LYS 51 Be patient with yourself it takes time to come out of a funk whether it’s feeling lazy or just not motivated ... you sometimes have to inspire yourself and get disciplined whether that’s by reading a book, listening to music, writing a letter, journaling, going to therapy ... the more missed appointments and set back you allow the more problems you’ll encounter correcting your mood. The more you get done the better you’ll feel. Stay in tune with your goals in life. The less you share about your inner workings and personal life you’ll be. Don’t over complicate life for no reason blogging. Do your best to share but within reason what’s valuable to others and preserve your privacy. It’s easy to be open about your life sometimes you can get carried away talking about self opening up. Missed quotes - Be happy with who you are now but forget not where you have been, if you can learn from your mistakes all the better. Until you are willing to admit when you have a problem can it be solved it’s at that point you begin your recovery from whatever ails you. Know that everyone is doing their best to support themselves too that’s not selfishness that’s recovery -focusing on yourself. LYS 52 Whenever you’re feeling the negative judgments of your own ... think twice ... where could you have gone wrong in your thinking are you being correct and fair toward yourself or are you letting them win. When is it time to stop being so hard on yourself ... there’s a fine line between letting them win and at your own expense self-harm to call attention to those defects of character be strong and resilient to life stressors without sacrificing your positive spirit a good thought can change your whole outlook of circumstances and self. #stopselfharm Even on your worst days keep your head up ... a little positive thinking goes a long way not anticipating the negative can save you from a lot of heartache and heartbreak ... it could just be you having a day not anything to do with others ... why not to waste too much time worried what others think “people are mostly concerned with themselves” not thinking about you or criticizing you that’s paranoia to think others are talking about you behind your back ... accept where and w/whom you are with now ... and the future is for the taking ... the better suited you are presently the easier it will be to blend in and move forward. Dont wait on others to provide for you what you can fill in yourself ... not everything is about reading into others especially during times of trauma where one is clear not misread a situation or into the behaviors of others as directed toward any individual or group of people in the negative that’s an assumption negative toward someone who’s positive thereby depleting them of their energies to correct your energies toward them, as a person of trauma ... understand a persons freeze, respect their freeze, and give them time to perform at their own paces in life that’s how to help people move forward not by being too hard on them once they’ve moved forward in life. When you’re feeling heavy it can be difficult to talk to others ... accept that some who don’t talk to you are doing so out of their best interests sometimes going backwards causes more harm than good ... do your best in the event you get ignored by others something’s are better left unsaid when it’s time to make an amends do so at your own discretion ... sometimes it’s easier to dust under the rug what’s gone wrong than to eliminate people from your life completely let bygones be bygones. If you think there’s a problem there will be a problem if you think less what others are thinking you’ll be less likely to have a problem existing within you regarding the thoughts of others about you. There’s a power to self-identifying with others ... those rare moments of common interests or sharing the same feelings as others well that’s likeness you won’t be in sync with everyone ... don’t be ashamed when you feel like a wallflower and don’t feel bad if frozen ... there are plenty of outgoing people in this world willing to pick you up off your beaten paths in life ... until you feel whole again that’s seeing and identifying a problem and fixing a problem when you help others some are naturally gifted in that way to help others others are judgmental in that way identifying what’s wrong with people to make them look and feel worse off - only you know who to surround yourself with - choose the least judgmental crowd and go from there. Everyone finds their sense of peace at different points in their lives ... find yours and I’ll find mine ... not everyone’s sense of peace will be the same (on board) there will be some who think not being on board with any ideals is best focused on themselves not jokes ... harmony is a tough climb among all you just have to persevere through pains in life what’s off putting reserve your judgments not be competitive with others and forgive often in order to move forward no set back to draw upon inner turmoils past if these issues are beyond you or already visited it’s not necessary to revisit the past personally that’s always toughest and be sure not to offend anyone else’s interests that are not in alignment or similar to your own best interests don’t be defensive always do your best to report and take no offense toward and decisions not directly about you should not affect you personally. Don’t respond to anyone or anything that causes you aggravation you’re likely to get upset letting the other side win. Stick