Our last article was about choosing the space in which you write and the importance of the space you choose to write and why. Now let’s talk joining a blogging platform. There are a few to choose from, depending on what your content is like, and whether you are trying to make money blogging, you may want to apply to a platform in that case to publish to in order to get paid for your pieces. But if you’re like me and choose to make money either by ads, products, and/or services then you need to join a blogging platform.
First, let’s start with: “What’s a Blogging Platform?”
According to Google: “A blogging platform is the software or service that you use to publish your content onto the internet in the form of a blog. A blog platform is a specific form of a content management system.”
The Top Ten Best Blogging Sites of 2016, are as follows: http://www.websitebuildertop10.com/start-a-free-blog - You probably haven’t heard of any of them, as they are lesser known than some other popular Social Media Websites that we all know well. So let’s start with some Blogging Platforms that you know well, or probably have heard of, and then you be the judge of what the differences are and which route you prefer to go.
If you want to know more about the difference between a blogging platform and a website, please check out this article: https://www.thebalance.com/what-is-a-blogging-platform-2531835
Examples of Blogging Platforms
The “Top 5 Free Blogging Platforms” according to www.thebalance.com are as follows:
For more information, details, and differences between these platforms, go to: https://www.thebalance.com/top-free-best-blogging-platforms-2531530
Why is it Important to Blog on a Blogging Platform and NOT a Website?
Well the whole purpose of blogging is to get people to read your work. So it becomes difficult to get people to read your work if its in a separate space on its own and not within a blogging platform network of people blogging, which you can hashtag and share amongst.
But that doesn’t mean that you can’t blog on a Website. Two great places to build websites, now trending are: Weebly and Squarespace.
vs. Two great places to Blog (i.e. Blogging Platforms) are: Tumblr and Wordpress.
What to Blog, What Not to Blog?
My Mom even wanted to send me to a Therapist once a week Dr. Michelle Cohen (Therapist) in order to go over the Do’s and Don’ts of Blogging, and what not to Blog. I should know by now, considering that I have been writing online for 4 years, and have over 300k+ People on my Hashtags combined, but I continue to just write from the heart. Not the best advice! I may be popular, but I’m doing my best to be a better role model. I share a lot online and I DO NOT recommend sharing a lot of personal information online, and neither does my Mom, in fact she reminds me almost everyday not to write anything too personal online, as she reads my blogs daily, I guess that makes her one of my editors, and toughest critic. She’s a Grandma now, so I feel bad that she is still monitoring her 31 year old Daughter’s Social Media Accounts, but at least it keeps her active and on her toes. A little bit of nagging goes a long way, nothing to complain about, always take all advice with a grain of salt UNLESS it’s your Parents complaining then delete delete delete hide hide hide “only me” your posts on Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, etc. This is also another good reason for hashtagging, within you posts, so that you can find your posts later, when referenced to. For easy editing and modification.
According to www.thebalance.com there is a difference between blogging for personal use and blogging for business purposes. As some sites prohibit the use of personal blogging space for business purposes. In fact, they state: “When it comes to many free blogging platforms, you are only allowed to use your blog for personal use and not allowed to use it for business purposes. If you plan on making money with your blog you'll want to be sure you're using a blog that allows commercial use or simply self-host your blog on your own hosting account as mentioned above.”
For more information about Blogging Platforms and How to Make Money Blogging Online, I suggest reading the following articles:
I. Choosing Your Space
Choosing the space in which you write is just as important as the content you produce. We are talking about the space in which you choose to publish your work and in what manner. As a Writer Online for 4 years, I never really had a plan for how I wanted my work to be published, and writing a book never really came to mind. I didn’t really have a purpose for blogging other than to get my thoughts down on paper.
I am writing this post, because I’m at the point, where I want to start consolidating all my written works online, and compose a book. It should’ve been an easy process, the book has already been written online, but in pieces. My biggest problem, is figuring out what’s important and what to trash, what to keep, and what to re-publish, without having to start from scratch, and work with what I’ve got.
Working With What You’ve Got – Use Your Notepad First
There’s no easy way around it, but some re-typing will have to be done in order to consolidate all my written works online. Especially since using apps like Over App and Quotes Creator to write some of my most treasured pieces about life, love, and lessons I’ve learned along the way. These apps are great writing tools, but when it comes to drafting your finished product, it’s always best to start with a word pad of some sort and then copy paste your finished product into the app, for publishing. This is one step I skipped, and now sorely regret having done so.
Save Everything – Why I Love Screenshots
The risk you take by writing directly into a Social Media platform, without having saved a notepad version or word document version, can be devastating if lost when inputting or during the final publishing process. We have all had this happen, where we write something down on Social Media and hit the Publish Button and nothing shows up, that’s why I love screen shots. Whenever I write something of value, I’m afraid of losing I take a screen shot, sometimes that screen shot is re-published online on my Twitter, for easy reading for my audience without having to click thru a bunch of links to five different websites to get to my original post. I’m exaggerating here, but its nice to just have the whole post in one tweet for archiving purposes, that was its saved in two different locations, in two different formats, in three spaces, my phone, my twitter, and the original site of posting (i.e. Facebook, Tumblr, or now Wordpress).
It’s Okay to Have More Than One Blog
Isn’t that a little much, you say. To have a Weebly, Tumblr, Wordpress, Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook Account, all dedicated to your Blog posts, why not just publish posts on one. For one reason, there exists a different type of following on Social Media Platform. Some you may be popular on, and others you may not generate the same amount of Followers. It all depends on your finished product.
II. Choosing a Social Media Platform to Publish On – 7 Key Factors to Consider
Things you should consider when choosing a Social Media Platform to publish on are: (1) How many Followers Do You Have (2) Have You Done Research on Popular Hashtags to Use (3) How Big is Your Audience on this Particular Platform (4) Does Your Audience Want a Finished Product? (5) How Successful Are The Usage of Links on This Blogging Platform and How Many Clicks Per Link Are You Able to Obtain (6) Does this Social Media Platform Offer the Kind of Analytics Useful for the Type of Posts You Plan to Post and (7) How Often Do You Blog on this Particular Platform.
Why is this important? Well it’s not as important when it comes to the content you produce, if you produce really professional work online, then the number of followers you have doesn’t really matter. Especially if you are posting links to blog posts on your website, and hashtagging them (filing them) within newsfeeds on a particular blogging platform. Meaning the content you produce is always more important than the number of followers you have, and just because you write a lot online, and produce a lot of content you think is exciting, without (1) links and (2) hashtags its hard to get followers. Why its so important when producing your finished product online that you jam pack each post with links and hashtags, to show (1) dedication (2) commitment (3) hardwork (4) thoughtfulness of your audiences needs (5) display options for your reader to read further and (6) awareness of the limited time your audience has, and direct them from within, of where to go for more information about your post and where to go to get more information about you, and the topic you are currently writing on (i.e. noticed via hastag you attach to your post). This is not only how you get a following, but is also how you maintain your audiences attention and keep them coming back for more.
Why is this important? Do you know how to use a hashtag? What is a hashtag? According to Google, a hashtag is: “(on social media sites such as Twitter) a word or phrase preceded by a hash or pound sign (#) and used to identify messages on a specific topic.” For instance, if you are blogging fashion, popular hashtags on Twitter, can be researched via Google, some apps even provide for lists of popular hashtags to use, such as for Instagram, to help you hashtag into those niches online and get more followers. Plus the more familiar you are with a Hashtag, the more you understand what is expected of you on the hashtag based upon what is being published and popular on the hashtag’s top listings.
