“Whenever we try to move forward in life, we backtrack and review ourselves. We analyze our strengths, weaknesses, and work on improving the image of ourselves. Life is all about perfection and how we treat ourselves will let others know to treat us in the same way. If we won’t go backwards and make amends by eliminating our past mistakes, then we put ourselves at risk of harsh and unnecessary scrutiny.”
It is how we present ourselves matters the most, like our self-confidence, self-esteem, basic etiquettes, behavioral adaptation, you name it. Living in the past is never going to be of any help for any human being, whether a teenage or an adult. If you really wish to succeed in life, you have to get over your past and overcome your fears and anxiety. Don’t let your past mistakes take a hold of your future because this world is advancing day by day and it wouldn’t think twice to wait on you. Be dependent upon choices that build your self-esteem not mistakes in life, perfecting what’s been broken. You know yourself best, its to what we are doing right in life, that usually sets us back on course in life. Easier said than done, but don’t give someone else the power on you, your dreams or goals. Continuous overthinking about your past will only make you worry more about the things you have lost control over and you need to realize that the mistakes you’ve made, intentionally or unintentionally, cannot be undone. So make sure you prioritize your mental health and safety over other things if you want to move forward in life.
“You have to tell yourself more than once about turning your hopes and dreams into reality. You cannot live life like this if you set you expect too much from life but never really giving life anything in return. Because if you won’t live up to those expectations, you will eventually disappoint yourself. You cannot set standards for yourself that are too high because that’s how you are likely to fail. Also, you cannot go backwards in life, whether you like it or not but you have to move forward in life anyhow.”
You cannot make your life better if you do not even like yourself and sometimes you have to let go of your mistakes and regrets. You cannot blame your mental health, like depression or anxiety over the mistakes you have made in the past and you can only repair yourself if you get rid of the negative and faulty cognitions about your past, present, and future. There is nothing you can do once you feelings get hurt but forgiveness is that quality that will help you in achieving the impossible. The more you let yourself down in life, the more difficult it becomes to rise to the occasion of well in future. So don’t indulge yourself in becoming a pessimist and just accept yourself the way you are. Always remember that you have to listen to yourself if you want to progress further in life.
“We are always told to let things be the way they are. Why? Usually because, when things become too tough to handle, we are told to leave things alone and get on with life. To me, leaving things alone means to let the dust settle or to walk away from what’s been bothering me. What we need to do is deal with our difficulties in a proper manner to become stronger mentally and physically. If something is not in your best interests to continue, don’t just walk away like other people do when faced with difficulties or challenging tasks.”
Your hard work and determination towards the betterment of your future define your ability to succeed in life. Sometimes you have to get back on the horse that bucked you, because this is how you will learn the true essence of perseverance and power of resilience. Your resilience power is one of the basic tools to achieve success in future. Ask yourself, when was the first time you failed and how did you deal with it? Did you get offend by the criticism you faced and how did you handle the negative comments? Did you learn to get over it as soon as possible or did you give up? If you gave up on your life only because of your past failures and mistakes, then you are one step away to a destructive life. How you deal with negative criticism and failure show your potential and capability to become successful in future. No matter how much you will try to become a better version of yourself, people will try to hate on you or become envious of your hard work. Don’t forget, people hate on you because they secretly wish to be you and you should avoid falling victim to the abhorrence thrown your way.
“If we focus too much on the negative comments of other people and keep harping on it, then soon will come a time when we will become negative and would treat others the same way. If we focus on what’s positive, then we will become positive. Never underestimate the power you hold within yourself, the power to undo what is negative in your life and turn it around to achieve success. If you will continue taking things personally to your heart, you will never become happy and successful.”
Anything negative from your past, any failure or mistake, will haunt you in the present as well, only if you will allow it to. Getting over your troubling past life is something which is very important to move forward in life. Like I said earlier, being happy and satisfied with yourself give you the opportunity to make your present and future better for you. When a person is optimistic about what’s life going to bring next, they reach out to those opportunities and try their best to avail it. Always remember, change begins from you, how you perceive things and behave accordingly tells a lot about what will become of your future. Analyze if your current life is satisfying enough to continue in the same way or is it taking you down the road of discontent from where there’s no turning back. Your lifestyle, relationship with friends and family members, career goals or aspirations, emotional stability, self-regard, and many other personal factors contribute to your personal satisfaction with the future. Change is inevitable and one day your life will change in a good or bad way, however it is completely up to you which direction to choose when these inevitable changes knock on your door.
