LYS #55-63 by Leslie A. Fischman
Don’t run out of inspiration in life people pleasing & catering to the needs of others, once you establish your own sense of happiness, that’s how to blend in best make others happy around you, don’t fall victim get bossed in life belittled baby’d because you’re not confident in life, fewer opportunities open up for you when you become reliant on your surroundings to make decisions. Don’t second guess yourself, follow your intuitions, that’s not heart, that’s preserving yourself, saving your energy for what’s most important to you in life, you come first during times of trauma or hardship, that’s not selfishness to become unavailable to the needs of others, if it’s not your job it’s not your job, know your priorities in life, be the happy one, forget your past, and keep your side of the street clean to not be subject to criticisms by others. That’s how to best help by example and overcome failure in life.
As soon as you wake up from a bad day yesterday, be grateful for the day ahead, reminded of your errors, don’t start the day on the same subjects that left you feeling down yesterday. To rise anew, think positive, what’s on your agenda for the day, come up with a plan, set goals, be task oriented, you won’t always forget where you’ve been but you need not be weighed down by the past once it’s been processed out loud, let yourself grow from that point on, don’t go backwards trying to fix what’s been broken, it’s today that matters most, let go.
Live this life as best you can, your only limit is you. If you can’t see it happening then don’t force it ... allow life to happen on its own timing, don’t be selfish or needy, your emergencies in life are not the same as others. If you need something right now that you can’t provide for yourself, then don’t go looking for others to help make you feel a certain way, adjust your settings on your own, be independent of others. Too much idle time and loneliness leaves you feeling sorry for yourself less than capable of having things in life you currently don’t have, to have it all, give it your all, and to give it your all pace yourself in life, life’s not a race, your wellness is more important than rushing through life alone.
One day at a time. Recovery from any injurious condition takes time, the body heals itself, do your best to take good care of yourself without worry for what others think. You know you best, your only limit is yourself when it comes to healing, the more work you put into bettering yourself the better you feel, you decide.
Don’t get depressed simply because you don’t feel good enough, pretty enough, or feminine. To have it all, self-love comes first, be happy with who you are and what you look like. If you haven’t figured that much out yet in life you’re not ready to date, people are attracted most to those who work hard, are disciplined, outgoing, social, approachable, compassionate, understanding, an empathic listener, stable. If what you’re looking for hasn’t found you yet, then first possess the qualities you seek in a mate before expecting that much from anyone. Own your identity. Be yourself, keep your head up.
Not everyone will agree with you and that’s okay, you’re not always right, but you know you best. No one likes a fight. It’s hard to assert your needs without being confrontational sometimes, you’ll have to learn how to let things go, especially when it comes to being defensive over the past, what’s gone is gone. You certainly cannot move forward by discussing what went wrong in the past, if not to relive those errors moving forward, reminded by them. The start of any new relationship is a fresh start. Appreciate where you are now and what time left you have to spend with those you love.
Under any and all circumstances do not be selfish no matter how upset you get practice some self restraint, don’t tantrum, don’t self harm, and don’t blame others for your dispositions in life. The more responsibility you take for the life you lead the better off you’ll be, that’s not something they just say to people in recovery because it only applies to their personality type, but can be applicable to all who struggle with accepting their past and moving forward. Life is not a seamless journey of ups and downs there will be bends, breaks, and stains along the way that feel permanent. Nothing lasts forever, not feelings, not experiences, and especially not the past. You give power to what controls you in life, that includes your memory bank.
For some reason why does it always seem that as soon as you say you’re gonna do something ... all the energy gets sucked out of you. That’s what procrastination feels like, whether you feel capable, whether you feel able, and what you do to psyche yourself into getting your work done. There are many hurdles in life, one of which is getting going, focus is the easiest part of moving forward, once you get going focus jumps from task to task time flying by, it’s when time stops and you can’t get going is the most difficult part of life, leaving moments of disillusionment and finding clarity.
It’s not everyday that you meet someone who changes your life for the better. It’s tough to be inspired set in your ways, it’s never too late to fix what’s been broken and have a change of heart. It seems as though until we are forced to let go of the past do our outlooks change in life. Don’t break what’s not broken, life’s not a dress rehearsal, you only get one chance at moving forward when a new relationship arrives. You either make a good first impression or fall below expectations energy wise, you choose whether to allow mental health issues to keep you from meeting new people in life and starting anew. Until you are ready spare yourselves and others the heartbreak of meeting you broken, they will always be proud of you, it’s you that needs to be proud of yourself.