Fashion Blogging I thought was huge on Twitter, but not until I got to Tumblr. Tumblr is like the Fashion Blogging Capital of Fashion Blogging online. Where you build your following based upon hashtags and account listings provided by Tumblr, of like accounts to any account you like or follow. This is a service done for you, to locate more blogs similar to the blogs you have already chosen, and soon enough you will see the difference between those experienced, rookies, and those who produce the most unique content on Tumblr’s blogging platform. For example, on Tumblr, I blogged a mix of re-blogged Street Style looks and looks from Polyvore I either picked myself or produced myself via the app (styling outfits) and was noticed by Sassique. That is because Polyvore as an App automatically hashtags the outfits you re-blog to Tumblr. Which I was seldomly doing so on my own as a re-blogger, hashtagging the individual photos to be found under my posting name on Tumblr. I think that is how I got noticed. It wasn’t until I started using Polyvore, that Sassique noticed me, and asked if I would be willing to be a Style Curator for their Website, which I happily accepted. Check me out on Sassique.com/mymollydoll. (Reference to: mymollydoll.tumblr.com).
It is important to not only know what to post, but how to post it on each particular blogging platform. On Facebook, for example, they prefer a finished product, although there is no word count, the publishing tools available for you cater to posting links which get automatically translated and turn into a pretty little box for you, based upon the link from which social media platform you are posting from (i.e. Twitter, Wordpress, Tumblr, Pinterest, Polyvore, or any Website for that matter). If there’s a link, many if not all Social Media Platforms now provide you with a Box, to compliment your post to another Social Media Platform, this adds for a great display, at no additional expense for you while working, just cut paste link and hashtag, and a box will appear. Simple enough. You can even create automated settings per platform, that post links to your other Social Media Accounts, with the click of one entry on one platform, it gets automatically posted to your other accounts. This is very new, and exciting, however sometimes manually posting is preferred, especially when it comes to hashtagging which can get lost along the way if not pre-considered in your initial post at the title and beginning hashtagging words, so when re-blogged they get hashtagged on the other platforms. (That’s what I do).
This is where knowledge and usage of Analytics comes into play. Many if not all Social Media Platforms, offer Analytics Services to you nowadays. And if not, you can always sign your Website up for Google Analytics as a separate service. In addition, many Website Building Platforms, like Weebly, now offer Apps and Plugins to grow your Audience and to Add Memberships to Your Website if you choose to create your own Business Network etc. one day. For even grander dreams to build a Social Network for your Website you can try free platforms such as Spruz and Yooco, two which I have been experimenting with lately, just to see what services they have to offer, if I consider creating some kind of a Fashion and Quotes Blogging Network one day for my Following on Tumblr, Twitter, Facebook, and beyond. [See: http://mymollydoll.spruz.com/ or http://mymollydoll.yooco.org/myaccount.html]. Right now I’m trying to create a space to consolidate all my written works online, to be found in one space (like a Gravatar) but on a Social Networking Site, and create an Official Meetup for the Organization I Founded #BloggingCampaign – that is separate from other Social Media Platforms, in a more private space for those participating in my Entertainment Campaign Against Gun Violence (I also Volunteer for MomDemand and will be attending a Brady Campaign Meeting this December). --- All in all, these are things to consider –not only must you keep your audience in mind while writing and producing content, but you must also grow your audience, and thankfully today we have tools (i.e. Apps on Weebly for example) for doing so to help promote your blog for you, so that you can grow your following, and reach your audience, and maximize your potential.
The Best Analytics Services (in my opinion) are offered on Twitter and Facebook, you can even select to boost posts if you are working from a “Page” on Facebook. And on Twitter you can “Promote” your Tweets, as a separate service if you sign up for Analytics, and choose to pay for option, services, in which you can promote part of your blog or the entire blog, upon search on Google or appear listed among the top blogs within your newsfeeds and on the sides. This is great for Businesses, looking to promote their services online, short on time, and with limited capacity for keeping up with Tweets everyday, can really maximize their efforts with these tools, posting fewer posts, but as promoted via thru paid for services reach a greater number of people within their targeted audience. –Not everyone can take a bunch of Selfies like me on the #SelfieCity App to maintain a 90K+ Following per hashtag, but there are other more professional ways for maintaining a following, for the cause or business idea you wish to promote online.
Depending on how often you Blog on a particular platform will determine the type of posts your audience will expect of you, and the type of posts you should produce for your audience. For example, on Facebook it is preferred that you post links to Blogs on other Social Media platforms, rather than writing directly within the “Thought” Box provided by Facebook. At first I was insulted when this option was brought to my attention, to write on Tumblr or another space and blog from there, and just send a link. But in the end I learned a lot about re-blogging through this process. On Twitter, it’s more about efficiency. I used to write only posts, and post quotes and earned up to 1,000 followers in one month! That was January 2016. I was so excited, and proud. Now what? Efficiency, and saving your work product as we discussed earlier, because there is a word count, if you have something to say, that will not fit, you can always write on Tumblr (easy to use, neat, easy to understand) or Weebly (harder because you need a computer –via app is challenging not as neat or clearly understandable) and re-blog the link to Twitter, just make sure to include hashtagged words in the beginning writing on your post so that when it appears on Twitter its already hashtagged via their automated services (depending on what blogging platform you use, doesn’t matter, all hashtagged words must appear in the title of your document, in order to get re-blogged to Twitter hashtagging via the automated service).
III. Archiving Your Work for Later Re-Publishing
There are several ways to maintain records of your work online. For Twitter, I would just scroll, and save PDF printouts of my Twitter Newsfeed, because I like the way its displayed and wanted to maintain that look and feel for my archived work, so when I go back and re-read through my old work its like looking at a Twitter Newsfeed. But that’s doing more work than required. Thankfully, Twitter offers a service through which they will send you a copy of your Archive in an Excel Spreadsheet to your Email Inbox, if you request for your archive, under the settings tab, there exists that option. –For Facebook, I would say the best way to archive is to put hashtags on all your work, so that you can later go back and search your hashtags for the written works on that topic, hashtags on Facebook are like putting your work into a filing folder. Because Facebook separates your work and your friends work from public works, you are able to more readily see and have available your recent posts to that hashtag, which you can choose to in a timely manner to show/hide, i.e. make public or choose the “only me” option to hide. I highly suggest not to delete, unless you are so paranoid, that you want no one else to see what you have written, then in that case I just take a screen shot and hit the delete option. Similarly, Tumblr separates your work from public work, and if you hashtag all your work, can create your own searchable database based upon your archives of the work you’ve selected and saved from the other newsfeeds on your own newsfeed via re-blogging and optionally displayed likes.
However, the best way to save your work, if you are using the various publishing apps out there, i.e. Quotes Creator, Twitter, Over App, and other Free Book Blogging Apps –is to save your original work, original drafts in a saveable space such as in a Word documents, using a Computer (I know few of us use Computers these days) or on your Notepad in your Phone (if you’re Phone based Blogger like me –which I relied heavily on screen shots and my Notepad to archive my work as I go, and even email myself copies of some of my most important pieces, for personal reasons, so I know if I cant find it online, I will still be able to find it in my private spaces offline).
