Chapter 33: mymollydoll.com by Leslie A. Fischman
When having a conversation on any matter controversial its always important to maintain a balanced perspective and to accurately present all sides as best you can, this can only be done so, by a proper stating of the facts, that is occurrences. Not how things occur but what has occurred, and by stating such, inferences can be drawn, that is how new information is made, based upon information given.
When you feel bare or self-conscious, it is usually due to overexposure, either too much of something or not enough of something in your life. Everything in life requires balance. Balance to relationships, friendships, and professionals interactions. How you address those feelings, and how those feelings are interpreted, is one thing, what actually happens, is another, you be the judge. –You are your own person, it is for you to judge you, not for you to worry about the judgments passed by others, as to your behavior, as to your choices, those are your rights, who you choose to like, who you influence, and who influences you positively. That is called friendship, love, or even just acceptance of another.
Hearts imitating hearts. I discussed this briefly while I was in the Apple Shop. What does that mean? I think I just simply meant that it meant we adjust to our environments, much like chameleons, we blend in. Or adapt to our surroundings. That is called being human. And on Social Media its ever more present, how we adapt in real life, and how we adapt online, are two different things. How we sound when we write and how we appear in person when we speak are two different concepts of understanding others and one another. Always be respectful of others.
What you indicate matters as to what you think. What you think is then associated to what you associate to what you think. When you keep your associations limited you develop valued interactions, those valued interactions are valued back. That’s a proper way to interact not by comparison, or better than.
What you think is a matter of you likings, concerns, and what you find of value. They can be things you collect, purchase, admire, or qualities you seek to incorporate into your own life, and for that matter your minds. What you project onto others, is your image, your image encompasses all those things that you like, which are collection of ideas that you incorporate into your mind, what you learn is what you create.
Based upon what we create, we develop value, value of ourselves, and recognize value within ourselves, such as what we store in our computers, that we find of value, that is one way in which we establish individualism and value of self. Finding yourself is one thing, valuing yourself is another, and how you value your own life, is a reflection of the care and attention you pay to your collections, your work ethic. That is how one establishes value in themselves, by their ethics, not by exposure. –We can collect and manage and be exposed, and meet others, and have experiences, but we are always left with ourselves, and what you value, should always be you. If you do not value yourself, you cannot value things, people, or the collections of others, until you yourself, must become a master of your own and achieve, work.
What is always valued is for certain, are works. That is something that everyone likes. When work is made, and work is done, that is something to be valued. Those are people to be valued looked up to, and that is hoe value systems are based. By the strong, who achieve, so that the rest of us can achieve to, under their leadership. That is how ideas come to fruition, under leadership, who leads who, is not important. In times of crisis, we all listen to one another, it’s a much different game. Life is not to be toyed with but valued. Life is not to be dismembered, but put together. Life is to be lived, not ruined.
When you fixate on one point generally it is to think about something from that point, point in time, or points in thought processes, to see what it produces. That makes sense to think positively, to them assemble whatever binds. –Often times in the marketing of ideas, we leave things out, that’s not to no include people, but sometimes its to make sure not to bring about the wrong ideas or the wrong feelings, or anything else that could go wrong during the wrongful association process. Wrongful associations are when you connect good to bad and then think good is bad, that is a fallacy in rationale, to then blame the victim. All crimes are senseless. It is not by our associations that cause us hardship but by what we put together that does. –Therefore its important to always think positive in order to achieve positive thoughts one must be: i.e (as to #s 1-3 previously mentioned) (1) confident (2) better and (3) trusting. –Its (1) easy to feel confident when another is not doing as well as the other (2) better when one is not achieving in life as well as others, and (3) trusting of oneself. Never judge a character by its parts, it’s the sum of ones character that makes them who they are, not by individual thoughts had.
How to avoid the demonization of self, requires a lot of discipline and positive thought. –Demonization usually occurs by obsession a specific obsession of wanting to be something youre not, this causes a negative outlook and negative attitude, which results from unhappiness with ones self. To undo a negative outlook, one must have positive perspective, to have a positive perspective in life, one must be able to see things for themselves, not be told what to do, but be able to achieve on their own, without the necessity of others leadership, or following to achieve a purpose driven life, this requires, tact, how to approach topics, without insult. How to behave in public is much of a reflection of your cares in the World, and that shows over time, selflessness, and care over empathy (sponge likeness) and leadership can be seen through example, of living with positive purpose, through tone, exhibited. –We are all responsible for ourselves, as well as those around us, always be mindful.
