The Importance of Keeping Families Together by #lesliefischman
Whenever there is a separation there is heartache, and from that heartache pain. Whenever we experience pain there are mixed emotions to resolve that pain, whether we drink and self-harm, we are only doing ourselves a disservice, when we succumb to the weaknesses of others, not focused on our own strengths in life. Always remember but not to the extent that you re-create circumstances to bring about negative consequences moving forward for yourself, thats called learning from your mistakes in life, that matters. When we are too hard on others, especially ourselves, no good can become of that harm, it only transfers to the weak. Knowing this living at home, its become ever more important for me to learn how to focus on my strengths in writing, and by education get strong again, so that I can be a positive reference for others to lean toward during times of need, and get married. Its not easy to find love, I bought 3 pins, you have to enrich your own life before you can enrich the lives of others, thats why some are better suited for caretaking positions than most. If you’re strong enough to have a family you should be able to keep your family, that is my belief. -Don’t worry about what has occurred, worry most about where you are now and where you are headed in life to gain proper footing moving forward, experience matters, as to wellness these days, thats the discomforting part of wellness, that you can’t be there for everyone, eventually, you stop giving to everyone, and start helping yourself in life.
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Confusion and Turmoil Following #Suicide by #lesliefischman with help from suicidology.org, whom I contacted on 03/15/18.
According to suicidology.org “confusion and turmoil” follow a period of loss “unique to survivors of suicide.” (Page 1) The “disconnection” that’s follows is a product of unresolved conflict, and mixed emotions, concerning their presence in our lives, often choosing to “retain happy memories of them.” (Page 2) There is often a lot of fear surrounding suicide feeling the need to ‘"resolve that conflict alone.” It gets easier, (Page 3) as time moves on, processing “difficult emotions” and “coping with your loss will get easier.” (Page 3). The pamphlet reminds us to “focus on positive thoughts.” Something I have thought about myself, how to be present, when I feel like disconnecting, how to appreciate the now and move forward, without assuming the negative toward me, and make better my life moving forward. We all have our lapses in judgment, and may at times make bad decisions for ourselves moving forward, and its that loss of control over the outcome or judgment of us that leaves us feeling powerless, as to the assumptions made by others, and whats to come, whats in store, and what the future depends on moving forward, as guided by the principles we choose to make good decisions in our lives.
Jeffrey Jackson, A Handbook for Survivors of Suicide (2018).
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Finding a Space to Discuss Your Worry
When its not safe to speak anywhere, in private or in public, that’s when you know you’ve been given unwanted information about a person, and when a harm has occurred. When a harm has occurred that occurs when someone in a position of trust misuses that position of trust to make someone look like they are not to be trusted, and to build empathy publicly for someone who is not in need of help from outside sources, including the public. That is not how to politicize the identity of someone who is well, by making them ill, based upon your judgments of them, make them look like a lesser person, and you the predominant species in life, make in jest commentary to hurt someones sense of being, call them out to be something they are not, or create circumstances difficult to communicate without disruption of focus or attentions on what is going well, be made to see differently based upon pre-judgments made as to their good character, try to persuade others, or confirm to others such is the case, without knowing a person you cannot judge them, and based upon what others knows about someone, create a general understanding about a person, to make people think differently of them or to bring about weaknesses to judgments held about a person in public, as to their good character is wrong.
Whenever we have a new idea, in order for it to come to fruition we have to be stable. Nothing is ever built on instability, we can try, but sometimes to no avail do things become possible for us in life. We live during times of turmoil, but its important not to make that outside turmoil our own. Its always in our best interests to stay well, in spite of whatever difficulties get thrown our way, stay balanced. -Its hard to stay organized when you have many ideas flying overhead as a writer, you have to stay level headed. Its important not to scare your readers away with your problems, you’ll likely not have them on board with you, if your instability, wrecks those relationships moving forward. Building anything requires time, tact, and self-restraint. Not only must be cognizant of the emotions of others but we need to be strong ourselves. #FoxNews  just shared a book today, about who is among you, and if you do not get along with anyone among you, you’ll likely face difficulty finding success at what you’re doing in life. To that I could relate. Often times we build connections, trying to fit in, that we end up looking just the same. How can we differentiate ourselves, that sense of independence and need will never change. Treating people as individuals, and not shedding light upon what hurts, but being a valued support system and friend, is at best we can do sometimes. When our ideas, interfere with the best interests of others, its therefore our responsibility to make amends and fix whatever ties we do have to the given situation. Its not advantageous for us, to get involved, in problems, and make the problems of others our own, get involved. You just have to stay steady and weather the storms. Sometimes that means less promotion of personal interests and more promotion of ideas that help shape us, who we are today, and not focused on where we have been in life, but what we are doing now to perfect our lives.
Not Caring What Other People Think
Not caring what other people think, does not necessarily mean basing decisions off of others, to gear what they think (about you or others), to (get them to) think of something other than them (or others) or their reasons for saying the things that they do (in response to you or others). Don't try to control people, always be yourself, when in public. “Do that thing you do” was a great movie. Just as lyrics matter, to give meaning to songs, the words you use give meaning to you and where you’re coming from. People will always try to figure out why you say things, or do things, but that interpretation is not up to you. That’s what they think, not important for you to control what other people think about you or others. A lot of what we have to do and say, involves caring what other people think of us. Image matters, but not to the extent that it erodes your sense of being, people pleasing others. That’s not always the best way forward, doing things for others, or for reaction to you. That can often times lead you to a stand still, not knowing which way to go from there. You can’t control what other people think, and the more you try to control the reactions of others, the more powerless you feel, in spite of those reactions. People will think what they want to think, everyone has that right to be happy, in spite of you or your opinions of others, including them, what they think. Outlining today, I wondered what to write about, and then it came to me as I was writing, have faith in your abilities, your heart is a powerful search engine in the theme of finding what is right, the right thing to do or say in regards to the circumstances of others. Always be mindful. Mindfulness to me, is about caring what other people think, but not letting what other people think ruin my day. Friesenpress.com let me know that it was possible to write a book based upon my blog posts, that’s a good start somewhere, to begin. It’s not always important for us to be likeable in order to like ourselves, sometimes in order to be a likeable figure, you have to know yourself well enough to know your limits in life, and where to go from what points in life, have a sense of direction that’s all your own.