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Don’t run out of inspiration in life people pleasing & catering to the needs of others, once you establish your own sense of happiness, that’s how to blend in best make others happy around you, don’t fall victim get bossed in life belittled baby’d because you’re not confident in life, fewer opportunities open up for you when you become reliant on your surroundings to make decisions. Don’t second guess yourself, follow your intuitions, that’s not heart, that’s preserving yourself, saving your energy for what’s most important to you in life, you come first during times of trauma or hardship, that’s not selfishness to become unavailable to the needs of others, if it’s not your job it’s not your job, know your priorities in life, be the happy one, forget your past, and keep your side of the street clean to not be subject to criticisms by others. That’s how to best help by example and overcome failure in life. As soon as you wake up from a bad day yesterday, be grateful for the day ahead, reminded of your errors, don’t start the day on the same subjects that left you feeling down yesterday. To rise anew, think positive, what’s on your agenda for the day, come up with a plan, set goals, be task oriented, you won’t always forget where you’ve been but you need not be weighed down by the past once it’s been processed out loud, let yourself grow from that point on, don’t go backwards trying to fix what’s been broken, it’s today that matters most, let go. LYS 56 Live this life as best you can, your only limit is you. If you can’t see it happening then don’t force it ... allow life to happen on its own timing, don’t be selfish or needy, your emergencies in life are not the same as others. If you need something right now that you can’t provide for yourself, then don’t go looking for others to help make you feel a certain way, adjust your settings on your own, be independent of others. Too much idle time and loneliness leaves you feeling sorry for yourself less than capable of having things in life you currently don’t have, to have it all, give it your all, and to give it your all pace yourself in life, life’s not a race, your wellness is more important than rushing through life alone. LYS 57 One day at a time. Recovery from any injurious condition takes time, the body heals itself, do your best to take good care of yourself without worry for what others think. You know you best, your only limit is yourself when it comes to healing, the more work you put into bettering yourself the better you feel, you decide. LYS 58 Don’t get depressed simply because you don’t feel good enough, pretty enough, or feminine. To have it all, self-love comes first, be happy with who you are and what you look like. If you haven’t figured that much out yet in life you’re not ready to date, people are attracted most to those who work hard, are disciplined, outgoing, social, approachable, compassionate, understanding, an empathic listener, stable. If what you’re looking for hasn’t found you yet, then first possess the qualities you seek in a mate before expecting that much from anyone. Own your identity. Be yourself, keep your head up. LYS 59 Not everyone will agree with you and that’s okay, you’re not always right, but you know you best. No one likes a fight. It’s hard to assert your needs without being confrontational sometimes, you’ll have to learn how to let things go, especially when it comes to being defensive over the past, what’s gone is gone. You certainly cannot move forward by discussing what went wrong in the past, if not to relive those errors moving forward, reminded by them. The start of any new relationship is a fresh start. Appreciate where you are now and what time left you have to spend with those you love. Under any and all circumstances do not be selfish no matter how upset you get practice some self restraint, don’t tantrum, don’t self harm, and don’t blame others for your dispositions in life. The more responsibility you take for the life you lead the better off you’ll be, that’s not something they just say to people in recovery because it only applies to their personality type, but can be applicable to all who struggle with accepting their past and moving forward. Life is not a seamless journey of ups and downs there will be bends, breaks, and stains along the way that feel permanent. Nothing lasts forever, not feelings, not experiences, and especially not the past. You give power to what controls you in life, that includes your memory bank. For some reason why does it always seem that as soon as you say you’re gonna do something ... all the energy gets sucked out of you. That’s what procrastination feels like, whether you feel capable, whether you feel able, and what you do to psyche yourself into getting your work done. There are many hurdles in life, one of which is getting going, focus is the easiest part of moving forward, once you get going focus jumps from task to task time flying by, it’s when time stops and you can’t get going is the most difficult part of life, leaving moments of disillusionment and finding clarity. It’s not everyday that you meet someone who changes your life for the better. It’s tough to be inspired set in your ways, it’s never too late to fix what’s been broken and have a change of heart. It seems as though until we are forced to let go of the past do our outlooks change in life. Don’t break what’s not broken, life’s not a dress rehearsal, you only get one chance at moving forward when a new relationship arrives. You either make a good first impression or fall below expectations energy wise, you choose whether to allow mental health issues to keep you from meeting new people in life and starting anew. Until you are ready spare yourselves and others the heartbreak of meeting you broken, they will always be proud of you, it’s you that needs to be proud of yourself. For the most part you’re ability to fight and drive in life is lost once you do something wrong that usually admonishes others from being the culprit of any wrongdoing once you sabotage yourself in life, found in error, it’s to the benefit of others when you fail in those cases, where no trust is given no trust is lost, the benefit running to those to whom trust was not granted in the first place justified as not doing so rightfully so. Don’t wind up a loose canon in life, put yourself at greater odds than you already face acceptance wise, that’s not the solution, find your sense of inner peace and if it’s you that does not sit well with others, then don’t present yourself among others until your story shared is a story worth hearing. It’s not your responsibility to resolve the past, clarify your part, or bring up discussions concerning the wellness of others, if your own house is not in order. To show you care about others, stay healthy, it’s your wellness that helps make others feel safe better off in life than you if you have a hard story to share, not necessarily your interactions with them. Allow for awkward moments, negative judgments, and resentments toward you to unfold, once you stop doing well in life, it’s all a matter of correcting your behavior and adjusting to your surroundings -don’t be controlled by anyone, have self-control, don’t self-harm. #stopsuicide #sober #AA #Amends LYS (60) Don’t wonder for too long, keep going in life. You can’t plan for everything, not even success, each accomplishment leads to another, there’s always room for improvement. It’s true that you won’t know unless you try, it looks easy looking back but everyone knows learning is a process. LYS (61) That’s not entitlement if based on who you are think you should be treated differently than others, if that’s the expectation anticipates upon meeting you then by putting you down proves them right or wrong the extent to which you are deserving of being treated well a good person naturally, a good person by choice, a good person by know how, a good person Bc you have no options left, or a good person by upbringing or advisement. People will always assume if you’re not feeling well it’s bc of some error on your part, or a result of a resentment your harboring if you bring up anything from the past. How you look is how you will be judged based upon how you share your experiences in life, the timeline by which you’ve made decisions in life, mistakes, errors, interactions, relationships, mental health issues, self harm, and suicide attempts past. Fix yourself. You cannot change the predispositions of others to defend themselves if each time you get strong are put down, controlled, bossed, corrected, or punished, figure out what you could be doing a better job of in life so that others do not respond in the negative toward you. Be fearless that doesn’t mean take chances in life, follow your whims, be better than, or strive to achieve your best by raising any bars to your own standards of wellness in life. If others are not in acceptance of you most of the time it’s because they are looking for something wrong with you not to better you but to better themselves protect their own wellness in life irrespective of how you fair in the long run. Wellness is not a group effort, sometimes by selfish means others achieve in life, if you’re not able to help the sickly at this time that’s okay, it’s more important to stay well than it is to help others, making a positive difference means stepping away sometimes from the cycle of trauma, fear, and loss that accompanies trust, and make due with what you have in life, not every loss is recoverable, so long as people think you are to blame for the misfortunes of others as affected when you are not well, others will justify taking from you or contributing to your failures in life with pride until an adverse reaction is achieved to group you among similarly denounced members of society, that’s more than making a joke out of someone’s life that’s ruining someone’s life knowing them knowing their pet peeves and seeing how they survive when left to their own devices in life whether even as disabled can make good decisions for themselves be a good person. LYS (July 2019) (62) When you get your energy back ... be productive. Don’t become complacent or go backwards through old habits of procrastination -if you know your patterns the better off you’ll be. How to keep going in life. Create structure to your life, whether that be by errands, tasks, or jobs -keep your mind off of what needs work -sometimes that’s best to get work done. Overachieving is about keeping track of what needs to get done while at the same time setting long term goals necessary to get done what needs to get done now. It’s important to stay positive. After many days have passed it usually just so happens that what used to bother you no longer does, allow that process to happen. The longer you stay upset the longer things bother you. Allow yourself to move forward. The more you complain the more difficult it becomes to move past what’s bothering you. If what’s bothering you was too far past you look like the person who’s not moved forward. LYS (cont) (63) Never stop believing in yourself ... there will always be causes and circumstances others will be curious to know if has affected you, is about, or whether you have been influenced in part by, your own or the struggles of others with regards to the opinions held current, past, or presently regarding issues that you as the reader endure having a viewpoint of all as reading one should always keep in mind never to assume, be open, criticize less, always expect more, and it’s okay to #justask, that’s being a helpful reader. Be patient with everyone as comfort grows, the more educated you are the more comfortable you become speaking in public, it’s a gift to speak opening about ones feelings, ones self, or ones experiences ... that’s not second nature to do so. Likeability to the masses has much to do with what is heard about you, energy wise it’s what is thought about you drains you as being watched by others, to keep going you have to restore your own sense of faith within yourself, that’s what work is for. The momentum you get from working is your own positive reinforcement in life, once that is taken away depression hits. Don’t allow others to interfere with your ability to work by their own needs mis-distinguish you are bad or by stories justify the hardships you currently face if not by your own conduct or argued by your conduct to relinquish those currently watching you in private spaces from blame as attached to you. That’s not my responsibility to be a provider of wellness to those watching me in private only to provide wellness online and if I cannot be a provider of both wellness in private and in public does not mean I’m not of value or deserving to live life free of hardship, hate, and belittle me my as to my best interests to stay well as well as not interfere with the best interests of others to stay well. LYS 51 Be patient with yourself it takes time to come out of a funk whether it’s feeling lazy or just not motivated ... you sometimes have to inspire yourself and get disciplined whether that’s by reading a book, listening to music, writing a letter, journaling, going to therapy ... the more missed appointments and set back you allow the more problems you’ll encounter correcting your mood. The more you get done the better you’ll feel. Stay in tune with your goals in life. The less you share about your inner workings and personal life you’ll be. Don’t over complicate life for no reason blogging. Do your best to share but within reason what’s valuable to others and preserve your privacy. It’s easy to be open about your life sometimes you can get carried away talking about self opening up. Missed quotes - Be happy with who you are now but forget not where you have been, if you can learn from your mistakes all the better. Until you are willing to admit when you have a problem can it be solved it’s at that point you begin your recovery from whatever ails you. Know that everyone is doing their best to support themselves too that’s not selfishness that’s recovery -focusing on yourself. LYS 52 Whenever you’re feeling the negative judgments of your own ... think twice ... where could you have gone wrong in your thinking are you being correct and fair toward yourself or are you letting them win. When is it time to stop being so hard on yourself ... there’s a fine line between letting them win and at your own expense self-harm to call attention to those defects of character be strong and resilient to life stressors without sacrificing your positive spirit a good thought can change your whole outlook of circumstances and self. #stopselfharm Even on your worst days keep your head up ... a little positive thinking goes a long way not anticipating the negative can save you from a lot of heartache and heartbreak ... it could just be you having a day not anything to do with others ... why not to waste too much time worried what others think “people are mostly concerned with themselves” not thinking about you or criticizing you that’s paranoia to think others are talking about you behind your back ... accept where and w/whom you are with now ... and the future is for the taking ... the better suited you are presently the easier it will be to blend in and move forward. Dont wait on others to provide for you what you can fill in yourself ... not everything is about reading into others especially during times of trauma where one is clear not misread a situation or into the behaviors of others as directed toward any individual or group of people in the negative that’s an assumption negative toward someone who’s positive thereby depleting them of their energies to correct your energies toward them, as a person of trauma ... understand a persons freeze, respect their freeze, and give them time to perform at their own paces in life that’s how to help people move forward not by being too hard on them once they’ve moved forward in life. When you’re feeling heavy it can be difficult to talk to others ... accept that some who don’t talk to you are doing so out of their best interests sometimes going backwards causes more harm than good ... do your best in the event you get ignored by others something’s are better left unsaid when it’s time to make an amends do so at your own discretion ... sometimes it’s easier to dust under the rug what’s gone wrong than to eliminate people from your life completely let bygones be bygones. If you think there’s a problem there will be a problem if you think less what others are thinking you’ll be less likely to have a problem existing within you regarding the thoughts of others about you. There’s a power to self-identifying with others ... those rare moments of common interests or sharing the same feelings as others well that’s likeness you won’t be in sync with everyone ... don’t be ashamed when you feel like a wallflower and don’t feel bad if frozen ... there are plenty of outgoing people in this world willing to pick you up off your beaten paths in life ... until you feel whole again that’s seeing and identifying a problem and fixing a problem when you help others some are naturally gifted in that way to help others others are judgmental in that way identifying what’s wrong with people to make them look and feel worse off - only you know who to surround yourself with - choose the least judgmental crowd and go from there. Everyone finds their sense of peace at different points in their lives ... find yours and I’ll find mine ... not everyone’s sense of peace will be the same (on board) there will be some who think not being on board with any ideals is best focused on themselves not jokes ... harmony is a tough climb among all you just have to persevere through pains in life what’s off putting reserve your judgments not be competitive with others and forgive often in order to move forward no set back to draw upon inner turmoils past if these issues are beyond you or already visited it’s not necessary to revisit the past personally that’s always toughest and be sure not to offend anyone else’s interests that are not in alignment or similar to your own best interests don’t be defensive always do your best to report and take no offense toward and decisions not directly about you should not affect you personally. Don’t respond to anyone or anything that causes you aggravation you’re likely to get upset letting the other side win. Stick to what you know best not what you overhear as about you. What you assume is directed toward you ... could be what’s lost in communication with others what can be inferred from a conversation that’s your understanding. Never assume that others are acting against you in life that’s paranoia to think others are talking about you are that there is some gathered consensus opinion about you. Don’t self-harm - whether that’s by letting the voices win or allowing others to get under you skin by insult don’t be bothered by the stresses or negativity of others that’s simply them trying to be you ... or you trying to ignore them ... when someone sees you doing well spiritually they should not be bothered but there are some to who think that your wellness is not deserved seek to bring you down in life. If you’re struggling with mental health issues it’s nothing to do with you and everything to do with their discomforts accepting you, all liabilities and images aside. You’re always told in recovery others want what you have I was never really sure what that meant ... always happy to be myself ... now looking back I see it’s all about mental health preserving your own wellness. If you cannot stay well then yes you’ll wish you were someone else who is well and when you realize how far back you are ... you’ll have to dig deep to remember who you and to value yourself being you not trying to be like others, emulate you’ll just wind up feeling worse off not good enough. When one door closes another one opens - relationships work in that way you’re never completely single there’s always someone who has your heart - and if you’re not sure if they’re taken keep your eyes open for whos next better yourself and keep your head up you’re more likely to attract the attentions of others confident than anti-social, be nice not bitter. It’s always when you least expect it - do others pay attention to you never when you’re looking sometimes when you’re not well - trust that on your good days things will fall into place don’t let depression or negativity get the best of you there’s something always better on the other side. Stay well and do your part always to contribute to the positivity around you not be a source of discomfort, how to make others feel comfortable around you. As you get older the less things matter, matter to you above all else life is much too short to go backwards thinking the could’ve should’ve would’ve live for the moment and by all means carry on in life be beyond your years mature without giving up at any halfway point in life. People may come and go from your life but you will always be you, learn to sit with your emotions everything passes the more focused disciplined you are. Be thankful for family and friends this holiday weekend. Be in the now appreciative of all the years you have left to live and be grateful for who’s here now. It’s not necessary to worry about the past what’s more important is not to lose time now. When you love what you do it makes no sense to add worry to your plate ... don’t set yourself up for disaster self-sabotaging, thinking negatively. If you can only do your best now -think not of the years wasted in addiction and think more about everything you have accomplished if you’re happy with where you are now then you’re right where you should be, present. The less stress the better. Especially when around the ones you love not carry stresses from work life into your private lives keeping each world separate from one another. Believe in yourself if you don’t who will. It’s not often that we can rely upon others to lift us when we’re down that’s something you need to learn how to do for yourself. There’s a such thing as fair weather friends and soon enough they’ll be gone too if you’re not already gone. Don’t wait until those lapses in faith to turn your life around for the better. Practice makes perfect. No one keeps closer tabs on you than you and if you think someone’s keeping close tabs on you that’s you putting yourself out there to be tabbed. If privacy is what you need than share less you are a product of your own voice not the voice necessarily of others ... take responsibility for the voices you provide through your writing and make sure it’s always your own. There’s a toxic condition where you feel like everything’s being done to you, nothings your fault, and people are out to get you ... it’s called selfishness only thinking about oneself. The world is a big place one should feel lucky enough to inhabit this space and if you can’t rationalize why others are not equally obsessing over your livelihood it’s because living is awesome and they’re probably doing their best too to live life as best they can ... it’s sad to think others live lives with or without you in it ... but the more time you spend bettering yourself the more quality time you’ll have to spend with others. Don’t be confrontational there’s a way to talk to others about your problems with them without creating a problem between you guys. It’s called tact. No that’s not sitting others down for conversations it’s having conversations to which both can be a party to without making the other feel excluded from having a voice. You usually want people in your life ... and in order to have people in your life you can’t make others feel uncomfortable by being confrontational. Think to yourself what’s your part before attacking the characters of others if it’s something you can correct about yourself then do so without bringing everyone else around you down. The stress of needing something you can’t have will pass whether that’s someone or a material item of necessity you’ll learn to do without in life. The more you focus on what you don’t have the more likely the opportunity for it will leave you the less you stress about what you don’t have in life the more likely those opportunities will present themselves to you. If you’re the type of person who’s always up for interpretation than so be it. We all have unique personality types no one knows you better than you know yourself. There’s a power to observation that others have over you don’t let that be a source of disempowerment, track your changes better yourself and don’t let anyone hold you down in life. If we cant pray in peace then we absolutely need peace that’s the one spot everyone goes to for quiet and serenity. If you can’t value that much to humanity then you are not fit for leadership to any group of persons ... who leads who overseas? The blind, the spoiled, the rotten, the angry, the belittled, the abused? No condition failed is ever an excuse to cause harm to others or oneself recognize where you come from who’s around you and be at peace. #EarthDay No matter where you go from here let no one pull you astray always stay on path in life. It’s when we’re lost we get taken advantage of or put down -always know your self-worth. Everyday moving forward is an opportunity for self-growth and self-love. You may feel a sense of urgency to leave when you’re around others ... it’s not always when time is free that we have to be around others, don’t bolt stay. Usually what you’re running away from is commitment, committing to time spent with others away from whatever it is you’re doing elsewhere. Sometimes these are learned behaviors -trouble keeping still. If you think in terms of how fragile you are you’ll go nuts worrying about your future. The body takes care of itself. Think instead what you can do to take better care of yourself. Self-care is a must when it comes to self betterment without which we would not feel good to start or end a day, which all begins with self-care. If today already feels like it’s gonna be a long day and it’s still the AM means (1) you’ve woken up too early or (2) your daily intention is not positive. Fix what you can about your attitude and carry on the day lightly. It’s all a matter of patience (a) fewer expectations = (b) more energy. The less you fret the greater you rise to any occasion. Enjoy your day today. No therapy setting will be perfect it’s what you put into it you get out of it -that goes for individual therapy and group therapy. If you’re not willing to share figure out what’s preventing you from sharing and if you’re not ready to share what’s stopping you. Not all problems are discussable or so you think but with the right people and support systems in place all problems can be deciphered and dealt with accordingly. We may not always have a voice to share our opinions about life if writing is your passion than it’s by providing a voice to others you care about not necessarily hear your own problems out loud. Then if that’s what you need help with be sure to be able to disguise which problems are your own, of your own making, or what’s presently bothering you about yourself or others -how much credit goes to you or them. No therapy setting will be perfect it’s what you put into it you get out of it -that goes for individual therapy and group therapy. If you’re not willing to share figure out what’s preventing you from sharing and if you’re not ready to share what’s stopping you. Not all problems are discussable or so you think but with the right people and support systems in place all problems can be deciphered and dealt with accordingly. We may not always have a voice to share our opinions about life if writing is your passion than it’s by providing a voice to others you care about not necessarily hear your own problems out loud. Then if that’s what you need help with be sure to be able to discuss which problems are your own, of your own making, or what’s presently bothering you about yourself or others -how much credit goes to you or them. For some education plays an important role in their lives. When your intuitions begin to fail you there’s one place you can always go > to the books. We all have an inner voice and whether or not we are capable of interpreting those gut feelings ... it’s something occurring within us. Sometimes the use of analytical reasoning can be stressful however we’d rather spend the time overthinking than experiencing life like a free spirit getting hurt by others, and realize our mistakes in thoughts afterward. The best thing about having thoughts is that no one can hear them, so it’s okay to mess up in thinking just not your behaviors or how you treat others. We can’t rely on instinct alone, if troubles ahead sometimes its best to listen to others, avoid controversy, and know when staying home is best. It’s a natural part of life to get tired you can’t expect to be at your best high energy all days some days you have to push through and learn how to get things done on an even keel. It’s just something you get used to as you get older how to operate when calm - energy comes and it goes especially depending on your mood having a positive outlook can help elevate any state of being present you just have to be willing to change and amend your patterns of thinking and response to the stress of getting things done, after a hards day of work, or a long road