When you feel like you cant go on let no one hold you asunder. This is why Leonardo DiCaprio didn’t do a Civil War time period Movie, because it hits too close to home. Always trust your superiors in life, they love, and care for us all, very much so. Trust them, they mentally stable and professional, all else, in one ear out the other. –This is a good place to go to practice that, focusing on yourselves, not others. Hear your voice, not the voice of others, that’s so important for mental stability, to function. –I know this because I have struggled with maintaining stability, because I have experienced loss, whenever you experience loss, you feel a sense of loss in stability, that is why you have to keep moving forward like Barack Obama said to. It’s so important to prevent repetition of bad and blame center, center upon truths, not hearsay or what ifs, or Im not sure, means keep going in life, don’t stop to question others, it’s a waste of time and energy better spent on yourselves. You can only better a whole unit when you yourself are doing well, stable and whole, that is how you are best fit, and best suited for helping others, when able to help yourself. Otherwise best to keep going in life, task by task, and accomplishment by goal, is how you move forward, based on productive days, not endeavors, based on truths, not predicting and regurgitating falsehoods, by belief in self, not others, is how you function whole. When you believe in yourself able, everything around you will stabilize. When you question others, you question yourself, that creates instability. –Be certain to motivate positives in life, Im not Tony Robbins you had Tony Robbins for 8 years, Barack Obama, and now its time to focus on yourselves not missions. –Never place blame on the innocent, nor accept blame on your own shoulders, for the wrongs of others, misbehaviors, or swallow the errors seen, just move forward, focus on you and upon all else, things will fall positive in your path for you.
Nervousness, is caused by uncertainty, that is normal in troubled times, trust well.
Its’ your motivations in life that define you do not be defined by others. No singular hardships are ever the cause for success only failure, and failures do not make successes of themselves, only embarrassments of themselves. Be wary of who you choose to be in life, and be wary of what sides you choose to hold. Those are your beliefs as to causes, causes do not create sides of equality, and religions are not based upon principles of equality or of sides, but of peace. Peaceful minds, make the best decisions in life, ie those who preserve good in the World. Causes do not make belief systems, systems based upon hate, are dismembering to say the least, but principles of authenticity duty to warn bring about doubts that help, help peace to persist, are good decisions made, in fact the best decisions made, those who violate positions of trust, and do not follow religious tenants, are not causes but of concern. Be wary of the gravity of harm you place upon individuals for the rules and standards you put forth as to likings and as to welcomings, and as to acceptance and privileges given. Privileges given are to those in trusted positions, people in power who have money, are given insurances to boot, those who cannot afford insurance do not have car insurance. I am a very safe driver, I am someone to be trusted, a good samaritan, and I do not project weaknesses upon people by my own faults. –There are times to be thoughtful of others, and there are times to think of self, it just so happens that it took me a year to get well, and by the time I got well, everyone else was not well. I do not understand why that happened, but I always do my best. –I am always there for others, my entire life, someone to talk to confide in, trusted. –Now I am doing the opposite, talking in public, I do not need the confidences of others to function, I do not need following or fanship. Im just a writer., kind enough to share my stats, not for the purposes of promotion at this time, writing a book, and going back to school, with no plans to make money any time soon, for at least 1-2 years. It will take time for me to get a job and to function, I’m just writing a book now. Why now, I have been writing online for many years, now its time to permanently write something. Something of value, something that can be valued. –I’m a very thorough writer there are no slips, or lines to be read in between im not a poet, I am a very detailed and articulate person, time to be serious.
How people put things together –Some people put things together to hurt you, if you allow them to –and sometimes people put things together in a way that helps. –You cannot control the interpretations of others –whether for or against you. It does not make sense why anyone would read along and not support me. –But take benefit [from my hard work and effort, writing, and academic disciplined knowledge]. –That does not make sense to me –why anyone [would try to credit themselves force credit upon themselves by triggering me personally now, for what consequences forward does that serve] –would acquire information information from a person they do not like. For what reason are people negative toward others? For what reasons do people bring up the past (not true) to serve and benefit themselves, their viewpoints. For what causes do they seek to trigger to benefit themselves?
There is always cause for worry once aggravated. Occurs when one side is not doing well and to better themselves bring[s] down another side. This is called competition for happiness. When one cannot be happy for others or another’s happiness irritates them.
