Chapter 74: Mental Health Issues by Leslie A. Fischman
When you get back to normal, always count your blessings and count them twice. Bipolar is no joke. Manic episodes can last for days, sometimes even weeks. Prolonged periods of mania and depression can be very taxing and tiring on friends and family who eventually run out of patience and compassion. You can only be so empathetic until you leave it up to that person to change rather than give any acceptance away and condone any behaviors that need changing. It's a hard road, and an uphill battle, not many can face alone, requiring much needed medical attention, and a lot of talk therapy to sort things out. Don't get down on yourself, thought disorders can be overcome you just need to be patient with yourself. It's easy to convince yourself when isolated that things are a certain way that they are not. You just have to listen to others when they are trying to help you get back on track. You can't veer so far off track to the point of no return you should always at least find some middle ground with others when experiencing disordered thoughts and mental illness that's how to get better when you reach out for help.
When you know what you want in life go out there and get it. Sometimes the only thing standing between you and your goals is yourself. In that case -figure out what it is that is preventing you from getting over those hurdles in life. What is it that is holding you back. For some of us, often times our insecurities get the best of us, making it difficult for us to try new things or put ourselves out there, too reserved and held back in life. When we are reserved we don't experience in life and when we don't experience life we miss out on opportunities we could have had had we put ourselves out there more.
When the years seem like they flew by its almost like that out of body experience -when you feel yourself looking at yourself wondering how you got here. There's only one of you, and if you don't like yourself now, then you better start trying. Usually people who don't like themselves now, liked themselves in the past, but cannot replicate that feeling at the present and because they can't go backwards can't move forwards or see forwards well or see themselves visualize themselves well in the future. It's more than nostalgia and living in the past, a has been, but it's being completely avoidant of now living for the moment and appreciating the present and what you do have -focusing too much on the past is a sign that you're not in gratitude but that you're unhappy ungrateful and not appreciative -scary to think that of yourself but it's true face it. When you're not happy with now but happy with your past you're not appreciative of what you do have. Notice that had you not gone through what you've gone through you would not be where you are today, had you not experienced what you experienced in life you would not be where you are today or have what you have today that's plain and simple -a plain and simple truth. Always keep that in mind, be in the here and now.
When you think you're larger than life that means you have a bigger head on your shoulders than you deserve. Means you're not appreciative of where you are in life do not realize what you have in life therefore have no awareness of what you have to lose in life by engaging in risky activities and behaviors. It's only until you lose everything do you realize this. When under the pressure of any microscopic lense we of course take a closer look at ourselves. We cannot control how others view us only control how we view ourselves and what we do here forward with our lives to better ourselves. No one can take your life away from you that's up to you to decide for yourself what you are willing to let go in life. -Know that you are not replaceable above all things you are most important to repair. You can lose everything but most of all never lose yourself always be in control of yourself and your emotions, calm.
Nothing is perfect in life. We must address our concerns in a piecemeal fashion always. Don't rush through the problem solving process, always take your time when in crisis. When you get to your core concerns think what can I do to better myself to better my life to help better the lives of those around me. Think first from your own shoes not from the shoes of another when it comes to problem solving and resolving issues first within yourself. You cannot help others until you yourself are whole feel whole and complete. Think what is it that will make you feel complete in life then go out there and achieve that. Whether it's work, relationships, friendships, social or not -everything takes work, a conscious effort put forth to make it work, always do your part, know your part in it, if you want to be apart of the lives of others. Nothing comes easy in life. I was once told to surround myself with people who have something that I want or a quality I don't have. Huh? I thought to myself. But what if I already like myself. This was a hard concept to grasp that in order to change you had to not like yourself and want to be like someone else, however that philosophy makes sense I'm not sure how and why but for the sake of wellness I can see that for that quality of well one should strive to achieve the same.
It's not easy to move forward after experiencing any type of loss or failure in life. Always think outside of yourself, you are not the only person in the World with problems, there are others too who struggle, and who may even have it worse off in life. Always be grateful for what you do have. Until you realize what you do have, will you be able to achieve better in life. You have to appreciate now in order to begin building a better life for yourself. One step at a time. Recovery is a process. So is overcoming mental health issues, and the stigma associated to both. Learn to accept yourself in spite of the opinions of others, what people think should not bother you nor keep you from achieving in life.
Be strong, first for yourself and for others. You never know what life will throw your way. Always be there for others, understanding and compassionate in times of need. You never know when someone could use a friend or a helpful sounding board in times of need. So long as you mean well you can do no wrong. So long as it is always coming from a good place you can never say the wrong thing no matter what the circumstances are. So long as you are conscientious of the feelings and the emotions of others and do not bother those who are directly affected by current traumas nothing you say away outside the scope of that trauma can be applied as affecting or intended to affect those who are in a state of trauma. Only by direct association in the line of duty are we associated to those who are affected by traumas to which we seek to address via services we provide through volunteer work within the given organizations we volunteer for. Otherwise words shared in private spaces aside from volunteer work are not intended to be associated or applied to volunteer efforts which are separate and supervised by a professional organization.
If something doesn't make you feel good that usually means stop. Never continue engaging in an activity that causes you or others harm. Sometimes you need to learn how to let go. It's not easy but we were not meant to do everything at once and spread ourselves thin, at best we can pace ourselves, multi-task, and by working diligently get things done accordingly, but not always as planned. We can do our best to be on time, have good timing in life, and be prepared, but we can't always expect the unexpected and when the unexpected occurs it's not our responsibility to blame others for surprises, had it not been for them no surprise would have existed or come about. You just have to have faith in the systems in place and let people do their jobs, and know that everyone always does their best. Have faith in that. We cannot consume ourselves with emotions that don't help but hurt us more than we are already hurting or have already struggled with. Learning to cope and how to go about dealing with emotions is an ongoing process of recovery and healing that takes time. Always be patient with yourself and others.
Leslie A. Fischman
Please Note: I have finished writing the first draft of my first book, still editing Ch 5-25, my goal is to publish my book 2020 after I graduate, working on myself right now.