How to Avoid Risks in Life: It’s never odd to think too much or to love too much just within reason always when to stop engaging in activities to feel well sometimes even things that make you feel good can result in an aversion to if other things do not go right in your life, always be prepared for withdrawals and breaks in life you can’t constantly expect to feel good or a certain way everyday know what you have in life know what makes you happy and if you seek more in life to feel complete think is this necessary something I need or want and why and what good or positive purpose does leaving one position of wellness for another result in pain think do you have energy for change or do changes and loss cause you to lose motivation slow down in life feel behind without or deplete your energy as wasted getting accustomed to a new set of conditions or beliefs in life or exposures - starting anything new is full of excitement but don’t waste energy expecting to feel the same as when I’m familiar territory chances are anything new will take time to adjust know yourself.
LYS 15 01-06-19
You can’t rush through life. As you get older you have to pace yourself life’s not all about feeling good. What you get done you get done and move forward in life nothing can be learned by looking back. Anytime you get paranoid think what it is now that you have to be thankful for. Are you where you want to be in life and what makes you feel of value. Keep going in life stop less for others and do what makes you happy, live long.
Always do your best to stay positive. There will be days you’ll feel too tired to do anything that’s normal. Life has its ups and downs. Just keep going and never give up. You cannot be too dependent on others for wellness most days you only have yourself.
It’s important never to complain nothing seems to go right afterward. Listen even when you’re stubborn chances are there is some truth to the opinions of others even if what they see does not match what you see. Know yourself well enough when to stop not everyone can redirect you toward your goals in life you mostly have yourself to blame when you fall off track ... always prove them wrong. Don’t stay anywhere to the point of embarrassment keep your pride know your strengths ... you belong anywhere well and when sick no one wants you, remember that. There will always be excuses no one wants to take responsibility when another does not foster or thrive in any environment - be the bigger person and let go. Once you start thriving doing better in life hope that those behind you do well too not as attached affected by you not doing well in life. Never in my life have I changed so much to accommodate another and still not have been good enough. Stick to what works best for you. With or without people in your life keep living life. #stopsuicide
You can be a positive person and things still may not go well for you in life sometimes that’s no ones fault not even your own. It’s by what you choose to focus on takes you to where you end up in life better off or worse off. Don’t allow others to dictate where you end up in life you know yourself best. Know when to let go and when to move forward in life you’ll thank yourself later for not having stuck around to see your life fall apart. Life is full of miracles your life included if you don’t wish to be apart of the happinesses of others you can always leave and find happiness on your own.
You have options in life you are one of them choose you always. Not everyone will be on your team in life you can’t compare yourself to others. If you’re not happy with where you are in life think what is it that you can be doing better to get to where you want to be in life. It’s never too late to change, don’t be defiant, be proactive, improve, not go backwards, and always do your best.
LYS #17 new blog
Always stay positive. No matter how your life goes, the days long or short keep going in life and never give up. Be wise about self care don’t waste your time energy and thoughts on things that don’t matter. It’s more necessary to assemble your present than it is to assemble your past.
Never let yourself go. You’ll regret backtracking needing to put yourself back together after you fall. Don’t let anyone get the best of you present or past. Always be your best loveable self no matter who comes into your life or leaves. You will always be you.
You know you best -no one can tell you otherwise unless you see so for yourself. People can advise you of what to do what not to do in life but ultimately it’s your choice how you decide to live your life. Take advice whole heartedly when you’re not doing well in life and criticisms with a grain of salt. Don’t beat yourself up over it if you’re not perfect where you are now. Chances are it’s just a phase and will pass. If you allow everyone to get the best of you you’ll never be happy with where you are now.
You are in part the company you keep. Never let your guard down to the extent that you lose your sense of self and purpose in life you can wind up losing everything. Know your limits in life, you can’t go running around pretending to be something you are not always be yourself. Once you lose your sense of self and purpose think what can I do better in life not by who better in life you can find to make you a better person. Only until you are better will you find better in life. When you set your expectations low you tend to find more than what you bargained for when you set your expectations too high you wind up less than happy with what you’ve got.
