LYS Notes 21-32
mymollydoll.com Leslie Fischman LYS 21 Be careful not to push yourself to extremes in life. Change doesn’t happen over night but over times. Having a proper self-care routine combined with a high degree of attention to detail can be a strength in life or a weakness depending on how much time to spend perfecting the other and for what purposes in life you seek to improve yourself. Whenever you have positives in mind the positive happens for you and likewise do the same for any negatives thoughts be sure to flip those thoughts to positives too. Life is all about balance seeing is achieving. Be sure to take it easy in life. Be appreciative of what you do have in life and go from there. You can’t force things to happen for you in life whether it’s success or self-betterment. If you achieve small goals daily that will eventually add up to fulfilling long term goals. Knowing that don’t be so hard on yourself take it day by day. Don’t be easily affected by others. At the end of the day you are in control of your influences in life for better or worse. People may try to help you along the way but if that help is unwanted you’ll be sure to get frustrated as incorporating the input of everyone, therefore make sure to remind yourself of positive affirmations to keep you afloat. Not all reasoning should be based on what others tell you but mostly come from within what makes most sense to you output wise. When the input circulating from outside of you does not match the input coming from within listen but don’t absorb your surroundings or take to heart the suggestions of others they may be geared toward causing you harm or hurting your feelings. If you’re a good person be a good person. This takes time not allowing anyone to affect you whether or not you know them or they know you looking for a reaction from you, just do your best to stay positive, surely good will follow once you achieve a better state of mind things tend to fall into place, in that way. How to get out of negativity? When you see well you tend to hear things in the positive when you are not seeing well you tend to hear things in the negative. Sometimes it’s important to listen to others to get strong or have a better outlook in life and sometimes we need alone time to better ourselves or get stronger to be around others, everyone is different, but one thing is for sure, so long as you are thinking negative thoughts ie self-defeative or manifesting your past in your present you’re not moving forward or handling your present with respect to everyone including yourself, don’t let your past define you and live your present as though you can see you’re future until you can again move forward this occurs by goal setting not by what you think presently whether you’re wrong or right or trying to prove others wrong in life don’t waste your energy thinking about those you need to prove wrong and instead think for yourself what will make you stronger not please the wrong crowds in life or those who don’t wish you happiness and self-fulfillment their sides in life you need not understand if you are able to be normal achieve well then hope that everyone’s side will accept you as you are then. How to get out of negativity? When you see well you tend to hear things in the positive when you are not seeing well you tend to hear things in the negative. Sometimes it’s important to listen to others to get strong or have a better outlook in life and sometimes we need alone time to better ourselves or get stronger to be around others, everyone is different, but one thing is for sure, so long as you are thinking negative thoughts ie self-defeative or manifesting your past in your present you’re not moving forward or handling your present with respect to everyone including yourself, don’t let your past define you and live your present as though you cant see your future until you can again move forward this occurs by goal setting not by what you think presently whether you’re wrong or right or trying to prove others wrong in life don’t waste your energy thinking about those you need to prove wrong and instead think for yourself what will make you stronger not please the wrong crowds in life or those who don’t wish you happiness and self-fulfillment their sides in life you need not understand if you are able to be normal achieve well then hope that everyone’s side will accept you as you are then. Life isn’t a popularity contest based upon who is better than who and by how much better they are than others ... that’s wellness not judging how well others are based upon what they look like or how they present themselves treat them differently than others. No matter what your background in life is you should not be held to a greater standard of wellness than average or expected more output than others, that’s not how to treat people equally in life but is considered discrimination to expect more from someone than their capable of providing to prove them wrong not disabled, if someone has disability respect their disabilities in life that’s not addiction that’s someone who’s been in recovery and with learning disability on meds now, respect the recovery time of people who are not well, fires and all. When your memory is in the positive you feel much clearer ... ever notice that, sometimes we get carried away thinking about the past in the negative, not all remember the same. -Be careful to whom you trust as reflecting on your thoughts for the day if they don’t match up with what they think is how some people drift apart as not conforming to their system of beliefs. You can’t live through life to your own tune sometimes you have to adjust to the tone of others around you, without losing your sense of self without sacrificing your system of believes conform to others, that’s blending in. You can convince yourself of anything these days especially when it comes to where you’re at in life thinking you’re worse than you are ... don’t be so hard on yourself. Sometimes others will notice improvements before you yourself see change, allow yourself time to catch up. The road in recovery from any hardship seems long but sure enough you’re right where you need to be even when you wish you were better off in life, you can’t have it all. Life can be difficult but it doesn’t need to be impossible. Not every thought will be brilliant ... and you won’t always say the right things. It’s easy to get ahead of yourself and fall off track especially when you’re feeling down or negative say all the wrong things then catch yourself afterward ... don’t be embarrassed not even by your worst days or worst words spoken. That being said. There will be days when you think you’re the best at everything and nothing can go wrong. That’s usually when you need to slow down not get ahead of yourself. To keep positive momentum in life complain less and