to what you know best not what you overhear as about you. What you assume is directed toward you ... could be what’s lost in communication with others what can be inferred from a conversation that’s your understanding. Never assume that others are acting against you in life that’s paranoia to think others are talking about you are that there is some gathered consensus opinion about you. Don’t self-harm - whether that’s by letting the voices win or allowing others to get under you skin by insult don’t be bothered by the stresses or negativity of others that’s simply them trying to be you ... or you trying to ignore them ... when someone sees you doing well spiritually they should not be bothered but there are some to who think that your wellness is not deserved seek to bring you down in life. If you’re struggling with mental health issues it’s nothing to do with you and everything to do with their discomforts accepting you, all liabilities and images aside. You’re always told in recovery others want what you have I was never really sure what that meant ... always happy to be myself ... now looking back I see it’s all about mental health preserving your own wellness. If you cannot stay well then yes you’ll wish you were someone else who is well and when you realize how far back you are ... you’ll have to dig deep to remember who you and to value yourself being you not trying to be like others, emulate you’ll just wind up feeling worse off not good enough. When one door closes another one opens - relationships work in that way you’re never completely single there’s always someone who has your heart - and if you’re not sure if they’re taken keep your eyes open for whos next better yourself and keep your head up you’re more likely to attract the attentions of others confident than anti-social, be nice not bitter. It’s always when you least expect it - do others pay attention to you never when you’re looking sometimes when you’re not well - trust that on your good days things will fall into place don’t let depression or negativity get the best of you there’s something always better on the other side. Stay well and do your part always to contribute to the positivity around you not be a source of discomfort, how to make others feel comfortable around you. As you get older the less things matter, matter to you above all else life is much too short to go backwards thinking the could’ve should’ve would’ve live for the moment and by all means carry on in life be beyond your years mature without giving up at any halfway point in life. People may come and go from your life but you will always be you, learn to sit with your emotions everything passes the more focused disciplined you are. Be thankful for family and friends this holiday weekend. Be in the now appreciative of all the years you have left to live and be grateful for who’s here now. It’s not necessary to worry about the past what’s more important is not to lose time now. When you love what you do it makes no sense to add worry to your plate ... don’t set yourself up for disaster self-sabotaging, thinking negatively. If you can only do your best now -think not of the years wasted in addiction and think more about everything you have accomplished if you’re happy with where you are now then you’re right where you should be, present. The less stress the better. Especially when around the ones you love not carry stresses from work life into your private lives keeping each world separate from one another. Believe in yourself if you don’t who will. It’s not often that we can rely upon others to lift us when we’re down that’s something you need to learn how to do for yourself. There’s a such thing as fair weather friends and soon enough they’ll be gone too if you’re not already gone. Don’t wait until those lapses in faith to turn your life around for the better. Practice makes perfect. No one keeps closer tabs on you than you and if you think someone’s keeping close tabs on you that’s you putting yourself out there to be tabbed. If privacy is what you need than share less you are a product of your own voice not the voice necessarily of others ... take responsibility for the voices you provide through your writing and make sure it’s always your own. There’s a toxic condition where you feel like everything’s being done to you, nothings your fault, and people are out to get you ... it’s called selfishness only thinking about oneself. The world is a big place one should feel lucky enough to inhabit this space and if you can’t rationalize why others are not equally obsessing over your livelihood it’s because living is awesome and they’re probably doing their best too to live life as best they can ... it’s sad to think others live lives with or without you in it ... but the more time you spend bettering yourself the more quality time you’ll have to spend with others. Don’t be confrontational there’s a way to talk to others about your problems with them without creating a problem between you guys. It’s called tact. No that’s not sitting others down for conversations it’s having conversations to which both can be a party to without making the other feel excluded from having a voice. You usually want people in your life ... and in order to have people in your life you can’t make others feel uncomfortable by being confrontational. Think to yourself what’s your part before attacking the characters of others if it’s something you can correct about yourself then do so without bringing everyone else