There are no do-overs in life. Lend a hand to those in need but don’t expect the same time and attention in return. You’d think that karma would take care of the rest but life isn’t always a point system. You can’t relive life. Happy moments are worth living for. Different isn’t always better, and familiar is comforting. Learn when to take risks and when to stop. If you’re not happy with where you are now then stick to what you’re good at ... good generally follows from what we know best rarely while learning do we shine or set ourselves apart - to rise above feeling less than in life think ... not where you could be but make the most of where you are now. Always pick up from where you left off ... don’t let too much time pass without bettering yourself, it’s not at your expense only when you get set behind in life, miss out on living life. Contribute to causes when you can it’s not always necessary to benefit from the time spent helping others. -When you want and need less in life the happier you’ll be with what you have.
Don’t make life harder than it needs to be. Every day is an opportunity to better yourself and those around you. Until you can manage well yourself can you manage others, that includes healthy interpretations of what others think and how what you do affects what they think of you. Do your best not to engage in any activities that would undermine the judgments of you or reinforce negative judgments toward you. Always be in control.
Love who you are when you’re with the one you love and do everything you can to make it last.
Life can be unpredictable at times even unmanageable but you have to keep moving forward. Sometimes fear will stop you in your tracks and keep you from living life and staying in the moment. You just have to always do your best not to allow those fears to come to fruition and keep living the life you think you deserve. There’s no such thing as perfect, only a good life with a big heart would accept anyone lesser than, including me. Keep your head up, and out of the clouds. A better life awaits you you just have to steer clear of avoiding life and living it as best you can.
I think if you have something thoughtful to say then share it if no one understands you or mistakes your cares as for aggressive stakes in matters or from their perspective coming from a bad place then it’s a no win situation also known as a fight when someone hears what you have to say and not to their benefit justify any disgust or hatred for you as to why. Usually people who hate you need added justification for thinking poorly of you hearing every detail in the negative spinning every story in the negative and not seeing your point of view or what good you have done for another’s never a nuisance or a clown to anyone or creating any controversies to which embarrassment is felt likewise to the one not receiving any accommodations in life life is difficult it’s no easy task being bullied and for the later purpose for identifying potential misinformation or direction for story telling it was made a point of clarifying the other parties to whom were affected me myself included - when there a multiple victims to a story do not blame the story teller for coming forward how an anti-bullying statute is made to no enable that harm to continue as toward them identifying them as the whore they as victim. Allow people time to heal find themselves and either do or no not get back together that choice is up to those who share love not for society to decide who gets loved based upon who is most liked popular known as or not known as a whore.
When everything quiets that’s a good time to work on yourself usually chaos erupts when we are not happy with where we are not keeping busy and or bored - time passing but no movement forward in life. I was once told “if you’re not in motion” you’re not moving forward in life and that success is about being task oriented. You either are someone who listens in life to those who care about you and love you or made fun of it for having been given advices in life and still not been able to find success with all the support you’ve been afforded in life. Some decisions are easier said than done including living an accomplished life one that you are proud of. Everyone has their own issues in life “be careful” not to make the issues of others your own. #presidenttrump inspired #lifeadvice.
It’s easy to get carried away in life doing things that you love to do such as writing. It’s not always humorous to reference others as this may cause discomfort to be mentioned. Not all is fair when it comes to love always do your part to be an equal addition to any friendship, relationship, or co-working environment. The best attitude is by someone who doesn’t rely on others for happiness or a sense of normalcy, the best companions in life are those who are independent, if you can’t manage that much then continue to work on yourself.
Live with no regrets. That means don’t base your confidence off how many confidants you have in life but base it upon your well being, if you are the company you keep, then make sure to be yourself your own best friend. You won’t always have it all in life but that doesn’t mean stop trying to. It’s not really about what goes up must come down but what goes up stays up as long as you keep trying in other arenas in life, how to maintain wellness ... never give up on your physical health usually all else follows from there. Live first for yourself and secondly for others. #dating #wellness #mentalhealth #fitness #balance
It’s hard to plan out your life especially when your lost or at a lost. It can be hard at times to see beyond your troubles, thinking backwards instead of forwards. Give yourself time to heal. With a strong sense of faith in yourself I’ve been told “time heals all wounds.” Don’t be so hard on yourself everyone has problems. It’s how you deal with your past moving forward that indicates where you end up in life in a better spot or worse off.
What is faith? Believing in yourself or believing in others and why is faith required for any relationship to last? Is it really necessary that you believe in someone to call that love? I think so. If you don’t believe in someone than question why are you with that person, maybe it is trust that is lacking, why love is not felt in the immediate. People show love in different ways, the goal is to always be faithful that’s more than trusting one another with your heart it’s about sharing a life with someone isn’t that always the end goal? Some of us true were meant to be alone, that could change however upon meeting someone who loves you, what then can you do to make it work?
