mynews (Post #2) by #lesliefischman - You Can't Partner

You can't partner with people, who insult you. Then allow them to tag along, once they feel good and ready, or so choose to support you. You cannot take personally, the minor offensive comments by others, as justification for self-harm, or provoked retalitory commentary used to justify self or others, and then take personal the non-reaction of others toward you. What others feel is just, and what ideas others come up with upon meeting you, for their uses is not for your worry, the businesses of others, and how they consume your content, is no one's responsibility, how people try to connect with you on a personal level is not to be taken offensively, but always be appreciative of people who try to help you. If it requires too much, for acceptance, then let go. If it requires too much for comfort, then let go. If it requires for you to be someone that you are not, to attach, then let go. It is not required that your connections be the connections of others, everyone has their own systems of support, and those systems of support, are not required to support their support of others. Everyone is autonomous, the arguments you give away in favor or in support of others, are your ideologies, not to be mixed up with the ideologies of others, no one in communication is expected to agree to anything they are not comfortable with, and if the causes you support, bring them discomfort, then its not a match, and you politely support their efforts, but are not required to partner with them. Regarding acceptance, and maintaining esteem in the community. Its by your associations you will be judged, and by your associations others will not see you, but which those associations will judge you by as good enough or not. When people do not know you, they are more likely to judge you based upon your presence online as accepting or not, and by those judgments become defensive as whether your worthy of attention or not, help or not, esteem or not, then judge themselves by comparison as better than or not. The act of helping others, requires no persuasion, of the interests of others, for the sake of non-criticism, how we judge others, is by their defenses why they have judged you as good enough or not, and when they let their guard down, its a manifestation of their need to not look provocative or not. In whatever circumstances its always by presentation and effort one should be judged online, not based upon their personal interests and likes, should not be the way to judge someone online, but by the effort they put forward to presenting themselves as good enough or not or worthy of your attention. Sincerely, mymollydoll.com #lesliefischman