Leslie Fischman
#leverageyourstory Squares Instagram @mymollydoll_ As of 10-29-18 When you mean the world to someone that’s a good feeling ... for the rest of us single, you’re not alone. Never give up, trying to fix yourself and be the best version of yourself. What’s waiting for you around the corner, will be much happier with you present and going in life, than a burden to care for or about, the best matches in life are independent of one another not co-dependent. It’s what you don’t remember that hurts you. You can’t just delete your way through life, to prevent yourself from going backwards. Why I don’t drink. Some things in life you can handle and if you can’t handle something in life don’t drink to it, the only person you’re hurting is yourself. You are best up to par when Sober, with a clear head communicate best. Knowing this count your blessings in life, and don’t think twice about what’s bothering you and be sure to be yourself at all times. Everything changes as you get older you go from being the center of attention to just blending in, aging is a process which alcohol certainly does not help, memory is important. Learn to move forward in life, nothing positive occurs lamenting over the past, appreciate always where you are now. When you do go back through your life focus on the positives you’ll be a happier person as a result and see greater potential thinking more of yourself rather than less than. No opportunities avail themselves to you when you’re down, it’s usually those positive who attract the most attention not just by looks alone. Never put too much pressure on others including yourself, to get anything done in life, takes compromise. Don’t overburden others with your troubles, they’ll thank you later for it. Everyone has a life of their own, space means everything. You never know ... often times when we’re not sure of ourselves our best characteristics come out of us. That’s not a defect that’s called personality. This is what makes everyone unique -how they communicate and by what they communicate understood. Sometimes we get caught up lost in the mix our senses off, don’t let that get the best of you, you are never lost when surrounded in good company, how to make everyone feel new, even the ones who know it all. It’s not about being young at heart it’s just about knowing your place and helping others to find their places in life too, that’s called guidance not friendship, when you look out for the well being of others, that’s having compassion for others and not passing judgment. Always let the dust settle, what blends best is not necessarily what’s understood or comfortable but what avoids causing feelings of discomfort -that’s called trust. Life is a learning process. Always be mindful of the feelings of others, no one likes to feel left out and everyone wants to feel apart of, but that’s not always the case. You have to earn your stripes and stars in life, nothing is handed to you in life. Always do your best to shine ... whether that’s with or without people in your life, not everyone will be happy for you, and that’s okay. When the right people come along in your life you’ll know it, always trust those that care, and don’t waste your time and attention on those who don’t. Sometimes it takes awhile to understand your past, without picking apart others, “keep your side of the street clean” that is not taking the inventory of others only your own, can be a time consuming process ruminating over how things should be while comparing where you were to where you are now, it’s all a matter of time. I was told “God helps those who help themselves.” Realizing this, once you’re better everything else seems to process better the past especially. Usually it just so happens that by the time you don’t care you reflect on what used to matter and get under your skin and wonder why you cared so much to begin with, you start to heal once what matters now becomes more important than what mattered then. You can’t move forward until you get a handle of yourself, you can’t help others until you yourself are put together. How easily we get led astray in life, cued by others, follow your own cues in life, they’re likely to keep you on point not be misguided by the thoughts of others, hearing your own voice, at that point ... when nothing bothers you, means you’re on track ... the best life lead is by those who adapt easily to their surroundings, never give up, and never lose your sense of self over others. Know your limits in life with people, everyone eventually loses patience. Just stay positive. Men may come and go from your life but never think less of yourself, you are a product not of where you’ve been but mostly what you do now at the present moving forward to grow from those experiences. Be less dependent on affirmations from others in order to achieve in life, you’ll be waiting less, and as a result be more proactive attracting positive attention not negative attention. Overexposure of self interests and argument out loud rarely does the trick you wind up looking bitter the opposite of where you want to be in life -the bigger person. Managing your own life may be difficult at time especially if you lead multiple lives: work, school, social, leaves little to no time for romance, that’s the 4th life -a bonus in life always but not necessary to achieve happiness or feel content. Does it really matter if someone likes you, no, because at the end of the day you should always like yourself