do more that’s usually the solution moving forward. You’ll hurt less, hurt the feelings of others fewer, the more you accomplish in life not letting yourself and others down. Sometimes during the process of healing you figure yourself out and sometimes in the process of loving you figure others out and sometimes in the process of learning you think you’ve figured the rest of your life out but not everything ends up as planned to your end zones in life ... you have to be happy every step of the way to end up where you want in life that’s the main lesson not just focus on the goals themselves. There are moments in life when you need support, know that it’s okay to ask for help ... just don’t exhaust your resources for help in life. You can expect those who care to help you during times of need listen, but don’t forget to maintain your ability to fend for yourself in life. People can help you in life but they can’t live life for you. If you’re a dedicated perfectionist so be it. Just don’t get caught up in your problem areas and forget what you have going for you in life. Value yourself enough to know when to stop picking yourself apart you’re bound to become unhappy less than satisfied with any positive progress you have made. Don’t be an unhappy product or unhelpful critic to yourself, that’s what other people are for to be hard on you when you can’t push yourself anymore, otherwise ... learn to let go of what you cannot fix and keep improving upon the areas of life you do have control over. It’s impossible to be perfect just be happy with what you’ve got. If you’re a dedicated perfectionist so be it. Just don’t get caught up in your problem areas and forget what you have going for you in life. Value yourself enough to know when to stop picking yourself apart you’re bound to become unhappy less than satisfied with any positive progress you have made. Don’t be an unhappy product or unhelpful critic to yourself, that’s what other people are for to be hard on you when you can’t push yourself anymore, otherwise ... learn to let go of what you cannot fix and keep improving upon the areas of life you do have control over. It’s impossible to be perfect just be happy with what you’ve got. Love comes and goes ... think what you can do for yourself without waiting on others to give you love, admiration, or respect. It’s not all about people pleasing in life or conforming to the best interests of others in life, you mostly have yourself to blame when you waste time waiting on others. Be the best version of yourself and they’ll surely return to share what positive progress you have made in life, that’s love not waiting for others but being someone to return to. #bearock You’ll meet a lot of people in life ... and think to yourself that they’re way out of your league or that you’ll never catch up to the successes of others. That’s just letting your insecurities get the best of you that is not feeling good enough or not having the potential to succeed in life too. You’d be amazed at how most things in life that scare you are doable, that is with adequate preparation; and that people who look intimidating are actually the most approachable once you get to know them, not all successful people are closed off, they’re very personable and just the same as sensitive to others as you are. #WhatINoticed: There have been people who have come into my life read my writings and have been influenced by me but hard on me. I think what’s most difficult is me not knowing others as well as they know me, no one likes to meet themselves inside another person and then be put down as less than. Then don’t read my writing and benefit from my help to those who need help and at my expense suffer the consequences of writing without pay. Still working on my book, look forward to being professionally published and a positive influence, known and marketable by myself. Do your best to stay positive it’s not easy to walk away from anything left unfinished ... including relationships without a fight to top it off an easy excuse to walk away from anything that no longer benefits you or them. As you get older this may occur ... that’s just as you get older relationships have a lower threshold for forgiveness when you’re younger you’re more likely to be given the upper hand with more relationship experience ... whereas as they get older if not given the upper hand with more experience leave when you no longer can maintain the upper hand given to you in a relationship. Know your place in life and be who you feel most comfortable being with or without experience, with or without power, and with or without any hand in life ... that doesn’t make you better than or better in life ... one should be best on their own anything else should be considered a bonus in life. —— “more relationship experience” meaning the more monogamous you are the better off you’ll be in any relationship - one-on-one is best to get to know people if you’re best one-on-one and not in a group that means you’re shy ... more sensitive ... more likely to get hurt ... why you limit your bonds ... to not many ... if you are most attracted to social people it’s because you get hurt easily as an extrovert so do your best to be yourself whether or not you’re an introvert. If you are #good the more likely they are to come back to you meaning if you know you have it good in life and stay celibate how you get picked in life not tossed around left or broken up with, why it’s important to wait not waste your time and energy fixing non-matches in life only date who is a match loves you wholly isn’t trying to fix you or change you likes you as you are now ... that’s a match not someone looking for qualities and if you don’t match up with their ideals in life feel not good enough. #loveishard #doyourbest #nooneisperfect #clarificationtopreviouspost: “more relationship experience” meaning the more monogamous you are the better off you’ll be in a romantic relationship - one-on-one is best to get to know people if you’re best one-on-one and not in a group that means you’re shy ... more sensitive ... more likely to get hurt ... why you limit your bonds ... to not many ... if you are most attracted to social people it’s because you get hurt easily as an extrovert so do your best to be yourself whether or not you’re an introvert. If you are #good the more likely they are to come back to you meaning if you know you have it good in life and stay celibate how you get picked in life not tossed around left or broken up with, why it’s important to wait not waste your time and energy fixing non-matches in life only date who is a match loves you wholly isn’t trying to fix you or change you likes you as you are now ... that’s a match not someone looking for qualities and if you don’t match up with their ideals in life feel not good enough. #loveishard #doyourbest #nooneisperfect LYS 22 You’ll come across symbols and manufactured goods in life you think represent ideas or influence how you see the world that doesn’t mean that things are that way or as a result of the past decisions were made and that is how all decisions are made, only few code and those who do make decisions in adherence to the code they see are and have been affected why it’s important that the founding principles from which you create and base decisions from be from sound places not just following your hearts or by what you see as important to carry forward what is it that makes sense ... in your heart of hearts what do you think will help people grow or blossom in a way that best enables them to let go of previous ideologies in place of ones that help them best become acclimated to the world as it is now. #businessminds Stick to some standard in life, you can’t be all over the place and get very far in life. Having a good sense of directions means knowing when to put on project down and continue moving forward in another area of life you’re gravitating more towards. Sometimes we are good at more than one thing in life, life is full of learning experiences, you can’t do everything well at once but you can learn to do one thing well at a time. Be the kind of person who knows what they want in life. There are no guarantees in life. Trust that if you put in the hard work and effort things will pan out for you in life. Doing is easy it’s becoming who you want to be that’s difficult, therefore face challenges head on in life. You’ll be glad once you’ve made it how far you’ve come, and others will notice what strides you’ve made in life be happy for you. Always leave a little room for wonder. I was once told “be mysterious” ... yes that means don’t text everyday and say I love you too much, that’s generally a dead give away that your desperate and/or easy ... I guess that’s what they mean when they say play hard to get. Always leave a little room for wonder. I was once told “be mysterious” ... yes that means don’t text everyday and say I love you too much, that’s generally a dead give away that youre desperate and/or easy ... I guess that’s what they mean when they say play hard to get. -Then what makes people go and what makes people stay? I think what matters most if you love someone to support then it’s not all about feeling wanted or being wanted in life. Sometimes you just have to let people be happy with or without you even in the company of others. You can’t get jealous or possessive over things or people you love that’s how you lose things in life or cause discomforts. Just as you wish to blossom give people room to grow and blossom too, that is love. /// missing quote (To-Do: Type 02-02-19) Always see the good in others (pink) Stay feeling apart of (blue cursive) Don’t get caught up in the controversies of others, you can help, but be sure not to over involve yourself with their cares and worries you’re bound to be brought down if on top of your life you get easily affected by the lives of others. It’s important to be empathetic but not to the extent your problems become the problems of others, never blame to those you help when you yourself become affected in the process of helping others. Take care of yourself first and from there you’ll be best suited to helping others as you are not, being in agreement with the interests of others is not necessary for all relationships ... there comes a stopping point their wellness and your own, you can’t help everyone. Things in life won’t work out especially relationships. Don’t throw your life away in defeat ... do your best to overcome setbacks and hurdles in life keep achieving. Success doesn’t happen overnight if something doesn’t work out for you you’ll surely find better so long as you keep improving as a person growing with the times. Don’t be defined by your failures in life but by what you accomplish on your own or with the company of others. You’ll find your matches in life ... have faith. LYS - google notes (1) (LYS - 23) Self-Acceptance Things aren’t always as they seem it’s okay to take a closer look some are fit for inspection some are not we all have our boundaries in life and when it comes to acceptance sometimes self-acceptance is hardest you’d be surprised that people are less judgmental than you think especially online not that they like differently ... but they’ve seen more therefore value special or unique and what stands out. Sometimes what makes us unique we don’t value in ourselves but trust that others don’t see the same as you that’s a positive benefit of being human we are not all the same. Know your best, fix what you can, and don’t rely on approval from others ... when you realize you’re potential others will likely see positives in you too, don’t expect to radiate perfection as negative, you’ll likely get the wrong attentions. Be beautiful … one day at a time, one match at a time … Love the person you are today, [you never know how long anything will last]. If you can start each day with an affirmation or mantra that helps you stay present then do so, You’re more likely to accomplish more in life when you start your day positive [regardless what is said about you or to you it is always your responsibility to stay sound of mind and sound of heart, unaffected by the negativity of others, their worries and concerns as toward or about your good standing in life … that’s them not seeing you for you, or not recognizing you as well, that’s in their opinion not your own best opinion, always trust your doctors as they know best when you are well or not, by having known you, know how to treat you, and help you improve whatever conditions, as accepted or not accepted about you.] [Your] outlook repeats itself throughout the day [have it be your own not the ideals set by others, change your tone in life, or how you feel about yourself, be conditioned to others, condition yourself as supervised by others, adapt, not be the one to whom others adapt to, always be in control of your emotions]. What affects your ability to envision your future as moving forward in life [is up to you]. I’ve been told “not to go backwards” and to chart my progress that it doesn’t need to be detailed … but a simple checklist will suffice. Likewise I share with you advice I’ve been given [not to my benefit] and hope [without burden] that it will help the same, I’m not a competitive person, and its okay if those you help outshine you [especially if they are more well than you are, better able, or with more resources in life to cope] there are plenty of fish in the sea, lifes not all about [acceptance]. (01-24-19, 02-02-19) --- Please Note: Don’t get spoiled in life as a reader, with an ability to affect writers, or by choice influence what is written about, by your experiences in and around a writer, not all have mental