When it comes to love and detachment there are a few simple things you must remember, what is important to you, what your values are, and what you priorities in life are. Sometimes no matter how hard you try to focus on one thing, other issues arise during the course of bonding with another, and if you have not yet dealt with what is required to be taken seriously, then in that event, you risk the loss of not being heard as sound, and seen as someone who is defending themselves or seeking a relationship to cure a defect that is not currently present, or a defect that has placed upon you by another in order for a certain result to occur in their favor. People who are weak rely on others in order to make sense of their places in life and what they can do in order to improve their places in life. More often in not it is through the taking of power away and by displacement of power upon others or to themselves that they feel a heightened sense of self. This occurs during the sharing of ourselves, is when we are most vulnerable, that we are harmed by those who seek to use information provided to cause harm to the one who is sharing. When someone is trying to harm you they will relate everything you say to themselves and try to make sense of anything you say in relationship to themselves and their agenda and what story fits best to cause a series of reactions to occur to bring about a consequence or a causal chain to prove that when such and such is the case then such and such is the reaction and the reaction is intended to such and such and therefore I was harmed. Whenever anyone loses their cool in life it makes everyone uncomfortable that is not a debatable issue but understandable and makes sense. Not something personal. When someone wishes death upon another it was because in my case I was harmed to the extent that I became disabled and unable to function, at a loss, without my boyfriend who I loved and thought I was going to remain with during the course of my employment, which was abruptly ended upon hire after I had two surgeries to remove HPV from my Uterus, which turned into Carcinoma Cancer. My life was put in jeopardy and at risk because someone decided to steal my boyfriend. No one ever accused this person of misconduct simply stated that I was insulted and felt disrespected and my feelings were hurt and felt like this person hit on my boyfriend, and as a result interfered with our relationship and changed its course. We never know why people make decisions in life regarding who they choose to associate with. Usually it is because of things they have in common or share common beliefs or share some kind of experience in life to which they feel bonded and from that bond trust is formed. We value those kinds of relationships. And usually those are not the kind of relationships anyone would try to interfere with, especially by someone who was in a relationship already, met her boyfriend who offered me pizza one day at the bar. Who I did not talk to, briefly replied no its okay got up and changed seats, out of respect for her and when she tried to talk to me was brief as well. When people try to create fights or negative interactions where peaceable relations ones existed then this causes hardship. There was no bond at that bar, and there were no friendships. I was alcoholic and mentally ill and would listen to my iPhone, whether empty or crowded and mind my own business, write.