So what prompted me to just start writing online on Twitter, without saving any of my work but by PDFs. Computer loss. Because my Computer was stolen while blogging online, and two Computers have since been wiped out, it was important for me to keep writing and not go into shock. That is what kept me so strong throughout this whole process of blossoming into a blogger. I mean I’m not Orthodox Jewish, but I’m Jewish and come from a very conservative family. So Blogging is not considered a respectable Profession to maintain, given my educational background in Law. But since I did not finish Law School, I have a little bit of a rough edge on my record, and even got a DUI after they refused to honor my petition to re-enroll that Spring after spending two weeks in DC soul searching, that had me mass mailing the US Supreme Court and complaining about my Law School, who didn’t let me back in after I left after the first day of class, and took two weeks off in DC to attend the Inauguration, which I later found out I was invited to via Invitation I saved in a pile of mail that was received to my Hotel Room I never opened until I got home in LA. I even handwrote (with some typing) a 200 page book, in the middle of a Bipolar episode, panicking and paranoid. Beginning from Childhood to Adulthood, like a loose-lipped Biography about me written for with direction by my Outpatient Rehab I attended in Boulder, CO for Cocaine Addiction back in Spring 2007. I have not published that Book but to the US Supreme Court, because (1) it was too personal (2) could be easily misunderstood and (3) was written in a state of hysteria and anger (paranoid anger) which is not useful for re-blogging –not to me and not to my audience or to anyone who was mentioned within (all in a positive light as it relates to why I was paranoid then, and how I became paranoid, which made sense to me at the time, but now looking back if I were to re-read it would not make as much sense to me know, how I know I was experiencing mental illness, which I have suffered from continuously off and on since Cocaine Addiction in College –hearing voices). Punching my head, well that only started while dating my Ex Aaron Brown, for reasons I don’t want to get into now, but obviously, not helpful, nor considerate of a known pre-exisiting condition, I feel like he was not ready to take on a relationship with someone with disability, and my condition only worsened as a result of dating someone long distance who lived in Yorba Linda.
I hope this article helps you on your journey as a Blogger online, or helps you better understand the blogging process from the bloggers perspective, and why its so important to save the work that you produce online, and to make sure you use your notepads in your phones, or any like App, and also utilize all the Social Media Platform options you have available to you for re-blogging, archiving, and building your audience, you never know, you may one day want to write a book, and saving is the first step to begin the book writing process. Mines in pieces, but I hope that one day the finished product is as impressive as the following and works generated with a few simple finished products thus far.
When is enough enough? When it comes to blogging maintaining an audience is one blogging tip to becoming a successful blogger, but how do you know when to stop? Maintaining a careful balance between updating your audience and turning them off is required in order to become successful, and this requires tact.
However the good news is “There is no “right” or “wrong” way to blog. If anything, blogging is so fun because it is not as “serious.” We can always go back and re-edit what we wrote, and generally if a blog post is older than a week, it is quickly forgotten.”
So how does one turn off their audience. According to businesswritingblog.com, you can turn off your audience by the following: “That brings me to how to turn off an audience. (Definition of turn off: alienate, cause to lose interest.) You can easily turn off an audience by telling them that you will not live up to their expectations.” In order to not turn off your audience then, don’t set unreasonable expectations. And don’t make promises you can’t keep.
So how do you know when enough is enough? Meaning how do you know when not to blog? According to Lorelle on Wordpress, “blogging isn’t for everyone and you don’t have to blog if you don’t want to.” Furthermore, she states that “There are times to blog and there are times to stop blogging, especially if blogging interferes with the rest of your life.”
When is a good time to quit blogging? According to jeffbullas.com: “Maybe you started your blog to get the word out about your company. You may have wanted to be a writer and started blogging to build a portfolio. In either case, when your blog finally achieves your goals, it might be time to call it a win and move on.”
Blogging takes time, dedication, and commitment, and unless you are willing to sacrifice (set aside time each week) to commit to blogging and performing online, then blogging may not be the best bet for you. There are no guarantees in the Blogging World. And Professionalism is always required. Unless you can perform to the expectations of your audience, family and friends, then it is highly suggested that you do not start blogging until you have a plan, and until you’ve done your research on what is expected of you as a blogger online. –Don’t be disappointed when you get negative feedback. For a long time I was told not to blog, in fact throughout the 4 years of blogging online on Twitter and Weebly I was discouraged from blogging all together, told it was a waste of time. However, I have found tremendous value in blogging, as it has helped me to build confidence from within and beyond just my work online, which can be translated to my work as a Paralegal in the Office, where I am required to do research and writing on a daily basis for an Attorney. So I figured, why not blog in between jobs. I’m glad that I have and I’m so greatful for my following thus far on Weebly, Facebook, Twitter, Wordpress, and beyond, without whom I would not have continued writing online, and stopped when everyone else told me to stop.
According to Entrepreneur Magazine there are “6 Strategies for Maintaining a Successful Blog.” Those strategies include:
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Nothing comes easy in life. And that includes finding your place in life. As difficult as this may seem -the route of all your problems ability to achieve this in life lies within yourself. When you are doing what you’re supposed to do in life usually things come together naturally for you. When you are not doing what you’re supposed to do in life usually things become more difficult for you there are added obstacles which challenge you to get from A to B and accomplish your goals in life and what is needed in order to achieve a life with purpose and find your place in life. Finding your place in life requires that you (1) know yourself and know yourself well (2) know your strengths (3) know your limits in life (4) understand your weaknesses (5) awareness of others and those in your immediate environment cognizant of their needs as well, and (6) able to adapt to change. Once you have achieved full understanding of how to aquire these life skills 1-6 then you will have a better understanding of how and what weaknesses are limiting your abilities in life and what is needed in order to strengthen a skill set that needs work. I hope you find your place in life as I too am constantly working on improving upon these skills in my own life. Such as adapting to change and being cognizant of the needs of others along my Journey as a Blogger. Once you start Blogging you can’t stop, once you create a demand then you feel obligated to fulfill those promises and perform and provide worthwhile pieces to be read that both represent you well and enable your readers to get to know you. What’s this all about. Respect. Because I do not feel respected in my life has caused me to become a Writer online to earn respect and have something to provide concrete evidence of why I feel that I should be respected and why I am respected by my peers to those closest to me. I don’t think its fair to judge others by their weaknesses but should instead by judged by their strengths and accomplishments in life. That I can shown by Awards and Certificates. -Once you achieve confidence in life your options become limitless. Once you achieve confidence in life you’re ability to adapt to change becomes strengthened. The better able you are to adapt to change and the more confidence you have the more you will know yourself. The more you know yourself the closer you will become to finding yourself and once you achieve this feeling in life it will usually be too late either after having experienced some loss or setback in life that makes you value your former self over your present self. These are all lessons and apart of growing up apart of life. To build a better future for yourself learn from your mistakes and improve upon these 6 skill sets in life and you will be on your way to knowing your place in life and being able to appreciate that space once you get there to avoid any setbacks that require you to start this process all over again. Best of luck to you all. And I hope if needed this blog post finds you and helps you along your journey in life. I know Ive realized how these skills were needed in my own life and I’m glad I have and can now appreciate the many blessings in my life I have and how to better preserve myself so that I’m able to achieve in life fulfill my goals. Thank you for listening.