“You are a product of the choices you make in life that determine where you would end up in life. We realize what’s better or worse for our future only when we experience its consequences. Sometimes we have to work on ourselves and correct problems, while at other times we fall through the cracks of the mistakes we’ve made and end up behind in life. You are not supposed to blame others for your wrong decisions because the minute you start pointing fingers at others, you become no less than your haters. You get nowhere in life fighting and blaming others for your misfortunes. The only one who has the power to change you is yourself. Not just that, but you only earn something in life if you continue to work hard for it. This is how the energy you throw out into the world gets thrown back at you so always do your best to appear well in the future buy changing yourself.”
Work towards your passion and try to accomplish extraordinary things, engage yourself in activities that will make you happier as happiness comes before success. If you are not happy with your life, you will lose direction, self-worth and nothing will mean anything to you. We live in a world where majority of the people would love to see you depressed and anxious, they will love to see you in pain, in agony. People would love to see that happen but it should not bother you, what they think about you should not trouble you because sooner or later you will hit that point in your life where your haters will outnumber the people who love you. I don’t think there is a single person alive who doesn’t have any real-life problems, even the people who look happiest hold pain in their hearts but what makes them happy is the way they cope up with their stress and problems mentally and physically. As long as you know where you are going in your life, you will never get lost in the atrocious remarks of your haters. No wonder life can hit you hard sometimes, but you do not need to collapse when that happens, after all with hardship comes ease.
“To move forward in life, you should never become dependent on others for love and admiration. How you play your cards in life and where you end up in life is totally up to you. Don’t fret about the small stuff in life and try to focus on the bigger picture. If you’re not where you need to be in order to become happier then think about the things that will make you happier in life. Try to refrain yourself from getting too caught up in the delusion of unhappiness and don’t lock yourself into unhappy or unwanted thoughts. Don’t ever let anyone bring you down in life, after all it is just a matter of time and things will get better with the passage of time.”
No matter how hard you get hit, it all comes down to the strength of keep moving forward –it comes down to the determination and perseverance to continue with your life in spite of all the hurdles or obstacles. Your mistakes and failures don’t define what you are right now, they only make your realize what you were before and how much you have changed since then. You need to understand that nobody is perfect or flawless and everyone makes mistakes with their career choices, relationships, and love life. Keep moving forward and give yourself a break by forgiving your past self. You are the sole decision maker of your life and by forgiving yourself, you respond to the negativity in ways that it never gets the best of you.
I know how it feels when you cannot explain what you feel most of the time, I can also relate to how lifeless and worthless you feel when you see others succeeding at things you were supposed at. Just to get rid of anxiety and depression, people engage in self-destructive activities just like the way I got addicted to drugs and alcohol. Trust me, things didn’t get any better when I chose that path in my life, they only got worse to handle and my sufferings increased with the passage of time. People who have been through phases like these couldn’t relate more to what I felt when I was going through severe form of depression. The hardest part was the recovery phase where I had to invest myself mentally, emotionally, and physically in an attempt to move forward and make something good out of my life. Life’s been better since I motivated myself to change my lifestyle and negative attitude towards dealing with my personal and professional problems.
Your values and beliefs should be more important to you than what others advise you to do in order to become better. Cherish yourself and embrace your beautiful life by surrounding yourself with positive vibes and people who support you and will never stop loving you. Sometimes, what will make you happy and drive you to move forward in life wouldn’t be a motivating factor for others to survive. How you portray yourself to the outside world shouldn’t be limited to only adjusting with the social norms of the society. If you like poetry and would want to do something where this passion of yours will be utilized then go for it no matter what opinions the world projects on you. After all, the least you could do to make yourself happy is by caring less about what others think of your passion. How others see you is something that you cannot control but what you personally feel about yourself is something within your control.
“In the grand scheme of things, how you will be viewed and judged will be a matter of principles based, not on gusto or energy, but on your personality, nature, and moral values.”