health issues, and if you know how a person works, by fixating on words or phrases out of sync, or intended to hurt or influence as person, than that is purposeful, not necessarily and influence but an attempt to influence a person in the same way to whom someone important has influenced them in life, in a positive way. That’s taking one interpretation of a conversation (in the negative) and then trying to be that person, as attacking the good character (of me) the correspondent to another conversation (and then by defenses claim as to a current set of circumstances) be affected in the same way book writing, that’s an unwanted positive (returned to the commentator) who by insult insults the writer and correspondent. As a writer and correspondent for many years, when you approach someone professionally and they do not respond that does not mean open up to them, chances are the circumstances will repeat themselves much like anyone trying to turn a positive experience into a negative one, to see if you respond in the positive or negative or in the same way, write a book. Not all people are the same, that’s a form of unwanted influence to be controlled by receiving negative input and expected to still produce positive results. I’ve been told that life is not perfect and that “in the real world” that’s how it is, not everyone will be nice to you, I used to think that was a symptom of something larger, but have since realized, that its just depending on the day, much like the weather, how others respond, sometimes nothing to do with you, or over any power or control struggles, you just have to accept people the way they are. . (02-02-19) --- Live Life with Humor … Not all sides will agree, especially if you are the emotional one. Think first what will others think … share less about what you think … read more -the more you learn the less you think or worry about what others think and the more interested you are in hearing from others not all wrapped up in your own head about things. Life’s not all about acceptance but at the same time you don’t want to bother others with your discomforts. (02-02-19_ Who Knows Best … Not all lives are the same therefore as speaking from experience what you have to share may or may not apply to the lives of others no matter what you say or how much you share some don’t get through to us and that’s okay. Ever feel like you’ve been given unsolicited advice? Its insulting to say the least but don’t have such a big head that you’re hard headed to the input given by others some have a nack for positive input and some have a nack for … insult …its funny in that way feedback some feedback is considered criticism a fancy name for insults. Be unique … You won’t feel yourself in all settings .. if we walked into every Starbucks comfortable then it may be because we’ve been there before maybe not to that specific location but because we’ve been through the process. [Much like writing live in public]. In familiar settings we think we know best how to navigate through those initial feelings of discomfort and perform in spite of those discomforts that’s the benefit of having experience in life and with that experience … lead by example … that’s an indirect way of displaying leadership skills without the Powerpoints and speeches to boot. You are not authorized Not all professionals work the same, this you’ll learn through work and experience. Being tactful means not giving in to expectations and not responding as in reading others to do as you say not as you do or others do. Imitation is compliment is what people say to someone as imitated it’s also a sign of imperfection or lack of professionalism to imitate someone ... that doesn’t mean the imitated is more professional it just means that the imitated is demonstrating a quality of trait lacking in the other or shows that someone who has more in life is of influence to someone with less than in life. What flies overhead What flies overhead we are all affected by sometimes depending on what side of life you’re on, on the upswing apart of or not apart of issues flying overhead focused on other things in life, yourself, growing, or as provoked selectively ignoring others. You can either be aware of your faults in life or others will make you aware of your faults in life, that’s called helping others to be territorial over their purposes in life to disinclude matters of controversy in place of positive dispositions in life. Any campaign run for others is therefore without assumption intended to purposefully disinclude others ... all reactions are assumed to be in response to what flies overhead. It’s hardly about you Always remind yourself that not everything is how you see things in life. And if you so decide to take into consideration the opinions of others don’t then make things about you or them -don’t be one sided (proving others right that you are defensive to wrongs not in tune with rights in life if you bring up us v them arguments or sides) ... it’s okay to take a step back ... that means you’re thinking processing just because you don’t have thoughts or opinions toward or about doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you or others. Enjoy quiet spaces in time ... if you’ve been F over in life and the last to find out don’t overreact that’s an expected reaction thought deserved. Generally obsessed No one deserves to be picked apart and teamed up against especially if not in the wrong that’s pushing things to a certain point of no return ... an attempt to dismember a good person to dismember them from groups or from feeling apart of a whole. Everyone has general purposes in life some that suit others some that best suit themselves but no positive purpose is served if it only suits themselves to dismember someone they deem a piece of $hit or by how they look think they’re a piece of $hit. That’s called being judgmental any strong dislike toward a person unknown to me by a person known to them is called hate speech toward someone who as stated repeats toward them as a justified attitude or stance toward. Dancing in the limelight Not everything is about entertaining the obvious defaults of those who are rejected or deemed less than deserving in life ... that serves no positive purpose there are no teams when it comes to who likes what that’s a choice to whom and by what you surround yourself with things deemed options that hold you in high regard to others or options that cause people to think less of you in life. Whatever your driving forces ... make sure not to hurt the esteems of others as you choose your likes in life it’s not necessary to judge others by them. Life is fragile It’s becoming more apparent that sensitivities are on the rise - people less adept at handling jokes or jokes about jokes in life. Sometimes while interpreting the present it’s unclear as to who is making