By: Leslie Fischman
According to overcomingsocialanxiety.com, social “anxiety can cause us to sabotage relationships, and one of the key ways is backing away from honest and open discussions about our emotions.” In order to get help we are told to open up. Even on Facebook, the post prompt asks us to share our thoughts. But what if we are not comfortable enough with ourselves to share how we are feeling, share our thoughts, concerns, worries, or general understanding of ourselves and our outlook on life or on current events? In order to get help, we must first ask for help. “Receiving the support of those who are closest to you requires you to help them understand how you feel – and often that is only going to happen if you open up.”
What is Social Anxiety? According to Google’s Search Engine: “Social anxiety disorder, also called social phobia, is an anxiety disorder in which a person has an excessive and unreasonable fear of social situations. Anxiety (intense nervousness) and self-consciousness arise from a fear of being closely watched, judged, and criticized by others.” Which arises first? You’re social anxiety prior to engaging on Social Media, or is it Anxiety arising from participation on Social Media. Well that all depends on how much you participate, and whether you experienced any signs or symptoms prior to engaging on Social Media. Certainly starting your own Social Network away from everyone is not the correct response, to dealing with Social Anxiety. That’s exactly what I plan to do. (Create another Room of my Own - See Thank you Page).
For years I have tried to overcome Social Anxiety, by writing on Twitter everyday. I thought that this would help me overcome my fears and delusions about others, and the treatment received by others. I’m not sure what it was about me, or whether I was being discriminated, and I’m not sure whether writing on Social Media hurt this situation anymore than I already felt as though I was being treated differently than others. I always felt like people were harder on me than others, and never knew why. Was it because I went to rehab? Was it because I smoked pot in High School after I got Soccer Injuries. Was it because I was in a relationship? Was it because I was in Law School. Was it because I was Single and chose to be Celibate? Was it because I was an avid blogger on Twitter, writing everyday, even to people on Twitter via mentions. If this is not normal behavior than why is it okay for everyone else to blog online and not okay for me to blog online, I thought to myself. Why is it okay for other people to share their thoughts, articles, and photos on Facebook, but not okay for me to share on Facebook (Tumblr was suggested once). As always I’ve done my best not be insulted by others, and take their advice, and try new networks, and avoid those networks they think will create problems for me in the future. So where does that leave me? With the decision to try and create my own Social Network, separate from my website and blogs on Social Media. A place where I can go to town, and not be bothered by anyone watching me, and for anyone who enjoys reading my posts, such as my 300K+ Fans on Facebook, the more the merrier.
Social Anxiety is a real disorder. In fact it even causes me to hear voices from time to time, mindless chatter, or people talking $hit about me. Are the general types of voices I hear. Taunting and ridicule. These are not made up voices, but the voices of people I know, and sometimes repeated comments made by people I know about me, by other people, who I hear. That is why I have such a strong attachment to Music. To drown out the voices, so I can concentrate, and eventually get to quiet, is my goal each day, so that I can write and function. Sometimes the voices are so irritating that I punch my head, or even worse slam my head into a wall (that has only happened twice, once in 2011, and again this year, 2016).
What am I doing to overcome Social Anxiety? One things for sure, I’m confronting people with whom I have had problems with, and doing my best to make amends with them, and if not rekindle old friendships, while ending others in peace. #TaylorAdamsAM is the first friend I confronted, while overcoming Social Anxiety, and he turned out to be one of my best friends, ever. That is because I went through all my problems and thoughts with him, like he was a Facebook prompt, and shared what it was I was going through, and opened up as the Website suggests overcomingsocialanxiety.com.
In addition, I have decreased participation on Twitter, and increased participation on Facebook, to overcome Social Anxiety. In order to confront those with whom I have had problems with in the past, its important to speak in a forum where they can find me, not by myself to 2000 unknown friends/strangers by username mymollydoll. When talking to a friend on Facebook she asked me what mymollydoll was, and I should have just responded its my username on Twitter. But instead went through a whole pitch with her in New York, about doing something with quotes and starting a campaign for a campaign, and building my own website. That’s when she suggested Tumblr. Great idea, I discovered Fashion Blogging, which I soon became good at, and was even scouted and requested to participate as a Style Curator on Sassique.com. It’s also where I started brainstorming for my Campaign #BloggingCampaign (formerly #BradyMusicCampaign). These are some of the changes I made in 2016 to overcome Social Anxiety.
Whenever, you feel alone and feel like you have no one to talk to, the best place to go is Facebook. That’s where I got the quickest response. Glorious Visions is a great friend and all, even messaged me on Twitter, telling me he supports me knowing that I was going through a difficult time, but we don’t even know eachother that well, he knows me well, but I barely know him. It’s helpful to get support from your followers online, but the best support afterall comes from your friends and family on Facebook, during difficult times. I spent 3 years writing on Twitter everyday, and thought that I had it made, and was doing great, and then I got trashed, computer snapped in half and cell phone taken away cut off. I go huh? Why now? Why because I called 911 to report Keith, and complain that he had sent me on a Cocaine run, in which I got sexually assaulted hitching a ride home from a stranger, because I don’t have Uber and my cell phone died. I’m an LLM Masters in Law Student minding my own business, and I get asked to go out into the World to get an 8 Ball for my Boyfriend’s Client, was it worth it? I loved him so I was willing to do anything to make him happy. I had papers to write, it wasn’t really the best time for me to be going out into the World when I was in concentration mode, spacey.
What am I doing now, in terms of Social Media? Well first off I started this Blog on Weebly in 2016, and its going great, so far so good. The first version of this Website was dedicated to all my delusions about life and how the World works, and what I’ve been traumatized by and what I plan on doing to help alleviate that trauma and get involved. Well I’m not exactly putting together a Counterrorism plan as I initially thought possible, but I have gotten involved in Campaigns such as #StopSchoolShootings and #EndGunViolence Online. These are Twitter Hashtag Campaigns, but nonetheless, just as powerful as a Non-Profit, except you can do so for Free, help by contributing to these Hashtags. So I started my own Hashtag #BloggingCampaign (formerly #BradyMusicCampaign). Given my experience as a Crisis Hotline Counselor, I wanted to create a Hashtag in which I could share things other than just News about Gun Violence and Gun Legislation, but also things to help others Cope with Gun Violence and get their minds off the trauma and fear of recurring incidences of Gun Violence. So I share Music, Quotes, and Fashion, to continue to build Awareness without scaring my audience or re-traumatizing them with discussion of these incidences of Gun Violence.
I also am starting to Volunteer for Moms Demand, and will attend meetings for Brady Campaign, invited by The President of the LA Chapter of Brady Campaign, to attend meetings at her home, private meetings. I’m really excited about all the progress I’ve made, and hope that you all are pleased with how far I have come as a Blogger. I hope to continue to improve, while building my Websites and participating online on Social Media, and perhaps my very own Social Network one day for all things MYMOLLYDOLL. –Thank you for reading this blog post, and if you’re new welcome to MYMOLLYDOLL, and if you’re a returning fan, thank you for following and reading along my journey to success and financial independence. I may be a Volunteer now, but hopefully I can get a paid position one day working for a Non-Profit, that would be my dream, if not be a Free Lance Paralegal to Attorneys on the Westside, drafting Motions (was my first dream). Good news, I just got a Job as a Paralegal drafting Family Law Motions, and studying Business Law, handling Bankruptcy Cases.