with or without a significant other. What makes you feel whole? If what makes you feel whole is dependent upon acceptance from one person then you run the risk of setting yourself up to get hurt or disappointed in life. Trust your instincts, you know you best, everyone else is busy managing their own lives too, manage yours. Always do you best even if your best isn’t good enough. You’ll have less to regret as a result of giving it your all. It’s in our darkest hours that brilliance is achieved, usually by working hard ... do we get noticed by others, stand out from the rest. Life’s not all about being #1, it’s more about health and wellness in addition to being well liked. When you get to a stopping point be sure to thank those who’ve helped you along your way, without whom you would not be where you are today. Don’t wait until it’s too late to put your life back together. It’s common to wait until the last minute or until things get worse to start making changes in your life. Always be proactive and never give up. Don’t procrastinate. You’ll thank yourself later for it, saving much heartache by being a careful decision maker, not ruin things before it’s too late to make the necessary changes in your life required to do better in life. Love is always exciting at the start, that discomfort in not knowing whether you’re liked or not, everything in life is a test, the more comfortable you are with yourself the easier these situations tend to be. In order to be loved and feel love you need to be strong -that means not easily affected by others and able to give love, being compassionate to the needs of others while at the same time not sacrificing your own needs to please the other, this requires a careful balance of care. Once you reach a place of comfort with another everything else tends to fall into place. Just be patient. Learn to stand on your own two feet, without being dependent on support from others every step of the way. Part of life is being independent of others, a self-starter. Be spontaneous, the best moments in life occur under conditions where we are not sure but sure enough ... leading us to moments of happiness a joy, a break from the monotony of the day, adding excitement to our lives. When you find a new found appreciation for others, you suddenly look forward to days that would otherwise bore us, up for anything, opening yourself to more opportunities in life, you would not have otherwise had, if you limited yourself to fewer options in life, conservative with your viewpoints. Openess is key ... you can’t get far fighting inner turmoils the only person you wind up hurting is yourself. Be self assured you are never alone and that there are plenty others who go through ups and downs in life too, you’re not the only one. Not everything in life works out ... you can try to plan ahead but sometimes no advance planning is necessary to set yourself back up to par, just by being good do positive interactions occur around you whether you are privy to that quality of care or skilled interpersonally able to bond with others on a social level. It’s not superficial to leave things on a professional note, but it is wise not to cross borders get personal before you have fully adjusted professionally, that lull in between is where errors are made as you are sized up compared and tested for endurance trust and good character which only time spent under observation can be adequately judged as demonstrating quality sufficient for a positive work environment thus you cannot manipulate effort, so long as you always do your best and never let anything affect your work productivity good decisions are made, including whether you have what it takes to perform under a variety of conditions and how quickly you adjust to those conditions and able to stay present and be pleasant to all treat all equally, why it’s important not to share personal life struggles out loud and let your work ethic speak for itself not become defensive to the past and avoidant moving forward you create your own circumstances in life that prevent you from having experiences in life that can help you feel apart of whole, that’s your choice to disassociate when you are not well not a product of your environment that would be blaming others for conditions occurring that sometimes no one is responsible for correcting it’s called acceptance and requires patience to see beyond and resolve underlying insecurities that keep you from speaking well of yourself, life is much too short to discuss problems out loud, it’s a draining and arduous process of letting go and starting over if you miss those opportunities in life then that is your own fault not anyone else’s. There’s always room for forgiveness, growth, and change ... everything in moderation. Always stay positive, never assume that anyone means harm. What’s better than trust is seeing the good in others. The less you harp on the negatives the more positives you’ll see and hear. If you want things to change for the better don’t push your limits with people, that means be sensitive to the needs of others without sacrificing your own best interests. Everything requires balance. You can’t always rely on others to help you feel better about yourself, especially when you’re in the wrong you have to fix yourself. Never allow selfish needs to overpower your best decision making skills, possessiveness is for the weak and insecure does not show care to others to care in that way but causes