Chapter 73: Loving Yourself by Leslie A. Fischman
You may not be the best at everything but that doesn't mean don't try. You have to keep going in life. Never stop until you're done and always give your all to everything you do.
It's hard to give it your all when you're not feeling well. Always be patient with yourself. It takes time to heal. Change doesn't happen overnight.
You can't go backwards fixing things. You'll just drive yourself nuts. Once you make a mistake in life your best option is always to move forward and begin a new or better yourself, from where you're at. Always appreciate the present. You cannot fix yourself if you're stuck in the past getting upset over something that already happened. Do your best instead to engage in activities that help promote your future and overall health and well being.
You cannot let the problems of others get you down in life. You have to keep your head up. In order to help others you have to maintain a positive attitude in life. Everybody wants to make a difference in life but it's no easy task. Never help others to make yourself look better or for the wrong reasons -you should only help others if your hearts in it and it's something that matters to you. It's easy to be affected by things especially when you do things against your free will it should always be by choice to decide to help others and for what causes. Always be gentle on yourself never too hard on yourself while helping others that's how you get sick fall off center in life.
Never worry too much what other people think. It just so happens that usually people are so bottled up in their own lives they rarely notice. Everyone needs to focus on themselves in order to do well in life function, it's hard to function while focused on others. Therefore it's highly unlikely that you're that important to anyone that you're focused on in as much of an obsessive compulsive way as you focus on yourself. Learn to let go, always be in control of your emotions you cannot let the thoughts of others stifle you.
If you don't talk about a subject it goes away if you focus on something else in your mind. What's in your mind and what you say if it's a match it will bother you. So only discuss what will not bother you only match up what your comfortable talking about on all sides of you. #mymollydollblog otherwise you turn on yourself if you run through the cones end up on the other side of an issue you brought up.
If you want change to occur in your life, you yourself must be willing to change. You can't expect others to change for you to accommodate your needs. A certain willingness to adapt is required of you in order to achieve no matter what the circumstances are. You have to maintain a level head about yourself if you are to achieve happiness in your life. -You weren't meant to do everything only what you yourself are capable of. You know you best, set goals that are within reach. Be careful not to set the bar so high that you lose the necessary esteem required to accomplish your goals in life.
You take your health for granted sometimes ... Don't wait until you're not well to get healthy then it takes twice as long and more energy than it would had you gotten started earlier. It's like losing weight it takes time but it's doable. Your mental health works in that fashion too the mind can heal itself if you follow Doctors orders and directions you can recover. It all takes time, nothing happens overnight.
In order to achieve happiness one must know what makes them happy. Getting to know your needs and wants in life is just as important as it is to please others, don't get caught up on either side of the coin always maintain a healthy balance between people pleasing and finding your own happiness in life. If you're one of those who doesn't feel well when others around them are not feeling well then it's especially important that you focus on yourself get well in order to be there for others. If you're the type of person who gets sick easily when others are sick then it's especially important that you stay grounded in principles to function well among and not get pulled into sickness. There are some things we are able to withstand in life and there are some things we are not able to withstand in life. If you fear the judgments of others too much that means you're insecure and when you're insecure you have a higher likelihood of making bad decisions and second guessing yourself -have weak intuition. Why they say to get strong to help others because in order to be a good decision maker one must be secure with themselves.
Usually by the time you realize you've messed up in life it's too late to talk about it and you have to just keep moving forward. Sometimes some of life's most difficult challenges hurt our ability to respond well under pressure and maintain a level head on our shoulders. It's common to backtrack when you're not doing well, but don't get depressed over it beat yourself up too much. So long as you are always doing your best nothing can break you. -Sometimes we don't see things until we ourselves go thru it. It's hard to believe in oneself after experiencing a failure in life. -It takes a strong sense of faith in oneself as well as those around you to achieve well in life. It's easy to get knocked off center these days and lose focus. It's more than just competitiveness that hurts our emotions and coping abilities ... but it's our sense of selves under the pressure of the public eye that makes it difficult to function freely and move about with ease. That's why they tell you less is more and not to share too much personal information about yourself.
Work on yourself when times get tough. You'll be glad you did. There's no use sitting around wondering where you could be in life just go out there and get what you need to get done to get to where you want to be in life. Everything is a matter of hard work and discipline, nothing comes easy in life. You could think you have it all and one bad decision later could lose everything. You have to stay focused know what's important to you what's not. Get your priorities straight if you want to be successful in life.
Always be thankful for what you have in life. Know that something better will always come along, so long as you do your best. Always be fearless in the pursuit of happiness. No one can keep you down but yourself.
If you can't stomach it you're probably out of your league. Only handle what you're capable of handling. Don't venture outside the scope of your expertise. Only you know what you're capable of handling.
No one deals with pressure well. Few of us perform well under pressure. This takes time and experience to perform well under pressure -requiring a certain comfort with self and comfort with self within the given arena pressure is felt. Only you know what is best for you, no one can make choices for you. Never put yourself in an uncomfortable situation in which you feel an overwhelming pressure you yourself cannot withstand. If so that either means (1) you have not set proper boundaries for yourself or (2) boundaries set have been crossed. Know your limits in life. What cannot be said often times is what is bothering us about self or others. Usually when boundaries are crossed do we feel an unnerving pressure to conform. Don't let that pressure to conform ruin your sense of self or make you forgo your usual boundaries you set with others. Sometimes when a boundary is crossed there is no going back, and sometimes when a boundary is crossed that's a way forward letting us know when to let go.
Stress and anxiety can keep you from doing a lot of things in life. It can even interfere with your ability to live life altogether. Living on meds isn't easy, it takes a lot of adjustment to live life on meds. Some days can be depressing adjusting, feeling like things will never get better, but they do. No matter what never lose faith in yourself. Everything takes time. Change doesn't come to those who don't try. In order to get better sometimes you need to think better -this all takes time. It's easy to be stubborn, and try to avoid our problems, often times we are in denial that we have any problems, including stress and anxiety. You just have to keep going in life, you cannot let your emotions and fears get the best of you. It takes a certain willingness to admit when you are experiencing emotions or feelings you are having difficulty coping with and then go out there and ask for help.
There comes a point of no return. And on social media you learn this sooner or later. Your reputation is everything. Believe it or not a lot goes unnoticed but a lot does not. Be careful not to worry others, as the rumor mill runs quick on social media Re: people checking on your well being. -Do everything with tact and always be mindful of your audience and onlookers. It should not matter who is reading and if so whoever is reading should not be made to feel uncomfortable. That is key. Your writing online should never cause discomfort for no reason it should always be settling and if not you must have mental health issues that need sorting out in private, that's always understandable.
Leslie A. Fischman
Please Note: I have finished writing the first draft of my first book, still editing Ch 5-25, my goal is to publish my book 2020 after I graduate, working on myself right now.