Writing a Book
Concerns You May Encounter When Writing a Book
Making the first commitment to writing a book is no easy task. Especially for anyone who is known for writing online already. This is something you may want to keep to yourself. If you’re used to writing in an autobiographical style online, it is important to notify your readers if you choose to take on a different approach when writing a book. A Self-Help book is one that generally helps others in whatever situations there are going through in their lives, as it relates to your own life and how you have been able to cope and move forward. According to Google, a Self-Help Book is “one that is written with the intention to instruct its readers on solving personal problems.” This isn’t going to be a book about other people, its going to be a book not about my troubles, nor specific interactions with others, but about useful steps to take when you encounter a situation in life and how best to deal with it, as a blogger, from the bloggers standpoint.
Writing about others is rarely useful when trying to solve problems, let alone your own problems. A mention is a mention on Social Media, however writing about another is a completely different thing, and usually causes problems for you the writer. We are all sensitive people, sensitive to our needs as well as sensitive to the needs of our audience and those if any that are mentioned. It is assumed by those mentioned that in doing so it is done cold or with malice or some intent to benefit the writer and their current situation. That is not the case in my situation, mentions are usually offered as thanks or inclusion of others to my Campaign online. There’s no personal agenda, and its wrong to ever assume that there is an agenda of a writer, one that would ever cause harm to another or intended, written, to cause harm to another, that is not the case.
This is why I decided to keep things general on my Blog on mymollydoll.com. Not to confuse people, or to make people paranoid, thinking that something could be written about them without mention of their name, and by the sharing of other stories, then be applied to my current post, and assumed to be about them, that is not how I write. I write in terms of my current situation and standing in life, not to the past. I always encourage others to move forward and try my best to do so too. That would be really mean and conniving, for a writer to purposefully write identifiable stories about individuals, and then write a general post about a situation, and make it so similar as to put two and two together with an intent to cause harm to another’s reputation or make them sound like they are a bad person, or ever intended to harm me. That is a product of the paranoia of the reader, who assumes everything is about them, if reading and applying everything to themselves, and if it does not apply, assume that it is written not to apply to them, and therefore single them out a person or group of persons to be helped by my writings. If you are not helped by my writings, which I do my best to make sense, it is because for some reason you do not like me, pass judgment upon me, or are being discriminatory towards me, so much so that what I write does not process in a positive light for you. That is something I cannot help, and that is not my job to help those who are not accepting of me, that is not the purposes for my book, I have never had any issues with acceptance. Acceptance has never been a personal issue, I have always been the most popular, and have never had trouble making friends or finding a boyfriend, I always have a boyfriend and I always have friends.
Why am I different now? (1) I have been raped. (2) I have HPV. And (3) I have no Income. That is why I am different now. I am different now, because I choose to isolate and work on myself, better my life, so that I can continue to have a Career online, to supplement a Career in the workforce as a Paralegal. That much I have been able to achieve. I just got a job as a Paralegal, and just started doing Non-Profit work again, with MomsDemand and Brady Campaign, two non-profits I will be participating in group meetings with this Fall and Winter Season. Why does my life sound so difficult, because I have disability. Because I have disability, I am discriminated. Because I have disability, I have difficulty maintaining a relationship and keeping the other interested in me. Because I have disability, I have difficulty completing projects at work in a timely fashion and am not as quick, a machine like I used to be. Because I have disability there are certain things I can do well, and there are certain things that I cannot do well. Writing has always been one of my strengths, that is why I have decided to write a book, because I need to provide for myself, I need to be able to earn a living, so that I can afford rent, food, clothing, and shelter, and not rely on anyone to take care of me, and be able to take care of myself. That is why I have decided to become a professional writer, and have been practicing online for many years, 4.
How to Start Writing a Book
As difficult as it seems, all tasks no matter how big or small, begin with goal setting. In the case of writing a book, this requires me to set goals in order to accomplish the task of writing a book. Writing a book is not something that happens overnight, but in my case, after many years of careful reflection and experience writing online, getting to know myself, and getting to know my audience and what their needs are. –Half of my book is already written, my personal statements to law schools and other essays about my life written by me and posted online on my website mymollydoll.com. I look forward to beginning this journey online, with my current audience, and hope that you all learn during this process with me, how to write a book.
 Self-help book - Wikipedia (Oct. 21, 2016), https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-help_book.
What we consider normal is not as arbitrary as we think it is. In fact what is normal is often based on the general norms and mores that a Society upholds. What are norms and mores? Norms are “something that is usual, typical, or standard.” Whereas mores are “the essential or characteristic customs and conventions of a community.”
What is considered normal gets tricky when it comes to Social Media. (Suggested Search: “MYMOLLYDOLL #BloggingTip” on Twitter) With so many choices of items to Blog by popular media outlets, we still have so much power over what we post and how we present what we post. This I discovered as a Blogger. You can either participate as a viewer, or you can participate via re-blogging and blogging.
What is Re-Blogging? Re-Blogging is “(or, in Twitter parlance, retweeting) is the mechanism in blogging which allows users to repost the content of another user's post with an indication that the source is another user.” Most Social Media outlets allow for this, and most newsfeeds are dependent upon this system to gain popularity and make their accounts known. This is so individual users unique and original work can be distributed to multiple feeds via this re-blogging option, which allows for twice as many or more users to view one post. Newly implemented, is re-blogging on Twitter (2016), Facebook, and Tumblr to your own feeds, and within your feeds. This is helpful let’s say if you posted something a long time ago and you want to share it again with your audience and following. Also known as rehashing in the Marketing World. What is rehashing? Rehashing is “put (old ideas or material) into a new form without significant change or improvement.” You can also re-blog via the use of tools like Tweet Juke Box, in which old and new posts can be created and blogged automatically to your newsfeeds on a daily basis, this is great for those in the affiliate marketing world who often have to post the same or similar post daily, without having to recreate it everytime, can create it once and set it to post daily and the machine does so for you. These are the ways in which you can participate on Social Media via Re-Blogging and the purposes served by doing so, and the means by which one may be able to do so.
What is Blogging? To blog is to “add new material to or regularly update a blog” and “write about (an event, situation, topic, etc.) in a blog.” There are many ways to blog online, you can either join a Social Media Group such as Twitter, Facebook, and Tumblr where pages are already made and you must simply join and add to, or you can create your own website and network within like Wordpress, or you can create your own website and link yourself to search engines like Google on Weebly to gain a following, and re-blog to your Social Media channels. Today there are so many ways to share your work you have completed online, and now many Social Media Networks allow for this type of re-blogging and presentation of your work on other websites on their website, you’re even given a box with your logo, or the logo of an ad on your website, or emblem “avatar” you have assigned to your website to be represented in a sub-box on your box re-blogged containing the contents of your post on your website. It’s so formal now, everyone looks more professional in doing so. In addition you can add hashtags to the tops of your posts and any additional descriptions upon re-circulation or circulation of your blog post within that Social Media’s Network.