around you down. The stress of needing something you can’t have will pass whether that’s someone or a material item of necessity you’ll learn to do without in life. The more you focus on what you don’t have the more likely the opportunity for it will leave you the less you stress about what you don’t have in life the more likely those opportunities will present themselves to you. If you’re the type of person who’s always up for interpretation than so be it. We all have unique personality types no one knows you better than you know yourself. There’s a power to observation that others have over you don’t let that be a source of disempowerment, track your changes better yourself and don’t let anyone hold you down in life. If we cant pray in peace then we absolutely need peace that’s the one spot everyone goes to for quiet and serenity. If you can’t value that much to humanity then you are not fit for leadership to any group of persons ... who leads who overseas? The blind, the spoiled, the rotten, the angry, the belittled, the abused? No condition failed is ever an excuse to cause harm to others or oneself recognize where you come from who’s around you and be at peace. #EarthDay No matter where you go from here let no one pull you astray always stay on path in life. It’s when we’re lost we get taken advantage of or put down -always know your self-worth. Everyday moving forward is an opportunity for self-growth and self-love. You may feel a sense of urgency to leave when you’re around others ... it’s not always when time is free that we have to be around others, don’t bolt stay. Usually what you’re running away from is commitment, committing to time spent with others away from whatever it is you’re doing elsewhere. Sometimes these are learned behaviors -trouble keeping still. If you think in terms of how fragile you are you’ll go nuts worrying about your future. The body takes care of itself. Think instead what you can do to take better care of yourself. Self-care is a must when it comes to self betterment without which we would not feel good to start or end a day, which all begins with self-care. If today already feels like it’s gonna be a long day and it’s still the AM means (1) you’ve woken up too early or (2) your daily intention is not positive. Fix what you can about your attitude and carry on the day lightly. It’s all a matter of patience (a) fewer expectations = (b) more energy. The less you fret the greater you rise to any occasion. Enjoy your day today. No therapy setting will be perfect it’s what you put into it you get out of it -that goes for individual therapy and group therapy. If you’re not willing to share figure out what’s preventing you from sharing and if you’re not ready to share what’s stopping you. Not all problems are discussable or so you think but with the right people and support systems in place all problems can be deciphered and dealt with accordingly. We may not always have a voice to share our opinions about life if writing is your passion than it’s by providing a voice to others you care about not necessarily hear your own problems out loud. Then if that’s what you need help with be sure to be able to disguise which problems are your own, of your own making, or what’s presently bothering you about yourself or others -how much credit goes to you or them. No therapy setting will be perfect it’s what you put into it you get out of it -that goes for individual therapy and group therapy. If you’re not willing to share figure out what’s preventing you from sharing and if you’re not ready to share what’s stopping you. Not all problems are discussable or so you think but with the right people and support systems in place all problems can be deciphered and dealt with accordingly. We may not always have a voice to share our opinions about life if writing is your passion than it’s by providing a voice to others you care about not necessarily hear your own problems out loud. Then if that’s what you need help with be sure to be able to discuss which problems are your own, of your own making, or what’s presently bothering you about yourself or others -how much credit goes to you or them. For some education plays an important role in their lives. When your intuitions begin to fail you there’s one place you can always go > to the books. We all have an inner voice and whether or not we are capable of interpreting those gut feelings ... it’s something occurring within us. Sometimes the use of analytical reasoning can be stressful however we’d rather spend the time overthinking than experiencing life like a free spirit getting hurt by others, and realize our mistakes in thoughts afterward. The best thing about having thoughts is that no one can hear them, so it’s okay to mess up in thinking just not your behaviors or how you treat others. We can’t rely on instinct alone, if troubles ahead sometimes its best to listen to others, avoid controversy, and know when staying home is best. It’s a natural part of life to get tired you can’t expect to be at your best high energy all days some days you have to push through and learn how to get things done on an even keel. It’s just something you get used to as you get older how to operate when calm - energy comes and it goes especially depending on your mood having a positive outlook can help elevate any state of being present you just have to be willing to change and amend your patterns of thinking and response to the stress of getting things done, after a hards day of work, or a long