[Always see the big picture, do not blame causes and consequences on oneself, when one is not in the spotlight and another is, there is no one to blame but the spotlight and from where that spotlight occurs, and for what reasons, positive or negative, I would never enter the spotlight, when I am not doing well, I’m not retarded, I’m cautious, and I warn others, how to behave, not get into trouble and how to achieve peace within before trying to correct others, is wrong, aggravation is wrong in all forms, I’m not famous, everyone has their own lives, that’s assuming there’s an obsession with me, a non-existent public-obsession and trying to affect me to see if theres existence of one, that’s called delusional behavior toward others, that’s called manipulation, to purposefully affect others, to generate a reaction to feel better about oneself, that is wrong, that is called being selfish about ones self].
That doesn’t make sense to me. Everyone deserves to live a normal life and do the best they can to achieve a normal life. There is never any excuse for anger or hostility toward others. [It] is never justified if not purposefully provoked. –Some problems exist within themselves. In it of themselves – in existence – meaning not existing because of others. –Problems, ideas, or thoughts. Are most likely generated from their own concerns. Assume from a good place to not contribute to[ward] those ills. –I was thinking about this today –There are conversations, then you leave a conversatio[n]. How to control yourself during unwanted conversations and what to do in the event of aggravation. –Usually it [is] best to walk away, leave the conversation and not engage others in conversation –avoid fights. –How you function afterwards –is in your control.
[Don’t attack others to feel a certain way in order to function in a way that brings you peace centers you makes better you, that is wrong, to be co-dependent on others, or to trigger others, to re-set your mood to better or better than].
No one can control you, your thoughts behaviors of how you function in life. It is never your responsibility to correct those who have harmed you. People who are exposed to abuse, used to those types of relationships will repeat those patterns toward you –hurt you again. Always be understanding. Especially when it comes to family and friends. Listen not tell people how you feel, but try to make new conversation, not relate what’s going wrong with individuals [who are] not concerned with personal issues [generally in states of crisis, -but concerned with themselves, their safety needs, that’s why I said always be understanding of others]. Platforms are not for attention but for communication with others. How people identify themselves is their own responsibility [including their own feelings and emotions, toward themselves, and toward others] –not the responsibility of everyone ever to help one person, a person should fix themselves to match their settings and blend in. Not stand out to be fixed. That’s trying –recipe for seeking unwanted attention so if talked about can place blame on others
[or create circumstances to justify win arguments or point blank prove a side or occurrence or sequence of events, or likelihood of causal connections or correlations, after the facts trigger and then see if any dice pattern throw out differently to match ones viewpoints toward or against an individual or group of individuals innocent is wrong –it is never the victims fault, always remember that].
-[or] try to make someone like you or have similar issues to be addressed or fixed.
[Be careful not to take on characters past in someones life to prove past or see if present occurs to denominate any individual as problematic characteristically or see if problems occurred in another character past, to judge a character now, that’s manipulation, use of self, to indicate characterisitics in other by default, ie manipulation, planned occurrence or planned response to triggers given].
Best to get professional advice, not wear out others with negativity [sought or felt upon interaction with others, based upon their present circumstances, who they are now, or who they were past, that’s stuff you usually keep to yourself in your own head, not trigger others negatively to generate responses, that’s considered immature ordinarily behavior, but for the times, common under crisis]. Once you change it will seem like everything changes around you.
… [I had] dreams to one day write a book, already in its beginning stages, concept chosen from the start: a self help book. Not a biography about self or others, I’m very sensitive toward the privacy of others as well as my own profession[n] enough to understand the concerns of people to whom are not legally [bound] nor never my designated clients or responsibility signed by law. Only legal obligations are to report to my superiors in the event of loss of esteem, suicide, threats, my health report to #scotus i.e. The US Supreme Court: Where I started piecemealing assembly word by word letter by letter January 2013 in session –its very time consuming to achieve peace first within and among or between and then remain steady alone independent of others after discord separation and feelings of loss less than gifted high low or better or worse off, we are all equally lost retarded smart gifted bad good and blinde when it comes to the English Langauge. Let’s keep things going positively please. Thank you. Here’s my commentary and new shared verse from my upbringing and what caused my hardships in law school when in love. Why Im alone now. I blame no one never how I was raised, threats back I ignore walk away walk forward: mymollydoll.com.