Stay positive good things happen when you least expect it. To be afforded privileges in life you have to play by the rules that may not always be by the book. Do your best to keep up with the times it’s not necessary that you understand everything even as explained be able to empathize with whom and why. Don’t make other people’s problems your own always be yourself.
I was once told to “think big” by someone I’ve dated on and off for years. This is not stuff you talk about out loud generally who you date, it’s bound to wind up in self-sabatoge things not working out for you then paranoid about loss by declaring what you do have in life. Much about life has to do with not sharing and by what you share influences the opinions of others toward you or so leads discussions about you in the positive or negative. Always be sure to be confident by whatever you choose to share in life make sure it accurately reflects who you are not go by what you think others think of you.
Timing is everything. It may not always be a good time to start something new but why wait. The more you prolong the process of getting started the harder beginning will be.
Not everyone will be on your side in life and that’s okay. You won’t win every argument … people’s minds are not always at your disposal, be ready to face challenges, disagreements, those who play devils advocate and those who automatically take the other persons side. Have fun in life even if you are on the losing team thought wise, lifes a journey full of ups and downs and most feelings are only temporary. Sure enough you’re bound to get better at managing your esteem and the esteems of others without intruding upon their self-worth and abilities in life to feel better than, be self-assured that you don’t always know best and respect all opinions when if shared that’s their time spent too hashing things out.
Think for yourself and others. That’s not the same as thinking about others, think mostly about yourself in life ... that usually helps to clear the air not dive into obsessions about how others are or are living their lives ... do your best to be mostly concerned with yourself. The less you care what others think and the less you think about what others are thinking the more you’ll care for yourself and not be so easily bothered or worried about what people would think, do think, or are thinking about you.
Just do your best. You can’t always use mental health issues or meds as an excuse for the way you live your life, how you deal with your emotions, define what your feeling or what others are thinking about you, you won’t always know what the right thing to do is. Meds may be a crutch but don’t allow people to be your crutch try to take the place of things in your life that bring you comfort ... you are only dependent upon what you have dependency on don’t ever be dependent upon people, you should always depend on yourself and do your best to live independently of others.
Managing yourself online is no easy task there’s a delicate balance to be maintained: what is to remain private and what’s appropriate to share ... depending on the times this changes and as you mature you will find yourself sharing less and less online. Social media is not new to everyone and for those of us as latecomers it’s easy to pick up the addiction that is to share and get feedback from others, that’s mostly what social media is about ... feedback. If you on your own don’t know or aren’t sure then don’t share it as a general rule of thumb chances are your bound to make your audience uncomfortable too just as you are sharing something you’re not sure of whether to share or not. Always lead yourself online confidently from that focus on positives the best words will come to mind.
Be a creator in life not a follower of words, when it comes from within you feel much better about yourself not as regurgitating what is said to you, come to believe in yourself regardless of what others say to you, but don’t be so stubborn as to be unaccepting of the input of others, you know you best, some may think they know you better, but don’t as controlled become accustomed to life driven by input you wind up lost in that way you should instead be driven by your own goals in life not just as led driven by the goals of others in life, much about life is a team effort that is if you work well with others if you feel that your best interests are not met by any team effort than that’s you “I” not to include yourself in any endeavors which you do not fit wholly as well -why some stay home some up to bat among the well ... don’t lose faith you too can be of service among those well so long as you first master wellness on your own without the help of others.