road ahead - stay steady pace yourself. Be accepting of different personality types you won’t get along with everyone but don’t be quick to be judgmental about the conditions of others the only premonitions we can accurately have are of our own lives predict don’t waste time or energy predicting the lives of others. Enjoy today be grateful for who’s in you’re life and hopeful about those you have yet to meet. Remind yourself that you’re a good person and deserve the best no matter how far you’ve fallen or failed in life, there’s always room for self-improvement when there’s no room for error moving forward. If you wait long enough things work out especially when you’re patient a careful decision maker. Never rush into anything you’re not sure about and always be calm whenever you have to make an important decision. Chances are if stressed you’re more likely to jump into things you’re not ready for. Best to wait. #datingtips Relationships come and go what’s most important is to be happy with yourself - you need love to give love. The stronger more independent you are as a person the better off you’ll be less likely to stifle or tire your significant others space is everything avoid codependency at all costs. #datingtips Just when you think you have it bad you realize all the possibilities when someone new enters your life. Don’t take for granted all the blessings that your life has afforded you. You have much to be grateful for you just have to recognize your own wellness not be defined by your diagnoses and do your best to live and resume a normal life. When love comes knocking be ready for it. It’s not everyday that you find a match in life but when you do match up enjoy the moment those are few and far between. When you’re your best version of yourself it’s easier to love and be loved. LYS 53 Sleep is so important - a regular work day is 9 to 5pm and if you choose to work any other hours well that’s you putting yourself at risk of harm. That’s part of life ... finding balance. You’ll always have time to catch up remind yourself of that if you wake up early ... staying up is rarely the solution to getting anything done tired. Take your time in life don’t rush into anything you’re not ready for ... but if it’s love you want it’s hard not to. It seems we think these opportunities are few and when we do match up rush into things ... for security reasons. But once you have love well that’s it you got what you wanted where to next? Stability comes with maturity -over time the more careful you are the longer your relationships last ... the better off you’ll be. Take time to smell the roses, enjoy life, and be thankful for every minute you get to live life and be happy always for those in your life. Love them, don’t bother them, trust them don’t question them, and love often. Stop yourself from wasting time sounds easy but difficult ... you’ll have fewer uncomfortable feelings in life the more you get done. Mental health issues generally strike when you’re not making proper use of your time ... do your best not to leave your mind idle for too long. Keeping busy not only makes you feel good but helps you to steer clear of negative voices too. Don’t over-consume yourself with the thoughts of others they are mostly concerned about themselves absent minded you 9 out of 10 times unless you put yourself at the forefront on their mind heckling them for attentions in life ... remember the positives and don’t allow any amount of negativity to stand between you and your two good cents. There are many things you can do to stay positive other than meditate and listening to positive music you can challenge your negative thinking keep a gratitude list and say thanks to those who’ve helped you along your way. Giving back to the community that supports you is one way to feel whole, do volunteer work, and count your blessings twice. Don’t forget to smile! * cite Whatever you do make a decision to live this life as best you can. That’s the first step to appreciating where you’re at ... and growing from places in life you wish you were not. Every opportunity for change is a moment away ... your choices define you in life. Love as best you can even on your worst days if you’re lucky enough that love will be reciprocated. Continue to build your new self without affecting others ... your loves in life will be happy to see you change and notice the positive difference in you. That’s after all the best way to let go to be the bigger person best version of yourself not always better than. Be careful not to be competitive when in love love is given and received make no demands about it always go with the flow. You can’t be too hard on yourself especially with people literally coming and going from our lives (RIP) although recently has been a time of mourning you will regain strength through doing positive things for yourself to stay well, be sure not to rebel with the times and go south, keep your head up and so that those who’ve cared for you and us would be proud. If you can’t get your way in life be fearless in the pursuit of whatever sets your heart free again. We all feel stuck sometimes it’s all a matter of changing focus think what it is you’re attaching to and ask yourself whether it’s worth it or whether your time and attentions are best spent somewhere else. No one likes someone needy always be independent to be loved ... be easy on the heart easy on the eye there’s no stopping when it comes to perfecting self. How to get your hyper back: Do things that