Overall, how you will be perceived by others is only based on the judgments of others, which are liable to change from a positive perspective to a much more negative one. Try to know your worth and avoid falling into the trap of judgmental views of people who don’t even care if you progress in life or not. You are worthy of attention of those people who love you and wouldn’t hesitate to appreciate you whenever possible. Even if you feel lonely sometimes, just know that good days are coming when your friends and family members will feel proud of you and will never leave your side.
What I am trying to say here is to never let hopelessness take a toll on you because hope gives us strength and motivates us to move forward in life. It is the hope of having a better life that drives us towards our goals and dreams by making us realize that we deserve the best of everything. This is how you will reach self-acceptance where succeeding in life will get easier day by day. Never forget that you are worthy to fulfil the truest desires of your heart and this will help you to move forward.
It is not necessary that what matters to you would matter to others as well, maybe what you don’t value is respected by others. This clearly doesn’t mean that you or your ideas don’t matter at all but to make other respect your point of views you need to step up and take the charge on your life. With determination and hard work you too can make a difference in your lifestyle and the lives of others as well. It is all a matter of manifestation and willingness to learn and try to always do your best
One thing that will force you to keep moving forward in life is your personality trait of acting like a mature, sensible, and responsible person. People who don’t take responsibility of their doings will never be able to improve the quality and condition of their lives. It wouldn’t be wrong to say that your career goals, relationships, and happiness are all interconnected and under your direct control. People become careless and irresponsible only because they don’t want to burden themselves and it is less painful that way. But in order to achieve something, you have to put in efforts and need to understand that life is not a piece of cake. In fact, trying to change your life is a decision that will activate your inner wisdom which will motivate you to stop living a toxic life and shift your focus to future prospects of success and happiness.
Now it is all up to you to step out of your comfort zone and plan your future as soon as possible. You can do this by listing down activities and relationships that make you feel miserable about yourself, pen down what and where you want to go in life and how will you manage to achieve your goals. Never turn your back to your visions and spirit because these are your motivators in life. I have experienced how it feels when you don’t have a vision in your life. I have spent months feeling miserable about my existence because I couldn’t stop myself from overthinking about how less I have contributed to the society. But when you have a vision or goal, you somehow figure out what choice to make to keep moving forward.
“You are always in control of your life and you are a product of the decisions and choices you make in life. It is no one’s business to interfere in your life without any reason but people do that just to annoy you and when your life gets effected by the views of others, you get distracted from turning to the right path. Keep yourself busy by being proactive so that you will have less time to socialize with useless people who have nothing else to do than interfere in other people’s lives.”
When people will see you progressing they will realize your true worth and that way you will make yourself proud. Always remember, taking things literally by being resentful about it is only going to water your time and energy so try not to take anything too personally. The person you have to trust the most is your own self, open your heart to negative as well as positive criticism by trusting that everything happens for a reason, to make you learn from your mistakes. Either way, never become demotivated with your past experiences and know that whatever happened will only make you stronger and more mature and this way you will get one step closer to your successful lives. If you’ll think of your life experiences as lessons that will turn you into a better human being, then you will be able to accept challenges with a smile on your face. Aren’t you familiar with the phrase “No pain, no gain”? if not then you will relate to it once you put your life together as you will learn that playing it safe will get you nowhere in life. People often prefer the easier way because they fear taking risks in life, I mean, how are you supposed to move forward in life when you fear the consequences of taking the next step? If you won’t give it a try, how will you know what opportunities await for you?
Life should be balanced with timeless efforts and dedication to reach your full potential so try to find the right balance in life. If the right amount of commitment is lacking from your life, then try to deliver your best in order to advance to a better life. However, one should work on areas where they lack and this way they will be able to improve their lives. If what you are doing right now is contributing to your success in any way then invest in it and make the best out of it, because this way you are doing everything you need to make yourself happier.
You can do anything you want to if you put your mind to it, just don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. Don’t give people the right to throw tantrums at you whenever they want to and tell you that you're not even near to perfection. According to me, you are doing amazing and there is no doubt that one day when you will look back to your old-self, you will know how much you have matured in every aspect of life.