Introduction (Add: LYS 12, 13)
By: Leslie Fischman
I’ve learned much about mental illness throughout the years, but especially while achieving well, are you reminded of where you have been in life. Every experience in life teaches you a lesson about value and time. When you are aware of how to manage your time, and are doing well things not only go smoothly but life passes you by uninterrupted. You can only go with the flow, once you have mastered your time management skills, otherwise, you get stuck, in what seems like procrastination but is really just lack of motivation and drive in life, not all successful people are driven, success is not a product necessarily of who surrounds you or by what you have done in life, but is much about staying positive in the process of living your life. We have memories in life, not to be scripted as remembered as poignant, that just reflects feelings of loss or fear of loss whenever anything poignant is established, that can demonstrate a break in a relationship or a forced memory to trigger recall of your past to see if true, that give power to the one creating a story rather than the one living their life as within a story. Everyone protects people differently from harm, and some think it justified to put others down to protect themselves, as not knowing what work has been accomplished by someone who does the same. There are a lot of changes you go through in the process of self discovery its usually when you are not paying attention that you are made to look different without you knowing and by the time you realize what has happened its too late, harm is never justified, and if others have already retaliated or become territorial to their own belief, well then just let them be, never respond to anyone who is negative toward you, no harm is justified especially not anyone claiming victim, when things do not go well in life its by connections and connections broken and knowing what causes discomforts in life, sometimes things occurring in private when made public are uncomfortable, don’t turn yourself into a reject conforming to negative opinions of you that you forget your life, the good years lived, and the time you weren’t caught up in the troubles of others, or your own troubles in life. I thought it was wise to make a pen name, not to use my own name for my writing, that was to protect my identity and it turns out that my own name was put through the system, irreparable, my identity. It takes years after something negative is said about you and set in stone, you don’t realize how affected you just don’t feel good, and certainly anything that makes you not feel good, you would think was intended to not make you feel good as deserved, but you never think twice about anything when you are hurt or heartbroken, you usually just focus then on what you are doing well in life irrespective of the opinions of others. Never assume that people understand why they are treated the way they are treated, as though a confirmed identity of them has been established, we cannot be matched with all, and certainly there is no type when it comes to love as a general rule of thumb you pick who picks you not the opposite if you are a woman, otherwise you look desperate or as insulted a reject, not special. People generally only want to connect or be social and physical with people who have desired traits that they themselves do not have. I have always been a star athlete and student not the prettiest, but certainly not of no value, I’ve always had high self esteem, that’s generally where confidence comes from, being good at what youre good at and because you are good at what your good at you shine, that’s in your realm of expertise, to know yourself well enough, its not expected that others know you well in order for you to feel whole or to live a good life, some people were not meant for closeness and bonding, its by who is sharing is empowered and vice versa the listener learns but that does not mean that the listener is not affected by what is heard or overheard. I found a term in college vicarious trauma, and shared my research and findings in an honors thesis, that took a semester to write. When people think its about them or reasons for conducting research as about them, take personally as though speaking from my own shoes how I felt in the first person, is an assumption, I am not a judgmental person only a judgmental person would be insulted by a title and think its about counselors insulting their client, as affect, take insult to the term “vicarious trauma” as applied, its not a subject existing why it was a thesis a new discussion and with new discussion further research is conducted to help the parties affected. A lot of people work and volunteer and for whatever reasons do not stay, this was a research study shared with me by another counselor, I had written a paper one semester on hotline counselors, and continued to research and get additional approvals to write a longer paper on a paper I wrote for class with research approval. It takes time to develop and learn, its not easy college, you have to learn and perform, as you get older, time does not move so slowly, and anything new goes slowly, for anyone with experience time moves fast, this is something that’s not generally understood, but is obvious looking back, as through your own life lived, how time moves, everyone is different. As you get older you mature making wiser decisions, no one really wants to know about your personal life, and its really no ones business who has liked you in the past, if youre a different person now or a reject then of course those who liked you in the past would be offended or not feel comfortable as attached to someone who is now a reject, of course those who are picked are not rejects but strong people, independent, and loving able to give love, if later in life they are not the same person, well that means theyre only human, not everyone finds a match in life, and its hard to maintain your good health and give love to others, that’s not what life is about, giving love to others, finding love, but about what value you add to your life experience wise, if you do things to attract others attentions, or behave in a way that attracts attention then you are likely to be deemed as someone with low self esteem and worthy of being devalued, its all a matter of what kind of attention you draw towards yourself you are judged by, not all separations in life are due to fighting and rejections sometimes its about managing your own health, its not your responsibility to take into consideration the private lives of others, or be affected by their health, unless youre a doctor that’s not your responsibility, most people get turned off by those who are not normal or weird, looking sounding and behavior wise, deemed as not intelligent, and thought contagious, its really a matter of how