When your headed somewhere in life, and you don’t arrive at you ending point, or destination chosen, you have been misguided in life, either by self or by others. This is a normal occurrence and not unique to growing up wealthy or poor, privileged or under privileged in life, with or without connections, but best to be safe upon your travels in life, always prepared with confidence, that usually helps you get through just about any situation in life, without feeling like $hit about yourself when you fail in life, or end up somewhere in life where you don’t belong. A sense of belonging is felt when among like kind, this creates a sense of security among, and from that sense of security trust, and from that trust a bond. Bonding is the retention of some kind of interaction or social connection by words or actions that connect you to another person, that persons feelings and emotions. These connections can be chosen or sometimes forced upon us without choice, those are unwanted connections in life, usually things that make you feel uncomfortable or when inappropriate or appropriateness is in question –you call yourself into question. And when you question yourself, that signals to others that you do not know yourself well enough to know how to behave under pressure, therefore lacking the confidence and worth the level of trust required to rise above the situation present. When your life is in limbo, you make quick decisions, sometimes selfish decisions, and from those decisions you are judged as good or bad, or decisions are made for you on behalf or you about you or to your face, considered a certain way, and before long, or long after, or too late, they realize after the harm has been caused where they have been wrong toward you or others, or not have realized when wrong.