ahead - stay steady pace yourself. Be accepting of different personality types you won’t get along with everyone but don’t be quick to be judgmental about the conditions of others the only premonitions we can accurately have are of our own lives predict don’t waste time or energy predicting the lives of others. Enjoy today be grateful for who’s in you’re life and hopeful about those you have yet to meet. Remind yourself that you’re a good person and deserve the best no matter how far you’ve fallen or failed in life, there’s always room for self-improvement when there’s no room for error moving forward. If you wait long enough things work out especially when you’re patient a careful decision maker. Never rush into anything you’re not sure about and always be calm whenever you have to make an important decision. Chances are if stressed you’re more likely to jump into things you’re not ready for. Best to wait. #datingtips Relationships come and go what’s most important is to be happy with yourself - you need love to give love. The stronger more independent you are as a person the better off you’ll be less likely to stifle or tire your significant others space is everything avoid codependency at all costs. #datingtips Just when you think you have it bad you realize all the possibilities when someone new enters your life. Don’t take for granted all the blessings that your life has afforded you. You have much to be grateful for you just have to recognize your own wellness not be defined by your diagnoses and do your best to live and resume a normal life. When love comes knocking be ready for it. It’s not everyday that you find a match in life but when you do match up enjoy the moment those are few and far between. When you’re your best version of yourself it’s easier to love and be loved. LYS 53 Sleep is so important - a regular work day is 9 to 5pm and if you choose to work any other hours well that’s you putting yourself at risk of harm. That’s part of life ... finding balance. You’ll always have time to catch up remind yourself of that if you wake up early ... staying up is rarely the solution to getting anything done tired. Take your time in life don’t rush into anything you’re not ready for ... but if it’s love you want it’s hard not to. It seems we think these opportunities are few and when we do match up rush into things ... for security reasons. But once you have love well that’s it you got what you wanted where to next? Stability comes with maturity -over time the more careful you are the longer your relationships last ... the better off you’ll be. Take time to smell the roses, enjoy life, and be thankful for every minute you get to live life and be happy always for those in your life. Love them, don’t bother them, trust them don’t question them, and love often. Stop yourself from wasting time sounds easy but difficult ... you’ll have fewer uncomfortable feelings in life the more you get done. Mental health issues generally strike when you’re not making proper use of your time ... do your best not to leave your mind idle for too long. Keeping busy not only makes you feel good but helps you to steer clear of negative voices too. Don’t over-consume yourself with the thoughts of others they are mostly concerned about themselves absent minded you 9 out of 10 times unless you put yourself at the forefront on their mind heckling them for attentions in life ... remember the positives and don’t allow any amount of negativity to stand between you and your two good cents. There are many things you can do to stay positive other than meditate and listening to positive music you can challenge your negative thinking keep a gratitude list and say thanks to those who’ve helped you along your way. Giving back to the community that supports you is one way to feel whole, do volunteer work, and count your blessings twice. Don’t forget to smile! * cite Whatever you do make a decision to live this life as best you can. That’s the first step to appreciating where you’re at ... and growing from places in life you wish you were not. Every opportunity for change is a moment away ... your choices define you in life. Love as best you can even on your worst days if you’re lucky enough that love will be reciprocated. Continue to build your new self without affecting others ... your loves in life will be happy to see you change and notice the positive difference in you. That’s after all the best way to let go to be the bigger person best version of yourself not always better than. Be careful not to be competitive when in love love is given and received make no demands about it always go with the flow. You can’t be too hard on yourself especially with people literally coming and going from our lives (RIP) although recently has been a time of mourning you will regain strength through doing positive things for yourself to stay well, be sure not to rebel with the times and go south, keep your head up and so that those who’ve cared for you and us would be proud. If you can’t get your way in life be fearless in the pursuit of whatever sets your heart free again. We all feel stuck sometimes it’s all a matter of changing focus think what it is you’re attaching to and ask yourself whether it’s worth it or whether your time and attentions are best spent somewhere else. No one likes someone needy always be independent to be loved ... be easy on the heart easy on the eye there’s no stopping when it comes to perfecting self. How to get your hyper back: Do things that make you feel good and surround yourself with people who support you. Self-care is a must, if you haven’t figured it out yet it’s how you look and present yourself to the world that you get treated in return. Represent yourself best before trying to include others in your lives, you’ll face less rejections in life when you’re at your best. It’s not everyday that new people come into your life ... be sure not to scare them with your problems, think in terms of positives, what are 5 things nice to say about yourself -where are you headed in life, don’t get stuck talking about the past especially if your past is not something your proud of. So long as you are doing well now there’s no reason why you should not be able to move forward in any relationship. Yes you can make public appearances alone - this may not be New York but it’s still okay to show up places alone. The better you know yourself the easier it is to be around others. When you do good in the world everyone benefits from your good health and choosing to be apart of ... don’t isolate that’s the worst thing you can do when trying to make a positive difference, participation is a must. Get out there and be positive and let the rest fall into place. Stay proactive. LYS 54 Don’t expect anything in life to be handed to you: job, success, or boyfriend. If you want those things in life go out and get them. You have to keep applying yourself. Be diligent, time is of the essence. The longer you wait the harder it is to try again. Don’t leave gaps in your resume and don’t let too much time pass before you start dating again. Life’s a blessing meant to be lived to the fullest. Do your best always. You never know who you’ll meet in life who believes in you and what your capable of. The right people will come into your life if you allow for it. Dont shut down opportunities for yourself in life because you’re scared of rejection ... you’ll never know unless you try for many things in life. Keep up the hard work and stay motivated! Keep applying yourself. Don’t make your pains in life the worry of others. Connect only when well and learn how to be disciplined about how you connect well with others. We are all short on time and energy be respectful of the time of others and don’t waste their energy thinking about you or worrying about your future wellness everyone has problems of their own they need to focus on. Root more, complain less, and be a support system not in need of support from others. Be gentle ... the times are tough. Don’t make life harder than it needs to be. Less is more. Don’t overwhelm yourself with worry. Remind yourself of your self-worth. Be mindful of others. Set high standards of yourself but don’t set your expectations of others too high. Be yourself. Love more. Enjoy this life you’ve only got one. Don’t sweat the small stuff. The less you fear the more you live. Don’t bring yourself down. So much too look forward to in life so little time to waste. Live ad though you have no room for error in life. When you put yourself first that’s not being selfish that’s making yourself a priority. Sometimes we forget to take good care of ourselves and that’s okay. There’s always time to regroup. Do your best to stay on top of things, so that you can be there for others. Finding mutual support is a process of getting well and staying well. #sober Goal set and visualize where you want to be in life. Be careful not to compare yourself to others while doing so. You are you, while you can change your outlook you cannot change your presence, the way you look, without a little effort. Looking the part is one step toward success ... doing the work is the second half of the battle. Invest your time and energy in things that make you feel whole. Don’t be needy ... love to love but don’t make love your end all be all. The best loves are the ones who stick around through thick and thin ... love doesn’t have to be everyday. Appreciate those for who they are whether they’re once in awhile or not, that you cannot control peoples time spent with you, don’t be selfish, be understanding, compassionate, and be genuine ... you’ll likely succeed the busier you keep yourself career wise if it’s love that you want in life. Be grateful for all that you have in life ... some have less. Don’t worry what people think be more concerned about how you react and respond to stresses in life. Don’t take anything too personally. Be vocal about your feelings but bring no one else down around you. If you’re feeling the blues nostalgic ... listen to your 90s music and return at your earliest convenience. Don’t get your hopes up especially when you first meet people, send your messages, your thank yous, and your emails and stay positive! The worst thing you can do waiting for a reply is to reply to your reply or write past your first reply some just don’t respond and it may not have anything to do with you. #spacecadet You can either wait your whole life to find your match or focus instead on being the best version of yourself. Life happens much quicker when you’re focused on yourself not others. Depend less on cues from others to let you know when to move forward -follow your instincts. Let go of what never was so that you can attach to who’s in your life now. It’s not inevitable that you will fail in life if you don’t do things right it just decreases you chances of being happy with yourself. Self-satisfaction often times comes from doing the right thing in life not doing what is wrong. Don’t get all hot and bothered if you’re ever in error in life there’s always time to correct your mistakes and move forward in life. Everything in small doses. When it comes to relationships nothing will work if either is not ready to invest their heart and cares toward one another, make an addition to their lives. If you’re not ready for it don’t force it. Less is more, the less you communicate the more room for opportunity you leave, don’t close doors that aren’t closed, by overthinking or by sharing too much about yourself. Life’s much too short to worry. Love to love and do your best. Let life take a turn for the best. Less fear more faith. Everything works out in the long run, head down, focus on you. Let yourself blossom, don’t be held back by your fears in life, live freely, for the moment. Enjoy life. We are all just living life as best we can. You learn as you go. As the years pass be where you are now, think not of who you were then, and appreciate how much you’ve grown. The past is past. Life only feels short the unhappier you are. Be present, be happy. Stay motivated to get what you want in life. Realize your potential. When the going gets tough the tough gets going. Never give up. Don’t allow fears to inhibit your best decision making skills. You know you best. Always be professional. In order to excel at anything in life you must have a firm belief that all things are possible, with a positive attitude anything can happen. Duplicate^ Stay motivated to get what you want in life. Realize your potential. When the going gets tough the tough gets going. Never give up. Don’t allow fears to inhibit your best decision making skills. You know you best. Always be professional. In order to excel at anything in life you must have a firm belief that all things are possible, with a positive attitude anything can happen. Life isn’t perfect! Remind yourself that you’re worth it. Not everything works out that doesn’t mean that something better isn’t out there for you. Don’t give up hope, a better future awaits you so long as you stay positive. Be goal oriented. Don’t overwhelm your connections in life with your problems. There’s a time and a place for therapy and it’s not through text messaging or social media. This you learn as you get older that it’s not necessary to share how you’re feeling out loud but become better keeping your emotions to yourself. Be a good companion in life, supportive, loving, and approachable. Everyone has problems, you’re not the only one who contemplates the meaning of life, have questions about the future, and past regrets. It’s normal to feel that way. If you cannot love yourself ... it’s hard to realize when you are loved. Don’t be selfish too consumed by yourself and your problems. When love shows up at your doorstep, wake up and smell the hot chocolate. That’s time to shift gears from focusing on your needs to focusing on the needs of others. Sometimes in loving others we find ourselves again. Make today a great day. Remind yourself you’re beautiful, talented, special, unique, and well worth it. Let no one convince you otherwise that you don’t deserve the best that’s out there for you. It’s all a matter of managing your self-esteem. Stay true to who you are with no apologies about it, own it, be yourself. Life isn’t easy take it day by day. If you’re going through a hard time don’t lose faith. We all have our disabilities in life, it’s all a matter of overcoming your weaknesses in life. Believe in yourself. Live each day with a daily intention. What is it that you seek to accomplish, and do so. Set goals for yourself daily. How to stay motivated. Recovery is a process. Don’t set yourself back by worrying to much about the past, keep going. Progress not perfection. Always maintain positive momentum. Live each day to the fullest. Don’t give up just because you’re tired, keep going. Make it your goal each day to do your best, it’s okay to be a people pleaser, sometimes you don’t know best. Listen, be advised, it’s okay to lose your sense of direction in life and to rely upon others for help. Stay positive! Better to have love and lost than to never have loved at all. You won’t know unless you get back out there and date. You learn about yourself each time you put yourself out there. Whether you find love or heartbreak don’t give up, you’ll find your matches in life when you’re ready. And when you find a match you like don’t lose faith, always be patient, you can’t expect too much daily from anyone. You have to be able to take good care of yourself in order to be well taken care of in life. Don’t be spoiled, work hard for it, nothing comes easy in life, especially love. If you don’t like yourself, think of three things to be proud of. Self-love is key to self-growth. Grow from your mistakes. Let go of your regrets. And move on from your past. Remind yourself that what your feeling is normal, we’ve all been there. It’s all a matter of preserving through those moments in time to get to the best parts of your life: happiness. Missed quote The key to being happy is accepting where you are now. Trust the timing of your life. No one cares about your past as much as you do. No one knows everything about you unless you tell them so. Not everybody knows who you are walking into a room. Those are blessings in life. You do have control over your life, by what you share about yourself. Don’t convince yourself of things that aren’t real. Believe what you will, believe in yourself. It’s always okay to start over in life, meet new people, move, rebuild yourself. Life’s a series of ups and downs, know that you’re not alone, everyone has problems. It’s easy to text anytime you get worried, but you cannot rely on others always for reassurances in life, you’re bound if so to set yourself up for heartache and heartbreak. Affirmations should come from within. Sure others can help make us to feel good, but if you can’t make yourself feel good on your own, then that’s something you need to work on. People are most attracted to those who look good and feel good, be one of them. When you get a text back after going nuts by yourself is the best feeling in the world to still be accepted even though you showed your bad hand and as seen marbles lost. You’re not always perfect ... if you can manage to be accepted as is, all the more power to you. Own your stripes. Its not how much you get done in a day that’s as important as how well you get things done. You can’t rush through everything in life and expect positive results if you’re not being a careful decision maker. Always be professional. Set goals, it’s not necessary always to multi-task your way to success, some are best at getting one thing done at a time and that’s okay. It’s okay to add your two cents, but never at the expense of hurting the feelings of others. There’s never a right time to accept feedback and or criticisms, you just have to accept when given, what people have to say. Know that everyone is trying to help you. It’s easy to feel like people have turned on you or get frustrated, don’t be. Don’t take anything too personally. Do unto others as you wish done to you. It’s okay to add your two cents, but never at the expense of hurting the feelings of others. There’s never a right time to accept feedback and or criticisms, you just have to accept when given, what people have to say. Know that everyone is trying to help you. It’s easy to feel like people have turned on you or get frustrated, don’t be. Don’t take anything too personally. Do unto others as you wish done to you. Be proud of yourself, for how far you’ve come, and pray for all the good years you have left to live. Be here in the now, it’s all a matter of valuing where you are now, not waste time worrying about the past, could’ve should’ve would’ve, live your best life now, be the person you’re meant to be, without apologies, be yourself. Forgive yourself, it’s a hard life, but it’s not impossible, have faith in yourself and others will too. You’re only limit is you. Set high expectations of yourself and let the rest follow. Always maintain positive momentum, by conserving your daily energy points, spend them wisely. Keep preserving through every storm, every upset, and accept no failures in life, be one who thinks there’s no room for error in life, and let your best self shine. 1. If you move forward don’t go backwards. 2. Once you mention the past explain without putting yourself down. 3. Don’t overshare until you become depressed less is more. 4. Focus on the present, not past points of reference in time. 5. Don’t T yourself up for arguments in life, life’s not a fight unless you make it so. 6. Ignore hate, rise above, & have the courage not to mention your problems to others unless in a therapeutic setting. 7. Share until better and be productive until well, don’t exhaust your resources in life, running in circles to and from your mental health issues, it’s okay to let go move forward. No it’s okay I don’t need an #MLK costume this year, just let us know if you need a mic, thank you #dreamteam, that’s not what quotes are for, I can only represent myself if that helps others so be it. #selfhelp #wellness #mentalhealth #stopsuicide (Have been hospitalized 8x since 2009 ... never give up, went to 2 law schools in spite of my learning disability, so my best to #besmart don’t waste time in life, people pleasing). Focus on one thing at a time, should not have dated in law school, lost focus, fell off track, was #3 in my class at the beginning of law school, let go, forgive self often. #sober Don’t give up just because you’re having a bad day and your thoughts or fears are getting the best of you about others, image is important but not that important, your health comes first, keep busy with activities that help steer your thoughts away from the opinions of those you think benefit from your condition being poor or worse off think of the things they have to say in response get off on being able to predict outcomes for you in life prove them wrong by self-harming, that’s not the solution to prove right a past incident by presently harming oneself - running 🏃♀️ is not self-harm that’s fighting depression ... root on the wellness of others ... and just bc one can not function strong no matter what meds they’re on is not a sign of addiction speaking to things one cannot read or relate to (a condition in life) everyone wants stability no one wants to be proven ill with others convinced they’re suicidal when they’re not that’s not why I say #stopsuicide I say so because I’ve been through it not to create arguments toward me where people try to convince others I’m mentally ill and not deserving in life ... to live life as best I can at my own pace, what’s the rush, live, survive, breathe, grow #bestrong. Thoughts today (example): disorganized thinking. Meds save lives, more of anything makes you feel worse and worse. If you’re not being productive don’t waste time and energy trying to feel good on your own by rebelling from the basics of life, don’t be inappropriate and give up in life, throw your hands up in the air, play victim to circumstances you created by over indulging in your thoughts about life thinking you know best, allow others to correct you without walking into their fears or worries and prove their concerns right, if you want to prove others wrong, remind yourself of what your worth, have a plan in life that’s not consumed by negativity focusing on what’s said to you, be reminded but no need to replay those recordings over and over again in your head and bring yourself down in life. You can’t be compared to others, when your life is more difficult than theirs, yet you have to take responsibility for your actions and faults in life, if punished move on, don’t allow those moments in life to define you or change your whole outlook in life, empathizing with those outside of you judging you accommodate their opinions of you waste time explaining yourself. Recipe for disaster mental health wise, unless you can stay well will everything around you become easier, your surroundings less intimidating. You can’t fix the past, do your best now to take life seriously, if you have had poor experiences in life, any use of humor will appear obnoxious or less than. Some will believe in you but not all, you can’t go backwards on connections in life, you either leave or stay, this you learn as you get older. And if you go backwards in life contacting others, expect positivity ... don’t mistake the kindness of others as belittlement. You choose your career path, work skills, and education. Once you’re able to move forward don’t go backwards, and pray that others are accepting of you whether or not you see or hear from them, whatever you do don’t be negative, with people you’re not close to, that’s room for rejections in life, and those rejections pile up, each one adding to the next, always speak highly of self and others, and if you argue both sides, and get rejected, don’t feel less than in life, not able, do things that make you proud of who you are, motivated, inspired to keep going in life, don’t lose your drive in life, mismatched ... have faith you’ll find your matches in life, never give up. You’re right where you need to be. With so much going on in the world it’s easy to get lost. You are a product of what you focus on. Keep your thoughts positive, and always maintain a positive outlook in life, and things will surely fall into place. Think for yourself, are you judging others, if so, ask yourself why. Whenever we judge others, that just shows our own unhappiness in life with ourselves to others. Always be positive, if you don’t have anything nice to say, say nothing at all. Allow people’s true colors to show on their own without pointing out the flaws of others. Be positive. It’s okay to be hyper when you meet someone new just don’t wear them out with your insecurities. That discomfort with self cannot be made comfortable no matter how much you share and talk about the past unless you yourself are ready to move forward. Don’t be too short either with the ones you love, you’ll likely leave them feeling nervous neglected. All relationships require balance, being new to anything is exciting, take chances in life, don’t gamble your years away waiting for life to happen for you, be proactive, it’s okay to meet new people. Save therapy for therapy, any discussion of problems is usually emotionally draining to the listener, who if not your therapist, suffers hardship or worry for you ... those best acclimated for handling life crises are those equipped to, not in empathy mode, easily brought down. Some but not all who listen feel, don’t bring a crowd down, simply because you’re having a bad day, or waste the good days of those who care, caring for you on your off days, or when you’re not well. The key to maintaining positive momentum is to compartmentalize your relationships, keeping separate dialogues per: personal, intimate, professional, social media, and work. That keeps a healthy distance between you and your audience which is necessary for you to cope ... you can only help others when well that’s why, otherwise you feed discussions about you, and that’s helpful to no one. Don’t run out of inspiration in life people pleasing & catering to the needs of others, once you establish you’re own sense of happiness, that’s how to blend in best make others happy around you, don’t fall victim get bossed in life belittled baby’d because you’re not confident in life, fewer opportunities open up for you when you become reliant on your surroundings to make decisions. Don’t second guess yourself, follow your intuitions, that’s not heart, that’s preserving yourself, saving your energy for what’s most important to you in life, you come first during times of trauma or hardship, that’s not selfishness to become unavailable to the needs of others, if it’s not your job it’s not your job, know your priorities in life, be the happy one, forget your past, and keep your side of the street clean to not be subject to criticisms by others. That’s how to best help by example and overcome failure in life. LYS References:
https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd/self-care-for-ptsd/#b https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-intuitive-compass/201108/what-is-intuition-and-how-do-we-use-it https://www.sleepadvisor.org/benefits-of-waking-up-early/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wise-mind-living/201501/7-tips-staying-positive LYS #48