So what is considered normal on Social Media? What is considered normal from my perspective is doing what everyone else is doing. Because I was discouraged from participating on Facebook, I started participating on Twitter. Writing daily, as I would have on Facebook, except with a word count, and eventually had to learn how to use hashtags in order to build a following and get followers. Therefore, because I was not on Facebook, I did not know what everyone else was doing and what was considered normal blogging. I stopped using Facebook sometime after the integrated newsfeed started in 2008, when all our newsfeeds got streamlined into one newsfeed. It was not something I was initially comfortable with, at the time experiencing mental illness, and sharing my thoughts and random facts about my life, I wasn’t sure whether it was a normal way to participate on a mixed feed, but maybe better suited for just my own feed. Now Facebook has options like Pages and Group Pages where you can post without it being mixed into an integrated feed, and which you can re-blog from at your leisure to your own feed. This is a great option for those running Campaigns, who are trying to consolidate their Campaign pitches to a few key posts, which need to be rehashed over and over again at a later time, keeping them in a separate space, where they can be easily found located and shared again, versus mixed on a hashtag and harder to find, or saved somewhere lost in a phone or computer. Social Media has become a great tool for young entrepreneurs to share their ideas online with their peers and stay organized while doing so, and have less to keep backed up, with more saved online backed up. This was especially relevant for me, after experiencing computer theft on multiple occasions while Campaigning. I really had to rely on the Internet as a storage space for my work and for my ideas. Google Drive came out sometime in 2013, while I was uploading PDF’s of all my paper files in my office, this included medical records, online records, school records, correspondence, and photos mostly. Because I experienced Computer theft, it was important for me to share online, where it could exist for eternity and where I could at my leisure download archives or save archives on my own, I was so concerned about loss, it felt safer to put everything directly online, versus in my computer alone where it could get lost forever, or deleted and never recovered, here online is a recoverable space, that I felt was the safest place for me to write on a daily basis, and that’s how I grew on Twitter, and developed a following, as a writer.
What is normal on Social Media requires basic common sense principles of rights and wrongs. What is normal on Social Media is the same as what is normal in real life. Although part fantasy (given all the special effects, emoticons, and specialized functions for sharing and presenting) what is required of you is what is accepted of you. What is required of you is what your friends are willing to accept and what is considered socially appropriate behavior, tone, word choice, and sharing amongst friends. Anything problematic or considered to cause worry is considered reportable behavior, which can be responded to by notifying your network managers, notifying the individual yourself of your concern via messaging services, or by blocking individual users from interacting with you on those social media networks and channels. Based on my experiences as a Writer, what I wrote and what I chose to write about was not considered normal at the time. And sometimes worrisome. I was a creative writer for many years on Twitter, and would write what I thought was funny and in a tone that I thought was funny. Sometimes. Most of the time I was serious and would share very thoughtful words. Everytime I was criticized I would get sick. Everytime I was strong and writing well, I would be criticized as though what I was saying was mentally ill sounding, treated as such. That would caused me to write creatively and purposefully in a comedic tone and not take myself seriously. To their chagrin, they purposefully teamed up on me, because they did not want me writing online, so they would do everything in their power to get me to stop writing online, including snapping my lap top in half, taking away my cell phone, and even filing a restraining order at one point. None of this stopped me from fulfilling my purpose in life, and none of this has stopped me from writing online. I think that my experiences have been significant, I think I have a life worth living, and a life worth sharing, and I will continue to write everyday, as I have, and hopefully continue to make a positive difference, whether or not I have the blessings of all, some, or none among a particular group of people.
People support only what they understand, if the activity prohibited is not recommended or prohibited it is because it is an activity not known, trusted, or familiar with enough to condone or endorse its services as a means to protect ones livelihood and to reach success in one’s life. I’m a Writer, so blogging is a great way for me to gain experience, experience required to be a published writer one day in a formal book or other medium. Blogging also allows me to get to know my audience, and allow my audience to get to know me, to see whether there is anything of value to what I have to say, and whether if of value worth sharing in a book one day. A self-help book.
Its still unclear as to what is considered normal on Social Media. I just put out a video last night, a disclaimer, that states that what is posted is for entertainment purposes for the most part (sharing music and blog posts). Meaning not important. Important to me, but not important in the general sense of what is considered important to anyone else, that is knowledge about me, is not important, mostly only important to me or to the ones I love and care about and friends. Given my experiences online, the best advice I can give is to always be professional online, and always put your best foot forward, and if you decided to be creative or to entertain to make clear that those are the purposes for you blogging. And if you care Campaigning for a Campaign, make sure you make clear that those are the purposes for you sharing as it relates to why you are Campaigning for a Campaign, and how what you post is going to support that Campaign and how you believe it will influence others to support the Campaign, whether or not they support your Campaign (which is not as important) as building awareness for the Campaign you are Campaigning for. That is the whole purpose for #BloggingCampaign as a Campaign for a Campaign is to build Awareness for Brady Campaign and now MomsDemand, through entertainment based blogging, quotes, and fashion blogging, which grabs the attention of the bloggers which you can then redirect to the Campaign you are supporting, how your blogging becomes a Campaign for a Campaign. So long as you know and understand that, you must be cautious that once you begin Campaigning for a Campaign, you become a pseudo representative of that Campaign, an ambassador of sorts to your audience and to the people who view your blog posts, as a representative of the Campaign you support, therefore your work you produce online reflects your support for an organization(s), and the organization itself (you support) is supported by the members who’s support was generated by awareness built by its supporters (such as bloggers online). This is why many organizations have their own newsfeeds online, which you can direct your following to, or you can re-blog pieces from the organizations newsfeed onto your newsfeed to highlight key points, enabling the organization to represent themselves on your newsfeed, without having to represent them and their beliefs, mantras, and principles yourself in your own words, but allow them to speak for themselves.
I feel like for some reason people did not think it was normal for me do be quotes and fashion blogging and supporting Brady Campaign, while promoting an Entertainment based Campaign which could help gather supporters to create material from blogged work to make money which could then be donated to the organizations supported (helping them to raise money). I’m just so thankful for everything that has been produced this year online so far on Social Media, and everyone coming together to help end gun violence. Thankfully everyone’s Entertainment Campaigns, helped to establish #ConcertAcrossAmerica and #EndGunviolence by Moms Demand and Women Against Gun Violence. As a Brady Campaign supporter for many years, introduced first by WIIDC in 2011 to Intern, I now Volunteer for Moms Demand, one of the largest grassroots gun violence prevention Campaigns to date, who like me supports the use of entertainment based campaigning to help raise raise the necessary funds for gun violence
I used to cry everyday, while building #BloggingCampaign online this past summer. It was a very emotional journey for me. If it looks easy, its probably difficult. It looks like someone is having a good time, its probably because they are trying really hard tired. Things aren’t always as they seem. Ive never been a machine. Always athletic and top of my class, whether it be in sports or academics. But an understatement, not the best, but always good enough, is how I felt. I was raised to always do my best, and to be the best at whatever I did, and so that’s how I approached life, and all activities therein.
I always wanted to make difference. And that was what my personal statement to law school was about. Making a difference, but it took a turn for the worst upon review by family and co-workers. More was asked to be mentioned, and some looked at me perplexed, one even stated to me afterwards that’s I could run for President one day, I walked slowly backwards out of the doorway, smiled, but didn’t think anything of it, was like huh? I go, he must think Im special, and that there was must be something special about my statement that meant something, something, important enough, that it made me stand out, stand apart from the others. That was good to know, as a young paralegal at the LA City Attorneys Office. I was only 22 then, it was 2008, and I was working on finishing my certificate as a Paralegal at WLAC Community College, I had heard about the UCLA Program, but for some reason I applied to this program instead, finding it online, it seemed more cost efficient, and it was at a school close by my then boyfriend Rob.