fun of who. Let’s just leave it at that. In the past as a means for coping with the times cross references were made however now people are going back to being themselves. Whenever an idea is made there will be a desire to sell that idea and sometimes during the sale of any idea they make it relate. Be a nice person It doesn’t hurt to try letting go of your own self-interests to make another person happy. That doesn’t make you a pushover in life -we can’t all be leaders. There’s a difference between enabling, self-harming, and empowerment -all of which requires you to take a back seat to the interests of others or step down from what you believe is right that’s generally what causes those wars within any loss of power we feel when the interests or opinions of others take place of our own -that seats not permanent you can easily switch hats or exchange those feelings after helping someone else achieve the same or a better position in life above you. Why they say to always rise above that’s to protect you and others from being affected by your down in life or when you feel out of place/sorts. When you feel good It’s not that everyone wants to be people in life that’s not a good reason to want to feel good to attract others to you who either want you or want what you have in life. Some of the best role models in life care less about what others think and care more about their health and maintaining good appearances in life. When you feel good not only do others feel better about themselves but you avoid making others feel uncomfortable, less than, or brought down by your lack of pleasantries in life and stability. You are what you look like it’s a sad fact to be judged by how you appear ... that should not affect the wellness of others around you. Later in life If what matters to you now didn’t matter to you then, then you’ve grown. If what doesn’t matter to you now, mattered to you then, then you’ve matured. Sometimes it’s not until later in life we realize what has gone wrong or what we could’ve done better. If it’s a harsh realization no amount of nostalgia can correct that problem but moving forward beginning a new. Don’t obsess over the past you can’t change it. [To Type as of 02-02-19]
LYS 24 When Things Don’t Work Out ... Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff in Life ... When things don’t work out for you or others in your lives don’t take that disappointment to heart or take your disappointments out on yourselves or others ... that’s called an upset. Sometimes everyone will be on board sometimes people will be sided know that you’re your best bet moving forward that is rely on yourself that’s time to work on yourself not equally pick things apart -including yourself. You will have fans in life people who support you no matter what be grateful for them, that’s not just because they’re family or friends. When you have it good Count your blessings and count them twice you all know who you are don’t be the cranky person shouting at the market, honking their horn, or recanting statements by microphone. We all know why people lose their places life ... lack of composure. When you have it good in life sparingly use those periods of comfort and trust to reach out and help others ... those are your energy points ... don’t forget! Yes you can respond to who contacts you but “be careful” not to go backwards helping the past (ie your past) move forward, those are your steps keep them, everyone’s a party to wellness choose your confidants wisely ... especially your now. LYS 25 Live life with an open mind ... don’t be closed off to new opportunities in life it’s okay to try something new. Not everything planned works out sometimes you have to modify your routine in life to accommodate the times. What’s new may not always be better but it’s better stuck with anything you can’t stand or what doesn’t keep you moving forward in life leaves you behind. Make Life Memorable: If you can make life memorable but never force anything to create a memory some of the best memories are unrecorded. In today’s world we save everything ... don’t forget to keep in mind what’s important to you. That’s not goal setting it’s just not letting too many things in life keep you from moving forward -letting go is a process of keeping things in mind, letting the dust settle in some areas of life, and beginning anew. Life isn’t perfect it requires balance. Balancing input from others and sometimes requires you to ignore input from others and follow your heart doing what feels best ... sometimes what’s in your best interests won’t please all ... that’s one form of letting go. Heroes in Life ... Time is limited but only when it comes to communicating with others. Most of the time you have is for yourself. Don’t expect people to use their time helping you you are responsible for the time you keep ... not the responsibility of others to help you organize your time function in life. Do what you know best not as others tell you. When you realize how short life is don’t freak out ... the more hours you put into self-improvement the easier the minutes pass by while improving. When it Gets Trashy ... I’m not sure what’s trashier talking about your private life or sharing your private life ... what’s having a life? Is it more about your public persona or private persona you are judged by. And if you have a private life how much of that should you keep a record of? Do people really want to know details or it best to leave room for the imagination, I think a synopsis works best when it comes to relationship endings. Not spoil the good times with negativity. You Are What You Read ... If you are a summation of experiences in life and if your knowledge is based upon what you read then your output will reflect your input AND the input of others if you share your thoughts publicly. There’s no scientific way of figuring out what is read about you or what is thought about you and whether you can control thoughts about you by what you write ... whether you can tell by input whether anything you’ve written has been read ... it’s mostly by your input what you read that affects your output not the input of others or as thought of affected. Underwriting - quote above - That gone feeling is when you are wrong about others and when your best judgments are off that doesn’t mean there is something wrong with someone when what they have to say is not in agreement with your best understanding sometimes not hearing or seeing eye to eye reflects not differences in beliefs or opinions but just understanding not all understandings are basic or based upon basic principles of interpretation don’t take all things said literally as about you everything people say is a reflection of themselves not their understanding of you ... but if you are speaking expect to be listen to responded to as heard whether you understand