Chapter 41: Focus on the Good by Leslie A. Fischman
When you put others before yourself you automatically show that you care. And by that care in order to best help others you have to care for yourself. No one can make another care for themselves or causes unless they themselves represent someone who cares. Be yourself.
A certain seriousness is required by those in the helping professions. Those who care for others are in trusted positions those trusted positions are not necessarily powerful positions but positions of trust. Those positions of trust are put in positions of trust to best empower others not by the trust given empowered, but must be strong themselves in order to empower others.
Never undervalue yourself in order to make another feel better about themselves. This takes time to realize how to lift someone without you yourself assuming one another's burdens in life but be a rock from which that helps them stand and stay afloat in life those are the best relationships built like support beams.
Anything you build is a reflection of you your values and your esteem. When you have self-esteem you will be able to achieve well centered esteem in the community that is not by people connections necessarily but by your valued connections to your fundamental principles that guide your decision making skills.
You have to be willing to try new things in order to grow, that requires that you learn to let go in order to move forward. A careful balance must be made between intuition here present past and future to be read well is based upon your stability now.
What is new is what you put forward each day the work you produce each day to build new is what sums up and by those parts you will be judged as to what becomes of you your work always represents you best not the work of others in the field of judgments passed, that will never change its always on an individual basis that we are judged.
People will take and use in order to avoid misuse you have to be careful, with how you say what you say that can be used in any order.
Importance is looked upon or at.
Because they're trying to get in your head think they're better than.
When people watching can't see you successful don't want you to achieve that's called stalking + hate. Unwanted attention to hurt.
Successes tack on not to people.
Thou shall not climb. Common sense. That's not how to connect. It causes problems I see connections. You have to make it on your own in life how I've achieved, that's how you get jobs.
The icing on top describes within.
Polarize to good people to direct thoughts toward good directions.
You can't control what people connect interpret looking at you.
Controversy affects earnings. So you have to represent yourself well in order to bypass negativity do well that's how you overcome hate.
What leads to what before is private information the product is what's on top what is wanted.
Intimacy directed need not ingest by the reader for some conservative is needed in times of trauma it's by population helped.
I see intimacy is used. Needs rework. We need new direction.
Competition thinks imitation the world is too small. Think other than self to rehabilitate self from others.
How you communicate order matters as to connectivity.
Read yourself to get to you how to undo when people get to you try to.
Negative tells you somethings wrong that's simple so be good.
What's normal is positive minded.
You should sound like all. How to be well versed relatable kind.
It's all about presentation of self.
Lesson: People will be people you have to accept people as they are they will have their moods not take it personally and let it affect you.
When you become dependent on others that's called unhealthy attachment one should be independent of others to have healthy relationships grow in life.
Why they say to leave things alone.
Tension is based on letting go.
If you don't let go the past predicts the future why you let go to move forward in life - based on what's apart of you will level your successes in life what comes from you will be determined by your merits not the merits of others.
Learn to let go of the past.
Your outlook determines your input. You have to think about all sides of the equation to succeed.
Nervousness is a sign of negativity. Why you need to think positive.
Look around, be you, open minded.
Don't boil down to dichotomies.
Burdens make people feel bad.
Then things will turn out right you have to trust listen well to be right. Listen to trusted to achieve in life.
Give power empower trusted.
What you promote is how you will be judged by your own merits.
We all have retarded moments live like you care about yourself.
Your dark moments are the embarrassing times but you should be put together so why I stay sober. To keep the demons out.
Speak to positives what becomes of you in darkness we wither and wane and fall victim to our demons. That's funny to say but very true.
You should not respond to negatives that causes distrust in self when that occurs you fumble.
Read people not intimately by things they like causes discomfort there's a time and a place per like.
Literal interpretations of people by likes is called passing judgment.
Inside communications help outside communications.
When you don't appreciate what's around you that's how you know you think you're better than. That's never a healthy mind set always see achieve some balanced view.
Only you can ruin your life. Give thanks and do your best always.
When you give in to hate you cave in why they say prove them wrong.
The breaking point is blame. That's how people cave in groups cave in that's dysfunction to society. To lift always think positive opposite.
Never blame others. Take control of your life be a good decision maker that's how to stay on track.
When you have a lot on your plate take your time otherwise you break fall of center that's what I learned.
Pressure on yourself is never the fault of others but your own.
Nobodies perfect just enjoy life. And be thankful for others. #Happy
Perfection helps decrease behavioral health issues. I think.
Your track record defines you errors are by judgments passed whether by your own or by others you just move forward do your best in life you cannot control others. Best you can do is have self-control that is who is respected those who are well behaved behavioral health issues are because of unhappiness with self that's how that happens mistakes.
When you need others that empowers the needed spoken to don't disempower yourself by speaking too much to others.
For problems you discuss in private for solutions discuss anywhere. Your needs are your needs not the needs of others don't be needy. Neediness is a product of trauma. Independence is raised right.
Too much of anything is cause for concern communications especially overwhelm if not needed it's the speaker that is questioned as to need why blogging helped me. Everyone deserves to speak. And get help how to better self. And others by sharing thoughts.
As soon as you say words that can be misread they are taken and dissected to be used against your words past present and future which must then be clarified that is how one explains by becoming defensive to self how you always make better self by focus on bettering ones words shared, is how to achieve your best side in life your side not create a side against you that hurts you.
Blame regret sorrow are all a product of loss deeply felt cannot undo wrongs and causes what words are hurtful that bellow no sentiments sensitive to the needs of those who've lost. We realize much too late too soon we cry and after we hate with anger roar these are patterns of calm how one is made better the opposite.
Instability occurs when you lack a quality that is required for stability success whether it's likeability or money, these are qualities that are at your ability to change about you your responsibility to ensure ability whether by meds or education everyone is capable and if not can be taken care of by the government.
Fighting is a waste of time + energy better spent fixing helping others.
Never speak badly of others that causes one to feel negative then follows paranoia focus on the good.
Esteem is built by stability.
Positive outlook is not serious to comedy but serious to serious then lighten up take self not serious.
My understanding is that others feel torn between who to listen to you should listen to all like likes.
Think about it new people don't understand us at all so be nice. Why we travel to understand others. Higher ordered thinking is not easy to achieve intelligence.
People don't like change just like if your favorite quote is silence is golden if I say different hurts. Sorry I see now. You gotta fit in.
Its hard to be yourself when you are being critical of others. It's hard to see positive think positive when you are critical of yourself. In order to be happy you have to keep going in life not fixate or obsess over any one person or thing, but have balanced viewpoints and perspectives in life.
Focus on those who are good.
When it's tense people hate.
Leslie A. Fischman
Please Note: I have finished writing the first draft of my first book, still editing Ch 5-25, my goal is to publish my book 2020 after I graduate, working on myself right now.