you feel on the inside, does it make you feel small or less then, then surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself, its all a matter of reaction, not a matter of sexuality or attractiveness, people who attract or engage in physical touching or relationships are people who are well, its not by how many lives you have touched that give you experience in life but about how well you are in spite of allowing others to share their life with you, as a woman, you take a risk, being open with others making others feel good, and we hope that the benefit goes both ways, usually upon complaining or disclosure, are you deemed as someone unappreciative once declared a reject, as deserved and whether or not you have marriage or kids, deemed to not be of value even if in the work force, second guessed as defective or rejected as possessing undesirable traits, or loved just the same, eve if hooked on exes, or bearing a defect. Love certainly is not the solution then to cure an already defective condition and everytime love is given, not only do you look bad, but once a reject the others are left as perfect as you are further from yourself, and the further away you are from yourself, the further away you are from realizing your potential, I think physicality is gifted to those who focus on physicality, and those who focus on intelligence and bettering themselves by education learning or achieving in life awards for affirmation, then that’s what makes them feel good not their looks as looks are a strength of the well, you can do your best to manage your health but don’t highlight your bad years to encourage questioning of your relationship statuses and attractions, being overweight does not mean butch and not being able to phot well does not mean butch or jealous or negative or absorbing negativity as directed toward them it could just mean that someone who does not look well uncharacteristically because as not well was a way to discourage bad behavior or drug use, that’s called being a good friend, I had many good friends in high school. Depression is about self esteem, when you get rejected don’t take it personally, when you find out later why or how come or told who you’ve been replaced by, just let things go, don’t years later, bring things up as a premise for why mentally ill at that point in time, they will just attack your character based upon what they think bothered you to see if you are telling the truth about your wellness and looks, and keep testing you until you can no longer repair yourself, and actually look and become a reject, that’s people on the outside thinking they can control the inside of a conversation or underlying dialogue as to be about them or by what they remember, every audience is different in life, and sometimes if you don’t hear from someone, that does not mean that they are someplace else in life, worse off, usually when someone is focusing on themselves its to better themselves for the job and friends, return to socialization. If a return to socialization cannot exist based upon negative judgments reported as occurring outside a set of interactions than those ideas are furthered on a smaller scale, with the initial incident of heartbreak rehashing itself, you cannot treat someone as a reject based upon what they hear or think that someone is not smart because their point of view is different than their own point of view, or attack the character of people as knowing and not disclosing what they know as playing along with jokes their whole life, some see and realize how individuals were affected, and this promotes positivity in those who understand jokes, the jokes that people make about others, should never affect the person to whom the joke is made about, if you find out much later in life the premise for the jokes, then you realize by lawsuit and punishment, which imitations in life, promoted which dialogues interpretations and furthered stories about others, until those ideas poor of others came to fruition, that is turning someone well into a reject. I think that all people are intelligent on the inside of any story, having a unique perspective if you think my hand in life is better than how everyone else felt as viewing from the outside, then don’t switch places with me as deserved, to then make me feel like Im missing something in life, or because not on point, its my responsibility to stop of help those who get lost in the understandings of others, never lose faith, its not by who you know its by what you know based upon your education not based upon what you hear, that just affects your memory, how people try to become special or apart of your life, before you have even been given an opportunity to get well, not everything is instant in life, it can only be lived once through, don’t treat people as you judge them, you have no idea what they’ve been through or why they look the way they do, always trust that people heal get better over time, and that the more good time they have the more opportunities in life they are afforded to start over or live a new or better life.
You will meet a lot of people in life some who will try to tell your story for you and some who think telling your story for you does a service to others as told as they see evens occurring always speak from the first person not to others as though you are them for reaction or be offended take personally when others see you as something you are not they may expect more of you given your age education and training to be “pleased” is by what you expect seeing come to fruition in others that’s forecasting based upon what you get what reactions you get in life not by your own conduct but by what makes sense to you as affirmed by others wellness and good deeds no affirmation to be furthered if you need affirmation from others to share a perspective you think is proper then that’s waiting for reaction from others to confirm beliefs as though I think I’m Kim or Skylar or think they think they are me or I think I’m someone I’m not to see how high school happened? I was always a caretaker share clothes everything I’m not a selfish person what is borrowed like clothes is not given back if it makes others feel special to have something of yours then don’t devalue the source of empowerment to others as though I’m an imitation of others not myself. Beauty is not by looking at imitated its an exchange and not between women as affected spoken to given or received but by strength empowerment not by shrinking one another or through the sharing of emotions usually that makes the other feel smarter or better than don’t make yourself vulnerable to others as affected become the reject or sensitive one how you lose your beauty and how another feels beauty as loved or better than not both can be pretty it’s usually who looks up to who or who gets more attention than the other that’s just women + beauty.
