Ch 75: Understanding Your Moods by Leslie A. Fischman
Life is full of highs and lows you just have to be ready for everything always stay balanced. When you get knocked off center the best way to get back on track is to take a step back -assess what's gone on and what you need to do to cope better or deal with what's going on in your life. The more you avoid your problems the worse things get. Always face life's challenges head on don't be afraid to ask for help. It's easy to get stuck in our ways stubborn and not be good listeners in times of need, that's no way to move forward and find resolve. The best way forward is by properly coping with our problems dealing constructively with our problems in a way that does not affect or impact others but can deal with do so privately on our own, not in public spaces. There's a certain risk to expressing yourself in public spaces -when you overexpose yourself you run the risk of either (1) embarrassment (2) embarrassing others (3) discomfort meaning making others uncomfortable or you yourself becoming uncomfortable in public or around others in private or public spaces. It causes mental illness to overexpose oneself and to share ones problems in a group setting be very careful to whom you confide in and make sure always to confide in those who are trustworthy and professional if not hired professionally to help you such as a Doctor or Therapist.
When aggravated don't feed into the negativity that will only bring you down in life. Some are just looking for negative attention don't feed into it. Always focus on yourself. When in love the best way to make it work is to keep busy and to focus on yourself not get jealous over the little things or possessive or paranoid. There's no use being with someone if you can't trust them or if they can't trust you it will never work out you have to be stable in order for any relationship to work out.
Don't wait until it's too late to say how you feel. In the alternative -don't say something and later regret saying what you've said and wish you could have said things differently or not at all. Once things are said you can't go backwards. People will think what they want to think. Everyone has their own MO in life, and it's not for you to judge others based on how things appear as to what conditions do or do not affect you. You just have to do you and not worry what other people think. The more you worry what people think the more you empower others to cause harm to you and in return disempower yourself.
You'll never be happy so long as you stay stuck in the past lamenting on the could've should've would'ves. Eventually you just have to keep moving forward. You can't let every little thing affect you otherwise you won't be able to function. Part of life requires you to be resilient to stress and strain. That doesn't necessarily mean you have to be a fighter in life give 150% day in and day out, it just means that you have to keep trying even when you don't feel like trying, suit up show up and do you best to be present in the moment. -Life can be odd at times, and sometimes difficult, you just have to eventually learn how to roll with the punches, there are also devastations we may encounter in life ... give yourself time to heal and don't be so hard on yourself. Every step for every journey in life requires a different set of tools and coping mechanisms to get through, as you get older you become better attuned to your needs -whereas as you experience life you figure out what's working best for you bettering yourself everyday. Life's challenging, no one ever said that life was easy, but it's doable don't quit. Give yourself time to heal rest is everything and when you're ready to begin again, hopefully everything will fall into place if your house is in order first.
These things you cannot predict best you can be is stable during times of turmoil. When others need you -be there for them. Likewise, if you're lucky that same care will be reciprocated should you need help one day whether by those or by others receive help from. You have to always be patient with yourself and others, life's not necessarily about lessons as much as it is about overcoming emotions and dealing with emotions constructively if there's lessons to that then that must be what lessons are about. You have to stay calm under pressure and willing to go about the changes you encounter in life, it's easy to get sick and discouraged when focused on the wrong things in life or on our own weaknesses in life, best to stick to your strengths always in times of need not be experimental and handle things one by one as needed not overdone or in excess -making good use of your time and the time of others. Your health is everything focus oriented, what you focus on matters, what you focus on affects your overall health and well being, what's important to you in life gives your life meaning must always be things that support positive functioning help you and/or others make progress in life. Whether as an employee or volunteer or student any type of work achieved is good work under the supervision of professionals. What you do outside the scope of your assignments is up to you to decide -spend your free time wisely. Don't waste time forming unhealthy habits and spend your free time forming healthy habits you'll thank yourself later for it.
It takes awhile to figure out how to pick yourself back up again after you stumble and you fall. Some things don't come naturally to us. Sometimes you have to envision a better life for yourself in order to live it. You can only get so far in life wondering and contemplating about where you're headed in life or where you want to be in life wish you could be in life that eventually you have to start being proactive and doing things everyday to help you get to where you want to be in life. Although nothing comes easy in life, nothing comes pre-packaged either, there are no pre-packaged remedies or solutions to problems most of the time and we have to figure things out on our own. That's the toughest part about life is learning from our mistakes and living with the burden of those pains, regrets in life. You have to just keep moving forward.
You can't keep blaming yourself every time something goes wrong in your life. How you put things together matters as to resolving your own problems and where you fit in relationship to those problems, knowing your part in it means knowing when you're wrong or right and when you know and understand that then and only then can you correct that behavior. -No one ever assumed that anyone successful could ever acquire problems of their own that they were unable to deal with -that's a false assumption that just because someone is successful that they're somehow immune from the experience of problems. They say everyone has problems -that is true. We are only human, whether at the top or not we are all capable of being emotionally affected by one another, that should come of no surprise. You just have to be open to new experiences and accepting of the past, if you want to move forward in life, that's the easy part, the hardest part is processing the past while trying to stay present and be awake enough to plan for the future.
If you want anything to go right in life you have to stay steady but not slow ie fast enough able to keep up with the pace of life. This takes time and adjustment. Some of us have disabilities and find difficulty functioning and performing in general focusing on tasks, overcome by worries and fears that keep us from accomplishing our goals in life. -If you live in constant worry and fear you'll never get anything done. The best way forward sometimes is to regroup think twice backtrack if you need to reprioritize and step forward anew.
Leslie A. Fischman
Please Note: I have finished writing the first draft of my first book, still editing Ch 13-25, my goal is to publish my book 2020 after I graduate, working on myself right now.