When you objectify someone you lower their self-esteem. Not only do you misuse the method of symbolism, but you are using a human being to convey an emotion, in another, that brings about differing emotions to others, onlookers. –This is problematic. –How women are raised is a big concern. How women represent themselves is a big concern. In my opinion is better for Women to be judged by their intellect than by their looks alone. While looks indicate care for oneself, and good hygiene, it is not the sole factor from which a Woman should be judged. –Not all Women were meant for procreation, some were meant for smarts, and for the production of smarts, for Careers, and should not be judged for not having Children. This Century is a peculiar one, in Women’s History, everyone should be respectful of the choices and the Career paths that Women choose to make. –Never have I objectified myself knowlingly and intelligently. Especially not in public and especially not with 400k Fans. Usually when we are taken advantage of, not to play victim, is when we are quiet, and unassuming, and when we are not clear of the consequences of letting down our guards. One should never be judged for how they conduct themselves in their private spaces or in private spaces with others. Sex is something you share with one person, not something you share publicy with others, why its important never to kiss and tell, as this makes people uncomfortable with you, themselves, with others, as concerns toward their image become a matter.
So why does the objectification of Women hurt Society? Because it lowers the standards of whats acceptable of Women, and then other Women imitate that standard in public. Today, with Social Media, it has become more and more important to have fewer images of quality poor, and more images of quality high, in order to convey a more positive response overall from a more general audience as to the current identity of Women overall. This is something that only Women can understand, I am a Woman, there I understand how important image is, how important intellect is, and how important it is to represent ourselves well, one another well, and our Families well. This is something I have struggled with my whole life, and have always done my best, to represent myself and others well.
It’s important to always be understanding of others, no matter who they are, where they come from, or what theyre about. –It just so happens that the most well liked people are actually those with the least problems, are seen as the least problematic. I disagree. In fact, its those who have problems, that actually understand them. –Its easy looking from the outside in to identify what problems you think are occurring in an individuals life without even knowing them, that’s called passing judgment. Always give an individual an opportunity to be heard before jumping to any conclusions. –You should always hear someone out, before you make any rationale decisions about their character or choices as to their future outcomes, and destroy their lives. Its important to always be understanding of others, for those reasons. It’s no ones responsibility to correct others, for who they are. That is not the responsibility of others to mold individuals to their liking, or to how they think they should be or how they are supposed to be, that is inhumane. All people should be accepted as they are, within reason. Not one person is important enough to destroy the life of another, not one person is important enough for everything to be about them, and not one person is important enough to have an effect on another’s future or another’s abilities, that’s a pure fallacy of thought, a falsehood or conclusion, as to matters certain.
When you are accepting of others, that shows that you have an understanding of that person’s being. Respect for that person’s existence, and when you do not respect that person, that is when you respond counterproductive to their needs. It is out of respect we choose to include or not include people in our lives. –How we respond to others is a direct reflection of whether or not we care, and why. –In that case … the more that matters to you, the more people will matter to you. The less that matters to you, the less people will matter to you, or fewer people will matter to you. It’s important never to become obsessed with any one person, or group of individuals, but to respect all. Being respectful of all, doesn’t necessarily mean being accepting of all, it just means that we do not interfere with their progress, because we are not threatened by their progress. That is how one behaves towards others, reflects how one feels about others, based upon how those others make them feel, less than, better than, able, or not able to achieve in life. In order to achieve, one must always be respectful, in order to have respect one must have respect for themselves. First and foremost, once you manage that, its easy to accept all.
Be thankful for every passing day you live. Life is not short but it does not need to be painful or lived in regret –if you make the right choices no one can hurt you. –Only yourself by your perceptions –your cares and by your outlook in life and by the judgments you pass on others. Look to your past for thanks and look toward your future for peace. All that your left with then is your present. –Your present circumstances always figure out/predict your future. What may seem trivial in retrospect is never easy to bear when presently undergone. Everything you’ve been through in life matters. –Welcome your thoughts with a critical and smart heart that cares for self. When you care for yourself help yourself achieve your present noticed achievements will always help others in a way that’s not hurtful but helpful. Never manipulate emotions recognize them and always set them aside first. What you willingly respond and react to will determine your ability and your ability reflects your present outlook without having to explain yourself to others. What makes sense to you may not always make sense to all. –You have to find your own drives in life. –Whether or not always maintain stability a sense of normalcy to achieve inner peace – we discussed this … “once you change it will seem like everything changes around you.” “Always be the best version of yourself.” –When you change what matters to you will help you overcome what bothers you. –Change occurs daily never at once and always in parts. “Whole is the sum of its parts.” #famousquote. Never cease to exist –your mind matters but your life and livelihood accepted is more important.
Leslie A. Fischman
Please Note: I have finished writing the first draft of my first book, still editing Ch 13-25, my goal is to publish my book 2020 after I graduate, working on myself right now.