how replied to or why they may have a different understanding than you of the times and you. LYS 26 When You’re Flying High ... High as a kite ... is when you’ve lost your wits about you jumping from one point to the next without your natural rhythm which usually keeps you afloat that sense of momentum you feel if you can’t tell whether it’s positive or negative it’s okay to get a second opinion meaning your thoughts about things may be out of whack ... that’s a normal symptom of hyper some interactions leave you feeling better than you are. When You Can’t Win ... When you can’t win with people or at anything in life take a step back that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you it just means you need to correct your behavior to match their understanding or don’t adjust. Not all will be understanding of your dispositions in life that doesn’t mean they’re selfish it just means they’re acceptance of you is based upon their understanding of you irrespective of what people think you should be yourself winning or not is not always the solution to being successful in life nor why people are successful usually those who speak too much ... is a sign of them being defensive verbosity is a sign of weakness to the mind or inability to speak well be well spoken out together a coherent framework of thought or understanding. When You Can’t Be #1 ... You can’t be the best at everything and you won’t always be number one to the ones you love in place of work or friends they come first, this you learn as you get older ... how to build relationships over time and make commitments. What lasts in life is not always your choice contribute what you can to all relationships while you’re apart of. You are what you set your heart towards you can’t always rely on people to be there for you. To make life happen sometimes you have to make life happen for you on your own, be self-reliant. Dedicate your time and attention to things that matter to you ... nothing lasts forever but your cares in life guide the rest of your best decision making skills, be wise. The Life of a Night Owl ... Your best thoughts come to mind after many thoughts have been made not by staying up late to see which thoughts come to mind when you’re alone. Sometimes you’ll say things so far left field that others will not comprehend nor understand what you’re saying. That’s because what’s affecting you may or may not be affecting them. Some people live very private lives ... not easily affected by sources outside their immediate circles. Don’t be someone who others worry about, but at the same time don’t discriminate input from others it may be helpful later on make sense. Caring What People Think ... It shouldn’t matter what people think but that’s not an excuse to do or say things to show that you don’t care what people think that’s not a sign of confidence can appear insensitive to the opinions of others who generally expect normal -if you’re gonna be funny be funny but don’t be rude or obnoxious at the expense of others LYS 27 The Key to Success ... Don’t ignore your competition in life but yes by all means focus on yourself there’s something to learn from everyone who enters your life whether that’s positive or negative. Be someone others read into but keep your power not be read into in the negative as about others or by guessing underlying currents governing your points of discussion. Keep quiet to issues that leave room for error that when combined result in unwanted accusations towards those who look like they harmed you but did not always take responsibility as a writer for your words which you are responsible for articulating as whether about or not about others including as spoken from your own life experiences “left up” writings. Is one then responsible for incidents that follow? Is it right to prosecute unknown bystanders? If you do your best to help why is that shunned by others? Is connecting too much hurtful to whom? Those who’d rather see you quiet look guilty or take responsibility and do your best to help further awareness of the issues to spread positive change not be made quiet by any songs. #stopsuicide LYS 28 Positive thinking isn’t valuable until you put your thoughts into action ... that’s doing the same as you think and say sounds easier said than done. It actually takes a lot of strength and willpower not to articulate your worries in life that is your negative thoughts about self ... don’t be one to require compliments to change your thoughts about yourself that’s egging others for positivity be the provider of those thoughts on your own without help from others. Stay on topic ... Don’t be bossy about getting what you want in life there’s a playful advantage to reciprocity that doesn’t involve cattiness ... witty confidence is a surefire way of getting want you want positive feedback without sacrificing your standards ... that’s called boundary maintenance not letting too much in to get what you need out of relationships to keep growing not engage in interactions which stifle ie stutter the words coming from either party a sign of comfort or lack thereof don’t be too sensitive ... there’s much to learn if not downtrodden by the confidences exuded by others in arenas in life you have less experience in ... not all are gifted about achieving in life or getting their way some suffer many losses in life ie downs before they’re able to see the light of day ie achieve strength - persevere through the difficult times and let no one get the best of you as thought deserved based upon how you are now one should never be treated similarly by those past who did not believe in them too hard on one who is already hard on themselves. LYS 29 Stay positive ... Not everyday will you be at your best sometimes your thinking off about others and yourself. Be patient with yourself a bad day doesn’t mean a bad life. Make sure not to affect anyone with your misunderstandings in life. People have lives of their own too, you don’t need to worry others with your problems just because you’re having a bad day. That would be selfish to make everyone think the same simply because you need others to understand you in order for you to feel understood. Not all will understand be sure not to overwhelm others with your problems or misunderstandings. Systems of Thought ... (1-30-19) Someone who cannot think for themselves or see for themselves once confided in will hear you test you and prove the side not favorable to your best interests that’s letting their crowd win at the expense to whom next to or where confidences are granted that’s to separate their egos from attachment and switch teams to the side where humor is granted and illness is not felt that’s treating a connected person to whom attached as a source for wellness as about and which upon being known by the person to whom confidences are initially