make you feel good and surround yourself with people who support you. Self-care is a must, if you haven’t figured it out yet it’s how you look and present yourself to the world that you get treated in return. Represent yourself best before trying to include others in your lives, you’ll face less rejections in life when you’re at your best. It’s not everyday that new people come into your life ... be sure not to scare them with your problems, think in terms of positives, what are 5 things nice to say about yourself -where are you headed in life, don’t get stuck talking about the past especially if your past is not something your proud of. So long as you are doing well now there’s no reason why you should not be able to move forward in any relationship. Yes you can make public appearances alone - this may not be New York but it’s still okay to show up places alone. The better you know yourself the easier it is to be around others. When you do good in the world everyone benefits from your good health and choosing to be apart of ... don’t isolate that’s the worst thing you can do when trying to make a positive difference, participation is a must. Get out there and be positive and let the rest fall into place. Stay proactive. LYS 54 Don’t expect anything in life to be handed to you: job, success, or boyfriend. If you want those things in life go out and get them. You have to keep applying yourself. Be diligent, time is of the essence. The longer you wait the harder it is to try again. Don’t leave gaps in your resume and don’t let too much time pass before you start dating again. Life’s a blessing meant to be lived to the fullest. Do your best always. You never know who you’ll meet in life who believes in you and what your capable of. The right people will come into your life if you allow for it. Dont shut down opportunities for yourself in life because you’re scared of rejection ... you’ll never know unless you try for many things in life. Keep up the hard work and stay motivated! Keep applying yourself. Don’t make your pains in life the worry of others. Connect only when well and learn how to be disciplined about how you connect well with others. We are all short on time and energy be respectful of the time of others and don’t waste their energy thinking about you or worrying about your future wellness everyone has problems of their own they need to focus on. Root more, complain less, and be a support system not in need of support from others. Be gentle ... the times are tough. Don’t make life harder than it needs to be. Less is more. Don’t overwhelm yourself with worry. Remind yourself of your self-worth. Be mindful of others. Set high standards of yourself but don’t set your expectations of others too high. Be yourself. Love more. Enjoy this life you’ve only got one. Don’t sweat the small stuff. The less you fear the more you live. Don’t bring yourself down. So much too look forward to in life so little time to waste. Live ad though you have no room for error in life. When you put yourself first that’s not being selfish that’s making yourself a priority. Sometimes we forget to take good care of ourselves and that’s okay. There’s always time to regroup. Do your best to stay on top of things, so that you can be there for others. Finding mutual support is a process of getting well and staying well. #sober Goal set and visualize where you want to be in life. Be careful not to compare yourself to others while doing so. You are you, while you can change your outlook you cannot change your presence, the way you look, without a little effort. Looking the part is one step toward success ... doing the work is the second half of the battle. Invest your time and energy in things that make you feel whole. Don’t be needy ... love to love but don’t make love your end all be all. The best loves are the ones who stick around through thick and thin ... love doesn’t have to be everyday. Appreciate those for who they are whether they’re once in awhile or not, that you cannot control peoples time spent with you, don’t be selfish, be understanding, compassionate, and be genuine ... you’ll likely succeed the busier you keep yourself career wise if it’s love that you want in life. Be grateful for all that you have in life ... some have less. Don’t worry what people think be more concerned about how you react and respond to stresses in life. Don’t take anything too personally. Be vocal about your feelings but bring no one else down around you. If you’re feeling the blues nostalgic ... listen to your 90s music and return at your earliest convenience. Don’t get your hopes up especially when you first meet people, send your messages, your thank yous, and your emails and stay positive! The worst thing you can do waiting for a reply is to reply to your reply or write past your first reply some just don’t respond and it may not have anything to do with you. #spacecadet You can either wait your whole life to find your match or focus instead on being the best version of yourself. Life happens much quicker when you’re focused on yourself not others. Depend less on cues from others to let you know when to move forward -follow your instincts. Let go of what never was so that you can attach to who’s in your life now. It’s not inevitable that you will fail in life if you don’t do things right it just decreases you chances of being happy with yourself. Self-satisfaction often times comes from doing the right thing in life not doing what is wrong. Don’t get all hot and bothered