discomfort and pushes people away as unstable or unfit. Always do your best to be strong the most attractive qualities about us are when we are trying less not too hard at living life, things get better, trust the process, #sober #celibate #clean. Self-care is about showing that you care for yourself and by the care you show for yourself, if lucky, others will care the same for your well being, it’s hard to care for those who don’t care for themselves, are usually not people we are drawn to as they demonstrate inability to care well for themselves let alone others. Always be patient, some are able to take on the responsibility of demonstrating care and others are best left to their own devices to prove their self-worth and ability to be cared for or to care for others, everything else is taken care of in that process. Don’t burn out trying for the wrong things in life, your cares are reflected by your work ethic that’s at best how to show that you care not by words alone. Focus is everything. Focus on the positives to think positively about self and about others never assume you know someone based on what is said much is learned by observation don’t push peoples limits in life embarrass everyone #stopsuicide That’s purposeful conduct to generate a reaction given someone’s schedule known privately to create a response that is not arguable caused by one incident but caused by a series of other interactions relieve selves from blame everyone is responsible for themselves. #stopsuicide Don’t devalue people or take things personally as though a set of circumstances occurred if a similar reaction of responses is projected online to see who one turns on as though that’s a character trait no that’s a caused condition called being defensive + staying positive. Don’t blow things out of proportion rarely is any emotion amplified a clearer expression of the truth what is said is at best simplified not further eroded to more emotions than necessary to reiterate a few sensed impressions of incorrect ignore don’t pass further judgment. If you feel like your sense of privacy has been violated than that’s the intent to sound most knowledgeable. No offense taken. And based upon your own disclosures do you pass judgment upon yourself causes for self harm are likewise self inflicted not resolved unaffected by others Based upon your disclosures irrespective of surrounding conversation or argument you are judged either in the positive or the negative and based upon those deductions everything thereafter is your priority to disprove live life. #stopsuicide Stay present don’t be easily affected. Usually by your own discomforts do you make others feel uncomfortable around you, just called my Attorney he said I can volunteer for @OFA and @Bradybuzz #selfharm’d yesterday aggravated with myself, always maintain composure after a good day to continue to maintain (+) momentum. No responses are excused by your own issues, that’s blaming others for your disposition, everyone is responsible for themselves, after any instance of #selfharm requires (3 weeks+ to repair harm to self) always seek advice before any important decision is made for you or others. /// Don’t be problematic. #provethemwrong #beconsistent Don’t let anyone push you out the door ... dont #selfharm, be proactive, and always seek advice when in doubt, that’s not support, that’s acknowledging that you depend on your well being not be reliant upon support from others for assurances in life, be a good decision-maker. No responses are excused by your own issues, that’s blaming others for your disposition, everyone is responsible for themselves, after any instance of #selfharm requires (3 weeks+ to repair harm to self) always seek advice before any important decision is made for you or others. Usually by your own discomforts do you make others feel uncomfortable around you, just called my Attorney he said I can volunteer for @OFA and @Bradybuzz #selfharm’d yesterday aggravated with myself, always maintain composure after a good day to continue to maintain (+) momentum. Based upon your disclosures irrespective of surrounding conversation or argument you are judged either in the positive or the negative and based upon those deductions everything thereafter is your priority to disprove live life. #stopsuicide Stay present don’t be easily affected. If you feel like your sense of privacy has been violated than that’s the intent to sound most knowledgeable. No offense taken. And based upon your own disclosures do you pass judgment upon yourself causes for self harm are likewise self inflicted not resolved unaffected by others Value yourself, the people in your lives, and be thankful for the choices you make in life that bring you to where you are now, life could always be much different had we never tried nor pushed ourselves to do better in life, pace yourself. Everyone strives for unconditional love and support but we don’t always get that, especially when we focus on what we don’t have instead of what we do have, becoming the bottomless pits we abhor, easily becoming something we are not -bitter. Have no fear, there are few among us perfect even at their best there will always be pain endured throughout the process of achieving in life nothing comes easy -especially if torn our self interests get the best of us taken off course, set back ... finding ourselves starting over again in life instead of where we left off from.
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