The best way to control a situation that leaves you feeling uncomfortable is self-control. Anyone who doesn’t speak normally to you does deserve no-response. If you’re on the end of no-response don’t take that personally, everyone has their own lives and when they have done their best to support you give them too time to themselves to adjust back to the normalcy of their day. Once you get back to normal allow time for the dust to settle you can always make an amends later, apologize. Accept yourself for who you are now! Not everyone finds their place in life. Once you know who you are your likes and dislikes it makes it much easier to be a better decision maker how to respond to others under any types of pressures in life. Be happy with who you are where you are in life. If you can’t stay positive it’s best not to say anything at all, chances are you’re more likely to hurt the feelings of others having shared best to not share at all. We each have our own lives, better to handle your problems on your own without affecting anyone who may care about you. When it comes to love don’t overdo things ... the tendency is when you want something to work out you try too hard then things don’t pan out for you. The trick to love is by focusing on yourself. Everyone wants someone who is smart, successful, and self-sufficient it’s hard to be with anyone co-dependent on your daily for reassurances, don’t be one of them, insecure. Pick and choose your battles in life. All people take adjusting to you are not unique in that way. Not all things people say will be filtered. Sometimes you have to filter yourself. Don’t let anyone bring you down in life. No life is perfect not even a double life ... you just have to keep moving forward. Less excitement sometimes leads to better choices in life that does not mean that you will find better if what you like has it all. It’s hard to find someone to envision that with not all are lucky enough to find and create a family of their own. Be grateful for the attentions that others give you in life but know your place and your part not to interfere with the relationships of others. LYS #49 Always be kind you never know what anyone is going through. Be sensitive with your words. Whatever bothers you if you keep it at the forefront of your mind will continue to bother you unless you pick up and do something else. Why ruminating over the past or others is bad for your health mental health. You should always be focused on yourself don’t worry if others are reading you judging you poorly that’s not your responsibility to correct those judgments of you. Just do your best to live your life for now irrespective of what people thought of you then as compared to now, hopefully with a better outlook more positive things will be said about you as watched versus unnoticed. Living in the public eye online keeps you under watch don’t be shy about your progress be sure to share good things about yourself too not just your past. Note to the Readers: (Re: My Mental Health) Sometimes there’s no going backwards after you hurt the feelings of others, that can be felt both ways they insulted is not always one side and the one to whom insult comes from does not always intend to insult from who is insulted and from what. Life isn’t perfect hold everyone to the same standards in life not one should be held to a higher standard than another we all do our best to #behuman ... not everyday need be serious discussion of social ills some days worse than others but it’s not necessary to criticize those who become ill to the insults of others claiming by knowing them embarrassment has occurred that’s insulting to the writer. Then don’t read something to make it about you feel insulted read something else. You don’t always say the right things especially when under stress the tendency is to sound argumentative. Don’t rally yourself up over emotions. Know when to stop and hear yourself toward positives again. It’s important to stay calm when under stress. You’d think everyone has noticed but you’d be surprised by how much others don’t know about you. Be yourself. No one can read you’re mind if you’re not feeling well it’s best to speak up. Don’t assume just because no one is helping you that no one cares. We are all human beings with our own sets of problems and cares. Being there for one another during times of need. Never be so selfish to assume no one cares we all do when you self-harm, stay well. Learn to go with the flow - in any new relationship less is more while getting to know each other, be sure not to over share about your past if you plan on having a future with someone. The tendency is we see new think they need to know everything about us past to get to know us, to achieve a deeper level of understanding but sometimes they feel close to you as is, so be sure not to ruin that much. Love yourself enough to know when to quit. If you keep loving the same things and getting hurt well then it’s time to start loving new things in life. There are so many things for you to do other than obsess over any one person or thing ... you can: read, watch tv, watch a movie, listen to music, catch up with friends, write letters, clean your room, anything other than think about who or what is bothering you, be strong, stay proactive. Life isn’t perfect you will have your off days, days when you’re tired and don’t feel like you can keep going and days when you’re doing okay but able to push yourselves. It’s important to be patient with yourself. Life works in that way not every day will be a good day. Just stay positive nothing good can become of negative thoughts or emotions. It usually leads you astray whether it’s in talking to someone or through writing ... “one thing leads to another” and so a fight happens. Just do your best to see the good in others always don’t get paranoid easily and don’t fight where no fighting is necessary especially if you’ve not interacted with anyone and it’s all in your head. Don’t get led astray by your assumptions in life. Sometimes it’s painful to lead discussions out loud just as painful as it is to hear about such losses. But it’s better to speak than say nothing at all you never know who is at risk of harm unless you say so. You’d be surprised who’s connected in life and it’s not always be choice we are contacted but because we mean well people connect. For whatever reasons you become frustrated self-harm is not the correct response to what discomforts you, at that point the most important thing for you to do is to be comfortable in your own skin not act out or do anything that would make you or others uncomfortable as observing you. Everyone deserves a right to privacy to figure out their issues on their own and figure out why they’re self harming that’s for no one to judge why someone gets sick or for what reasons be judgmental toward them. #stopsuicide Those who self harm or are suicidal are not attention seekers but people who may struggle with depression or bipolar. Don’t draw attentions to issues that are not your own and if these are issues that speak to you then the more power to those who care. Not all those who self harm bear guilt not all those who self harm do so on purpose and not all people who self harm do so to feel good or to make others feel bad it’s mostly to do with a chemical imbalance within themselves. Give people time to heal from trauma and don’t spark controversies where none are do it’s important to know yourself set limits and let no negativities in life change your positive outlook as looking for attentions seeking attentions or be judged as a product of someone who self harms for lack of attention and or rejections in life. #stophate For the most part no one wants to hear your problems it’s not that they don’t care but it could be out of lack of empathy for someone they deem well or not deserving of being well or doing well in life do not be disturbed by others lack of empathy for you everyone has their own problems in life, to be best understood as doing well is to lead by example not just words illustrate that you are doing well you are who you say you are and that be sure to not set unreasonable expectations of self or allow others to set unreasonable expectations of you - we are all human not all professionals are the same by title or by career genre ... why it’s important to be accepting of all not everyone knows what to do you just have to be patient not necessarily show compassion but preserve your energy points for yourself daily. Be a good person it always helps when you have positive outlets of support. That doesn’t mean you have to have lived a perfect life in order to be a supportive friend, co-worker, or family member. Do your best not to be one to bring others down in life with your problems. Be strong you’ll thank yourself later when you are able to be there for others. It’s really all about support ... knock on wood to whom you confide in and get help from matters that’s the support back you receive ... usually it’s helpful to talk to people who know you sometimes it’s helpful to talk to people outside your social circle like professionals but be careful not to talk about others to strangers as they may be less compassionate toward you or others favoring sides ... know when to stop know your limits don’t allow the negative judgments of others toward you to affect your health and wellness. You cannot control what other people think but you can stay in control of your own thoughts. Always start each day in a positive way. I’ve been told to write down 5 things I’m grateful for each day, in early stages of sobriety this is helpful to maintain sobriety. Don’t be too hard on yourself remind yourself that recovery is a process that does not happen overnight. You have to think positively of yourself and others and express a willingness on your part to be forgiving of others too. There’s no letting go of self when it comes to losses that’s your time to be strong for yourself and for others. The more you wallow in sadness the worse off you’ll feel putting yourself behind in life. Always be there for others, say what’s on your mind, and never self-harm to any extent with excuses for behaviors such illness toward self affects everyone to see you unstable or not put together, don’t be one of them, always get help if needed. Be sensitive to the needs of others as much as people wish they could help you they can only do so much ... eventually you have to turn your life around on your own whether that’s by having a better attitude in life or just staying positive know yourself ... what keeps you going? If not for others you think you’d not be well then thank them, if not for others you would have no found yourself again well then apologize to them ... we all get lost sometimes you only have one life to live and so much time in front of you to correct your mistakes yesterday and past that starts with acknowledging what’s gone wrong today and start each day new that’s living daily. #mentalhealth Remember the good times but never get so nostalgic that you get depressed thinking about now. Are you where you want to be in life? If not what’s keeping you from reaching your goals? Is there more work to be done? Than do so. Could you be a happier person? Then start being more positive. Could you have lived a better life? It’s time to start appreciating now. Do you value yourself? Well then forgive the moments in life when it appears you did not. Life happens slowly ... if you’re a steady improver ... don’t expect overnight change ... a little bit each day helps. Set smaller goals to fulfill larger ones. LYS #50 Whenever things are good it’s best not to complain you then run the risk of hurting the feelings of those who care for you not make better things between you guys. Sharing the past is okay but not to the extent you make yourself or others look bad always be thankful for the help and support you receive in life. Believe in yourself ... no matter how much anyone supports you that’s something you must do for yourself. Not all days will be good days life is not perfect but never stop doing your best you’ll thank yourself later for it. Don’t be so hard on yourself ... think wisely and be sure to always filter what you do say on days that’s you’re negative you’ll likely beat yourself up over it later. Even if you’re not at your best value yourself ... relapsing is about giving up never give up on yourself chances are things get worse for you each time you go out and give up on who you should value yourself most you. It happens ... just pick up from where you left off and keep going whether it’s showing up to meetings, seeing a life coach, or going to therapy always do your part to stay well. Always maintain composure ... even on your worst days be a good decision maker the only person you’re letting down is yourself. To be admired is to be loved and to be loved is to have love for self ... if you are admired but cannot still love yourself then you have a problem with self-love. No one can bring you happiness unless you cannot first be happy for yourself. You are more a product of your own unhappinesses in life than a product of the unhappinesses of others. Just stay positive every time you share it’s open for interpretation by others only you know you best what you’re about it’s not necessary that you explain to anyone where you’re coming from those are your problems not for anyone to judge you by what bothers you. Don’t get too wrapped up in the times do your best to live a solid life keep busy and steer clear of negativity that’s sure to bring you off track in life. Rest assured all things will fall into place the more you know what you’re about and the less you allow others assumptions of you to pull you off guard left to your defenses in life. Never self harm in self defense to anyone’s worry of you you know you best ... self harm is never the solution to defective thoughts about self and no matter how many people give up on you never give up on yourself. You’ll love a lot of people in life ... if not just one. The main point of love is monogamy finding someone to give love to and share your life with. It starts with one at a time ... no matter how long you have to wait in between. The best is having those rocks in life you can rely upon to be there for you in times of need. They’ll always be there for you if you’re good, once you leave a relationship it’s hard to go back. If you can’t have it all that’s okay ... youre not required to. Just be happy with where you are now and who is around you. Understand your places in life and make the most of your days while you are here. Think what is it that makes you happy and do so. With everything in your reach there’s no excuse for unhappiness. Whatever it takes to be an optimistic soul do so ... whether it’s walking in a park talking with a friend or getting coffee that makes you feel good do so. Life’s short but not that short enough to have lived the years to your life to the fullest. Never stop improving yourself each day is a day to better yourself. There’s too much beauty in the world to get upset over the little things in life. If what you want is more out of life well then you’ll find it difficult to achieve while fretting over the little things in life. Time moves slowly ... remind yourself of that when you think life is short or times moving by too fast that’s just the stress of time being here now and thinking about where you want to be while others are around to see you grow and achieve. “If you don’t know me by now” you never will ... is how most relationships feel after the 1-3 year mark ... if you have to question staying or leaving stay, love is more important as a challenge than it is coming to you easily -sometimes what’s best for you are the boundaries, nights alone, and silent treatment it’s not all about you allow your partner their alone time that’s allowable. Do they make your heart sing? ... Well then trust them. Do you feel like you can’t live without them? ... Well then be patient. We wait for the best things that life has to offer ... you won’t always get your way.
Be grateful for systems put in place to help others if we did not have flyers, a website, music, or film we all would not have marched continued to do nothing about people dying: DJs and Public Figures ... its way too much pressure on the inside over a few off beat movies and songs ... never assume entertainment intends to insult reality it’s mostly to help all make sense of reality not to poke fun at people to cause them illness as associates or create experiences for them to share ... be like or incite jealousy or blames by casting them out to look like had I not made a website my opinions would not be known for insult comment or reply because I have a website and wrote 5 books my opinion is valued. I’m finishing my dissertation under the professional guidance of my professor ... and I am excited to graduate from law school this year and work on establishing a career for myself as a writer in tech and entertainment professional working in film distribution. Everything takes time if you’re not on the inside then do not blame those who apply to organizations it’s for supervision not accolade positive attentions not recognition and to help all not further instances of coding for pleasure added humor or to belittle others bully and cause voices or mental illness to those on the inside such as myself to a big story. #witnessprotection #victimblaming #advocacy #righttoprivacy #stopsuicide Even when no one is looking it’s important to do the right thing. Sometimes what is right causes hardship, sometimes what is right is difficult to achieve, and sometimes there will be no one to guide or direct as to what the right thing to do is. Most of us remain silent, it’s in silence strength is garnered by not having to get involved in the emotions of others. Think what will happen if I don’t say something before speaking nows always a good time to revisit what ails you so just in case others are suffering they don’t have to suffer too with you. Be clear about your purposes in life it’s always with good purpose good is achieved. Don’t get too emotionally invested in your past it’s what is now that’s important ... you’re likely to get sick in worry about things past that don’t matter now. Think what is relevant to your recovery and maintain positive outlook. Be wary that whenever you go backwards you set yourself back ... be wise you have ample time in life for progress it’s going backwards that’s sometimes a waste of time. If you can’t win in life don’t fight that’s not how to overcome sadness, self-hate, depresssion, or unhappiness. You usually rebel when you’re not where you want to be in life or by thinking things are about you become defensive. Let the dust settle ... You can’t force life to happen by your thinking ... when you’re not thinking right, that’s usually when you’re putting things together wrong, just stay positive. It’s only when positive ... things pan out for you well in the long run. Positive thinking goes a long way, chances are if you’re uncomfortable by your thinking patterns others are too. When you leave things up to guessing games much like the overdisclosure of personal information about self versus seeing you professionally in public is likely to make those judgmental of you more judgmental ... anything you say to describe others gets used to describe you and place you in the position of being them as described why only to say good things about others not be too descriptive of self or others judged ... set up for judgment. There’s a difference between good humor, hesitation, confidence, labeling, and being a smart alec, either you know that difference or another being condescending toward you thinks you’re stupid by comparison to others treats you in a position o be judged ... whenever you talk about anyone the side of the other is immediately taken and that comment is redirected toward you ... you only cause your self-harm when talking about others in private or public, that’s reporting to all to fix what’s gone wrong. Just when you think you have yourself all put together you fall apart. That’s recovery ... knowing when to stop well that’s self-control. Living with mental health issues is something you have to manage daily. “Never give up on yourself.” Some days will be long you’ll wish for it to be tomorrow but to get anywhere fast takes discipline. Enjoy your moment for now you can’t fast forward to the completion of any goals in life unless your actively working on pursuing those goals presently. Youll be much happier at the end of the day having had worked toward what you want to get done then avoid getting done what needs to get done putting energies elsewhere. It’s important not to revisit subjects once you get well in any direction that causes you harm to go backwards thinking about its best to always move forward value your new condition and not take risks going backwards. Don’t pile on regrets in life and don’t pile on resentments or mistakes in life that’s only turning on yourself. If to return to any places or subjects causes you illness then by all means move forward there will be places you can and cannot go in life and if that’s backwards then so be it. Be careful not to put blame on others when things are not going right for you in life it’s bound to wind up in argument leaving you to your defenses. Instead own up to your mistakes in life without putting yourself down in the process. You’ll feel much better having come forward with feelings or secrets about yourself you need help with than bottle up and beat yourself up over it. You are you not that your stuck with being yourself but you have to figure out on your own mostly what systems of support work best for you and being alone left to your own devices is sometimes not healthy not to talk about what’s bothering you. You’ll be happy to know once you do share there are plenty of people willing and who care to help. It’s times like these we reflect on what’s going well and what we could be doing better. Whenever blames are placed upon others, and chaos erupts don’t take things personally, what goes well for one country may not go well for all. Never cease to continue putting systems in place that support those who have been affected. Always do your best not to overwhelm others with your problems problems are best talked about in the privacy or a therapeutic environment. You can’t solve your problems on social media. You can’t rely on others to chime in when you’re not doing well. Therefore always do your best not to affect the peace of mind of others through the discussion of what’s ailing you. Live life without regret ... know that you are human we all make mistakes however the fewer mistakes you make the better off you’ll feel. You can’t undo the past you can try to explain it but it’s better to have live a life to the fullest than not lived at all mistakes included. Be proud of who you are, be proud of all your imperfections. Stay grounded. Take from it what you need and let the rest go. Any situation that winds up uncomfortable means it’s time to leave or separate from that person causing you discomfort. It could be either you or them ... to avoid argument ... especially when people are moody it’s important to take your separate spaces in life. That’s how to correct poor thinking, or attitude, it’s always wise to take a step back. Whatever the underlying cause is for mental illness know your limits in life pick and choose what to think about and who to think about that’s your choice something you can control. What you can’t control is what people think of you who they think you think about and the underlying causes for your thoughts thinking things are not what you are writing about as applied by them based upon your fundamentals of thought ... if it applies it applies but you cannot force exact application of thoughts to derive the basis from which a thought is had, thinking is not an exact science it’s part choice part influence part education part exposure part environmental ... your brain chemistry is your right to privacy it’s no ones right to pick you apart as well or put you down when up always be in control of your emotions ... it’s by how you respond others will think of you. #stopsuicide Heavy times do not mean heavy subjects ... in fact when things get stressful outside of your immediate lives the lighter the subjects the better. Most avoid anything too heavy ... it’s not that they’re insensitive it’s just that they’re focused too much on their own lives to care. Don’t draw attentions to yourself unless to contribute positively to what’s around you. As a general rule of thumb if it makes you uncomfortable to discuss out loud what’s bothering you chances are others are bothered too. It’s best to be strong when the times get tough ... everything in moderation. Addiction it comes and it goes ... when your mind leaves you best wits about you and better decision making skills seem far away remember who cares about you, those lucky enough to return to their old self know clearly who knows best who to trust and where to go in times of fear and disillusionment know that you’re not alone and with proper maintenance and practice of sobriety you too can be among them the well and the present back to your old healthy self. #recovery Set limits for yourself whether it’s by redirecting your thoughts toward positives, being more disciplined, or setting daily goals come up with an action plan ... the days you fall off beat left to your whims ~ follow your heart, you can journal your way to success always - one of the best ways to tell how you’re doing best to share your thoughts be corrected than keep things to yourself, sometimes you can help yourself other times you need others to help you stay on track never beat yourself up over what you can’t control in life and stay focused on what makes sense. #selfharm Life isn’t perfect. Love isn’t perfect. But you’re perfect just the way you are! Hope everyone finds that special someone who lights up their life reminds them they are only human and who motivates them toward continued success. Live your life with passion. Be a perfectionist but not to the extent you fall apart trying. It’s just a bad day not a bad life. Remind yourself you’re worth it you deserve the best. The better you feel the better others around you will feel. Don’t make others uncomfortable at your own expense. You’ll thank yourself later for not bringing anyone else down with you when you fall. If you fall 7 times get back up 8 times, life goes on, get it together now don’t wait until the last minute to move forward in life. Its never too late to apologize. Sometimes owning up to your own faults is a step in the right direction. They say to “always keep your side of the street clean.” Be thankful for who has been there for you throughout your years in life and don’t expect much from those who have left your life. Everything happens for a reason. Making amends with those who have hurt you can sometimes be a freeing experience not circling back to that vegetative state of depression in bed all day with guilt, not everything’s your fault! Remind yourself “you’re one of the great ones too. LYS 40