if you’re ever in error in life there’s always time to correct your mistakes and move forward in life. Everything in small doses. When it comes to relationships nothing will work if either is not ready to invest their heart and cares toward one another, make an addition to their lives. If you’re not ready for it don’t force it. Less is more, the less you communicate the more room for opportunity you leave, don’t close doors that aren’t closed, by overthinking or by sharing too much about yourself. Life’s much too short to worry. Love to love and do your best. Let life take a turn for the best. Less fear more faith. Everything works out in the long run, head down, focus on you. Let yourself blossom, don’t be held back by your fears in life, live freely, for the moment. Enjoy life. We are all just living life as best we can. You learn as you go. As the years pass be where you are now, think not of who you were then, and appreciate how much you’ve grown. The past is past. Life only feels short the unhappier you are. Be present, be happy. Stay motivated to get what you want in life. Realize your potential. When the going gets tough the tough gets going. Never give up. Don’t allow fears to inhibit your best decision making skills. You know you best. Always be professional. In order to excel at anything in life you must have a firm belief that all things are possible, with a positive attitude anything can happen. Duplicate^ Stay motivated to get what you want in life. Realize your potential. When the going gets tough the tough gets going. Never give up. Don’t allow fears to inhibit your best decision making skills. You know you best. Always be professional. In order to excel at anything in life you must have a firm belief that all things are possible, with a positive attitude anything can happen. Life isn’t perfect! Remind yourself that you’re worth it. Not everything works out that doesn’t mean that something better isn’t out there for you. Don’t give up hope, a better future awaits you so long as you stay positive. Be goal oriented. Don’t overwhelm your connections in life with your problems. There’s a time and a place for therapy and it’s not through text messaging or social media. This you learn as you get older that it’s not necessary to share how you’re feeling out loud but become better keeping your emotions to yourself. Be a good companion in life, supportive, loving, and approachable. Everyone has problems, you’re not the only one who contemplates the meaning of life, have questions about the future, and past regrets. It’s normal to feel that way. If you cannot love yourself ... it’s hard to realize when you are loved. Don’t be selfish too consumed by yourself and your problems. When love shows up at your doorstep, wake up and smell the hot chocolate. That’s time to shift gears from focusing on your needs to focusing on the needs of others. Sometimes in loving others we find ourselves again. Make today a great day. Remind yourself you’re beautiful, talented, special, unique, and well worth it. Let no one convince you otherwise that you don’t deserve the best that’s out there for you. It’s all a matter of managing your self-esteem. Stay true to who you are with no apologies about it, own it, be yourself. Life isn’t easy take it day by day. If you’re going through a hard time don’t lose faith. We all have our disabilities in life, it’s all a matter of overcoming your weaknesses in life. Believe in yourself. Live each day with a daily intention. What is it that you seek to accomplish, and do so. Set goals for yourself daily. How to stay motivated. Recovery is a process. Don’t set yourself back by worrying to much about the past, keep going. Progress not perfection. Always maintain positive momentum. Live each day to the fullest. Don’t give up just because you’re tired, keep going. Make it your goal each day to do your best, it’s okay to be a people pleaser, sometimes you don’t know best. Listen, be advised, it’s okay to lose your sense of direction in life and to rely upon others for help. Stay positive! Better to have love and lost than to never have loved at all. You won’t know unless you get back out there and date. You learn about yourself each time you put yourself out there. Whether you find love or heartbreak don’t give up, you’ll find your matches in life when you’re ready. And when you find a match you like don’t lose faith, always be patient, you can’t expect too much daily from anyone. You have to be able to take good care of yourself in order to be well taken care of in life. Don’t be spoiled, work hard for it, nothing comes easy in life, especially love. If you don’t like yourself, think of three things to be proud of. Self-love is key to self-growth. Grow from your mistakes. Let go of your regrets. And move on from your past. Remind yourself that what your feeling is normal, we’ve all been there. It’s all a matter of preserving through those moments in time to get to the best parts of your life: happiness. Missed quote The key to being happy is accepting where you are now. Trust the timing of your life. No one cares about your past as much as you do. No one knows everything about you unless you tell them so. Not everybody knows who you are walking into a room. Those are blessings in life. You do have control over your life, by what you share about yourself. Don’t convince yourself of things that aren’t real. Believe what you will, believe in yourself. It’s always okay to start over in life, meet new people, move, rebuild