11-06-18 (Update to Now) Introduction
By: Leslie A. Fischman
Living with mental health issues is no easy task, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to handle negativity you just need not respond to it. If I could give out any advice that has helped me move forward it would be not to look back, and focus on putting together your present so that things happen for you in life. I don’t agree that misery loves company, usually when we are not doing well in life we avoid people who are not doing well and look toward those who are achieving for guidance on how to do better in life. Unfortunately I am no good example of that, have struggled with weight my whole life, and have never been the prettiest or the most popular, but always well liked, let alone maintain a relationship to marriage, that I cannot relate to, people who have it all. What hurts the most is people trying to relate to you who do not know you, and then try to be a spokesperson for you, or by talking to others you know, make you feel more isolated in life, that’s breaking connections, and creating wellness around a person, and leaving them worse off, that’s just how I feel. When no one wants you to be happy and when happiness is offensive to others, or they think is weird, for whatever reasons, your happiness is your own, its not your job to make others like you or be happy around you, so long as you are not the cause for their unhappiness, no retaliation upon your own happiness is necessary to make them look better or the caretaker, take care of yourself, and don’t rely on others to be there for you when you are not well, if they are too busy networking with the well. This is reminiscent of familial relationships, sometimes we all get along, and sometimes we fight, but for the most part, everyones best interests are at heart, and that is something people in families can agree upon. You have to learn how to let things go, we are not all perfect, and most of us just try to do well in life, and avoid getting in the way of others, that’s a natural condition, not to do well and prevent others from doing well in life, that’s a waste of energy, being competitive with others, always be yourself, especially when not well my best advice would be to steer away from competition, then you just look possessive and controlling, if you cannot control yourself, don’t expect likewise for people to gravitate toward you as well.