Even if you can’t get what you want in life ... doesn’t necessarily mean try harder at that ... try hard at things you can accomplish in life how to attract positive attentions in life. If you don’t love yourself now when will you stop beating yourself up that’s no way to get from point A to point B only through self-love can one achieve “loving themselves” in a way everyone tells them to “love yourself.” If the directions aren’t clear then think before you self-harm or take matters into your own hands in order to receive love from others you need to love yourself why they tell you to love yourself so that you CAN get what you want or need that is LOVE. If you don’t understand the whys of life it’s okay to ask! #justask Don’t assume anything and you don’t have to figure everything out on your own ... you’d be surprised how much you don’t know NOT EVERYTHING is COMMON KNOWLEDGE. And if you’re someone NOT IN THE KNOW don’t get upset it IS POSSIBLE to become in the know WITH OR WITHOUT PARTICIPATION in CIVIC ACTIVITIES it’s OKAY to keep your distance from things that hurt that’s perfectly normal to avoid issues ... strength doesn’t necessarily mean ABILITY to discuss freely ALL TOPICS. If you don’t understand the whys of life it’s okay to ask! #justask Don’t assume anything and you don’t have to figure everything out on your own ... you’d be surprised how much you don’t know NOT EVERYTHING is COMMON KNOWLEDGE. And if you’re someone NOT IN THE KNOW don’t get upset it IS POSSIBLE to become in the know WITH OR WITHOUT PARTICIPATION in CIVIC ACTIVITIES it’s OKAY to keep your distance from things that hurt that’s perfectly normal to avoid issues ... strength doesn’t necessarily mean ABILITY to discuss freely ALL TOPICS. If you don’t gather yourself in time to present yourself to another you may fall way off base to the point of no return. Know the difference between normal discussions and abnormal discussions. Be careful not to cross any lines. Some of us are hard to love and that’s okay. For whatever reasons you push love away, stop. Not all are the same. So long as you push love away you’ll be getting less of what you want and need. Instead of isolating and feeling lonely don’t feel sorry for yourself, that’s your choice to be alone. It may be hard to get back out there but you won’t know unless you try. When you’re lost it’s easy to pick up bad habits. Loss of sleep, lack of discipline, procrastination, all the while tempted to giving in to addictions. Put your mind back into place. It starts with setting a schedule and sticking it to. When you keep lists of what needs to get done you are more likely to get things done. Dont ever feel out of place in life ... especially if you’re barely in step. Give yourself time to adjust, adjust your settings, adjust your tone to what’s going on around you ... whether or not it’s about you. Chances are you know more than you think you do if you’d just believe in yourself and see the positive ... that includes NOT thinking that everything’s about you and NOT fixating on subjects you know less about and FOCUSING on your good traits and characteristics that DO describe you well NOT who you are NOT. Relationships are hard to maintain not all things were meant to last ... take it with a grain of salt. Less is more when it comes to communications don’t over share. The key to moving forward is not bringing up the past. Quality and having a sense of purpose in life is more important than quantity ie how many friends you have and whether or not you’re in a relationship should not matter nor determine your happiness in life. Always be happy to be you. When you’re not doing right in life ask yourself why and move on without disturbing others with your past or thoughts. When you could be doing better in life ask yourself why without letting other people down or disrupting the progress of others. These are ways to show you care when you’re less than perfect so that others don’t become affected by your problems in life. Continue to grow but at no ones expense blossom. Don’t ever doubt yourself. It’s usually self doubt that interferes with ones ability to achieve in life keeping you from reaching your goals and seeing your dreams come to fruition. Having a small belief in yourself and others can sometimes make all the difference. Life is beautiful ... you don’t get to plan for everything in life but when something good happens enjoy the moment. Why is that we dwell on the bad and while dwelling forget all the good that happens to us in our lives? It’s time to start thinking positive thoughts ... which will hopefully lead to patterns in our lives that produce more happy moments to remember. Learn to weather the storms in life some moments in life occurring from good places ends up leaving us in a bad spot, that’s not your fault. Remind yourself you’re a good person and deserve the best. A new life begins with you therefore not be dependent on outside cues to lead you back to living a life from within. Don’t rely on others to comfort you always most people are concerned with themselves and if you’re in a bad spot don’t want to get hurt while helping you get better. Be grateful for the life that you do have rather than try to get better than what you do have in life ... you can’t always achieve better than by liking better than sometimes that leaves you worse off in life. When your lost and there no room left to run to whom do you turn to in those times of need? Trust the right people and you stay on course ... that’s the main lesson to be learned. Giving in to instant forms of gratification speaks low of you and makes others wish washy towards you ... when you are able to hold your head up high look to who your surrounded by in those moments ... people who care. LYS 41 Believe in yourself ... When everything you attach to is negative those words will be used to attach to negatives pulled from your life to determine what’s causing you negativity even if subtle to rule you out as unfit for the category of leadership ... based upon “principles” of beauty ... those lesser known as fitting characteristics which bind those categorically beautiful get left out of the equation ... deemed not as good as not as pretty as not as smart as not good enough. Who does that affect most the one being defined or the one defining both as they end up not together and wind up better apart. Credit those who pave waves if jealously was never an issue then it’s neither nor now even as instigated to test for past indicators of present resentments. Being yourself whomever you are ... Why would you want to be anyone else but yourself. Be careful not to allow illness or mental health issues to affect your best choice words as judged in the negative if accepting of all judged as a creator of words you self identify with by example on your profile but words you never use puts a negative light on your character ... if late as by purposeful punishment then one does not stand out by comparison to other businesses or providers of similar interests indistinguishable ... who are then the identified leaders in thought processes online or quotes or thought driven prose ... those who have been writing in public the longest. Have the most experience with reactions and heart not well versed for attention ... but to maintain tone whoever need be in control ... if dictated by meds so be it negative undertakings toward me ... not deserved, as though I’m lesser than or the same. It should not matter who was here first at the same token everyone should support one another in all their endeavors to be apart of society and earn a living as a writer. Taking things too far ... If you take things too far I’m sure they’ve set goals for this already is to make you look grose them smarter than as pre-planned and if responded to look like the wrongdoer ... that’s a plan implemented to bring up the past to cause one to appear as the wrongdoer or bully ... do not cause circumstances to occur from years ago because you think a person has not grown or changed and even if on different meds will respond the same in private in private again and then in public already put down so that any amplification of anything privately makes them look bad publicly. That’s create worse circumstances for an individual who is apart of thought positively of and encouraging a negative stance toward as less than deserving of equal treatment in life to be treated as worse off until worse off until one can’t achieve in anticipation of a gossip which is thought to be a fight and in anticipation knock me down as a potential accuser that I’d responded to makes me look like I’m knowingly responding and anticipating the same then play victim properly and make me look like I’m overreacting not offended too. Staying calm is a difficult position to achieve, especially rallied up over the past or nonsense. Learn to go with the flow, nothing happens overnight and if it’s self betterment that you want then there’s no better time than to get started now. Each day you put into getting better the better you’ll feel. Sometimes what you think is happening is not happening ... most of what your thinking after all is all in your head. Don’t get frustrated by thoughts and especially not with people you are always in control of your words and thoughts. How you are interpreted by others ... well that’s up to them not you. Knowing and doing are two different things. Sometimes even if we know best things don’t turn out the way we’d like even with all the best intentions at heart. Don’t be misunderstood in life. Always do your best to be clear. It’s not always obvious who’s at fault you just have to do your best to do and say the right thing what helps best. Love who you are - don’t get caught up being defensive over who you are not. When you love yourself that’s one step toward not allowing what others have to say to affect you but that doesn’t make you invincible we are at best only human. No matter where you end up in life remember where you come from. Stay close to your roots in life. Life’s not all about following fads and trends sometimes with little change and staying just the way we are is the best way toward self-improvement. Eventually you run out of material for whatever reasons that may be know the timing of your life ... when to share when not to share and when to just enjoy what’s around you the weather and the snow. How quickly we forget where we have been ... before repeating old patterns catch ourselves in the progress of making the same mistakes again. Forgive yourself often as sometimes that’s the best medicine to prevent yet another recipe for destruction or disaster. Once you master forgiveness only then will you enable yourself to heal from the traumas that keep you in the past. Move forward. LYS 42 Don’t hold back so much in life you’re likely not to live the life you think you deserve without taking some risks. That doesn’t mean being a spendthrift and wasting money on things that don’t matter but using you time effort energy and money wisely. Think what is it that benefits you most and go from there. Sometimes you’re right and sometimes you’re wrong. Do unto others as you wish to be done to you. It’s always uncomfortable to hear poorly of others unless you know what you’re talking about be careful and veer away from subjects or people you know less about. Be the most positive person in the room don’t speak badly of others it’s bound to make you look worse them look better. “How you treat yourself sets the standard for how others treat you.” ~ No one likes an addict they tend to wear us out too many problems and not enough energy to fix them. We usually enjoy spending time most with those who don’t require positive energy but who give us positive vibes. Be kind to all you never know for what reasons others struggle. Self-care is a must to all relationships fruitful. Ref: http://minuty.tumblr.com/ Addiction is a false belief that more of something will make things better and then filling each void with something else to replace that need ... to undo that addiction. If life were easy we’d have no addictions positive or negative be on a set schedule but then life would be boring. What’s life without a few highs and lows. If you’re not positive you can’t expect others to be positive for you. If it’s love that you want go out and get it. Staying home and complaining won’t do anything to undo “loneliness” problems you created for yourself by avoiding life. A lot about addiction has to do with choosing to live a healthier lifestyle and not wanting to go back to our old ways our alone days. Don’t let negative experiences in life define you. Always rise above self-doubt and stay true to yourself. There will be people who will mistake your kindness for stupidity or kindness for naïveté ... but you know you best. Don’t let others take advantage of your good wit ... and strength. Be the kind of person you want to meet. Be positive, be thankful, be grateful. Everyone loves someone who’s the life of the party with things to talk about, be one of them, what’s stopping you? The only person stopping you from being your social self are insecurities telling you to be a certain way for acceptance to come, accept you as you are now. Be a good person not just because you’re told to but because you genuinely want to make a positive difference in the world. One of the keys to moving forward is to not make a big deal of the past. These are just moments in time and moments should not dictate future outcomes in your life. Half of living life is dealing with consequences ... turn your life around now. Why live with mistakes from the past which you can currently forget simply by doing good things now for yourself what you could not do for yourself then. Recovery is a process, learn from your mistakes and do your best now. Don’t get the wrong idea when someone likes or pays attention to you ask for more than what you get in life. In today’s day and age with harassment it’s not always the case that more means better sometimes more of anything can be overwhelming, taking that into account people only want what benefits them and if you’re not that be sure to be mindful of their space and your own spaces in life, don’t chase people for attentions in life. You are a product of what you know and understand ... it’s okay not to know everything half of life is a learning process - you learn and grow everyday. Everyday you spend challenging yourself is an opportunity for growth and the changes you endure through that positive growth well that’s empowerment. You are too beautiful not to shine. Too pretty, too special. Know your self-worth. If only we could have these conversations with ourselves when we were younger would we be better off today. It’s never too late to start wearing makeup, take the group photo, and participate on Facebook. When is it ever a good time? You are too beautiful not to shine. Too pretty, too special. Know your self-worth. If only we could have these conversations with ourselves when we were younger would we be better off today. It’s never too late to start wearing makeup, take the group photo, and participate on Facebook. When is it ever a good time? It’s probably not a good idea to incorporate someone new into your life when you’re not doing well not fair to them not fair to you to get rejected because you’re not a fit match up in life. Know your place you can’t make everything work sometimes no matter how hard you try. Know your limits in life, what works best for you? To be chased? Well if you’re not happy with who likes you then when is it a good time to pick? The age old question ... who gets to pick and why? Who knows when who is ready? Why go by who’s in the mood to see if you match up? There’s no unwanted pressure to talking it’s when they physically want more is the problem ... learn how to say no and likewise learn from the moments you get rejected in life after having had unwanted experiences in life. They’ll know somethings wrong with you defective but you don’t have to divulge everything. Learn when to back off ... love those you are with but never to the extent that you make others uncomfortable or embarrassed by having known you based upon what others think of you not comfortable talking to you. When someone loves you they will automatically not care what people think and automatically accept you the way you are. *You’re right to express yourself should not interfere with the peace of others ... that is by and what you have to say or how you express those feelings otherwise should not interfere with the relationships of others to make your points in life or through the sharing of how you feel interfere with the peace of mind of others that’s being cognizant of how others feel not trying to change their perspectives of you only seek to be heard anything more is asking too much of others. Boundary maintenance is more to do with what’s under your/their belt that you/they have left to lose than it is about esteems it’s more about what you have/they (have) that others do not have ... and about what’s at stake and what’s left to lose (by association) ... when you respect what others have a seek less of what you don’t have in life (respect) then you too can arrive at a happy place too in life regardless if by comparison you have less (admiration/respect). Why people of high esteem are on their own merits regarded as special with or without the accompaniment of controversies or people to bolster their self-worth or image, do things on your own without the help of others and you’ll be more likely to be accepted as you are on you’re own whether or not you’re apart of someone, with, or without esteem (ie a companion). Keep it positive you never know who’s watching. Always do your best to keep up with appearances and be kind to all. You never know who’s connected to who or who may be affected by what you have to say and no not everyone is watching unless you want them to focus on your private life. If you’re out in public you’re bound to be criticized if not by an understanding compassionate person who cares not all will be that way toward you ... unconditional or not judgmental. Don’t allow criticisms from people you don’t know to easily affect you who’s judgments should matter most are coming from people you know why they tell you to remember where you come from if you start with what they would think and go from there you’ll be sure not to lose yourself in the process of finding yourself ... to avoid getting bombarded by negative judgments or opinions of you if you act out of character or while emotional respond in ways to the surprise of those who don’t know you don’t care ... always be normal never do anything that shocks the public’s consciousness always do your best to blend in ... even if that means to be as expected ... you are responsible for living your life at the end of the day. Don’t allow criticisms from people you don’t know to easily affect you who’s judgments should matter most are coming from people you know why they tell you to remember where you come from if you start with what they would think and go from there you’ll be sure not to lose yourself in the process of finding yourself ... to avoid getting bombarded by negative judgments or opinions of you if you act out of character or while emotional respond in ways to the surprise of those who don’t know you don’t care ... always be normal never do anything that shocks the public’s consciousness always do your best to blend in ... even if that means to be as expected ... you are responsible for living your life at the end of the day. Be a credible person ... watch your words none are taken lightly during pressing times and often it’s those most outspoken when given too much room for experiment ... say the oddest things ... we do mind them. To not be one of those people always stay grounded and be true to yourself and especially to those who care. We don’t all have the same motivations in life ... if we are all the same [human] then we would be looking for the same happinesses in life and the happinesses of others would have no affect on our ability to achieve happiness [with an open mind]. It’s usually those who live with a mind absent of others who wind up unhappy unable to please all alone [they may seem strong and independent] but if we all desire the same or similar consequences of happiness [ie success] then no competition with unhappy people should ever interfere with youre ability to be happy ... or you’re ability to be happy for others. Therefore always think of others even if it means putting the best interests of others before you’re own if your own happiness and success and that of others is what makes you happy. LYS 43 Not all relationships last, live for the moment! When you have your life put together you’ll be more likely to attract what you want and less likely to get hurt in the process. Know your own strength. Don’t set yourself up for heartache getting over invested in anyone when you’re not strong. The right people will be there for you no matter what. Never make the same mistake twice. You’re only hurting yourself when you do. Know when to open up and how to open up -don’t open up to anyone you don’t trust in life. If you get hurt caring for people or while under the care of others don’t blame yourself ... best you can do is rise above, be the bigger person. Be careful not to easily give in to temptations in life you’re bound to get hurt loving the wrong things in life and people. Be fearless in the pursuit of anything that makes your heart sing, never giving up on oneself ... life’s a journey ... what’s meant to be will be. Stop trying to control others or reactions and let life happen at its own pace it’s okay to worry, get let down, or be disappointed in life those are called lessons, learn from it don’t repeat the past and keep moving forward building anew for yourself. Others will be happy for your turnaround. Living in a post world ... It shouldn’t matter what people think but it does especially with sensitivities running high it’s become that much harder to just be yourself, always be careful not to offend anyone with your neediness or questions about life ... we are mostly responsible for ourselves as adults expected to know it all and perform under all types of pressures. Do your best that doesn’t mean if not affected excel when others are down it just means rise to the occasion of need and help others it’s your help and support that’s needed when everyone’s down not your neediness which can seem selfish to only think about yourself at times like these it’s important for everyone to do their part. Living in a post world ... It shouldn’t matter what people think but it does especially with sensitivities running high it’s become that much harder to just be yourself, always be careful not to offend anyone with your neediness or questions about life ... we are mostly responsible for ourselves as adults expected to know it all and perform under all types of pressures. Do your best that doesn’t mean if not affected excel when others are down it just means rise to the occasion of need and help others it’s your help and support that’s needed when everyone’s down not your neediness which can seem selfish to only think about yourself at times like these it’s important for everyone to do their part. The majority of your time should be spent bettering yourself to achieve success and happiness, the less time you spend worrying and the more time you spend working toward your goals in life -the more you’ll attract back ... that is positive attentions in life. Never give up when you’re down remind yourself that you’re worth it. Dating is hard ... The right ones will stay -love should not be an everyday job ... you work for it but don’t let it overwork your emotions and energy that is time spent loving others and yourself. Love ... it comes and it goes those unconditional won’t mind you whether you’re down or up in life love yourself the same anyways, they’ll be glad not to disappoint you when you have it all happy to be around to see you achieve in life with or without them around. Dating is hard ... The right ones will stay -love should not be an everyday job ... you work for it but don’t let it overwork your emotions and energy that is time spent loving others and yourself. Love ... it comes and it goes those unconditional won’t mind you whether you’re down or up in life love yourself the same anyways, they’ll be glad not to disappoint you when you have it all happy to be around to see you achieve in life with or without them around. Learning business ... Don’t over-promote yourself when you earn your wins in life cut your losses and don’t go backwards in life through ALL your mistakes along the way just OVERLOOK what’s gone wrong FIX what you can and DO YOUR BEST that’s all anyone can ask of you. Own up to your wrongs in life you don’t have it all made quite yet ... the difference between those successful and those yet to achieve are graces social graces not aptitude patience and loyalty not be a spendthrift casual or complacent ... getting you’re head in the game means knowing when to STAY PUT when to LET GO and when to keep your mind on your own life not the lives of others to “LIVE your BEST LIFE.” Prepare yourself for everything ... Always be prepared for failure in life you never know what setbacks in life will but you under out of your good wits out of tune with others. When you feel a lack of syncing in life ... that mostly means to work on yourself ... when you feel separate to ... that mostly means you’re right where you need to be ... when you feel stuck that mostly means you’re not where you want to be in life, know yourself. Everyone makes progress at different paces in life yours is not obvious to others ... unless you make it known. And when you’re not sure you can always ask ... for what reasons things are or are not the way things are and leave the rest up for interpretation as to which stories to connect in life, never play victim to your own interpretations in life get made sick by the vocalizations of others not all actions are directed towards you intended to help or harm your psyche or abilities in life. Just be yourself ... The more good times you have in life the better you’ll feel. Don’t be so hard on yourself. If you love to love then love but not to the point you get uncomfortable ... always be yourself. Chances are others comfortability around you is based on your comfort with yourself. Stay motivated. Don’t let opportunities pass you by in life. You never know which opportunities will avail themselves to you if you don’t stay at your best. Life happens in phases don’t get stuck in phases where you don’t feel good enough or able then complain when things don’t work out for you ... why do your best at all times. Love every moment of your life why don’t oversaturate yourself with negativity especially in private conversations ... delete less in life a sure sign you’re not where you need to be. If you can keep a conversation going in the positive well then you know you’re on track. Life’s all about how we interact with others if you can’t keep it positive then best to say nothing at all. You learn a lot in quiet spaces ... You learn a lot in quiet spaces ... about yourself about others. There’s always room for growth never doubt yourself. I think overall messenger is a great service for connecting you with people you would not otherwise be able to be in contact with ... fan mail is a blessing not to be abused. You learn a lot about yourself in the process of sharing with others your doubts and your dreams. Eventually all things must come to an end ... breakups are difficult but not impossible it’s mostly you that needs to detach from anything or anyone who no longer is helping you hurt yourself in the process of loving yourself or others. (Removed from insta) Stay positive even through your worst days. We all go through difficult times some more difficult than others but never lose your sense of faith in yourself. Often times it’s when we give up we need to keep going. You’ll never know what’s on the other side unless you try. LYS 44 “What hurts more -the pain of hard work or the pain of regret?” Knowing your limits in life helps, especially knowing when to stop doing anything that’s causing you harm. Sometimes in life we can keep going other times we need to stop, and sometimes no one knows this but you best. Being able to follow your own intuitions in life takes practice and experience. Reference: 365 Days of Positive Thinking by Jenny Kellett. “What hurts more -the pain of hard work or the pain of regret?” > Knowing your limits in life helps, especially knowing when to stop doing anything that’s causing you harm. Sometimes in life we can keep going other times we need to stop, and sometimes no one knows this but you best. Being able to follow your own intuitions in life takes practice and experience. [Missing quote - rose 🌹] If you want a relationship to work it’s best not to write about them or you guys as a couple - counter-intuitive watching #sexinthecity but it’s true there’s a way to lead discussion and not make things about you or your personal life. Sometimes you’ll say the wrong things and cause your own discomforts in life and sometimes you’ll say all the right things and get a good nights sleep. You are always in control ... remind yourself that you’re worth it and don’t get depressed attached to anyone in life always be independent of others. It really shouldn’t matter what other people think always be yourself ... the more you care the more you’ll be affected. If you used to feel apart of and no longer do that’s just marks the end to one relationship that doesn’t mean there’s not a probability for a new relationship to begin but once one ends allow time for yourself. In order to start any new relationship you should feel put together to attract. Don’t be too hard on yourself we all recover at different paces in life from heartache, heartbreak, and rejection. Never go backwards that’s how you get hurt just move forwards when it comes to love. - - - No one ever said that life would be easy ... sometimes during our most difficult and trying times we find ourselves. Don’t get caught up in what bothers you you’re bound to get hurt. Instead focus on what’s working for you and go from there. When you’re not yourself it’s easy to vent vent frustrations and let yourself go all wrapped in in negativity. Don’t let that happen. Take back control: meditate, run, yoga ... do whatever it takes to get your settings right. Your happiness depends on it that’s you’re well being. Do what you can to stay positive. (1) Get out of bed! (2) Get ready for your day (3) Remind yourself you’re worth it (4) Don’t forget to hydrate and eat food (5) Check in with loved ones (6) Live life to the fullest (7) Do what sets your heart free (8) Work hard (9) Try new things (10) Remember the best of times. Be a happy person ... 