself as a writer in tech and entertainment professional working in film distribution. Everything takes time if you’re not on the inside then do not blame those who apply to organizations it’s for supervision not accolade positive attentions not recognition and to help all not further instances of coding for pleasure added humor or to belittle others bully and cause voices or mental illness to those on the inside such as myself to a big story. #witnessprotection #victimblaming #advocacy #righttoprivacy #stopsuicide
Even when no one is looking it’s important to do the right thing. Sometimes what is right causes hardship, sometimes what is right is difficult to achieve, and sometimes there will be no one to guide or direct as to what the right thing to do is. Most of us remain silent, it’s in silence strength is garnered by not having to get involved in the emotions of others. Think what will happen if I don’t say something before speaking nows always a good time to revisit what ails you so just in case others are suffering they don’t have to suffer too with you. Be clear about your purposes in life it’s always with good purpose good is achieved.
Don’t get too emotionally invested in your past it’s what is now that’s important ... you’re likely to get sick in worry about things past that don’t matter now. Think what is relevant to your recovery and maintain positive outlook. Be wary that whenever you go backwards you set yourself back ... be wise you have ample time in life for progress it’s going backwards that’s sometimes a waste of time.
If you can’t win in life don’t fight that’s not how to overcome sadness, self-hate, depresssion, or unhappiness. You usually rebel when you’re not where you want to be in life or by thinking things are about you become defensive. Let the dust settle ... You can’t force life to happen by your thinking ... when you’re not thinking right, that’s usually when you’re putting things together wrong, just stay positive. It’s only when positive ... things pan out for you well in the long run. Positive thinking goes a long way, chances are if you’re uncomfortable by your thinking patterns others are too.
When you leave things up to guessing games much like the overdisclosure of personal information about self versus seeing you professionally in public is likely to make those judgmental of you more judgmental ... anything you say to describe others gets used to describe you and place you in the position of being them as described why only to say good things about others not be too descriptive of self or others judged ... set up for judgment. There’s a difference between good humor, hesitation, confidence, labeling, and being a smart alec, either you know that difference or another being condescending toward you thinks you’re stupid by comparison to others treats you in a position o be judged ... whenever you talk about anyone the side of the other is immediately taken and that comment is redirected toward you ... you only cause your self-harm when talking about others in private or public, that’s reporting to all to fix what’s gone wrong.
Just when you think you have yourself all put together you fall apart. That’s recovery ... knowing when to stop well that’s self-control. Living with mental health issues is something you have to manage daily.
“Never give up on yourself.” Some days will be long you’ll wish for it to be tomorrow but to get anywhere fast takes discipline. Enjoy your moment for now you can’t fast forward to the completion of any goals in life unless your actively working on pursuing those goals presently. Youll be much happier at the end of the day having had worked toward what you want to get done then avoid getting done what needs to get done putting energies elsewhere.
It’s important not to revisit subjects once you get well in any direction that causes you harm to go backwards thinking about its best to always move forward value your new condition and not take risks going backwards. Don’t pile on regrets in life and don’t pile on resentments or mistakes in life that’s only turning on yourself. If to return to any places or subjects causes you illness then by all means move forward there will be places you can and cannot go in life and if that’s backwards then so be it.
Be careful not to put blame on others when things are not going right for you in life it’s bound to wind up in argument leaving you to your defenses. Instead own up to your mistakes in life without putting yourself down in the process. You’ll feel much better having come forward with feelings or secrets about yourself you need help with than bottle up and beat yourself up over it. You are you not that your stuck with being yourself but you have to figure out on your own mostly what systems of support work best for you and being alone left to your own devices is sometimes not healthy not to talk about what’s bothering you. You’ll be happy to know once you do share there are plenty of people willing and who care to help.
It’s times like these we reflect on what’s going well and what we could be doing better. Whenever blames are placed upon others, and chaos erupts don’t take things personally, what goes well for one country may not go well for all. Never cease to continue putting systems in place that support those who have been affected.
Always do your best not to overwhelm others with your problems problems are best talked about in the privacy or a therapeutic environment. You can’t solve your problems on social media. You can’t rely on others to chime in when you’re not doing well. Therefore always do your best not to affect the peace of mind of others through the discussion of what’s ailing you.
Live life without regret ... know that you are human we all make mistakes however the fewer mistakes you make the better off you’ll feel. You can’t undo the past you can try to explain it but it’s better to have live a life to the fullest than not lived at all mistakes included. Be proud of who you are, be proud of all your imperfections. Stay grounded.
Take from it what you need and let the rest go. Any situation that winds up uncomfortable means it’s time to leave or separate from that person causing you discomfort. It could be either you or them ... to avoid argument ... especially when people are moody it’s important to take your separate spaces in life. That’s how to correct poor thinking, or attitude, it’s always wise to take a step back.
Whatever the underlying cause is for mental illness know your limits in life pick and choose what to think about and who to think about that’s your choice something you can control. What you can’t control is what people think of you who they think you think about and the underlying causes for your thoughts thinking things are not what you are writing about as applied by them based upon your fundamentals of thought ... if it applies it applies but you cannot force exact application of thoughts to derive the basis from which a thought is had, thinking is not an exact science it’s part choice part influence part education part exposure part environmental ... your brain chemistry is your right to privacy it’s no ones right to pick you apart as well or put you down when up always be in control of your emotions ... it’s by how you respond others will think of you. #stopsuicide
Heavy times do not mean heavy subjects ... in fact when things get stressful outside of your immediate lives the lighter the subjects the better. Most avoid anything too heavy ... it’s not that they’re insensitive it’s just that they’re focused too much on their own lives to care. Don’t draw attentions to yourself unless to contribute positively to what’s around you. As a general rule of thumb if it makes you uncomfortable to discuss out loud what’s bothering you chances are others are bothered too. It’s best to be strong when the times get tough ... everything in moderation.
Addiction it comes and it goes ... when your mind leaves you best wits about you and better decision making skills seem far away remember who cares about you, those lucky enough to return to their old self know clearly who knows best who to trust and where to go in times of fear and disillusionment know that you’re not alone and with proper maintenance and practice of sobriety you too can be among them the well and the present back to your old healthy self. #recovery
Set limits for yourself whether it’s by redirecting your thoughts toward positives, being more disciplined, or setting daily goals come up with an action plan ... the days you fall off beat left to your whims ~ follow your heart, you can journal your way to success always - one of the best ways to tell how you’re doing best to share your thoughts be corrected than keep things to yourself, sometimes you can help yourself other times you need others to help you stay on track never beat yourself up over what you can’t control in life and stay focused on what makes sense. #selfharm
Life isn’t perfect. Love isn’t perfect. But you’re perfect just the way you are! Hope everyone finds that special someone who lights up their life reminds them they are only human and who motivates them toward continued success. Live your life with passion. Be a perfectionist but not to the extent you fall apart trying.
It’s just a bad day not a bad life. Remind yourself you’re worth it you deserve the best. The better you feel the better others around you will feel. Don’t make others uncomfortable at your own expense. You’ll thank yourself later for not bringing anyone else down with you when you fall. If you fall 7 times get back up 8 times, life goes on, get it together now don’t wait until the last minute to move forward in life.
Its never too late to apologize. Sometimes owning up to your own faults is a step in the right direction. They say to “always keep your side of the street clean.” Be thankful for who has been there for you throughout your years in life and don’t expect much from those who have left your life. Everything happens for a reason. Making amends with those who have hurt you can sometimes be a freeing experience not circling back to that vegetative state of depression in bed all day with guilt, not everything’s your fault! Remind yourself “you’re one of the great ones too.