My purposes for blogging were never to write a book, but as I developed as a writer online, it became more and more apparent that when you are good something, eventually as you develop, there are stages to that growth, Book writing is one of those stages. You can only write jokes for so long, and dialogue before it becomes a story, and when you put together all those stories, it becomes a book. So that explains why I am writing now. To put together excerpt from my #BloggingCampaign, and compile my best work into a book. Originally writing quotes posted and saved on my Tumblr Account dollyquotes.tumblr.com, I thought that my first book would be a quotes book, and leave everything as is, maybe change the backgrounds and fonts, but keep the quotes as they are. Eventually after awhile, you realize that you have more to write and that more clarification is needed. That’s when I developed my formula for writing my book. It would be to write quotes and then when ready to fill in the blanks. By taking each quote and elaborating upon those ideas, similar to the way in which an honors thesis is written, with theories and or ideas, which you later research and compile into a research study, in which you use research and/or interviews qualitative research to develop your thesis theories and ideas, into a research study.
Where should I begin. The best of me. On #mymollydollquotes and #mymollydollquote on Social Media. Those are my hashtags for my quotes written by me, minus one or two must have been misfiled, but I label all my quotes with my name and/or a username I am active on at the time the quote was written.
Here is my first excerpt from Twitter.com/mymollydoll, printed 5/5/15.
“Gratitude is showing an appreciation for what one cannot do for themselves but only through the light shined by another, that’s purpose.
We are no more noble than our best selves shine only when those around us are lit and dim when we are lost and drawn to those who shine bright.
The colors of faded generosity bloom from wrongs made right by the recipients of those gifts we utilize at our discretion to build trust.
No best interest is met when frustrated by interests to those who’s interests are self serving not to please but to break when we beckon them.
The true terms of any arrangement in life occurs by the timing of those who know best best being the best interests of others, not their own.
Power is given to those who are strong and when given never weakens nor clouds nor decreases the power of another defines who we call Leaders.
Often times we don’t know what’s best until life happens on its own terms left to the decisions of others not our own when we see light.”
This piece was written while I was working in Century City for Ron. It was my dream job. I had been applying to jobs in Century City since 2008, and it was always my dream to work in Century City at a law firm, why I studied so hard in paralegal school, on Deans List and with a President’s honors, for making Deans List two consecutive semesters. I got straight As in Paralegal School.
One thing I learned from writing on Twitter is that your best work often gets lost in the mix. Writing is process, in which through the art of story telling and discussion of your life and lessons learned you come to conclusions and or insights that come to light throughout during the telling of that story or through the sharing of those insights. That’s the value that has been lost through writing on Twitter. What was gained was the confidence that is required to write to a live audience without editing or review, raw. These were my thoughts shared at the time I was actively writing on Twitter everyday, for 3-4 years (2013-2016), and these are my thoughts that I now share with you, the best on me only of course, with note to the periods in which I had low self-esteem and did not think I was gonna make it, and did not feel as though I was valued, was complained about, and treated as though I was wasting my time and wasting the time, effort, and money of others writing online. No that is my dream to be a writer one day. I think I have achieved that dream. Now is time for me to put together a finished product. If you like what you have read so far, I hope to continue to provide adequate insight into the thought processes of a law student and someone who suffered from mental illness as a law student and what I have done to overcome those setbacks and find strength again through writing online. And hopefully have built a great supportive system online, of writers similarly situated and interested in improving upon the systems of writing we already have in place, and help those like me who have difficulty with reading comprehension. The section I score the lowest on on standardized exams. This is not a Campaign goal, but something that has organically occurred through the process of writing and sharing my writings online. Once read influences the reader and affects their thoughts, and how they speak, and how they write, and how they interpret. That is the responsibility I have as a writer to make sense and to share what thoughts Ive completed and thoroughly analyzed, and what thoughts I think are worthy of sharing and left up for analysis. Those are decisions you make as a writer, what to explain and get into and what to leave open and come back to later. Usually things we are not comfortable talking about or things that cause us trauma or have the potential to retraumatize us, that is beneficial to no one, not the reader, not the writer, and certainly not my audience, because their best interest are my best interests, to allow me to put my best foot forward and be able to write without undergoing disability that occurs from fighting and arguing, that is not the purpose for me writing online and has never been the purpose for me writing online.
(to be continued)
 Twitter.com/mymollydoll (printed 5/5/15).
We learn many lessons in life however none as poignant as the lesson we have learned today. How why what we say matters, how what we say matters, to whom we say matters, to what we say matters, and for why we say matters. Its to not one’s purpose in life to sacrifice themselves or their lives for others, but when the occasion arises, and a stage has been set, its important if one has something to say or an idea to share that can help, to speak. When I first spoke, I was told that I was mentally ill. When I first wrote I was treated as though I was wasting time online. When I began my journey, I cried. When my journey ended I cried. I am so thankful for Concert Across America for recognizing the importance of Music in the battle against Gun Violence and for those who Volunteered their time to care and for those who donated their hard earned money to attend. For that I am greatful. That being said it does not matter by whom, support was generated for the creation of the Campaign or whether similar or like another Campaign for a Campaign, but what’s more important is to appreciate the blessing and creation of a Campaign to which we can agree serves a positive purpose, and that we together as a unit have overcome the trauma of arguments that have harmed industries that help us, and instead built a better understanding through listening to one another, hearing one another’s concerns and reservations and discomforts of combining Music with a Campaign that seeks to prevent Gun Violence that was once harmed by Music. For that we are greatful and remember those who have passed, and celebrate the life of them through harmony of acceptance, forgiveness, and recognition of the harms that were caused and what we can do together to prevent future harms from occurring. I believe that is the purpose for my Methodology of #BloggingCampaign, and I hope that by sharing my point of view I helped build greater acceptance for Campaigns such as #ConcertAcrossAmerica. That was my Dream.
What Causes Jealousy?
“Jealousy is like most of the other emotions, it comes from within. A big part of the problem lies within you and not with the person you are jealous of. The following are possible root causes for jealousy: ... Jealousy root cause #4: Insecurity: Feelings of insecurity are the result of the two previously mentioned causes.” www.2knowmyself.com/Dealing_with_jealousy/causes_for_feeling_jealous
Jealousy is a common emotion among Women. Women historically fight for positions of power by the Men who represent them. The breadwinners, and Women the caretakers. These positions of power are earned, by displaying characteristics we deem superior and likeable. (Opinion by Leslie Fischman).
When one does not feel good enough, when one feels inferior to, these are all emotions that manifest themselves into jealously. As a person who suffers from weight issues, this has been a common problem, wishing to always be thin. This is why I lost 50lbs in 2014-2015.
“Jealousy [is am emotion] …[that] comes from within.” When someone has something that you do not, this causes jealousy. That is a natural emotion in response to wanting something that another has, whether it be dress, appearance, or social standing. These are three examples of highly desired characteristics of what one would deem superior and likeable, characteristics or traits of what we define as feminine, and what we define as characteristics thought necessary when in competition for an asset Men, one would want to attain in order to earn Men they feel they deserve to be represented by. (As discussed above).