9 times out of 10 your happiness will make others happy to see you happy. If you get reminded to smile or asked for smiles means you’re being too hard on yourself. Think what is it that I have to offer the world and am I providing the same as I wish to receive in return. It’s not all about others being nice to you but also requires you to be pleasant toward others, be mindful of your social graces in life that’s not flirting it’s just being nice to all. You give to receive in life. Live life without regret. Don’t be forgetful be mindful. Your needs are your own needs not necessarily the needs of others. Fulfill your dreams but not at the expense of others. Keep in mind boundaries ... a shared happiness is not always a shared dream. Be happy with who and what you have in life be careful never to ask for more than what’s given to receive love in life ... do your best. The main goal (if you’re wise enough to not be selfish) is not to allow your thinking to interfere with the best thinking of others ... that’s being selfless handling life on your own not being too dependent on others for strength. Independent thinking comes at a cost though if you’re alone for too long AND you acquire problems of your own then it is those losses that are harder to recover from being on your own. (1) Use your time wisely (2) Dont forget to check in (3) Stay motivated (4) Be apart of #besocial not anti-social (5) Forgive yourself often life is short but not short enough that you can’t go backwards fix mistakes or move forwards. The big question is whether you can correct your life as it is now and achieve your best still ... that’s up to you. Tomorrow’s a new day don’t let any bad days ruin your long term outlook in life ... be the better judge of your own character pick which days to stick to your repertoire and which days to minus from your lifetime routine - if daily you struggle focus long term positively if you suffered in the past be happy with where you are now pat yourself on the back you’ve come a long way! —- Tomorrow’s a new day don’t let any bad days ruin your long term outlook in life ... be the better judge of your own character pick which days to stick to your repertoire and which days to minus from your lifetime routine - if daily you struggle focus long term positively if you suffered in the past be happy with where you are now pat yourself on the back you’ve come a long way! What do you want in life now is the time why wait until tomorrow to accomplish what you can get done today. Procrastination is just fear of not finishing, failure, or feeling not up to a challenge in life - you set yourself up emotionally and you set yourself up goal wise ... pick and choose your battles in life (how much and how little energy do you have?) ... and go from there, small goals to start THEN you can achieve bigger goals in life. LYS 45 We all go through different phases in life some days more promising than others. You go through rough patches sometimes, this could be one of them. Be reminded of where you’ve been but don’t be too hard on yourself. It’s easy to work yourself back to feelings you’re familiar with ... but you can’t go backwards to see life different grow past your mistakes not think what if applied my thinking now, to me as I was then. You’re bound to get hurt again revisiting a time you were hurt or not as strong ... just move forward, reflect, you can’t transform your past but you can change your now. Eventually you reach a point of monotony ... but sometimes you don’t see results right away. Doing the same thing everyday is being productive but it’s in those subtle changes to your day that makes all the difference. Stay driven as to your goals in life but let no day short or long ruin good progress. Remind yourself of your direction along the way ... are you doing now what needs to get done to end up where you want to be in life and do so. Stay positive nothing can become of negative thoughts you just rally yourself up and let yourself down. Be thankful for everything and everyone around you, know that everyone is doing their best likewise to stay well and take good care of themselves ... you’re not the only one with problems we all have problems. That being said ... don’t bring yourself down in life! When it’s only you standing in the way between your own happiness then that’s time to let things go move forward. Be thankful for every passing day you have when well you never know when a curve ball is gonna get thrown at you and change your whole life for better or worse. Life’s not perfect ... that’s why it’s important to always make the best out of what you have in life. [Missing blue quote before purple] Remind yourself that what you’re going through is completely normal. We all have addictions the point is not to allow those addictions to overcome our best decision making skills and verge on self-harm. Do your best to be mindful of when you’re helping yourself and know the difference ... when you think what you’re doing is helping but really causing you harm to overthink about. Know when to stop and get positive. You’d be surprised people are more forgiving than you think. Whenever your problems pile up to the point you think others are judging you take a step back that’s not always the case that your gossip’d about people have lives of their own always remind yourself of that. You can’t always be right sometimes you may have off days when your best judgment leaves you ... know that the best way to overcome any embarrassment is to live productively and be goal-oriented, positive. LYS 46 Not all things are related always keep an open mind but avoid left fielded arguments in life. Any nuisanced opinions are appreciated if everyone past can be viewed in the positive but be careful whenever delivering any new information or interpretation you don’t reinforce causes or perceptions of those who are offensive normalize that behavior but be sure to normalize the sides that wonder how and why things came about and by what we hope were positive motivations behind created works. There’s never a good time to say goodbye. Sometimes through separation we find closure other times we don’t. Don’t get mad at yourself if things don’t work out, and if you are experiencing problems I hope that bliss finds you eventually. Enjoy those quiet moments in life with your significant other. You may not always be able to say the right thing but sometimes just being in good company makes everything better. It’s not alright to ignore others, no matter how defiant in the right you feel, it’s okay to make amends and love again after failure or hardship not just throw a 3-4 year relationship out the window over little things in life. The silent treatment works but sometimes it hurts, love more, talking things out sometimes makes everything better. It’s painful when you’re in the wrong ... own up to your mistakes in life + don’t make your pain the pain of others. When you go through a difficult time or experience in life think of who matters to you most and go from there ... not ruminate over who has harmed you or hurt your feelings, stay true to yourself. So long as you blame others for your mistakes in life you won’t be able to heal sometimes owning up to what has gone wrong makes everything better, that’s not being defiant and letting things go. Time flies ... particularly when looking back on your life, I’m not sure whether life hits you hard in your 30s on purpose but it means one of two things -to focus on yourself or focus on others, depending on whether or not you get married and have kids you may be living with more regrets in life than you wish you had, had you gotten married and stayed in relationships you don’t always find better ... there are no guarantees in life its best to better yourself with or without a partner in life. Just do your best to stay positive and be normal ... sometimes it’s best to not say anything at all. Whenever you’re overcoming something personal - don’t let what others think about you affect your ability to fix yourself - if it’s by what you say others justify distancing themselves from you then that’s a sign that you’re going in the wrong direction it’s not your responsibility to stop others from hurting you in the abstract it’s better to rise above and not be so easily offended by others (if it’s not about you). #lesson: Don’t make anything about you that’s not about you. Remember the good times ... our best memories are what sometimes help keep us moving forward. Remind yourself you’re worth it and deserve the best and let the rest go. No failure is ever worth losing yourself over. You arrive at best or better once your able to overcome what’s holding you back in life that’s letting go losing yourself not pushing past normal or going backwards it means being in the now appreciating where you’re at in life and starting anew ... be hopeful good things are sure to come with a positive attitude in life. Always set your standards high you never know who’s watching. You can either be a crowd pleaser writing or stick to your own beat in life ... it’s always about what’s trending but rather what needs to be heard. We all see differently no opinion should be of lesser value trust your instincts, listen often, and strive for progress not perfection. Be so busy that you don’t even have time to think about the past or waste time posting your adventures along the way, less is more. Stay true to yourself sometimes being too open hurts you in the long run while sharing private information making your life more public than it needs to be. You won’t always get your way no matter how presentable you are there will be others not in acceptance of you ... give it time. Social anxiety is more to do with acceptance of self than it is about how others treat you. Until you are comfortable with yourself will you be comfortable around others. Love yourself but not to the point your happiness is dependent upon it don’t set such high expectations of it ... not all goods in life equal success. If you think self love is the ticket to happiness you may be sorely disappointed if others do not love you too then. At certain points in our lives we are loved that’s for others to determine. Don’t waste time and energy doing things for others to love you but do things because you love yourself. Expect less do more in life, privacy is everything. You may not agree with everyone’s perspectives in life but that doesn’t mean make things about you ... as followed people as reading have the benefit of assumption not to your best interests thought about as derived from good or bad places in life thought wise, nothing ever positive became of ideas based upon wrongs in life ... don’t tie the successes of others to stories shared from different lives as though influenced by or by a guided set of deductions derived thoughts. We each live our own lives and by different exposures in life see the world, we are not all the same. Even if everyone knew the same information each would be affected differently having known information about self or others ... if on the outside not affected but know that all those within a story may be affected by the sharing of a story by others outside of a story having an opinion about those within a story. Why they say not to worry what others think ... sometimes no explanation is best be appreciative of those who try to help build a better understanding of the times not hurt those who come forward share how they’ve been affected by others. Why it’s not advantageous for the story teller to come forward in a big way. You can’t go back in time always to stories from your past to help build a better picture of what and who is connected if no longer connected affected by one anothers lives. Usually people who are well stay well because they are not connected to those who are not well. If a story hits harder than anesthesia then it’s probably not wise to share the story if it causes you illness to share it or makes you or others look bad as connected in the past. Connecting the past at a later point makes you look disconnected from others or trying to build connections based upon who you’ve known in the past. No name dropping is preferable in the realm of who knows who but sometimes it helps to know ... who’s connected to know who’s been affected by illness or by the illnesses of others, not well today. Hope everyone feels better! When the going gets tough keep going in life -you’ll thank yourself later for not giving up and pushing yourself through the days you feel like isolating, staying in bed all day, or avoiding your priorities in life. We can’t all be superheroes day in and day out but you can still get at least some work done no matter how off you feel no matter how off your day is no matter how off others feel to you -don’t be judgmental. Be patient with yourself and trust that those who care or are watching over you want what’s best for you as you should too. Live life to the fullest, take fewer risks in life, and always stay true to yourself. LYS 37
Start each day ... Start each day with a positive thought, stick to what you’re doing well at in life and go from there. You’re routine is everything. No one likes to talk about sleep but your sleep cycle is so important to beginning each day. Take your meds on time if necessary and don’t fall back into addiction. Listen to your body. What do you need to do in order to live a healthy lifestyle and do that. Be a good person ... You won’t like all people. You won’t get along with all people. But that doesn’t mean don’t be a good person, be nice to all, it doesn’t hurt ... to be nice even to those who are mean to you. Sometimes those who love us most are hard on us ... it’s not necessary to always be defiant sticking up for yourself ... learn to listen more talk less and be kind to those who care for you. Life is short but it doesn’t need to be impossible. Life’s not fair ... Not everything will make sense at least not in the immediate especially for those who live for the moment and less than apt to look back in life. Enjoy the moment. Some with more experience can guide you through the process of being in the now. Don’t fret over your life past but be happy with where you are now. Always be thankful for what you do have not worry about what you have not. Know that others will be more than happy to be there for you in life and support you through all phases of your happiness. Where-ever you are ... No matter where you are in life never give up. Happiness is usually two steps away from your worst moments in life if you’d just stay positive, and get over that hill of negativity - always see the good in yourself and others. If you don’t love yourself no one will do a better job of loving you for you. Low self-esteem blues ... Dont when you’re down express yourself that’s usually a sure fire way to illustrate to the other witnessing you that you are vying for something more. Don’t over compensate for qualities you’re lacking if you have it all in life ... to get more of what you want in life be positive! Others are will always be most attracted to the vulnerabilities of others, only with those you trust share those weaknesses and always be professional on both ends. Life’s a game of attentions in life if positive attention is what you want then go out and get it! Dont be aggressive ... In any new relationship or conversation don’t be aggressive with the minds of others as about you or others try to influence their opinions ... let people think for themselves. You’re bound to wind up in defensive territory or embarrass the other in communications with you. Always be yourself and allow others to be themselves ... trust is built not by secrets or shared opinions but by mutual respect, don’t be condescending toward those you love. Dear future self ... Be someone who your future self will thank you for, meaning pole your plates high and do your best! You’ll thank yourself later for the days you tried to hard even if you failed ... it’s better to try than do nothing at all chances are you’ve learned something valuable in the process if not grown from your experiences in life. Be human ... If you don’t already have a support system bows a good time to find one ... being online it’s to each ones responsibility to support one another in positive endeavors and discourage behaviors that inflame tensions or aggravate positions in life ... at some point later we may all be affected if not without support where would we be? Always be thankful for those who are there for you and never forget those who have fought hard to keep everyone afloat not making it necessary for others to fight or engage in the problems faced by others. What lies ahead ... What lies ahead is more important than the days which have past. Remind yourself daily that you deserve the best whether or not you feel important to others know that you are special, unique, and just as intelligent as the next. Don’t beat yourself up over your past we’ve all been places we wish we never had been and from those experiences distanced ourselves ... remember the best of times and forget the rest. You are too beautiful to waste away anywhere but as being your best self, don’t settle for less than you deserve in life. Two places at once ... You can’t be in two places at once ... you either choose to pay attention to others or not. Dont take risks in life that’s up to your best decision-making ... whether to forgo good opportunities in life for lesser important opportunities in life. Everything in fun always ... don’t take fun too seriously ... it’s usually a catch 22 (“movie: catfish”) you can dive in dive out at your own expense. It usually ends in heartbreak, disappointment, or turnoff just like most relationships end. Do your best to maintain a good sense of reality about you and don’t fear the confrontation that may follow, which includes boundary setting most of the time one wanting more than the other needs, that’s how relationships falter not succeed, less is more over time. Love your life ... Stop being obsessed with the lives of others and live your best life. It’s easy to compare and find yourself less than satisfied with your life. Don’t set yourself up for unhappiness. Be happy with who you are ... There will be days you’ll wish you were prettier, smarter, and more put together. Change doesn’t happen overnight but if you keep at it anything is possible ... especially when it comes to self-care that’s your ticket to self betterment and from there everything else should fall into place. Never give up. Be happy with who you are ... There will be days you’ll wish you were prettier, smarter, and more put together. Change doesn’t happen overnight but if you keep at it anything is possible ... especially when it comes to self-care that’s your ticket to self betterment and from there everything else should fall into place. Never give up. “Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.” Remind yourself daily that you deserve to have it all and that you are worthy of fulfilling your dreams. The only person holding you back from self-fulfillment is yourself. When the days get hard try harder ... you won’t know unless you start. Everyday is a day to begin again. Love yourself ... When you love yourself it becomes that much easier to love others, more approachable, more resilient to the daily stressors and strains that love requires you be strong for. When in love when insecure it’s easy to be misled by fears fear or rejection and fear of loss ... have faith. All things that go well occur when you feel at peace in life love is more about knowing your place than putting someone else in their place. Stay positive and be goal oriented. Be resilient to daily stressors and don’t get set back in life with a bad attitude. Know what makes you happy and don’t let anyone stop you from achieving in life. Not everyone will be on your side in life and that’s okay. When you make decisions for yourself that others don’t understand do more speak less “actions speak louder than words.” Once you start doing better in life you’ll be questioned less. Questioning is mostly due to worry that you’re not on track and because you’re not on track assumed you’re doing something wrong. Don’t let them win! You can’t be stubborn in life ... in one ear out the other. Everyone will be happy once you achieve solid ground. Not everyone will be on your side in life and that’s okay. When you make decisions for yourself that others don’t understand do more speak less “actions speak louder than words.” Once you start doing better in life you’ll be questioned less. Questioning is mostly due to worry that you’re not on track and because you’re not on track assumed you’re doing something wrong. Don’t let them win! You can’t be stubborn in life ... in one ear out the other. Everyone will be happy once you achieve solid ground. LYS 38 Never forget your self worth. Self-worth “is about who you are not about what you do.” That being said how you think of yourself is so important -establish a positive mindset to carry with you day in and day out, what is it that you like about yourself? Don’t base your self-worth on “external factors” as studies have shown it to be “harmful” to your mental health. Instead focus on the “unique qualities that make you you.” (Reference: https://www.psychalive.org/self-worth/) When your life is beautiful don’t give anything up to please just one person. If anyone needs to be pleased in life it’s you. It’s okay to go out of your way to help others but not to the extent that you sacrifice what you have in life to please them. Know how to set boundaries in life, to get more of what you need and less of what you don’t want. Needy people tend to bring out the worst in us never happy with us always about themselves. Don’t be one of them put yourself first. Be a source of wellness to others, that doesn’t mean be perfect it just means don’t get others sick with what’s bothering you. There are always Doctors to talk to for that. Learn how to separate yourself from things in life, that includes thoughts and worries. It’s easy to get worked up in life over nonsense ... don’t be one of them. Remind yourself you are worth it and you deserve the best, and don’t let anyone convince you otherwise. Be a strong person. In order to help others one must be independent. Be reliable. If you can’t rely on yourself to get things done then no one can rely on you. It’s okay if you’re last to know something especially when you’re busy. Sometimes the most relied upon people are not those in the know but those who are focused on themselves. If you end up at a loss in life your life’s not over. You simply need to pick up from where you left off and keep moving forward. It’s not everyday that we have others around to push us sometimes we have to push ourselves when left to our own devices. You are capable of achieving a great many things so long as you believe in yourself. Keep up the good work! Rome wasn’t built in a day. Every day is a choice to be productive or to sit back and waste time admiring what you’ve got done. Be mindful of the time you spend bettering yourself each day make sure to include time to give back to others too. Sometimes you end up places you don’t want to be in life, life’s not perfect. If you could draw your dreams out what would they look like? Be kind to yourself mostly, life’s a journey meant to be lived with zest, poise, and all your self-esteem assembled. If you could be any person in the world who would you be and why? Let’s not all shout the same name at once. Beauty? How do we define beauty? When you go out of your way to help others that’s doing everyone a good service to be more open-minded, less hurtful, and still press the boundaries of acceptance, that is beauty. Learn to get over things quickly life’s much to short to waste time backtracking over things you’ve said or sidestepping over arguments going on in your head you can’t seem to let go of. Have those discussions but not at the expense of being diplomatic, you’ll have more friends the less you harp on how things should be and instead allow people to be themselves with or without you. You can’t always be right. You’ll wonder a lot when things don’t work out what you could’ve done a better job at. Don’t beat yourself up. Not all relationships last. Trust the process of healing and recovery ... that you will find better if you just keep the faith. Which means don’t rebound and revenge date the only person you wind up hurting is yourself. Give yourself time to function again as normal and surely you’ll find a match again. Don’t be embarrassed by what you can’t change about yourself. Learn from those awkward moments and keep moving forward. You can’t go backwards in life, sometimes once you turn them off they’re done and so be it. Always do your best to rise above. Some love is for the moment and some love was meant to last, know your places in life and trust that you’ll find love with someone who honors you, respects you, and wants what’s best for you. It’s a funny subject when to stay and when to go, follow your heart. You can’t be in two places at once that’s next to impossible. Same goes for your heart. You get to pick daily who you choose to focus on and what you choose to focus on. Let those be healthy and happy thoughts about self and others. If you’re in a relationship stay chances are whoever is vying for your attentions is only temporary those relationships usually don’t last. Don’t ruin a good day with a negative attitude, simply because you can’t get your way in life with others. If you want more of something in life and asking for it doesn’t help ... then do what you can for yourself by yourself to make yourself happy with or without help from others. Shower the ones you love with praise they’ll love you that much more for it. It doesn’t hurt every now and then to remind others of what they’re doing right. Sometimes a little reassurance goes a long way to make relationships last ... feeling a common bond or mutual respect for one another, admired. It’s not everyday that you walk into a room and are immediately attracted to someone if you find this happening to you more than once it could mean that you’re attractive ... why you’re getting noticed. Enjoy those times and spaces. When you radiate positivity chances are others will notice that quality about you and chime in ... take that as a compliment to be noticed by others don’t let it go to your head. Those who are most humble always striving to look and feel their best are the ones who get the most attentions in life on good merits. Live for the moment. Be who you want to be in life not who someone else wants you to be. Know your limits in life. Don’t get hung up over could’ve should’ve would’ves in life. The last person you want to be is someone living in regret not happy with where you are now. Instead be grateful for every passing day and those included in it. You never know for how long anything will last. Dig deep ... not just on the days that you cry but also on the days you’re most happy. Figure out why you’re happy and remind yourself of all the beautiful traits you are. You deserve the best, convincing yourself otherwise is not only doing you a disservice moving forward but sets you back mentally. Don’t languish in self-loathing thoughts, always think highly of yourself. Be happy with who you are. Respect where you’ve been, and be thankful for all the days you have left to live your life. Life is a journey, no matter how bad the roads get keep going. Don’t allow fear to limit you and your vision. The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. Aim for the sky, but move slowly, enjoying every step along the way. Sometimes you have no control over who loves you in life. You don’t always get to pick. Be thankful for who does those could be your fans, your followers, or acquaintances in life ... but that doesn’t mean you’re required to give to receive love and admiration from others, always be yourself. Without social media we’d be living in a lonely world. Enjoy the excitement. Loneliness is a sign of lack of productivity more than it’s actually of being alone. Why they say to always keep yourself busy. The busier you are the less likely you are to feel lonely. Always set your standards high, goal setting weekly your wants and needs in life, and never settle for less than you deserve in life. Making your dreams come true is no easy task it takes discipline and hard work. Learn to persevere through your worst days to get to your best days. Overtime if you’re still not happy with where you are push yourself. You can’t always rely on others to be there for you. Leadership is for those who are strong with or without everyday support and able to maintain a sense of self that sets them apart from others. You can’t predict the future ... or can you? ... It mostly depends on how on point you are in life ... when you tend to fall in line with your goals in life. So long as you continue goal setting you will arrive at your destination. When in Rome lead with your strengths. It’s wise not to waste all your energy on instincts alone sometimes your best senses can lead you astray. Focus on what you’re good at, and from there find your sense of peace. Sometimes when we feel least attractive we attract in those moments people we get the best love from. Remember always who’s been there for you even on your worst days loves you anyway. There’s really no such thing as unrequited love that’s just a fancy name for rejection. If you can’t keep a mans attention that doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you you might just not be the right match for them. Not all relationships last you can wait and wait all you want but that still doesn’t mean things will work out for you in the long run. By the time you get there everyone’s married and set if you wait long enough. When you love someone you have to learn how to let things go go at their own paces in life that pace you cannot dictate to others. Sometimes things are meant to be and sometimes not. Depending on how needy you are you get what you put into any endeavors, romantic or not. Love the skin that you’re in. If you can’t be you now, then when? Why wait another minute another day and put off what you need to get done to start feeling like yourself again. Whether that’s adding more love to your life or more work or more of everything don’t hold back. The more you put into your years the more years to live you’ll feel positive about having lived. Don’t regret much ... especially while picking yourself apart over the small things in life, forgive yourself often. LYS 39 It’s time to start living your best life! If you haven’t already put together a game plan for the week ones a good time to start. What are your dreams, what are your aspirations in life and visualize. Where do you see yourself one week from now one month from now? Are you doing what needs to get done to get there? Be humble in the pursuit of your goals in life. Let no one hold you asunder. In fact no degree of negativity ever helped build the wisdom required to look back and see things through. Where-ever you are in life love yourself first and foremost. Without you there would be no future and no past of your own. Think in terms of your place on earth what would you rather dedicate your time and attention to yourself or others and go from there. Not everyone will feel represented at all times ... sometimes your interests may not be in the best interests of all, know your place, when to quit, when to keep going in life. You set your own standards of wellness ... you can not compare yourself to others. LYS 33