yourself. Life’s a series of ups and downs, know that you’re not alone, everyone has problems. It’s easy to text anytime you get worried, but you cannot rely on others always for reassurances in life, you’re bound if so to set yourself up for heartache and heartbreak. Affirmations should come from within. Sure others can help make us to feel good, but if you can’t make yourself feel good on your own, then that’s something you need to work on. People are most attracted to those who look good and feel good, be one of them. When you get a text back after going nuts by yourself is the best feeling in the world to still be accepted even though you showed your bad hand and as seen marbles lost. You’re not always perfect ... if you can manage to be accepted as is, all the more power to you. Own your stripes. Its not how much you get done in a day that’s as important as how well you get things done. You can’t rush through everything in life and expect positive results if you’re not being a careful decision maker. Always be professional. Set goals, it’s not necessary always to multi-task your way to success, some are best at getting one thing done at a time and that’s okay. It’s okay to add your two cents, but never at the expense of hurting the feelings of others. There’s never a right time to accept feedback and or criticisms, you just have to accept when given, what people have to say. Know that everyone is trying to help you. It’s easy to feel like people have turned on you or get frustrated, don’t be. Don’t take anything too personally. Do unto others as you wish done to you. It’s okay to add your two cents, but never at the expense of hurting the feelings of others. There’s never a right time to accept feedback and or criticisms, you just have to accept when given, what people have to say. Know that everyone is trying to help you. It’s easy to feel like people have turned on you or get frustrated, don’t be. Don’t take anything too personally. Do unto others as you wish done to you. Be proud of yourself, for how far you’ve come, and pray for all the good years you have left to live. Be here in the now, it’s all a matter of valuing where you are now, not waste time worrying about the past, could’ve should’ve would’ve, live your best life now, be the person you’re meant to be, without apologies, be yourself. Forgive yourself, it’s a hard life, but it’s not impossible, have faith in yourself and others will too. You’re only limit is you. Set high expectations of yourself and let the rest follow. Always maintain positive momentum, by conserving your daily energy points, spend them wisely. Keep preserving through every storm, every upset, and accept no failures in life, be one who thinks there’s no room for error in life, and let your best self shine. 1. If you move forward don’t go backwards. 2. Once you mention the past explain without putting yourself down. 3. Don’t overshare until you become depressed less is more. 4. Focus on the present, not past points of reference in time. 5. Don’t T yourself up for arguments in life, life’s not a fight unless you make it so. 6. Ignore hate, rise above, & have the courage not to mention your problems to others unless in a therapeutic setting. 7. Share until better and be productive until well, don’t exhaust your resources in life, running in circles to and from your mental health issues, it’s okay to let go move forward. No it’s okay I don’t need an #MLK costume this year, just let us know if you need a mic, thank you #dreamteam, that’s not what quotes are for, I can only represent myself if that helps others so be it. #selfhelp #wellness #mentalhealth #stopsuicide (Have been hospitalized 8x since 2009 ... never give up, went to 2 law schools in spite of my learning disability, so my best to #besmart don’t waste time in life, people pleasing). Focus on one thing at a time, should not have dated in law school, lost focus, fell off track, was #3 in my class at the beginning of law school, let go, forgive self often. #sober Don’t give up just because you’re having a bad day and your thoughts or fears are getting the best of you about others, image is important but not that important, your health comes first, keep busy with activities that help steer your thoughts away from the opinions of those you think benefit from your condition being poor or worse off think of the things they have to say in response get off on being able to predict outcomes for you in life prove them wrong by self-harming, that’s not the solution to prove right a past incident by presently harming oneself - running 🏃♀️ is not self-harm that’s fighting depression ... root on the wellness of others ... and just bc one can not function strong no matter what meds they’re on is not a sign of addiction speaking to things one cannot read or relate to (a condition in life) everyone wants stability no one wants to be proven ill with others convinced they’re suicidal when they’re not that’s not why I say #stopsuicide I say so because I’ve been through it not to create arguments toward me where people try to convince others I’m mentally ill and not deserving in life ... to live life as best I can at my own pace, what’s the rush, live, survive, breathe, grow #bestrong. Thoughts today (example): disorganized thinking. Meds save lives, more of anything makes you feel worse and worse. If you’re not being productive don’t waste time and energy trying to feel good on your own by rebelling from the basics of life, don’t be inappropriate and give