How you communicate in private spaces and in public spaces changes, you are not the same everyday of the week, sometimes we need to be alone sometimes we need to bond and sometimes we can focus, that’s not being condescending toward others that’s being in need of space not in need of others, a sign of independence not a ramifications of codependency, everyone matures at their own rate it’s not by exposure alone to others we grow and mature come to find ourselves find our voice.
It’s true that people don’t appreciate you until your gone. Don’t squeeze people to see what they’re made of good or bad that’s an unnecessary use of force to empower by prediction the wrongdoer, who’s intent whether for good or bad reasons if need proven is called being experimental with you. Don’t wait until it’s too late when left to your own devices fight with the past, that’s always a waste of energy, time, and cause for embarrassment, learn to leave things alone, not rehash the weaknesses of others or expose their vulnerabilities to make people look good or bad, people should represent themselves always and let the best interests of others be represented by good conduct not by exposure to bad traits, highlight the weaknesses of others to see how wrongs occur if they’re in the right or not, let the past be the best and move forward. That’s digging too deep at issues, when there is nothing left to share, enjoy moments of peace and clarity, not hurt people when they’re open, that’s not the time to try new things, be experimental with people as vulnerable or unassuming, that’s how people get blindsided uncomfortable, positions taken in life, as the lesser of the two, not good enough.
When you lose all support in life do your best to make a better person of yourself not rely on others dispositions in life to dictate your direction in life. Some have it all and some have nothing whether or not they are included, made to be ill on their own merits, trust that God knows best, not to manipulate people based upon your experiences in life think you know a person better than they know themselves, only help when needed it’s unnecessary to help those who cannot help themselves, be patient and give people time to grow, apart. Sometimes distance helps, closeness is not required for acceptance, learn to leave people alone, not embarrass them in public by aggravating them when everyone is watching to make them make themselves look stupid. There’s nothing embarrassing about someone who tries hard in life for whatever reasons it’s none of anyone’s business why people try hard.
When you make your first public appearance after going through hardship do your best to be understanding of others mixed positions toward you not all will be accepting of you, some will expect better from you, for whatever reasons that may be, don’t push your limits with people, that sends a bad message to all, makes everyone look bad. Always do your best to consider the best interests of others before your own, whether or not they show care for you, no one deserves to be retaliated upon for leaving relationships, let people go, there’s always room for growth the more people get along than not.
Things may not be perfect but that doesn’t mean stop trying. Never stop working on yourself, everyday is a chance to better yourself -you can never stop learning. Don’t give up at the last minute before allowing much needed change to occur in you life, fall backwards. The more present you are, valuing what you do have, the better off you’ll be.
Whenever you get upset take ownership of your feelings and always stay in control of your emotions. Things won’t get better before they get worse if you don’t let go every once in awhile, change doesn’t happen overnight. Always do your best to prove them wrong, meaning be the best version of yourself and things tend to fall into place, if you allow any negativity to sit for too long things rarely work out in your favor.