Don’t share your love ... I think the years of passing love around are over ... today if you share love love is taken or you get replaced as advertised put down to be treated as a lesser match in life to someone who thinks they’re better than that’s how you lose love in life and how your love gets blamed if things do not go right as the person to whom confidences were given and treated as though you misled the public to thinking things were okay or not okay based upon your wellness any loss is felt and upon such losses in love hurt occurs be weary of to whom you go to for love it’s when love is not returned harm occurs as love is given, by those in between are the ones responsible for distance not those to whom love is given or received. You cannot get love by replacing others in life that’s the lesson to be learned and you cannot find success by imitating others to achieve love admiration or respect. Missing quote Don’t hold back ... It’s okay to try new things within reason but not if it affects your progress. Sometimes new things can be addicting when you get all wrapped up and lose focus. Think what is it that’s important to you and stick to that ... nothing lasts forever don’t forget yourself in the process of loving others. Don’t worry too much ... As co-dependent the tendency is to worry when you’re not a priority not important not needed. Don’t develop unhealthy attachments. Chances are if you’re addicted to any person or thing that doesn’t return the same feeling that’s your problem to resolve not the other persons responsibility to cure. Not everyone will treat you as special in life always ... do your best likewise to be admired respected and needed. It’s not the responsibility of those who are well to help you get well always don’t be so needy in life the more you can get done on your own in life the more you’ll be thought of needed as independent of others. Planning ahead ... Nows a good time to get organized and plan ahead. Where do you see yourself in the future? What are your wants, what are your needs and go from there a little daily action planning goes a long way whether by lists or keeping a record of your progress sometimes that’s the best way to reflect and notice improvements to self - not all improvements seen by others do we have the beauty to witness for ourselves. It’s not always obvious ... Whether it’s obvious to others should make no difference moving forward who knows what and about whom. Be a good judge of character first do your part to achieve normal ... for what reasons people choose space is not up to you not all weirdness is acceptable, know your place. You cannot expect people to know how to respond to you if you are not at your best, likewise if you were in their shoes you’d not know how to respond to them being weird in the past ... all things come full circle in the whats normal or not normal department. Everyone has their moments in life appreciate the good times and be forgiving of those times either you or someone you know was not themselves. Be yourself ... Not everyone gets it in life some are on different levels success wise some on different playing fields socially do your best to adjust to all settings ... be humble be nice but don’t be small minded. We cannot all wind up in inner circles in life some outside to those we look up to admire or achieve lifestyles we wish we had like quotes on jets or motivational statements on suits be who you are as influenced not wish you were who is seen in the background those are just selling points to what is said in life ... what’s more important is what you say and how you say it in life to whom offenses are taken or offenses are drawn into interpretations of what you share about yourself or others. Don’t look like a jealous person envy fewer in life and achieve more of who you are not by focusing on who you are not. Here we go ... It’s not only lessons you learn from stories but characters you remember - such powerful gifts in life are given to those who as preserved once they present themselves to the world are considered new that’s where empowerment comes from the introduction of well to the sick or the sick upon meeting the well cured that’s gods work ... the power to help others is given to those who achieve well in life and with wellness entrusted to help others they are responsible for curing others and upon being cured know and recognize who is well why well is well taken care of in life entrusted with privileges and with privilege excels in life from where drive should come from to help others achieve well too including yourself. #superbowl Not everything makes sense ... At least in the immediate not all things will make sense especially when anywhere new thought or experience wise to keep going pick up always from where you left off your life ahead is a product of the days put in if you expect to have better days in life work on having a good day now and from there ... you will see change. Things start to make sense the more you make sense in life don’t always go by what you make sense of that’s not always how to make sense of now ... especially if you end up worse off by those thoughts - life is not perfect not even thought wise #bepositive. Think for yourself ... Not everyone’s humor will make sense to you overtime as you become more abreast with social and political know how you too will be in tune on the foreground of what’s at issue not left behind so to speak with jokes or good humor ... not everything’s a joke ... and not every inside will be a pleasurable experience sometimes at best good humor is being used in response to bad humor in the past which had affected others within groups of within themselves affected as not having understood from where jokes come from. It takes one to know one ... Listening to a song I heard a phrase that reminded me of this one. ~ Nothing you do without pay goes unnoticed however much of life is lived without pay ... and without pay one should still hold themselves to the standard of someone who is working for pay. “It takes one to know one” what does that mean to me? To me that means recognizing how you call it in life that unless you understand what it is can you recognize what it is, that unless you have experienced something in life will you know how to identify what it is you’re experiencing -sometimes if new it’s hard to identify and if you get used it’s hard to identify who the user is, it’s usually by acceptance we allow people into our lives ... listen mostly for what you identify as wrong or right ... and do what you identify as wrong or right and based on that outlook hopefully you will be a wiser person and decision maker so that you lead a better life. What do you see ... What you see in people is your choice ... what you believe it’s not about who you believe it’s about the good that you see in others not in spite of what others think but based upon your interaction with them see -we all have had different experiences in life in knowing others this is no different. When you have known someone differently than others have that’s not a special knowing of a person separate from others but in a way that helps to reinforce their good traits by what they choose to be known about them - how they are known is outside of their control that’s called fame or being well known it comes at a price and with a microscope. LYS 34 Don’t be argumentative ... When people are there for you appreciate that space minus the heckling and low blows but be responsible for the input towards you ... you can’t always control this aspect of life but if you speak and behave well then you should have nothing to worry about. Everyone has lives of their own it’s not all about you why it’s important not to talk about people in public as this ruins chemistry upon talking to a person much like it is talking behind someone back about them. When Love Can’t Cure All ... There’s nothing worse than loving someone who doesn’t love you. It’s like giving your heart away with no return ... no certainty ... being the provider of your own warmth in life. Once you realize who they are ... you’ll come to appreciate them more. It’s not all about love ... work is more important ... some when focused on the right things in life tend to live positive lives everything coming to fruition for them as they see fit whether or no that includes you is up to you! To surround yourself with well people be a good person and likewise you’ll achieve the same with or without them by your side. Don’t be easily affected ... Not everything makes sense in the immediate ... given the times are new be so thankful for the devices we’ve been left to but don’t overwhelm yourself with nuanced opinions or feel the pressure to keep up with information more than half the information you don’t know of probably exists elsewhere and it’s your responsibility to do your research and learn. Meeting people ... You’ll meet many people in life ... however few who will change you (especially if you’re stubborn or defiant) you cannot win with them all. Not all will be dedicated to seeing you change some are more interested in the changes they go through as in knowing you (don’t be selfish) just as you would be happy for yourself be happy for others (once you stop feeling good chances are you will be unable to make others feel good) and so relationships come to an end ... once you stop achieving or believing in others others will stop believing in you that’s not gods work that’s karma. Treat all equally be equally as pleasant and equally as caring equally as observant equally as forgiving and try equally hard for each you seek to impress in life you never know who’s support you’ll need one day if not who you’re supported by now and who’s supported you all along. Life’s a journey not meant to be relived but learned upon, and from those lessons become a better person if not leave others better off with or without you in their lives as met or so deserving to meet. LYS 35 Having it all ... I used to think that having it all meant something different and realized later that it’s more important to live a healthy life in order to have a great life. Once you realize how short life is from that point in time on you start living life differently for the better. The best feeling is being in the now not worried about the past but living for the moment. The beauty of life ... The beauty of life is that you can be a product of whatever you choose to believe. #stopsuicide ... So long as we live in a society that blames good people for why bad things happen then things will never change ... so long as we use the identities of the bad to make deductions things will never change ... so long as we interpret things in the negative things will never change. Choose to disassociate yourself from things that don’t matter and choose to associate to those who do. The beauty of life ... The beauty of life is that you can be a product of whatever you choose to believe. #stopsuicide ... So long as we live in a society that blames good people for why bad things happen then things will never change ... so long as we use the identities of the bad to make deductions things will never change ... so long as we interpret things in the negative things will never change. Choose to disassociate yourself from things that don’t matter and choose to associate to those who do. How to get to friendly ... Without sounding like you’re from Minnesota ... that’s a challenging question. If you make it past awkward without causing discomfort and if you don’t stare for too long it gets to friendly quick especially as open not with your mouth open but by breathing when you’re relaxed so will others be around you. When you’re not at ease don’t expect others to be friendly towards you to open you up confidence is always a plus, so is reading a magazine in the waiting room. If you’re Dream is to be well liked then do so start now and don’t give up discrimination ends when you stop letting them win and instead put on a happy face 🙃 others will be glad you did, happy for your turn around. Be yourself ... You will always be where you’ve been if you don’t move forward in life. If you want to build a better life for yourself accept your faults improve upon your weaknesses and be a better person in spite of those days believe that there are better days ahead. Being yourself means accepting that you’re not perfect and that even if things don’t go well you won’t give up on yourself. What is smart? We all wish to have those moments when something we have to say comes across as profound ... but that doesn’t always happen, it’s the best when as the listener being given advices in life when the speaker is spot on. Be patient with yourself not all advices in life will make sense at the time but if you remember the wisdoms shared by others it may later apply be helpful, then “profound.” We tend to remember only what we want to hear. What makes sense to us. Why is that? Getting your way ... You won’t always get your way in life sometimes you’ll be wrong you can’t see perfect always. There will be days when you feel off and what you have to say off putting be patient with yourself ... give yourself time to heal change doesn’t happen overnight. The goal is to always stay positive even if what you have to say no one wants to hear or by what you have to say wrong - hope that it always helps the goal of the writer. LYS 36 Be a good person ... Sometimes this means replacing our own best interests with the best interests of others. Not everything is about being right ... don’t come off as too strong in interactions some are weaker than you think. Being a good person means owning up to your wrongs, doing your share to empower others, and keeping your side of the street clean without pointing out the defects in others while you’re at it. Who you are ... That’s something about you no one can change ... who you are - you can either live with your faults or blame others, be happy or unhappy with who you are, grateful or unpleasant about not being where you want to be in life, but never take that out on others. Surely others may try to better you but until you know yourself will you be able to have the kind of relationships you want and be the person you know you are. Remind yourself that you’re a good person and don’t let people change you for the worst in life - always be in control of your emotions. Don’t be trashy ... It’s easy to look like a douchebag these days ... just because you’re online doesn’t mean you’re looking ... there are many lonely souls looking for attentions in life unless you’re on a dating site don’t waste your time engaging with others. There’s a time and a place for socialization be careful not to socialize with people you don’t know. It’s easy these days to be taken advantage of. Don’t fool yourself ... It’s easy to fall in love with ideas about people especially people you don’t know very well see them as perfect ... that’s just your ideal to think someone who looks perfect is perfect don’t be fooled by looks. Looks alone does not make a person it’s how they live their lives and by how hard they try in life should they be judged. Don’t take it personally rejections in life just means it’s not the right person, time, or place for you in life. Set your standards high for yourself don’t lower your standards for anyone to fit in and always do your best. Be wise ... It’s easy to get wrapped up getting mad at yourself over your past ... then at the present mess up while you’re at it. Privacy is everything you’re not required to talk about your past with current or new relationships professional or personal to be understood a little mystery goes a long way. You could be sharing a world neither of you wants to take part in that is reliving your struggles instead of growing from your problems. Be thankful ... Be thankful for your places in life. If the more you think about the past the more unhappy you become then choose the present. What is it you can do now for yourself moving forward to be in a happier healthier state of mind. No one is responsible for your unhappiness we but yourself. Take control of your life and live your best days now. Learn from your mistakes ... Not only is it important to be genuine but it’s also important not to be naive when it comes to liking others ... not play with peoples minds or hearts by liking more than one person. In retrospect you always think who was more important ... those who love you stay in your life and those who don’t may leave you’re life if you don’t pay enough attention to them. There’s a careful balance when in love or lust to pay attention to who is vying for your attentions if to keep them don’t run away that’s a sure sign not a match ... just for play. How you know who’s playing you for attentions versus who loves you the one least avoidant is the one to pick. Know yourself ... Know when to stop when to keep going in life set limits for yourself. Addiction results from poor choices and attempts to fix oneself don’t play doctor on yourself trying to fix your own problems ... it’s a never ending road ... don’t self harm when you don’t end up where you want to be in life chances are you’re just being hard on yourself. LYS Notes 21-32
mymollydoll.com Leslie Fischman LYS 21 Be careful not to push yourself to extremes in life. Change doesn’t happen over night but over times. Having a proper self-care routine combined with a high degree of attention to detail can be a strength in life or a weakness depending on how much time to spend perfecting the other and for what purposes in life you seek to improve yourself. Whenever you have positives in mind the positive happens for you and likewise do the same for any negatives thoughts be sure to flip those thoughts to positives too. Life is all about balance seeing is achieving. Be sure to take it easy in life. Be appreciative of what you do have in life and go from there. You can’t force things to happen for you in life whether it’s success or self-betterment. If you achieve small goals daily that will eventually add up to fulfilling long term goals. Knowing that don’t be so hard on yourself take it day by day. Don’t be easily affected by others. At the end of the day you are in control of your influences in life for better or worse. People may try to help you along the way but if that help is unwanted you’ll be sure to get frustrated as incorporating the input of everyone, therefore make sure to remind yourself of positive affirmations to keep you afloat. Not all reasoning should be based on what others tell you but mostly come from within what makes most sense to you output wise. When the input circulating from outside of you does not match the input coming from within listen but don’t absorb your surroundings or take to heart the suggestions of others they may be geared toward causing you harm or hurting your feelings. If you’re a good person be a good person. This takes time not allowing anyone to affect you whether or not you know them or they know you looking for a reaction from you, just do your best to stay positive, surely good will follow once you achieve a better state of mind things tend to fall into place, in that way. How to get out of negativity? When you see well you tend to hear things in the positive when you are not seeing well you tend to hear things in the negative. Sometimes it’s important to listen to others to get strong or have a better outlook in life and sometimes we need alone time to better ourselves or get stronger to be around others, everyone is different, but one thing is for sure, so long as you are thinking negative thoughts ie self-defeative or manifesting your past in your present you’re not moving forward or handling your present with respect to everyone including yourself, don’t let your past define you and live your present as though you can see you’re future until you can again move forward this occurs by goal setting not by what you think presently whether you’re wrong or right or trying to prove others wrong in life don’t waste your energy thinking about those you need to prove wrong and instead think for yourself what will make you stronger not please the wrong crowds in life or those who don’t wish you happiness and self-fulfillment their sides in life you need not understand if you are able to be normal achieve well then hope that everyone’s side will accept you as you are then. How to get out of negativity? When you see well you tend to hear things in the positive when you are not seeing well you tend to hear things in the negative. Sometimes it’s important to listen to others to get strong or have a better outlook in life and sometimes we need alone time to better ourselves or get stronger to be around others, everyone is different, but one thing is for sure, so long as you are thinking negative thoughts ie self-defeative or manifesting your past in your present you’re not moving forward or handling your present with respect to everyone including yourself, don’t let your past define you and live your present as though you cant see your future until you can again move forward this occurs by goal setting not by what you think presently whether you’re wrong or right or trying to prove others wrong in life don’t waste your energy thinking about those you need to prove wrong and instead think for yourself what will make you stronger not please the wrong crowds in life or those who don’t wish you happiness and self-fulfillment their sides in life you need not understand if you are able to be normal achieve well then hope that everyone’s side will accept you as you are then. Life isn’t a popularity contest based upon who is better than who and by how much better they are than others ... that’s wellness not judging how well others are based upon what they look like or how they present themselves treat them differently than others. No matter what your background in life is you should not be held to a greater standard of wellness than average or expected more output than others, that’s not how to treat people equally in life but is considered discrimination to expect more from someone than their capable of providing to prove them wrong not disabled, if someone has disability respect their disabilities in life that’s not addiction that’s someone who’s been in recovery and with learning disability on meds now, respect the recovery time of people who are not well, fires and all. When your memory is in the positive you feel much clearer ... ever notice that, sometimes we get carried away thinking about the past in the negative, not all remember the same. -Be careful to whom you trust as reflecting on your thoughts for the day if they don’t match up with what they think is how some people drift apart as not conforming to their system of beliefs. You can’t live through life to your own tune sometimes you have to adjust to the tone of others around you, without losing your sense of self without sacrificing your system of believes conform to others, that’s blending in. You can convince yourself of anything these days especially when it comes to where you’re at in life thinking you’re worse than you are ... don’t be so hard on yourself. Sometimes others will notice improvements before you yourself see change, allow yourself time to catch up. The road in recovery from any hardship seems long but sure enough you’re right where you need to be even when you wish you were better off in life, you can’t have it all. Life can be difficult but it doesn’t need to be impossible. Not every thought will be brilliant ... and you won’t always say the right things. It’s easy to get ahead of yourself and fall off track especially when you’re feeling down or negative say all the wrong things then catch yourself afterward ... don’t be embarrassed not even by your worst days or worst words spoken. That being said. There will be days when you think you’re the best at everything and nothing can go wrong. That’s usually when you need to slow down not get ahead of yourself. To keep positive momentum in life complain less and do more that’s usually the solution moving forward. You’ll hurt less, hurt the feelings of others fewer, the more you accomplish in life not letting yourself and others down. Sometimes during the process of healing you figure yourself out and sometimes in the process of loving you figure others out and sometimes in the process of learning you think you’ve figured the rest of your life out but not everything ends up as planned to your end zones in life ... you have to be happy every step of the way to end up where you want in life that’s the main lesson not just focus on the goals themselves. There are moments in life when you need support, know that it’s okay to ask for help ... just don’t exhaust your resources for help in life. You can expect those who care to help you during times of need listen, but don’t forget to maintain your ability to fend for yourself in life. People can help you in life but they can’t live life for you. If you’re a dedicated perfectionist so be it. Just don’t get caught up in your problem areas and forget what you have going for you in life. Value yourself enough to know when to stop picking yourself apart you’re bound to become unhappy less than satisfied with any positive progress you have made. Don’t be an unhappy product or unhelpful critic to yourself, that’s what other people are for to be hard on you when you can’t push yourself anymore, otherwise ... learn to let go of what you cannot fix and keep improving upon the areas of life you do have control over. It’s impossible to be perfect just be happy with what you’ve got. If you’re a dedicated perfectionist so be it. Just don’t get caught up in your problem areas and forget what you have going for you in life. Value yourself enough to know when to stop picking yourself apart you’re bound to become unhappy less than satisfied with any positive progress you have made. Don’t be an unhappy product or unhelpful critic to yourself, that’s what other people are for to be hard on you when you can’t push yourself anymore, otherwise ... learn to let go of what you cannot fix and keep improving upon the areas of life you do have control over. It’s impossible to be perfect just be happy with what you’ve got. Love comes and goes ... think what you can do for yourself without waiting on others to give you love, admiration, or respect. It’s not all about people pleasing in life or conforming to the best interests of others in life, you mostly have yourself to blame when you waste time waiting on others. Be the best version of yourself and they’ll surely return to share what positive progress you have made in life, that’s love not waiting for others but being someone to return to. #bearock You’ll meet a lot of people in life ... and think to yourself that they’re way out of your league or that you’ll never catch up to the successes of others. That’s just letting your insecurities get the best of you that is not feeling good enough or not having the potential to succeed in life too. You’d be amazed at how most things in life that scare you are doable, that is with adequate preparation; and that people who look intimidating are actually the most approachable once you get to know them, not all successful people are closed off, they’re very personable and just the same as sensitive to others as you are. #WhatINoticed: There have been people who have come into my life read my writings and have been influenced by me but hard on me. I think what’s most difficult is me not knowing others as well as they know me, no one likes to meet themselves inside another person and then be put down as less than. Then don’t read my writing and benefit from my help to those who need help and at my expense suffer the consequences of writing without pay. Still working on my book, look forward to being professionally published and a positive influence, known and marketable by myself. Do your best to stay positive it’s not easy to walk away from anything left unfinished ... including relationships without a fight to top it off an easy excuse to walk away from anything that no longer benefits you or them. As you get older this may occur ... that’s just as you get older relationships have a lower threshold for forgiveness when you’re younger you’re more likely to be given the upper hand with more relationship experience ... whereas as they get older if not given the upper hand with more experience leave when you no longer can maintain the upper hand given to you in a relationship. Know your place in life and be who you feel most comfortable being with or without experience, with or without power, and with or without any hand in life ... that doesn’t make you better than or better in life ... one should be best on their own anything else should be considered a bonus in life. —— “more relationship experience” meaning the more monogamous you are the better off you’ll be in any relationship - one-on-one is best to get to know people if you’re best one-on-one and not in a group that means you’re shy ... more sensitive ... more likely to get hurt ... why you limit your bonds ... to not many ... if you are most attracted to social people it’s because you get hurt easily as an extrovert so do your best to be yourself whether or not you’re an introvert. If you are #good the more likely they are to come back to you meaning if you know you have it good in life and stay celibate how you get picked in life not tossed around left or broken up with, why it’s important to wait not waste your time and energy fixing non-matches in life only date who is a match loves you wholly isn’t trying to fix you or change you likes you as you are now ... that’s a match not someone looking for qualities and if you don’t match up with their ideals in life feel not good enough. #loveishard #doyourbest #nooneisperfect #clarificationtopreviouspost: “more relationship experience” meaning the more monogamous you are the better off you’ll be in a romantic relationship - one-on-one