Chapter 62: You Can’t Go Backwards by Leslie A. Fischman
Never allow others to run conversations making things about you, regarding topics or anecdotes that do not regard your character traits, that only causes your head to hurt, in defense to, a waste of energy, per conversation to, and cause for hurt and mental anguish. Do not run misinformation on individuals to cause hardship or otherwise mischaracterize people to look bad to insinuate hardship to their minds or redirect their thoughts to defenses or redirect their thoughts toward explanations suited toward your judgments or interpretations of them if so state those judgments or interpretations yourself need not be stated by me to be heard or understood or clarified or used for good or proper judgment of my good character traits or person.
Always be thankful for your blessings in life, and count them twice. There are many pains in life far graver than minor losses you incur socially, romantically, or financially. Always keep things in perspective. Health comes first, think about others. Life is precious. You only have one life to live, so appreciate everyone around you enough to do your best at all times and never give up, whether or not you are the weakest link is no excuse to cause trouble in your life or the lives of others misuse drugs or alcohol as a coping mechanism that just makes matters worse so does anything in excess. Take everything in life with a grain of salt life is best lived light on your feet light heartedly for the moment. Not in regret not bottled up not in the past not in resentment but with appreciation and pride.
There are different types of understandings: General and Specific. Depending on what you know about others. What you know you apply to the facts and then analyze based upon that information make deductions. Never assume one is bad just because you think part of what you think about someone is bad force combinations of information to exist come into play to sabotage or increase likelihood of negative outlooks for interpretation of that individuals life so that you feel better than feel right and the other looks bad that's not a justified rallied effort against another that's too much teaming up on another to construct a viewpoint thought balanced justified to draw a label.
Be careful when telling your story or the story of others, how it gets repeated in application via analysis through understanding of the present unknown or inapplicable by those without information or resources to apply that information with have proper bases for comparison for use of that information. There is a risk of misapplication of information in that event of misuse of story telling, that's a risk of purposeful conduct to illicit repeated story to curtail an idea through the voice of the story teller not reflecting accurately the sayers best interests.
You can't go backwards in life you can only move forwards. Life is much about making mistakes as it is about learning lessons, you live and you learn. You will never know unless you try. What goes up must not necessarily come down, only if you allow circumstances to boot. There is always time to regroup in life and make amends nothing is permanent. Damages unforeseen are incapable of misplaced guilt, or displaced hatred for others. If it's to hate hate those who are bad if it's to love love those who are good if it's to envy envy those who are well these are choices we make and so be it not God's will upon us, but political errors we make, in life none to blame upon others or run risk of blame upon others.
You're not always going to hear what you want to hear or need to hear in life in order to feel better. They say "you can't always get what you want." That is true. There's a reason for that. With expectation comes disappointment. When you set yourself up with expectation, when you do not measure up, those losses incurred weigh you down in life and you feel bad about yourself and when that occurs, you are hard on yourself or others are hard on you for not being successful. Successes in life are by achievement and by goal setting not by expectations expectations are by onlookers you should always do your best when you do your best you won't have to worry about expectations or what people think that's the key to happiness.
Not everyone will be happy with you in life. It's not your job to please everyone. Don't expect people to say what you think they're going to say as an accurate or good indicator of what is right or wrong in your mind as what's necessary be said or expected be said following expectation of words spoken do not insult the minds of writers by criticism one should always be respectful of others that's common courtesy.
When your heart breaks your World falls apart and that's a normal feeling you cry you get over it. You have to keep going in life be task oriented keep busy and always keep setting goals for yourself, so that you continue to recover, that's depression.
Everyone has their moods in life to each his own always be respectful of the time and attention of others in your life.
You can be anything you want to be in life without getting frustrated with yourself or others, you cannot control what people think or what they do to try and cause you harm in life or hurt your head to then cause you to harm yourself to make you look like you are mentally ill that's called emotional and mental abuse and intolerable. Never put up with the emotional abuses of others where your best interests are not at heart and only to make you look bad.
You absolutely can't fake it until you make it. There's really no truth to that. When you lie to yourself you only set yourself up for self-sabatoge and failure. You cannot fool others into thinking you're something you are not you can only be yourself as best you can. It's always okay to share ideas and do your best to protect the foundations from which those ideas come from that's called leaving room for interpretation and use not being controlling and minimizing risk of error by being too controlling which causes nervousness under these heightened conditions when it's best for others to make decisions at their own will not by requirement or peer pressure. Fear is caused by assuming others are making false assumptions about you and casting you under a negative false light and that that false light is the cause of mental disturbances toward you or distrust or embarrassment.
Don't try so hard to go backwards to undo hardships that don't exist presently you only make your life more difficult for yourself the more you try to fix. You cannot fix others. You can only fix yourself. You can best be there for others, you cannot change people, only yourself. These are constant dilemmas faced when you care about someone who matters to you who you have conflicting emotions about not sure about whether deserving of trust or your time and attention of risk of disappointment never be disappointed by those who care well for themselves it's by your own disappointments and judgments not others where that feeling of uneasiness comes from if so read something else, we are not all perfect but we all do our best to be loved. Stability takes time within self always have faith that better days are ahead of you stay put.
Leslie A. Fischman
Please Note: I have finished writing the first draft of my first book, still editing Ch 13-25, my goal is to publish my book 2020 after I graduate, working on myself right now.