up in life, throw your hands up in the air, play victim to circumstances you created by over indulging in your thoughts about life thinking you know best, allow others to correct you without walking into their fears or worries and prove their concerns right, if you want to prove others wrong, remind yourself of what your worth, have a plan in life that’s not consumed by negativity focusing on what’s said to you, be reminded but no need to replay those recordings over and over again in your head and bring yourself down in life. You can’t be compared to others, when your life is more difficult than theirs, yet you have to take responsibility for your actions and faults in life, if punished move on, don’t allow those moments in life to define you or change your whole outlook in life, empathizing with those outside of you judging you accommodate their opinions of you waste time explaining yourself. Recipe for disaster mental health wise, unless you can stay well will everything around you become easier, your surroundings less intimidating. You can’t fix the past, do your best now to take life seriously, if you have had poor experiences in life, any use of humor will appear obnoxious or less than. Some will believe in you but not all, you can’t go backwards on connections in life, you either leave or stay, this you learn as you get older. And if you go backwards in life contacting others, expect positivity ... don’t mistake the kindness of others as belittlement. You choose your career path, work skills, and education. Once you’re able to move forward don’t go backwards, and pray that others are accepting of you whether or not you see or hear from them, whatever you do don’t be negative, with people you’re not close to, that’s room for rejections in life, and those rejections pile up, each one adding to the next, always speak highly of self and others, and if you argue both sides, and get rejected, don’t feel less than in life, not able, do things that make you proud of who you are, motivated, inspired to keep going in life, don’t lose your drive in life, mismatched ... have faith you’ll find your matches in life, never give up. You’re right where you need to be. With so much going on in the world it’s easy to get lost. You are a product of what you focus on. Keep your thoughts positive, and always maintain a positive outlook in life, and things will surely fall into place. Think for yourself, are you judging others, if so, ask yourself why. Whenever we judge others, that just shows our own unhappiness in life with ourselves to others. Always be positive, if you don’t have anything nice to say, say nothing at all. Allow people’s true colors to show on their own without pointing out the flaws of others. Be positive. It’s okay to be hyper when you meet someone new just don’t wear them out with your insecurities. That discomfort with self cannot be made comfortable no matter how much you share and talk about the past unless you yourself are ready to move forward. Don’t be too short either with the ones you love, you’ll likely leave them feeling nervous neglected. All relationships require balance, being new to anything is exciting, take chances in life, don’t gamble your years away waiting for life to happen for you, be proactive, it’s okay to meet new people. Save therapy for therapy, any discussion of problems is usually emotionally draining to the listener, who if not your therapist, suffers hardship or worry for you ... those best acclimated for handling life crises are those equipped to, not in empathy mode, easily brought down. Some but not all who listen feel, don’t bring a crowd down, simply because you’re having a bad day, or waste the good days of those who care, caring for you on your off days, or when you’re not well. The key to maintaining positive momentum is to compartmentalize your relationships, keeping separate dialogues per: personal, intimate, professional, social media, and work. That keeps a healthy distance between you and your audience which is necessary for you to cope ... you can only help others when well that’s why, otherwise you feed discussions about you, and that’s helpful to no one. Don’t run out of inspiration in life people pleasing & catering to the needs of others, once you establish you’re own sense of happiness, that’s how to blend in best make others happy around you, don’t fall victim get bossed in life belittled baby’d because you’re not confident in life, fewer opportunities open up for you when you become reliant on your surroundings to make decisions. Don’t second guess yourself, follow your intuitions, that’s not heart, that’s preserving yourself, saving your energy for what’s most important to you in life, you come first during times of trauma or hardship, that’s not selfishness to become unavailable to the needs of others, if it’s not your job it’s not your job, know your priorities in life, be the happy one, forget your past, and keep your side of the street clean to not be subject to criticisms by others. That’s how to best help by example and overcome failure in life. LYS References:
https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd/self-care-for-ptsd/#b https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-intuitive-compass/201108/what-is-intuition-and-how-do-we-use-it https://www.sleepadvisor.org/benefits-of-waking-up-early/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wise-mind-living/201501/7-tips-staying-positive
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