Don’t get depressed thinking that life is short that just drags you down in life, don’t be led astray in life be thankful for what you have and be empowered by that. You will encounter a lot of illness in life think what is it that you can do to stay well in spite of suffering from illness. The positive interpretation is always best not by interpreting things in the negative do we grow.
You can only stay positive so long before something does not go right or runs afoul, think first what it is that you are focusing on positives or negatives to make happen for you in life a weller state of mind. Nothing negative sought to be proven ever led anyone to a better state of mind it’s usually the opposite when positive if focusing on negatives in avoidance of proof the negative occurs, why it’s important to either focus or create a more positive outlook even when things are not going right so that things fall toward the well not fall backwards into illness - give people time to heal, you cannot study the illnesses of others to help make them well you cannot not listen to those who are not well to think you can control their wellness play god or make yourself look better as caretaker to that’s not empowerment that’s disempowering the ill to make the well more well at the expense of those who are ill kept ill or going backwards toward illness. Allow people time to move forward and get well why we have right to privacy to not relive events or illnesses move forward in life. God forgives everyone has the responsibility to do the same not do up dirt about people who are well to prove smarter than or not well by comparison
Some people are privileged to keep going in life find a better life improve. Some of us stay put. You have to keep going in life if you want to find happiness you can’t just stop living life upon rejection that just means that that person is not right for you if they can’t see long term with you. Always do your best, recovery takes time, change doesn’t happen overnight, you just have to count your losses in life and earn your wins. Some people wait on bad things to happen to do well in life some of us need no catalyst to make change happen in our lives. You matter so long as you don’t interfere with the happinesses is others, never change for the worst it’s that instability that turns people off prevents people from getting close to you and likewise makes you not trust yourself once you lose your positive outlook in life not able to see yourself long term, that’s how you know you’ve given your heart to someone who’s not a match you lose your positive outlook.
Sometimes you get lost in life led astray God forgives you. You need love in order to feel at peace with yourself and others, we don’t always get that much in life. Least you can do is be there for others, give unconditionally and allow the best to shine with or without you. Not everyone is fit for leadership -we all wish to be admired looked up to but that is not always the case sometimes we have to work on ourselves. The best third wheels in life are those who give not take from others why they are well liked by couples, the benefit going to those who share love given by someone without love or who has love gives love to them. Know your part always don’t separate people from loved ones and do your best to help people grow not stifle the development of others taking love away. #presidenttrump
Be patient with those who care about you know that everyone is going through something different at this time processing the past and planning for their future. Do your best always to be of service to others without sacrificing what it is that makes you happy. Love to love but when in Rome know when to back off and let people get to work to stay afloat.
As you reflect on your past don’t beat yourself up over it. Think what can you do now at the present moving forward to fix yourself. You can’t remix history, it will always be there the same. You’ll wish a lot of things in life, but nothing will happen for you unless you first forgive yourself and others. Fighting is never the answer to your problems. Connect well to what helps you grow not what holds you back in life.
It is possible to love more than one thing or person in life ... even if you love yourself to bits. Mostly completed by the people we have in our lives who help make us feel whole. When you’re ready to present yourself to the world always present the best version of yourself others are only happy for you when you’re at your best realize your best in life that’s when they’re most proud of you, love yourself, but never to the extent that you hurt yourself not happy with where you are in life. You will never stop being a day older another year wiser #agingisaprocess.
When all is lost think first what it is that you have in life, what do you have to offer the world, that’s self-worth. What gives you energy makes you feel good are activities that are good for your health, don’t be led astray by quick remedies in life, not everything that feels good is good for you. What is it that’s important to you in life and think how can I be best suited to achieve goals in life that make you feel important. You are guided after all by those thoughts and goals you set for yourself in life. #presidenttrump
Those looking in from the outside always do their best to control what information gets sent in, that’s called being overprotective, when you have people around you who care #enough to not let you turn into someone who is disliked by association, why new associations help reinforce what is good about you while disempowering those who thought less of you. At what point can all sides win, at what point can you just be yourself and stop fighting mental illness -is it life long? When does your battle with mental illness give way to negative commentary about you, is it deserved when your defenses are down not sharp at a loss in life. When do the jokes stop and what are we coding to exactly which causes should we support and what is it that’s causing people to look and feel like $hit is it deserved, where has beauty gone, and what is causing beauty loss?
