Chapter 72: Love and Relationships by Leslie A. Fischman
You know you best. Always follow your heart. If it doesn't feel right walk away. Something better always comes along. You never know who you'll meet in life if you don't put yourself out there.
You can't go backwards in life when it comes to relationships you just have to keep moving forward. Sometimes you don't know what's best and you end up short handed in life and alone -that's part of growing up, finding your matches in life. You'll never know who you belong with if you don't do your best give it your all. That's how to find your match in life, when you are at your best the right person will come along. Always match with someone who loves you for who you are and loves you unconditionally no matter what, that's how you know who to be with -someone who accepts you as you are, isn't trying to change you, but loves you as is. That's how you know who the one is. You must also have similar interests in common, by having things in common you have things to talk about. Find someone who matches you intellectually, spiritually, and mentally. That's how you know who's the one.
When you're feeling troubled take a step back. Be careful not to repeat old patterns of thinking that keep you from reaching your goals in life. It's easy to self-sabotage when we are not feeling well and paranoid that's normal. You have to keep your head up not be defined by your weaknesses but by your strengths -that's how you get strong. When you feel lost -always go to someone in a position of trust for help don't, actually never trust strangers with your problems it could turn around to bite you later on. In order to move forward, with problems, you have to discuss those problems out loud, they won't go away on their own. Don't run the risk of not discussing problems as they may fester again in the future of you bottle up.
No one can tell you the right answer when it comes to relationships ... It's all about: (1) Respect (2) Admiration (3) Representation (4) Care (5) Health (6) Conditions (7) Love; and (8) Dedication. If you don't know what love means to you then you are not ready for love or to be in love if love embarrasses you or you worry about being embarrassed about being in love. You should always choose someone who (9) compliments you. That means you need to know who you are, what you're about, what your needs are in order to begin any new relationship or fall in love. Don't wait on the timing of others to decide what is best for you, or go by the standards of others when choosing a mate, you should choose who you think best suits you and who best to love and represents your best interests, that's love.
You won't always meet the expectations of your mate and that's okay. Only do what you feel comfortable with. You are never required to do anything you're not comfortable with. Always be the backbone to any relationship, always provide a steady voice of reason that's how to stay together. When you love someone nothing should keep you apart. You learn to accept your spaces from one another together and apart, still able to function as a unit. That's called love, that no matter what comes between you your relationship stays the same. And is not easily affected by outside factors or forces. There should be no perceived interferences or threats when there is love, nothing should matter more than the person to whom you share love for, an undivided compassion for one another, that's called love. You can have a better life for yourself, when you're ready.
You can't just give up when it comes to love there's some give and take. There will be expectations but you just have to stay steady not get too wrapped up in emotions. You never know your self-worth until you lose your self-esteem that's when you know you've messed up in life and cannot go backwards. Always keep a good head on your shoulders and always react in a non-selfish way that's the mark of maturity that when bothered we don't react and only react to positive cues not respond to negativity and feed into it or give negative attention away, draining ourselves of positive energy. Do as your told, do unto others as you expect done to you, and don't do anything you'll regret later on in life, that is what keeps you either moving forward or backward in life.
Leslie A. Fischman
Please Note: I have finished writing the first draft of my first book, still editing Ch 5-25, my goal is to publish my book 2020 after I graduate, working on myself right now.