granted or to where connection is made reassures the parties attached to test to see if there is attachment back to justify a trade in disposition that means disassociation or detachment from someone to who gets declared by sides who know a person in common alienate that’s wrong to do. When Your Connections Meet ... Someone who cannot think for themselves or see for themselves once confided in will hear you test you and prove the side not favorable to your best interests that’s letting their crowd win at the expense to whom next to or where confidences are granted that’s to separate their egos from attachment and switch teams to the side where humor is granted and illness is not felt that’s treating a connected person to whom attached as a source for wellness as about and which upon being known by the person to whom confidences are initially granted or to where connection is made reassures the parties attached to test to see if there is attachment back to justify a trade in disposition that means disassociation or detachment from someone to who gets declared by sides who know a person in common alienate that’s wrong to do When You Missed the Good Years ... While you’re still here do what you can to make the most of your life while others are still here now too. Don’t waste time worrying about what people think, sides, or be too self-conscious about your disposition where you stand in relationship to others. If you are well you surely are not responsible for others who are not well. And if you are not well it’s okay to take responsibility for your own wellness and not affect others, by not talking to people -it’s not required to be around others sometimes it’s okay to get well on your own in order to talk to and be around others. LYS 30 Another Day Another Struggle ... Love the days that go by fast and stay focused on the days that go by slow. It’s not a struggle unless you make it so ... what is it that you have in life? Focus on what you do have in life to keep going whenever we focus on the wrong things in life it’s easy to get led astray. Dont waste your hours and minutes stuck in negative ruts or engage in discourse not of your own making but focus on what makes sense to you not lose sight while focused on what makes sense to others. I Almost Lost This Thought ... When you’d give the world to someone that’s love ... but don’t just hand over the keys ... be a good judge of character always, don’t allow people into your life who when given privileges take advantage of your kindness and mistake you for weak as nice. When you allow people into your heart trust that they will do what’s in your best interests whether or not that hurts you as separated from what’s of value to you people are at best themselves not yours to keep, direct, or control you have to learn how to let people blossom even on the pedastles you put them on in life. The Quiet Around You ... The quiet around you does not mean you’re important nor does the talking around you mean a lack of respect for you everyone is entitled to selecting their own octave ranges in life whether or not that takes you into account as present, this could happen in the street, at work, in relationships, in conversations, as read, directed toward you or not directed toward you don’t take things personally in life as yourself you’re at best an insider to your own life experiences don’t allow the excitement of as reading overhead go to the outsider -that is while making light or while complaining about social interactions know that you’re important but never that important to have control over the changes around you or changes toward you, don’t pay attention to your stats, do your best to improve everyday you have not please the wrong crowds in life especially those past or overhead by describing your now as negative always see the positive and as well don’t get sick if you make others look bad because you’re doing well in life or getting along well with others the past seeks misery upon you for happiness forward ignore them. You Can’t Be Good At Everything ... Remember the days before everyone became extroverted online ... cherish your stiff companions in life those who’s commentary is thrived upon too. Multi-talented people more power too you just don’t be a show off, there’s a time and a place to share your skills with the world if not for social media ... would all our talents go to waste elsewhere in life, who appreciates who who values you and thinks you’re talented that doesn’t mean you are ... #beauty #talent #phenoms. Be your own definition of the qualities you deem admirable and hope you get noticed too for the traits you improve upon in life whether it’s smarts, beauty, or athleticism. LYS 31 Let things go ... Let things go but don’t let yourself go in the process that doesn’t mean change your settings in life to adjust to the settings of others ... that’s over-accommodating the interests of others to let go of what makes you you. You should never have to change to be accepted by others they either have to accept you as you are and if they don’t then it’s not a match ... you can always better yourself whether or not you are a match for them later on sometimes we outgrow people, places, and things in life ... never stop improving chances are you’ll find better places and people to surround yourself with once you get better better at life, people skills, dating, working, public appearances, whatever it may be ... the more comfortable you are with yourself the more comfortable others will be around you - acceptance wise ... less unnerving for you less criticisms to face and once you get to a place in life that’s quiet value how far you’ve come and forget the rest. Don’t get overwhelmed ... Font overwhelm yourself with the small things in life you’re time is best spent goal setting and using your energy to accomplish those goals in life not waste time lamenting over the past, what’s not working out, or becoming hyper vigilant to what’s bothering you in life -use your energy wisely, don’t get paranoid be proactive. Ideas that Come to Mind ... Not all ideas are good ideas and most ideas requiring some thawing out before they’re able to come to fruition ... with a little thoughtful planning and with careful articulation some small ideas can turn into big ideas so long as you keep goal mapping along the way. Being able to turn any idea into a reality is a gift don’t take your dreams for granted those are your best intuitions letting you know when to stop when to switch gears and when to stay put reflect or add to any growing popularity to a skill set in maintaining positive momentum listen often and with your best intuitions and social graces share your ideas when ready never force anything before a steady foundation for growth has been established or built to reinforce both new and old ideas. You are a product of