For the most part you’re ability to fight and drive in life is lost once you do something wrong that usually admonishes others from being the culprit of any wrongdoing once you sabotage yourself in life, found in error, it’s to the benefit of others when you fail in those cases, where no trust is given no trust is lost, the benefit running to those to whom trust was not granted in the first place justified as not doing so rightfully so. Don’t wind up a loose canon in life, put yourself at greater odds than you already face acceptance wise, that’s not the solution, find your sense of inner peace and if it’s you that does not sit well with others, then don’t present yourself among others until your story shared is a story worth hearing. It’s not your responsibility to resolve the past, clarify your part, or bring up discussions concerning the wellness of others, if your own house is not in order. To show you care about others, stay healthy, it’s your wellness that helps make others feel safe better off in life than you if you have a hard story to share, not necessarily your interactions with them. Allow for awkward moments, negative judgments, and resentments toward you to unfold, once you stop doing well in life, it’s all a matter of correcting your behavior and adjusting to your surroundings -don’t be controlled by anyone, have self-control, don’t self-harm. #stopsuicide #sober #AA #Amends
Don’t wonder for too long, keep going in life. You can’t plan for everything, not even success, each accomplishment leads to another, there’s always room for improvement. It’s true that you won’t know unless you try, it looks easy looking back but everyone knows learning is a process.
That’s not entitlement if based on who you are think you should be treated differently than others, if that’s the expectation anticipates upon meeting you then by putting you down proves them right or wrong the extent to which you are deserving of being treated well a good person naturally, a good person by choice, a good person by know how, a good person Bc you have no options left, or a good person by upbringing or advisement. People will always assume if you’re not feeling well it’s bc of some error on your part, or a result of a resentment your harboring if you bring up anything from the past. How you look is how you will be judged based upon how you share your experiences in life, the timeline by which you’ve made decisions in life, mistakes, errors, interactions, relationships, mental health issues, self harm, and suicide attempts past. Fix yourself. You cannot change the predispositions of others to defend themselves if each time you get strong are put down, controlled, bossed, corrected, or punished, figure out what you could be doing a better job of in life so that others do not respond in the negative toward you. Be fearless that doesn’t mean take chances in life, follow your whims, be better than, or strive to achieve your best by raising any bars to your own standards of wellness in life. If others are not in acceptance of you most of the time it’s because they are looking for something wrong with you not to better you but to better themselves protect their own wellness in life irrespective of how you fair in the long run. Wellness is not a group effort, sometimes by selfish means others achieve in life, if you’re not able to help the sickly at this time that’s okay, it’s more important to stay well than it is to help others, making a positive difference means stepping away sometimes from the cycle of trauma, fear, and loss that accompanies trust, and make due with what you have in life, not every loss is recoverable, so long as people think you are to blame for the misfortunes of others as affected when you are not well, others will justify taking from you or contributing to your failures in life with pride until an adverse reaction is achieved to group you among similarly denounced members of society, that’s more than making a joke out of someone’s life that’s ruining someone’s life knowing them knowing their pet peeves and seeing how they survive when left to their own devices in life whether even as disabled can make good decisions for themselves be a good person.
LYS (July 2019) (62)
When you get your energy back ... be productive. Don’t become complacent or go backwards through old habits of procrastination -if you know your patterns the better off you’ll be. How to keep going in life. Create structure to your life, whether that be by errands, tasks, or jobs -keep your mind off of what needs work -sometimes that’s best to get work done. Overachieving is about keeping track of what needs to get done while at the same time setting long term goals necessary to get done what needs to get done now.
It’s important to stay positive. After many days have passed it usually just so happens that what used to bother you no longer does, allow that process to happen. The longer you stay upset the longer things bother you. Allow yourself to move forward. The more you complain the more difficult it becomes to move past what’s bothering you. If what’s bothering you was too far past you look like the person who’s not moved forward.
LYS (cont) (63)
Never stop believing in yourself ... there will always be causes and circumstances others will be curious to know if has affected you, is about, or whether you have been influenced in part by, your own or the struggles of others with regards to the opinions held current, past, or presently regarding issues that you as the reader endure having a viewpoint of all as reading one should always keep in mind never to assume, be open, criticize less, always expect more, and it’s okay to #justask, that’s being a helpful reader. Be patient with everyone as comfort grows, the more educated you are the more comfortable you become speaking in public, it’s a gift to speak opening about ones feelings, ones self, or ones experiences ... that’s not second nature to do so.
Likeability to the masses has much to do with what is heard about you, energy wise it’s what is thought about you drains you as being watched by others, to keep going you have to restore your own sense of faith within yourself, that’s what work is for. The momentum you get from working is your own positive reinforcement in life, once that is taken away depression hits. Don’t allow others to interfere with your ability to work by their own needs mis-distinguish you are bad or by stories justify the hardships you currently face if not by your own conduct or argued by your conduct to relinquish those currently watching you in private spaces from blame as attached to you. That’s not my responsibility to be a provider of wellness to those watching me in private only to provide wellness online and if I cannot be a provider of both wellness in private and in public does not mean I’m not of value or deserving to live life free of hardship, hate, and belittle me my as to my best interests to stay well as well as not interfere with the best interests of others to stay well.
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