One question you always ask yourself when confronted with disillusion, is whether or not you were at fault for the demise of a relationship, which dissolved before you had a chance to save a relationship from falling apart. Sometimes things occur when we least expect it. Not always in our favor but sometimes, to do us a disservice in life, these life experiences we call challenges in life. When circumstances, persons, or things occur to which we do not have a finite understanding of why or how, and we just have to learn how to accept things the way they are without further investigation. I am never one to investigate the faults of others or reasons for the demise of relationships and always move forward and let go. However when the harm resulting from that loss is recurring, then I know it was not me that was at fault if he is still so affected after I have already let go and moved on unaffected by him. When there is room for discussion and discussion is not made, than at no later point in time is discussion or continuation for discussion required on your behalf to anyone who has not given you the opportunity to be heard or left room for discussion. Where one assumes and one is harmed as a result of those assumptions, than the other is not liable for the harm resulting from those assumptions made upon the character of another.