is best to get to know people if you’re best one-on-one and not in a group that means you’re shy ... more sensitive ... more likely to get hurt ... why you limit your bonds ... to not many ... if you are most attracted to social people it’s because you get hurt easily as an extrovert so do your best to be yourself whether or not you’re an introvert. If you are #good the more likely they are to come back to you meaning if you know you have it good in life and stay celibate how you get picked in life not tossed around left or broken up with, why it’s important to wait not waste your time and energy fixing non-matches in life only date who is a match loves you wholly isn’t trying to fix you or change you likes you as you are now ... that’s a match not someone looking for qualities and if you don’t match up with their ideals in life feel not good enough. #loveishard #doyourbest #nooneisperfect LYS 22 You’ll come across symbols and manufactured goods in life you think represent ideas or influence how you see the world that doesn’t mean that things are that way or as a result of the past decisions were made and that is how all decisions are made, only few code and those who do make decisions in adherence to the code they see are and have been affected why it’s important that the founding principles from which you create and base decisions from be from sound places not just following your hearts or by what you see as important to carry forward what is it that makes sense ... in your heart of hearts what do you think will help people grow or blossom in a way that best enables them to let go of previous ideologies in place of ones that help them best become acclimated to the world as it is now. #businessminds Stick to some standard in life, you can’t be all over the place and get very far in life. Having a good sense of directions means knowing when to put on project down and continue moving forward in another area of life you’re gravitating more towards. Sometimes we are good at more than one thing in life, life is full of learning experiences, you can’t do everything well at once but you can learn to do one thing well at a time. Be the kind of person who knows what they want in life. There are no guarantees in life. Trust that if you put in the hard work and effort things will pan out for you in life. Doing is easy it’s becoming who you want to be that’s difficult, therefore face challenges head on in life. You’ll be glad once you’ve made it how far you’ve come, and others will notice what strides you’ve made in life be happy for you. Always leave a little room for wonder. I was once told “be mysterious” ... yes that means don’t text everyday and say I love you too much, that’s generally a dead give away that your desperate and/or easy ... I guess that’s what they mean when they say play hard to get. Always leave a little room for wonder. I was once told “be mysterious” ... yes that means don’t text everyday and say I love you too much, that’s generally a dead give away that youre desperate and/or easy ... I guess that’s what they mean when they say play hard to get. -Then what makes people go and what makes people stay? I think what matters most if you love someone to support then it’s not all about feeling wanted or being wanted in life. Sometimes you just have to let people be happy with or without you even in the company of others. You can’t get jealous or possessive over things or people you love that’s how you lose things in life or cause discomforts. Just as you wish to blossom give people room to grow and blossom too, that is love. /// missing quote (To-Do: Type 02-02-19) Always see the good in others (pink) Stay feeling apart of (blue cursive) Don’t get caught up in the controversies of others, you can help, but be sure not to over involve yourself with their cares and worries you’re bound to be brought down if on top of your life you get easily affected by the lives of others. It’s important to be empathetic but not to the extent your problems become the problems of others, never blame to those you help when you yourself become affected in the process of helping others. Take care of yourself first and from there you’ll be best suited to helping others as you are not, being in agreement with the interests of others is not necessary for all relationships ... there comes a stopping point their wellness and your own, you can’t help everyone. Things in life won’t work out especially relationships. Don’t throw your life away in defeat ... do your best to overcome setbacks and hurdles in life keep achieving. Success doesn’t happen overnight if something doesn’t work out for you you’ll surely find better so long as you keep improving as a person growing with the times. Don’t be defined by your failures in life but by what you accomplish on your own or with the company of others. You’ll find your matches in life ... have faith. LYS - google notes (1) (LYS - 23) Self-Acceptance Things aren’t always as they seem it’s okay to take a closer look some are fit for inspection some are not we all have our boundaries in life and when it comes to acceptance sometimes self-acceptance is hardest you’d be surprised that people are less judgmental than you think especially online not that they like differently ... but they’ve seen more therefore value special or unique and what stands out. Sometimes what makes us unique we don’t value in ourselves but trust that others don’t see the same as you that’s a positive benefit of being human we are not all the same. Know your best, fix what you can, and don’t rely on approval from others ... when you realize you’re potential others will likely see positives in you too, don’t expect to radiate perfection as negative, you’ll likely get the wrong attentions. Be beautiful … one day at a time, one match at a time … Love the person you are today, [you never know how long anything will last]. If you can start each day with an affirmation or mantra that helps you stay present then do so, You’re more likely to accomplish more in life when you start your day positive [regardless what is said about you or to you it is always your responsibility to stay sound of mind and sound of heart, unaffected by the negativity of others, their worries and concerns as toward or about your good standing in life … that’s them not seeing you for you, or not recognizing you as well, that’s in their opinion not your own best opinion, always trust your doctors as they know best when you are well or not, by having known you, know how to treat you, and help you improve whatever conditions, as accepted or not accepted about you.] [Your] outlook repeats itself throughout the day [have it be your own not the ideals set by others, change your tone in life, or how you feel about yourself, be conditioned to others, condition yourself as supervised by others, adapt, not be the one to whom others adapt to, always be in control of your emotions]. What affects your ability to envision your future as moving forward in life [is up to you]. I’ve been told “not to go backwards” and to chart my progress that it doesn’t need to be detailed … but a simple checklist will suffice. Likewise I share with you advice I’ve been given [not to my benefit] and hope [without burden] that it will help the same, I’m not a competitive person, and its okay if those you help outshine you [especially if they are more well than you are, better able, or with more resources in life to cope] there are plenty of fish in the sea, lifes not all about [acceptance]. (01-24-19, 02-02-19) --- Please Note: Don’t get spoiled in life as a reader, with an ability to affect writers, or by choice influence what is written about, by your experiences in and around a writer, not all have mental health issues, and if you know how a person works, by fixating on words or phrases out of sync, or intended to hurt or influence as person, than that is purposeful, not necessarily and influence but an attempt to influence a person in the same way to whom someone important has influenced them in life, in a positive way. That’s taking one interpretation of a conversation (in the negative) and then trying to be that person, as attacking the good character (of me) the correspondent to another conversation (and then by defenses claim as to a current set of circumstances) be affected in the same way book writing, that’s an unwanted positive (returned to the commentator) who by insult insults the writer and correspondent. As a writer and correspondent for many years, when you approach someone professionally and they do not respond that does not mean open up to them, chances are the circumstances will repeat themselves much like anyone trying to turn a positive experience into a negative one, to see if you respond in the positive or negative or in the same way, write a book. Not all people are the same, that’s a form of unwanted influence to be controlled by receiving negative input and expected to still produce positive results. I’ve been told that life is not perfect and that “in the real world” that’s how it is, not everyone will be nice to you, I used to think that was a symptom of something larger, but have since realized, that its just depending on the day, much like the weather, how others respond, sometimes nothing to do with you, or over any power or control struggles, you just have to accept people the way they are. . (02-02-19) --- Live Life with Humor … Not all sides will agree, especially if you are the emotional one. Think first what will others think … share less about what you think … read more -the more you learn the less you think or worry about what others think and the more interested you are in hearing from others not all wrapped up in your own head about things. Life’s not all about acceptance but at the same time you don’t want to bother others with your discomforts. (02-02-19_ Who Knows Best … Not all lives are the same therefore as speaking from experience what you have to share may or may not apply to the lives of others no matter what you say or how much you share some don’t get through to us and that’s okay. Ever feel like you’ve been given unsolicited advice? Its insulting to say the least but don’t have such a big head that you’re hard headed to the input given by others some have a nack for positive input and some have a nack for … insult …its funny in that way feedback some feedback is considered criticism a fancy name for insults. Be unique … You won’t feel yourself in all settings .. if we walked into every Starbucks comfortable then it may be because we’ve been there before maybe not to that specific location but because we’ve been through the process. [Much like writing live in public]. In familiar settings we think we know best how to navigate through those initial feelings of discomfort and perform in spite of those discomforts that’s the benefit of having experience in life and with that experience … lead by example … that’s an indirect way of displaying leadership skills without the Powerpoints and speeches to boot. You are not authorized Not all professionals work the same, this you’ll learn through work and experience. Being tactful means not giving in to expectations and not responding as in reading others to do as you say not as you do or others do. Imitation is compliment is what people say to someone as imitated it’s also a sign of imperfection or lack of professionalism to imitate someone ... that doesn’t mean the imitated is more professional it just means that the imitated is demonstrating a quality of trait lacking in the other or shows that someone who has more in life is of influence to someone with less than in life. What flies overhead What flies overhead we are all affected by sometimes depending on what side of life you’re on, on the upswing apart of or not apart of issues flying overhead focused on other things in life, yourself, growing, or as provoked selectively ignoring others. You can either be aware of your faults in life or others will make you aware of your faults in life, that’s called helping others to be territorial over their purposes in life to disinclude matters of controversy in place of positive dispositions in life. Any campaign run for others is therefore without assumption intended to purposefully disinclude others ... all reactions are assumed to be in response to what flies overhead. It’s hardly about you Always remind yourself that not everything is how you see things in life. And if you so decide to take into consideration the opinions of others don’t then make things about you or them -don’t be one sided (proving others right that you are defensive to wrongs not in tune with rights in life if you bring up us v them arguments or sides) ... it’s okay to take a step back ... that means you’re thinking processing just because you don’t have thoughts or opinions toward or about doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you or others. Enjoy quiet spaces in time ... if you’ve been F over in life and the last to find out don’t overreact that’s an expected reaction thought deserved. Generally obsessed No one deserves to be picked apart and teamed up against especially if not in the wrong that’s pushing things to a certain point of no return ... an attempt to dismember a good person to dismember them from groups or from feeling apart of a whole. Everyone has general purposes in life some that suit others some that best suit themselves but no positive purpose is served if it only suits themselves to dismember someone they deem a piece of $hit or by how they look think they’re a piece of $hit. That’s called being judgmental any strong dislike toward a person unknown to me by a person known to them is called hate speech toward someone who as stated repeats toward them as a justified attitude or stance toward. Dancing in the limelight Not everything is about entertaining the obvious defaults of those who are rejected or deemed less than deserving in life ... that serves no positive purpose there are no teams when it comes to who likes what that’s a choice to whom and by what you surround yourself with things deemed options that hold you in high regard to others or options that cause people to think less of you in life. Whatever your driving forces ... make sure not to hurt the esteems of others as you choose your likes in life it’s not necessary to judge others by them. Life is fragile It’s becoming more apparent that sensitivities are on the rise - people less adept at handling jokes or jokes about jokes in life. Sometimes while interpreting the present it’s unclear as to who is making fun of who. Let’s just leave it at that. In the past as a means for coping with the times cross references were made however now people are going back to being themselves. Whenever an idea is made there will be a desire to sell that idea and sometimes during the sale of any idea they make it relate. Be a nice person It doesn’t hurt to try letting go of your own self-interests to make another person happy. That doesn’t make you a pushover in life -we can’t all be leaders. There’s a difference between enabling, self-harming, and empowerment -all of which requires you to take a back seat to the interests of others or step down from what you believe is right that’s generally what causes those wars within any loss of power we feel when the interests or opinions of others take place of our own -that seats not permanent you can easily switch hats or exchange those feelings after helping someone else achieve the same or a better position in life above you. Why they say to always rise above that’s to protect you and others from being affected by your down in life or when you feel out of place/sorts. When you feel good It’s not that everyone wants to be people in life that’s not a good reason to want to feel good to attract others to you who either want you or want what you have in life. Some of the best role models in life care less about what others think and care more about their health and maintaining good appearances in life. When you feel good not only do others feel better about themselves but you avoid making others feel uncomfortable, less than, or brought down by your lack of pleasantries in life and stability. You are what you look like it’s a sad fact to be judged by how you appear ... that should not affect the wellness of others around you. Later in life If what matters to you now didn’t matter to you then, then you’ve grown. If what doesn’t matter to you now, mattered to you then, then you’ve matured. Sometimes it’s not until later in life we realize what has gone wrong or what we could’ve done better. If it’s a harsh realization no amount of nostalgia can correct that problem but moving forward beginning a new. Don’t obsess over the past you can’t change it. [To Type as of 02-02-19]
LYS 24 When Things Don’t Work Out ... Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff in Life ... When things don’t work out for you or others in your lives don’t take that disappointment to heart or take your disappointments out on yourselves or others ... that’s called an upset. Sometimes everyone will be on board sometimes people will be sided know that you’re your best bet moving forward that is rely on yourself that’s time to work on yourself not equally pick things apart -including yourself. You will have fans in life people who support you no matter what be grateful for them, that’s not just because they’re family or friends. When you have it good Count your blessings and count them twice you all know who you are don’t be the cranky person shouting at the market, honking their horn, or recanting statements by microphone. We all know why people lose their places life ... lack of composure. When you have it good in life sparingly use those periods of comfort and trust to reach out and help others ... those are your energy points ... don’t forget! Yes you can respond to who contacts you but “be careful” not to go backwards helping the past (ie your past) move forward, those are your steps keep them, everyone’s a party to wellness choose your confidants wisely ... especially your now. LYS 25 Live life with an open mind ... don’t be closed off to new opportunities in life it’s okay to try something new. Not everything planned works out sometimes you have to modify your routine in life to accommodate the times. What’s new may not always be better but it’s better stuck with anything you can’t stand or what doesn’t keep you moving forward in life leaves you behind. Make Life Memorable: If you can make life memorable but never force anything to create a memory some of the best memories are unrecorded. In today’s world we save everything ... don’t forget to keep in mind what’s important to you. That’s not goal setting it’s just not letting too many things in life keep you from moving forward -letting go is a process of keeping things in mind, letting the dust settle in some areas of life, and beginning anew. Life isn’t perfect it requires balance. Balancing input from others and sometimes requires you to ignore input from others and follow your heart doing what feels best ... sometimes what’s in your best interests won’t please all ... that’s one form of letting go. Heroes in Life ... Time is limited but only when it comes to communicating with others. Most of the time you have is for yourself. Don’t expect people to use their time helping you you are responsible for the time you keep ... not the responsibility of others to help you organize your time function in life. Do what you know best not as others tell you. When you realize how short life is don’t freak out ... the more hours you put into self-improvement the easier the minutes pass by while improving. When it Gets Trashy ... I’m not sure what’s trashier talking about your private life or sharing your private life ... what’s having a life? Is it more about your public persona or private persona you are judged by. And if you have a private life how much of that should you keep a record of? Do people really want to know details or it best to leave room for the imagination, I think a synopsis works best when it comes to relationship endings. Not spoil the good times with negativity. You Are What You Read ... If you are a summation of experiences in life and if your knowledge is based upon what you read then your output will reflect your input AND the input of others if you share your thoughts publicly. There’s no scientific way of figuring out what is read about you or what is thought about you and whether you can control thoughts about you by what you write ... whether you can tell by input whether anything you’ve written has been read ... it’s mostly by your input what you read that affects your output not the input of others or as thought of affected. Underwriting - quote above - That gone feeling is when you are wrong about others and when your best judgments are off that doesn’t mean there is something wrong with someone when what they have to say is not in agreement with your best understanding sometimes not hearing or seeing eye to eye reflects not differences in beliefs or opinions but just understanding not all understandings are basic or based upon basic principles of interpretation don’t take all things said literally as about you everything people say is a reflection of themselves not their understanding of you ... but if you are speaking expect to be listen to responded to as heard whether you understand how replied to or why they may have a different understanding than you of the times and you. LYS 26 When You’re Flying High ... High as a kite ... is when you’ve lost your wits about you jumping from one point to the next without your natural rhythm which usually keeps you afloat that sense of momentum you feel if you can’t tell whether it’s positive or negative it’s okay to get a second opinion meaning your thoughts about things may be out of whack ... that’s a normal symptom of hyper some interactions leave you feeling better than you are. When You Can’t Win ... When you can’t win with people or at anything in life take a step back that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you it just means you need to correct your behavior to match their understanding or don’t adjust. Not all will be understanding of your dispositions in life that doesn’t mean they’re selfish it just means they’re acceptance of you is based upon their understanding of you irrespective of what people think you should be yourself winning or not is not always the solution to being successful in life nor why people are successful usually those who speak too much ... is a sign of them being defensive verbosity is a sign of weakness to the mind or inability to speak well be well spoken out together a coherent framework of thought or understanding. When You Can’t Be #1 ... You can’t be the best at everything and you won’t always be number one to the ones you love in place of work or friends they come first, this you learn as you get older ... how to build relationships over time and make commitments. What lasts in life is not always your choice contribute what you can to all relationships while you’re apart of. You are what you set your heart towards you can’t always rely on people to be there for you. To make life happen sometimes you have to make life happen for you on your own, be self-reliant. Dedicate your time and attention to things that matter to you ... nothing lasts forever but your cares in life guide the rest of your best decision making skills, be wise. The Life of a Night Owl ... Your best thoughts come to mind after many thoughts have been made not by staying up late to see which thoughts come to mind when you’re alone. Sometimes you’ll say things so far left field that others will not comprehend nor understand what you’re saying. That’s because what’s affecting you may or may not be affecting them. Some people live very private lives ... not easily affected by sources outside their immediate circles. Don’t be someone who others worry about, but at the same time don’t discriminate input from others it may be helpful later on make sense. Caring What People Think ... It shouldn’t matter what people think but that’s not an excuse to do or say things to show that you don’t care what people think that’s not a sign of confidence can appear insensitive to the opinions of others who generally expect normal -if you’re gonna be funny be funny but don’t be rude or obnoxious at the expense of others LYS 27 The Key to Success ... Don’t ignore your competition in life but yes by all means focus on yourself there’s something to learn from everyone who enters your life whether that’s positive or negative. Be someone others read into but keep your power not be read into in the negative as about others or by guessing underlying currents governing your points of discussion. Keep quiet to issues that leave room for error that when combined result in unwanted accusations towards those who look like they harmed you but did not always take responsibility as a writer for your words which you are responsible for articulating as whether about or not about others including as spoken from your own life experiences “left up” writings. Is one then responsible for incidents that follow? Is it right to prosecute unknown bystanders? If you do your best to help why is that shunned by others? Is connecting too much hurtful to whom? Those who’d rather see you quiet look guilty or take responsibility and do your best to help further awareness of the issues to spread positive change not be made quiet by any songs. #stopsuicide LYS 28 Positive thinking isn’t valuable until you put your thoughts into action ... that’s doing the same as you think and say sounds easier said than done. It actually takes a lot of strength and willpower not to articulate your worries in life that is your negative thoughts about self ... don’t be one to require compliments to change your thoughts about yourself that’s egging others for positivity be the provider of those thoughts on your own without help from others. Stay on topic ... Don’t be bossy about getting what you want in life there’s a playful advantage to reciprocity that doesn’t involve cattiness ... witty confidence is a surefire way of getting want you want positive feedback without sacrificing your standards ... that’s called boundary maintenance not letting too much in to get what you need out of relationships to keep growing not engage in interactions which stifle ie stutter the words coming from either party a sign of comfort or lack thereof don’t be too sensitive ... there’s much to learn if not downtrodden by the confidences exuded by others in arenas in life you have less experience in ... not all are gifted about achieving in life or getting their way some suffer many losses in life ie downs before they’re able to see the light of day ie achieve strength - persevere through the difficult times and let no one get the best of you as thought deserved based upon how you are now one should never be treated similarly by those past who did not believe in them too hard on one who is already hard on themselves. LYS 29 Stay positive ... Not everyday will you be at your best sometimes your thinking off about others and yourself. Be patient with yourself a bad day doesn’t mean a bad life. Make sure not to affect anyone with your misunderstandings in life. People have lives of their own too, you don’t need to worry others with your problems just because you’re having a bad day. That would be selfish to make everyone think the same simply because you need others to understand you in order for you to feel understood. Not all will understand be sure not to overwhelm others with your problems or misunderstandings. Systems of Thought ... (1-30-19) Someone who cannot think for themselves or see for themselves once confided in will hear you test you and prove the side not favorable to your best interests that’s letting their crowd win at the expense to whom next to or where confidences are granted that’s to separate their egos from attachment and switch teams to the side where humor is granted and illness is not felt that’s treating a connected person to whom attached as a source for wellness as about and which upon being known by the person to whom confidences are initially granted or to where connection is made reassures the parties attached to test to see if there is attachment back to justify a trade in disposition that means disassociation or detachment from someone to who gets declared by sides who know a person in common alienate that’s wrong to do. When Your Connections Meet ... Someone who cannot think for themselves or see for themselves once confided in will hear you test you and prove the side not favorable to your best interests that’s letting their crowd win at the expense to whom next to or where confidences are granted that’s to separate their egos from attachment and switch teams to the side where humor is granted and illness is not felt that’s treating a connected person to whom attached as a source for wellness as about and which upon being known by the person to whom confidences are initially granted or to where connection is made reassures the parties attached to test to see if there is attachment back to justify a trade in disposition that means disassociation or detachment from someone to who gets declared by sides who know a person in common alienate that’s wrong to do When You Missed the Good Years ... While