You Cannot Predict the Future by Leslie A. Fischman
You cannot predict the future, best you can be is prepared. That is the key to success preparation, and stability. The stability provides you with the footing you need to achieve in life, not leveling over or under people, in order to achieve, that is not how one achieves by comparing oneself to others, that only causes disillusionment. Best to stay focused on oneself, how to achieve in life. When you are too worried about others, or the thoughts of others, this can cause illness, franticness. –During periods of turmoil we are especially prone to being concerned about others, that is only natural, if you already have a pre-existing condition, that causes you anxiety, social anxiety, or fear of the thoughts of others about you, this can become amplified during crisis, and times of need, why its important to slow down, and think twice. According to Richard K. James, in Crisis Intervention Strategies: “When people confer their focus of self-evaluation on others, they become dependent on others for validation of their being.” (12) This explains how blogging and likes help people in crisis, identify both whats bothering them, read about it, and also self-identify what their thoughts are for the day, or share how their feeling and get feedback, positive affirmations back, via likes. Social Media is a “macrosystem” still in its developmental stages, and a growing field where “There is great value in looking at crises in their total social and environmental settings –not simple as one individual being affected in linear progression of cause-and-effect events.” (12) There is much “interdependence among people and between people and events” that shrowd our relationships with one another in reality, on a person to person basis through interaction and via the “relationships” we develop with others. (12) A “situational crisis” is described as an “occurrence of uncommon and extraordinary events that an individual has no way of forecasting or controlling.” Such environmental concerns, and catastrophes, resulting in death of persons, and loved ones. These are events outside of our control, often times “sudden, shocking, intense.” (13) It is common during crisis for there to be “abnormal responses.” Do not be alarmed, by your peers, they are probably just voicing their opinions, but anything urgent is important to report, if they themselves are in danger of hurting themselves or others. Sometimes a crisis can be personal, “a state [of] … impediments to life goals that cannot be overcome through customary behaviors.” (11) This is described as a “disturbed equilibrium” that requires “grief work” and an expressed willingness by the “clien[t] [to] wor[k] through the problem or grief” causing circumstances, in order to restor[e] [their] equiliubirum.” (11) Sometimes the “crisis service[s] never ceas[e].” (8) Especially on “suicide hotlines in major cities.” He further notes that “suicide prevention is probably the longest running intervention program” in the mental health field, and serves as a “benchmark for crisis intervention” in today’s times, to help “understand the several social movements [that] have been crisitcal to its development” such as the “women’s movement in the 1970s.” Grassroots advocates in the past have been known to assist people with PTSD. (7) There is a such thing as “transcrisis states” in which there is “unfinished business” (5) or where the “original crisis event” is “submerged below awareness.” This differs from PTSD in that it is caused “by an extremely traumatic event, and very specific criteria must be present for a diagnosis of PTSD to be made.” This condition is not limited to just those who suffer from PTSD by “so-called normal individuals” too experience these malapadative contiions, such as those who “quit taking their medicine” and therefore “capable of functioning at some minimal level” as a result. One of the “key differentiating element[s] of a transcrisis state is … whether it is due to [some] trauma” or personality traits, substance abuse, psychosis, or chronic envionemental stressors, the state is residual and recurrent and always present to some degree.”
I don’t think that discrimination lasts forever, but if it does, it is doable and momentary, and can be lived with, its not a big deal, you just go on in life, and find somewhere, where you are accepted, and treated as human, and intelligent. Anyone who dehumanizes you and treats you as bait, or less than, probably doesn’t respect you and that’s okay, you just move on. There is no excuse for suicide, even if everyone tries to convince everyone that your off and theyre smart, its not your responsibility to convince others, that you are intelligent, and doing well, just do well, and the rest should follow. We all have our own beliefs in life, and often times they do not change, even over time, there will always be blame and blame avoided. Never blame others for your current hardships I was raised to believe and never play victim. I did not grow up with fighting, never have been in a fight my whole life. When there was fighting, to talk about the negative, I become suicidal, not able to cope with fighting, because I grew up in a disorganized state, and had to make things better for everyone, that required a tremendous amount of focus on self, not others.
Richard K. James, Crisis Intervention Strategies, 6th Edition (2008).