That is true that the “problem lies within you an not with the person you are jealous of.” That is because it is your emotion that you are feeling, and your emotion, which you are in control of. That is why it is your problem and not the problem of the person to whom you are jealous of. People to whom you are jealous of cannot make you not jealous of them, or change in demeanor or appearance or stature in order to make you feel more comfortable with yourself. Usually in order for this to occur, some form of acceptance and respect for the characteristics of another is necessary to be appreciated and for jealously not to occur.
It is stated above that “insecurity” is the root cause of jealousy.  Rather than see this as a weakness of character, once must view this response with acceptance of self, which comes first before the existence of an insecurity. When one is accepting of themselves than one does not feel insecure, when one does not feel insecure, then when one is around another they will not feel insecure. Those who are secure with themselves are both accepting of themselves and have a great perception of where they see themselves in the world in relation to others as well as what they have not yet been able to achieve for themselves. With that acceptance of one self, one feel secure. However, even those who are secure with themselves may be become jealous when one feels threatened by another. This is a different kind of jealously, one which is caused by the one who seeks to make the other jealous of them. Similarly the person who seeks to cause the feelings of jealously does so by triggering the qualities within themselves that are characteristic to those who are jealous, as stated above insecure.
What is Freedom of Expression?
“According to the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, freedom of expression is the right of every individual to hold opinions without interference and to seek, receive and impart information and ideas through any media and regardless of frontiers.” https://freedomhouse.org/issues/freedom-expression
The First Amendment,
“The First Amendment (Amendment I) to the United States Constitution prohibits the making of any law respecting an establishment of religion, impeding the free exercise of religion, abridging the freedom of speech, infringing on the freedom of the press, interfering with the right to peaceably assemble, or prohibiting the petitioning for a governmental redress of grievances.” https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/First_Amendment_to_the_United_States_Constitution
The Petition Clause protects “freedom of association.” #BloggingCampaign is a Campaign for a Campaign created by Leslie Fischman, for Brady Campaign. This Association is protected by the rights given to us under the First Amendment, which enables me to create a Campaign for a Campaign, which supports a Campaign and their beliefs and their ability to carry out their agenda and plan for protecting the people via the passage of Bills and through the drafting of Legislation.
Commercial Speech is “speech done on behalf of a company or individual for the purpose of making a profit.” MYMOLLYDOLL is a registered Corporation in the State of California. As a Company, owned by Leslie Fischman, I am protected by The First Amendment to Campaign for a Campaign with a Corporation which I have created which helps support Campaigns, and via that support help those Campaigns raise funds for their Campaign by endorsing those Campaigns Online, on my accounts and on my hashtags created for me (MYMOLLYDOLL, Leslie Fischman, #BloggingCampaign) for them, and any other organization I choose to support and endorse (i.e. recommend to others to follow and/or support). Furthermore, “that streets are proper places for the exercise of the freedom of communicating information and disseminating opinion,” therefore Campaigning for a Campaign on Social Media as an avenue from which to draw attention to self and to my Campaign for a Campaign is considered proper usage of Social Media by this clause, which identifies Commercial Speech, done so on behalf of my Company MYMOLLYDOLL for the purpose of making a profit (*donated) to Brady Campaign (the process through which this occurs is further outlined on mymollydoll.com in which I kindly ask participants to donate to Brady Campaign if they support my Campaign and/or reuse rework material provided through my Campaign *by definition this is NOT fraud, but proper use of first amendment protected speech to dictate how monies are donated, raised, “profit,” the definition and law does not specify whether the Corporation which helps raise money needs to profit or whether I need to profit from these transactions, therefore NOT fraud, and proper use of First Amendment Protected Speech for materials provided for to raise money via DONATIONS which are provided for anonymously through the processes outlined to Brady Campaign) and any other organization I support. A Corporation by definition is one, which raises money for other non-profit endeavors. This I seek to accomplish having created MYMOLLYDOLL and registering MYMOLLYDOLL as a Corporation. How so? #BloggingCampaign is a Hashtag I created -a Campaign for a Campaign I created through the creation of MYMOLLYDOLL online, which took me 4 years to build writing everyday online, and establishing a name for myself as a Creative Writer, Blogger, Journaler (keeping a Diary) online (Since 2013, my first name was @randbocotimes). Through #BloggingCampaign I hope to assist with the production and dissemination of materials via my blog to members of the entertainment community and beyond for republishing (or re-blogging) to be reworked and used to create Music and Film and/or other entertainment mediums, including Social Media promoted works. So far I primarily focus on creating original work, new everyday as I have for 4 years, on my Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook Accounts. (For Additional Details and Explanation Please See: bloggingcampaign.wordpress.com and bloggingcampaign.tumblr.com).
To be continued . . .
How to Deal with Criticism
On days when I feel like I am being overconsumed with criticism, I do not write. Those are days in which I freeze and reflect and move forward only with positive footing. When you move forward on a negative foot usually feelings and emotions tend to spiral out of control within you leaving you in a state of fear. In order not to become fearful of others, its important not to justify the wrongs committed against you and the behavior of others toward you, best not to mention them all together. It is never in your best interest to confront offenders or those who have harmed you, it will usually result in additional harm to your good character and lead others to pass judgment upon you based on what serves their best interests which is to destroy you and destroy your good character. The destruction of one’s character occurs on two occasions, by your own doing and by the decisions you make to either help or hurt your position and standing in life, or by the misconduct of others who seek to destroy your good character because it elevates their self esteem to see you suffer, to feel as though they are in the right, for some kind of harm they have caused you in your life, to which you are either aware or unaware of having suffered because of.
Lesson of the Day
Lesson of the day. When harm cannot be undone. A negative cannot be made positive by harping on the negative, the situation can only be made positive by focusing on the positive and anything positive you have been able to achieve since that moment in time. Pointing fingers and prosecuting individuals for causing harm to your reputation does no good, and does not make matters any better but has the potential to only cause you additional harm where harm did not exist in the first place and subject you to even greater scrutiny and the potential for additional defamation and hardship.
ATTN: Facebook, and Windward - My Apologies.
In order to begin writing a book you need to have some purpose for writing a book. A purpose greater than yourself. To help make a positive difference in the world, and one in which the reader will benefit from having read your book. I do not believe in writing for therapeutic purposes, this only leads to trouble later down the road, having to explain yourself to others who have read your thoughts wondering if its about them or worried whether or not if they have been mentioned. AA required me to disclose a lot of personal information about myself, in order to maintain membership within their community. After many years of participation I decided to go online, with the understanding that if I loosely followed the steps and maintained sobriety that to the same effect I would heal through that process of disclosure and self-reflection. To my dismay, I was not well received by those closest to me, who I assume related everything to themselves not viewing it from a general sense, that this was a required expression of self, and that this period would pass once the healing process began. Unfortunately I was viewed as there being something wrong with me, and that I was disclosing too much about myself. Which is why now I have taken on a different approach to writing online, and have since received 86,072 Followers on my Hashtag on Facebook this month. I have been working on #MYMOLLYDOLL since 2013, that’s 4 years of writing online to establish a name for myself. My original name was RANDBOCOTIMES. Rand for Rand Paul. BO for Barack Obama. CO for Colorado. And Times for LATimes, my first follower was @latimestot Andrew Malcom of the LA Times.