you’re still here do what you can to make the most of your life while others are still here now too. Don’t waste time worrying about what people think, sides, or be too self-conscious about your disposition where you stand in relationship to others. If you are well you surely are not responsible for others who are not well. And if you are not well it’s okay to take responsibility for your own wellness and not affect others, by not talking to people -it’s not required to be around others sometimes it’s okay to get well on your own in order to talk to and be around others. LYS 30 Another Day Another Struggle ... Love the days that go by fast and stay focused on the days that go by slow. It’s not a struggle unless you make it so ... what is it that you have in life? Focus on what you do have in life to keep going whenever we focus on the wrong things in life it’s easy to get led astray. Dont waste your hours and minutes stuck in negative ruts or engage in discourse not of your own making but focus on what makes sense to you not lose sight while focused on what makes sense to others. I Almost Lost This Thought ... When you’d give the world to someone that’s love ... but don’t just hand over the keys ... be a good judge of character always, don’t allow people into your life who when given privileges take advantage of your kindness and mistake you for weak as nice. When you allow people into your heart trust that they will do what’s in your best interests whether or not that hurts you as separated from what’s of value to you people are at best themselves not yours to keep, direct, or control you have to learn how to let people blossom even on the pedastles you put them on in life. The Quiet Around You ... The quiet around you does not mean you’re important nor does the talking around you mean a lack of respect for you everyone is entitled to selecting their own octave ranges in life whether or not that takes you into account as present, this could happen in the street, at work, in relationships, in conversations, as read, directed toward you or not directed toward you don’t take things personally in life as yourself you’re at best an insider to your own life experiences don’t allow the excitement of as reading overhead go to the outsider -that is while making light or while complaining about social interactions know that you’re important but never that important to have control over the changes around you or changes toward you, don’t pay attention to your stats, do your best to improve everyday you have not please the wrong crowds in life especially those past or overhead by describing your now as negative always see the positive and as well don’t get sick if you make others look bad because you’re doing well in life or getting along well with others the past seeks misery upon you for happiness forward ignore them. You Can’t Be Good At Everything ... Remember the days before everyone became extroverted online ... cherish your stiff companions in life those who’s commentary is thrived upon too. Multi-talented people more power too you just don’t be a show off, there’s a time and a place to share your skills with the world if not for social media ... would all our talents go to waste elsewhere in life, who appreciates who who values you and thinks you’re talented that doesn’t mean you are ... #beauty #talent #phenoms. Be your own definition of the qualities you deem admirable and hope you get noticed too for the traits you improve upon in life whether it’s smarts, beauty, or athleticism. LYS 31 Let things go ... Let things go but don’t let yourself go in the process that doesn’t mean change your settings in life to adjust to the settings of others ... that’s over-accommodating the interests of others to let go of what makes you you. You should never have to change to be accepted by others they either have to accept you as you are and if they don’t then it’s not a match ... you can always better yourself whether or not you are a match for them later on sometimes we outgrow people, places, and things in life ... never stop improving chances are you’ll find better places and people to surround yourself with once you get better better at life, people skills, dating, working, public appearances, whatever it may be ... the more comfortable you are with yourself the more comfortable others will be around you - acceptance wise ... less unnerving for you less criticisms to face and once you get to a place in life that’s quiet value how far you’ve come and forget the rest. Don’t get overwhelmed ... Font overwhelm yourself with the small things in life you’re time is best spent goal setting and using your energy to accomplish those goals in life not waste time lamenting over the past, what’s not working out, or becoming hyper vigilant to what’s bothering you in life -use your energy wisely, don’t get paranoid be proactive. Ideas that Come to Mind ... Not all ideas are good ideas and most ideas requiring some thawing out before they’re able to come to fruition ... with a little thoughtful planning and with careful articulation some small ideas can turn into big ideas so long as you keep goal mapping along the way. Being able to turn any idea into a reality is a gift don’t take your dreams for granted those are your best intuitions letting you know when to stop when to switch gears and when to stay put reflect or add to any growing popularity to a skill set in maintaining positive momentum listen often and with your best intuitions and social graces share your ideas when ready never force anything before a steady foundation for growth has been established or built to reinforce both new and old ideas. You are a product of what you say ... Be careful not to bring up subjects that lead to other subjects that are less than positive about life ... you could end up digging a whole for yourself intellectually if misunderstood much like a faux pas or cliche undermining the soundness of your thoughts or reasoning abilities questioning whether by your tone how are you able to arrive or derive from your own thoughts thoughtful conclusions ... when you’re focused in life are on point your conclusions will be on point and everything in between if smart will either support those thoughts and conclusions or weaken or strengthen what has been beared in mind or what takes away ... hypocrisy is when what you have to say does not match what you do in life ... be nice enough not to question the intelligences of others if everything in between does not perfectly match toward conclusions in life as contributing to positivity or negativity it should not require many years of writing to prove ones self worth be accepted as of positive influence smart. You are a product of what you say ... Be careful not to bring up subjects that lead to other subjects that are less than positive about life ... you could end up digging a whole for yourself intellectually if misunderstood much like a faux pas or cliche undermining the soundness of your thoughts or reasoning abilities questioning whether by your tone how are you able to arrive or derive from your own thoughts thoughtful conclusions ... when you’re focused in life are on point your conclusions will be on point and everything in between if smart will either support those thoughts and conclusions or weaken or strengthen what has been beared in mind or what takes away ... hypocrisy is when what you have to say does not match what you do in life ... be nice enough not to question the intelligences of others if everything in between does not perfectly match toward conclusions in life as contributing to positivity or negativity - life equals a series of events leading up to what you make of life how you choose to see life how you pace yourself in life see is your choice. Be your own source of inspiration ... Sometimes you won’t be everyone’s favorite that doesn’t mean be limited by them ... what is yours is yours (your life) and where there is room for growth (acceptance) that’s on your accord at your taking (or disposal, your time) or ability to acquire in life (your goals) or acceptance from others (approval) ... not by the statuses of your endeavors [and not] by [the] acceptance[s] from others determined (your outlook) [your future]. Always think positively first of yourself and avoid “collusion” at every cost that is communicating with the wrong sides in life about things that matter less to you but more to a side that does not benefit you. You cannot “please” them all ... do your best to avoid controversies by not engaging in discourse that collides your thinking or others thinking of you as apart of if it’s people’s solution to detach from you in nonacceptance then that’s their choice not your responsibility to correct or respond to in the affirmative or in the positive by proving them wrong your life is of your own making not dependent upon what others think pick pry promulgate as deference to your good standings in life depreciate you or hurt your abilities in life to be sound of thought -well. Is it time for coffee yet? When is it ever the right time for love, sometimes it falls at your doorstep what to do then? When you’re good wits are about you you’re likely to attract positive attentions in life, no this is not your horoscope it’s a true fact of life you can’t be ready for everything good that comes into you’re life but you should nevertheless be prepared ... how to handle your ups and downs and how to handle the ups and downs of those you take under your wing it’s you they’re attracted to you’re stability those are usually the ones picked. What’s Not Okay ... What’s not okay is to promote hate toward any peaceable persons or individuals to exchange emotions as transferred. What’s not okay is to use your standing as normal to promote hate toward those who suffer from mental health issues on meds. What’s not okay is for politics hurt any persons normal to make them appear abnormal to others. To these people do not respond always be an outstanding citizen not further their negative opinions of you as not trusting of you because of how you are in private or how you have been affected by controversies or self harmed as not picked not intelligent not worth it not deserving or not of a wealthy mindset fit for any leadership or caretaking positions in life that’s not jealousy that’s jealousy turned on well to put well at a disadvantage in life and to empower victims to hurt those who are well or who suffer from mental health issues because they appear well when they are not well strong be judged not by what you have in life but by the characteristics you choose not to bear traits marked by hate traits marked by illness or traits marked by words directed toward you to put you down in life for reactions. #worldpeace Trust the timing of your life ... When you’re intuitions are off and you feel gone sometimes (in italics) it’s helpful to run to your nearest friend or family member and ask for advice but it’s mostly in that state they chime in that’s not aggravation - aggravation is when you’re upset you express those emotions to and around others a manifestation of yourself your discomforts what is unknown to you is not likely known to others unless you assume so ... don’t blame others for their peace of mind when among others if you think you are experiencing life differently we all live in the same world we all have access to the same exposures in life we all have built separate tolerances for ourselves when it comes to our likes dislikes and acceptances ... when you’ve had enough it’s okay to reject and when they’ve had enough it’s okay for them to reject and when enough i.s enough it’s time for people to spend time focusing on themselves not others ... if life worked perfectly we’d all be changing or going through phases together but we are all different ages of different levels of intelligence understanding and experience wise not the same be forgiving of these differences and embrace what is now how far generations have come to establish a better today a better tomorrow and a better life for us all ... LYS 32 Meant to be ... You hear that all the time “it wasn’t meant to be” ... then what is? Maybe that phase is more to do with acceptance than loss, about letting go and leaving room for new opportunities in life, that doesn’t always mean better. Until you have your life together will you feel fulfilled that sense of accomplishment at the end of each day that makes you feel whole complete and happy. LYS 14
How to Avoid Risks in Life: It’s never odd to think too much or to love too much just within reason always when to stop engaging in activities to feel well sometimes even things that make you feel good can result in an aversion to if other things do not go right in your life, always be prepared for withdrawals and breaks in life you can’t constantly expect to feel good or a certain way everyday know what you have in life know what makes you happy and if you seek more in life to feel complete think is this necessary something I need or want and why and what good or positive purpose does leaving one position of wellness for another result in pain think do you have energy for change or do changes and loss cause you to lose motivation slow down in life feel behind without or deplete your energy as wasted getting accustomed to a new set of conditions or beliefs in life or exposures - starting anything new is full of excitement but don’t waste energy expecting to feel the same as when I’m familiar territory chances are anything new will take time to adjust know yourself. LYS 15 01-06-19 You can’t rush through life. As you get older you have to pace yourself life’s not all about feeling good. What you get done you get done and move forward in life nothing can be learned by looking back. Anytime you get paranoid think what it is now that you have to be thankful for. Are you where you want to be in life and what makes you feel of value. Keep going in life stop less for others and do what makes you happy, live long. Always do your best to stay positive. There will be days you’ll feel too tired to do anything that’s normal. Life has its ups and downs. Just keep going and never give up. You cannot be too dependent on others for wellness most days you only have yourself. It’s important never to complain nothing seems to go right afterward. Listen even when you’re stubborn chances are there is some truth to the opinions of others even if what they see does not match what you see. Know yourself well enough when to stop not everyone can redirect you toward your goals in life you mostly have yourself to blame when you fall off track ... always prove them wrong. Don’t stay anywhere to the point of embarrassment keep your pride know your strengths ... you belong anywhere well and when sick no one wants you, remember that. There will always be excuses no one wants to take responsibility when another does not foster or thrive in any environment - be the bigger person and let go. Once you start thriving doing better in life hope that those behind you do well too not as attached affected by you not doing well in life. Never in my life have I changed so much to accommodate another and still not have been good enough. Stick to what works best for you. With or without people in your life keep living life. #stopsuicide LYS 16 You can be a positive person and things still may not go well for you in life sometimes that’s no ones fault not even your own. It’s by what you choose to focus on takes you to where you end up in life better off or worse off. Don’t allow others to dictate where you end up in life you know yourself best. Know when to let go and when to move forward in life you’ll thank yourself later for not having stuck around to see your life fall apart. Life is full of miracles your life included if you don’t wish to be apart of the happinesses of others you can always leave and find happiness on your own. You have options in life you are one of them choose you always. Not everyone will be on your team in life you can’t compare yourself to others. If you’re not happy with where you are in life think what is it that you can be doing better to get to where you want to be in life. It’s never too late to change, don’t be defiant, be proactive, improve, not go backwards, and always do your best. LYS #17 new blog Always stay positive. No matter how your life goes, the days long or short keep going in life and never give up. Be wise about self care don’t waste your time energy and thoughts on things that don’t matter. It’s more necessary to assemble your present than it is to assemble your past. Never let yourself go. You’ll regret backtracking needing to put yourself back together after you fall. Don’t let anyone get the best of you present or past. Always be your best loveable self no matter who comes into your life or leaves. You will always be you. You know you best -no one can tell you otherwise unless you see so for yourself. People can advise you of what to do what not to do in life but ultimately it’s your choice how you decide to live your life. Take advice whole heartedly when you’re not doing well in life and criticisms with a grain of salt. Don’t beat yourself up over it if you’re not perfect where you are now. Chances are it’s just a phase and will pass. If you allow everyone to get the best of you you’ll never be happy with where you are now. You are in part the company you keep. Never let your guard down to the extent that you lose your sense of self and purpose in life you can wind up losing everything. Know your limits in life, you can’t go running around pretending to be something you are not always be yourself. Once you lose your sense of self and purpose think what can I do better in life not by who better in life you can find to make you a better person. Only until you are better will you find better in life. When you set your expectations low you tend to find more than what you bargained for when you set your expectations too high you wind up less than happy with what you’ve got. There are no do-overs in life. Lend a hand to those in need but don’t expect the same time and attention in return. You’d think that karma would take care of the rest but life isn’t always a point system. You can’t relive life. Happy moments are worth living for. Different isn’t always better, and familiar is comforting. Learn when to take risks and when to stop. If you’re not happy with where you are now then stick to what you’re good at ... good generally follows from what we know best rarely while learning do we shine or set ourselves apart - to rise above feeling less than in life think ... not where you could be but make the most of where you are now. Always pick up from where you left off ... don’t let too much time pass without bettering yourself, it’s not at your expense only when you get set behind in life, miss out on living life. Contribute to causes when you can it’s not always necessary to benefit from the time spent helping others. -When you want and need less in life the happier you’ll be with what you have. LYS 18 Don’t make life harder than it needs to be. Every day is an opportunity to better yourself and those around you. Until you can manage well yourself can you manage others, that includes healthy interpretations of what others think and how what you do affects what they think of you. Do your best not to engage in any activities that would undermine the judgments of you or reinforce negative judgments toward you. Always be in control. Love who you are when you’re with the one you love and do everything you can to make it last. Life can be unpredictable at times even unmanageable but you have to keep moving forward. Sometimes fear will stop you in your tracks and keep you from living life and staying in the moment. You just have to always do your best not to allow those fears to come to fruition and keep living the life you think you deserve. There’s no such thing as perfect, only a good life with a big heart would accept anyone lesser than, including me. Keep your head up, and out of the clouds. A better life awaits you you just have to steer clear of avoiding life and living it as best you can. I think if you have something thoughtful to say then share it if no one understands you or mistakes your cares as for aggressive stakes in matters or from their perspective coming from a bad place then it’s a no win situation also known as a fight when someone hears what you have to say and not to their benefit justify any disgust or hatred for you as to why. Usually people who hate you need added justification for thinking poorly of you hearing every detail in the negative spinning every story in the negative and not seeing your point of view or what good you have done for another’s never a nuisance or a clown to anyone or creating any controversies to which embarrassment is felt likewise to the one not receiving any accommodations in life life is difficult it’s no easy task being bullied and for the later purpose for identifying potential misinformation or direction for story telling it was made a point of clarifying the other parties to whom were affected me myself included - when there a multiple victims to a story do not blame the story teller for coming forward how an anti-bullying statute is made to no enable that harm to continue as toward them identifying them as the whore they as victim. Allow people time to heal find themselves and either do or no not get back together that choice is up to those who share love not for society to decide who gets loved based upon who is most liked popular known as or not known as a whore. LYS 19 When everything quiets that’s a good time to work on yourself usually chaos erupts when we are not happy with where we are not keeping busy and or bored - time passing but no movement forward in life. I was once told “if you’re not in motion” you’re not moving forward in life and that success is about being task oriented. You either are someone who listens in life to those who care about you and love you or made fun of it for having been given advices in life and still not been able to find success with all the support you’ve been afforded in life. Some decisions are easier said than done including living an accomplished life one that you are proud of. Everyone has their own issues in life “be careful” not to make the issues of others your own. #presidenttrump inspired #lifeadvice. It’s easy to get carried away in life doing things that you love to do such as writing. It’s not always humorous to reference others as this may cause discomfort to be mentioned. Not all is fair when it comes to love always do your part to be an equal addition to any friendship, relationship, or co-working environment. The best attitude is by someone who doesn’t rely on others for happiness or a sense of normalcy, the best companions in life are those who are independent, if you can’t manage that much then continue to work on yourself. Live with no regrets. That means don’t base your confidence off how many confidants you have in life but base it upon your well being, if you are the company you keep, then make sure to be yourself your own best friend. You won’t always have it all in life but that doesn’t mean stop trying to. It’s not really about what goes up must come down but what goes up stays up as long as you keep trying in other arenas in life, how to maintain wellness ... never give up on your physical health usually all else follows from there. Live first for yourself and secondly for others. #dating #wellness #mentalhealth #fitness #balance It’s hard to plan out your life especially when your lost or at a lost. It can be hard at times to see beyond your troubles, thinking backwards instead of forwards. Give yourself time to heal. With a strong sense of faith in yourself I’ve been told “time heals all wounds.” Don’t be so hard on yourself everyone has problems. It’s how you deal with your past moving forward that indicates where you end up in life in a better spot or worse off. What is faith? Believing in yourself or believing in others and why is faith required for any relationship to last? Is it really necessary that you believe in someone to call that love? I think so. If you don’t believe in someone than question why are you with that person, maybe it is trust that is lacking, why love is not felt in the immediate. People show love in different ways, the goal is to always be faithful that’s more than trusting one another with your heart it’s about sharing a life with someone isn’t that always the end goal? Some of us true were meant to be alone, that could change however upon meeting someone who loves you, what then can you do to make it work? Stay positive good things happen when you least expect it. To be afforded privileges in life you have to play by the rules that may not always be by the book. Do your best to keep up with the times it’s not necessary that you understand everything even as explained be able to empathize with whom and why. Don’t make other people’s problems your own always be yourself. I was once told to “think big” by someone I’ve dated on and off for years. This is not stuff you talk about out loud generally who you date, it’s bound to wind up in self-sabatoge things not working out for you then paranoid about loss by declaring what you do have in life. Much about life has to do with not sharing and by what you share influences the opinions of others toward you or so leads discussions about you in the positive or negative. Always be sure to be confident by whatever you choose to share in life make sure it accurately reflects who you are not go by what you think others think of you. Timing is everything. It may not always be a good time to start something new but why wait. The more you prolong the process of getting started the harder beginning will be. LYS 20 Not everyone will be on your side in life and that’s okay. You won’t win every argument … people’s minds are not always at your disposal, be ready to face challenges, disagreements, those who play devils advocate and those who automatically take the other persons side. Have fun in life even if you are on the losing team thought wise, lifes a journey full of ups and downs and most feelings are only temporary. Sure enough you’re bound to get better at managing your esteem and the esteems of others without intruding upon their self-worth and abilities in life to feel better than, be self-assured that you don’t always know best and respect all opinions when if shared that’s their time spent too hashing things out. Think for yourself and others. That’s not the same as thinking about others, think mostly about yourself in life ... that usually helps to clear the air not dive into obsessions about how others are or are living their lives ... do your best to be mostly concerned with yourself. The less you care what others think and the less you think about what others are thinking the more you’ll care for yourself and not be so easily bothered or worried about what people would think, do think, or are thinking about you. Just do your best. You can’t always use mental health issues or meds as an excuse for the way you live your life, how you deal with your emotions, define what your feeling or what others are thinking about you, you won’t always know what the right thing to do is. Meds may be a crutch but don’t allow people to be your crutch try to take the place of things in your life that bring you comfort ... you are only dependent upon what you have dependency on don’t ever be dependent upon people, you should always depend on yourself and do your best to live independently of others. Managing yourself online is no easy task there’s a delicate balance to be maintained: what is to remain private and what’s appropriate to share ... depending on the times this changes and as you mature you will find yourself sharing less and less online. Social media is not new to everyone and for those of us as latecomers it’s easy to pick up the addiction that is to share and get feedback from others, that’s mostly what social media is about ... feedback. If you on your own don’t know or aren’t sure then don’t share it as a general rule of thumb chances are your bound to make your audience uncomfortable too just as you are sharing something you’re not sure of whether to share or not. Always lead yourself online confidently from that focus on positives the best words will come to mind. Be a creator in life not a follower of words, when it comes from within you feel much better about yourself not as regurgitating what is said to you, come to believe in yourself regardless of what others say to you, but don’t be so stubborn as to be unaccepting of the input of others, you know you best, some may think they know you better, but don’t as controlled become accustomed to life driven by input you wind up lost in that way you should instead be driven by your own goals in life not just as led driven by the goals of others in life, much about life is a team effort that is if you work well with others if you feel that your best interests are not met by any team effort than that’s you “I” not to include yourself in any endeavors which you do not fit wholly as well -why some stay home some up to bat among the well ... don’t lose faith you too can be of service among those well so long as you first master wellness on your own without the help of others. |
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