what you say ... Be careful not to bring up subjects that lead to other subjects that are less than positive about life ... you could end up digging a whole for yourself intellectually if misunderstood much like a faux pas or cliche undermining the soundness of your thoughts or reasoning abilities questioning whether by your tone how are you able to arrive or derive from your own thoughts thoughtful conclusions ... when you’re focused in life are on point your conclusions will be on point and everything in between if smart will either support those thoughts and conclusions or weaken or strengthen what has been beared in mind or what takes away ... hypocrisy is when what you have to say does not match what you do in life ... be nice enough not to question the intelligences of others if everything in between does not perfectly match toward conclusions in life as contributing to positivity or negativity it should not require many years of writing to prove ones self worth be accepted as of positive influence smart. You are a product of what you say ... Be careful not to bring up subjects that lead to other subjects that are less than positive about life ... you could end up digging a whole for yourself intellectually if misunderstood much like a faux pas or cliche undermining the soundness of your thoughts or reasoning abilities questioning whether by your tone how are you able to arrive or derive from your own thoughts thoughtful conclusions ... when you’re focused in life are on point your conclusions will be on point and everything in between if smart will either support those thoughts and conclusions or weaken or strengthen what has been beared in mind or what takes away ... hypocrisy is when what you have to say does not match what you do in life ... be nice enough not to question the intelligences of others if everything in between does not perfectly match toward conclusions in life as contributing to positivity or negativity - life equals a series of events leading up to what you make of life how you choose to see life how you pace yourself in life see is your choice. Be your own source of inspiration ... Sometimes you won’t be everyone’s favorite that doesn’t mean be limited by them ... what is yours is yours (your life) and where there is room for growth (acceptance) that’s on your accord at your taking (or disposal, your time) or ability to acquire in life (your goals) or acceptance from others (approval) ... not by the statuses of your endeavors [and not] by [the] acceptance[s] from others determined (your outlook) [your future]. Always think positively first of yourself and avoid “collusion” at every cost that is communicating with the wrong sides in life about things that matter less to you but more to a side that does not benefit you. You cannot “please” them all ... do your best to avoid controversies by not engaging in discourse that collides your thinking or others thinking of you as apart of if it’s people’s solution to detach from you in nonacceptance then that’s their choice not your responsibility to correct or respond to in the affirmative or in the positive by proving them wrong your life is of your own making not dependent upon what others think pick pry promulgate as deference to your good standings in life depreciate you or hurt your abilities in life to be sound of thought -well. Is it time for coffee yet? When is it ever the right time for love, sometimes it falls at your doorstep what to do then? When you’re good wits are about you you’re likely to attract positive attentions in life, no this is not your horoscope it’s a true fact of life you can’t be ready for everything good that comes into you’re life but you should nevertheless be prepared ... how to handle your ups and downs and how to handle the ups and downs of those you take under your wing it’s you they’re attracted to you’re stability those are usually the ones picked. What’s Not Okay ... What’s not okay is to promote hate toward any peaceable persons or individuals to exchange emotions as transferred. What’s not okay is to use your standing as normal to promote hate toward those who suffer from mental health issues on meds. What’s not okay is for politics hurt any persons normal to make them appear abnormal to others. To these people do not respond always be an outstanding citizen not further their negative opinions of you as not trusting of you because of how you are in private or how you have been affected by controversies or self harmed as not picked not intelligent not worth it not deserving or not of a wealthy mindset fit for any leadership or caretaking positions in life that’s not jealousy that’s jealousy turned on well to put well at a disadvantage in life and to empower victims to hurt those who are well or who suffer from mental health issues because they appear well when they are not well strong be judged not by what you have in life but by the characteristics you choose not to bear traits marked by hate traits marked by illness or traits marked by words directed toward you to put you down in life for reactions. #worldpeace Trust the timing of your life ... When you’re intuitions are off and you feel gone sometimes (in italics) it’s helpful to run to your nearest friend or family member and ask for advice but it’s mostly in that state they chime in that’s not aggravation - aggravation is when you’re upset you express those emotions to and around others a manifestation of yourself your discomforts what is unknown to you is not likely known to others unless you assume so ... don’t blame others for their peace of mind when among others if you think you are experiencing life differently we all live in the same world we all have access to the same exposures in life we all have built separate tolerances for ourselves when it comes to our likes dislikes and acceptances ... when you’ve had enough it’s okay to reject and when they’ve had enough it’s okay for them to reject and when enough i.s enough it’s time for people to spend time focusing on themselves not others ... if life worked perfectly we’d all be changing or going through phases together but we are all different ages of different levels of intelligence understanding and experience wise not the same be forgiving of these differences and embrace what is now how far generations have come to establish a better today a better tomorrow and a better life for us all ... LYS 32 Meant to be ... You hear that all the time “it wasn’t meant to be” ... then what is? Maybe that phase is more to do with acceptance than loss, about letting go and leaving room for new opportunities in life, that doesn’t always mean better. Until you have your life together will you feel fulfilled that sense of accomplishment at the end of each day that makes you feel whole complete and happy.
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