You only have one life to live. Love is important but not to the extent that it becomes the end all be all to your sense of happiness. Who is it that gets love in life and what makes people loveable. We’re not always in the mood when love comes around but that doesn’t mean shut the door on those opportunities to be loved. There’s a lot of give and take when it comes to valuing yourself while giving love to others, never at your own expense make others feel better unless you yourself feel good, that’s love. #slutwalk
Be careful not to repeat elements knowing causes for illness learn how to leave things alone when someone is taken doing well in life able to give their heart online not expect more of them for some of us it takes a long time to get well not burn people out when things are well.
It’s easy to feel offended when someone does not give you love in return don’t take things personally people have only so much to give in life cannot be responsible for the happinesses of others expect that people are always doing their best.
Slept well for the first time last night in awhile have been waking up at 2 or 3 am unable to go back to sleep. Know your limits in life. When things are peaceful know how to let things go and not push peoples limits in life how people burn out unable to keep up with the times.
Don’t be resistant to help from others, they come a dime a dozen. Be appreciative always of your blessings in life and good fortune, without whom you would not be where you are today. Good luck comes to those who know and value themselves and others.
The less time you spend worrying what other people think the more time you get to spend being you. Forgive yourself often and always set your standards high. You can’t cut corners in life just do your best and work with what you’ve got.
Help yourself first before helping others, nothing gets done right when complacent, everyday is an opportunity to better yourself. That being said, know when to stop, nothing lasts forever. In order to set a good example you yourself must be well, otherwise let those who are well lead.
“Just stay positive” is sometimes easier said than done. You can’t always get your way in life if so then we would all be happy right? But life isn’t perfect, we all have our flaws, it’s to the betterment of all that we find some positive purpose in life, driven by goals, not needs and wants, finding comfort in the fact that you are not alone.
Some people don’t change you can’t change people. They may adapt themselves to their environments but that still may not be enough. Learn to let things go forgiveness is a virtue not everyone is adept at owning up to their wrongs in life, would never stoop to that level to make someone appear ambivalent when they care or aloof a sign of self-centeredness not righteousness. People can only be themselves. People take their own courses in life that will never stop, what can be stopped are expectations, what can be changed are hearts, know yours and allow others to choose for themselves who to change for, love, trust, admire, or empower that’s up to people not places.
It’s just a bad day not a bad life. Be careful not to vent your frustrations out to others -that’s not the solution to your problems to complain you usually end up worse off. It’s hard to keep a good head on your shoulders and avoid getting in trouble in life when carefree. Love often, trust more, and always be thankful for the people in your lives.
You only get one chance at hello people either welcome you into your hearts or speak above you, that’s usually a manifestation of their own insecurities reacting and responding as others would more or less understanding given the times ... some rise to the occasion and others sit back and are led by those who are well. Find yourself first and everything else will fall into place. Be patient.
Don’t let your troubles get the best of you. If you stay negative you’ll never get to experience the blessings that life has to offer. The only ones we let down when in fear are ourselves, your strengths generally come out during times of turmoil when pushed to our limits, how the best shine. Everyone gets upset and let down in life you are your own best friend in life what’s most important is being able to pull yourself out of a mess not allow the voices to fester.
Publish // Rule #1: Don’t complain. Sometimes life has it that you learn the hard way to be accepting of all, not everything is about you in life. People are mostly concerned with themselves. If paranoid think first what it is that you could be doing better in life then go out and do that.
Everyone wants to be special but that is not always the case there is a fine line not to be tampered with and that is a good image mistaken for a bad image then treated poorly to confirm the negative about someone that’s no way moving forward how to help others, by setting standards so high that once a good standard is shown or achieved put down as deserved this disables a persons ability to achieve well in spite of the circumstances to prove the past moving forward is not a result of rejection or the silent treatment that is deserved when someone is not good enough made to feel like a reject or not able. The well can be playful those who are not well do not partake in experimental behavior play with your own image not the wellness of others that’s what’s at issue when someone knowingly does something wrong it’s that response that is looked for and if in the reverse negative circumstances occur for them prove as justified or deserving as karma, allow people to grow at their own pace in life and do not be affected by the negative commentary made by others or as misdirected toward you as deserved to see how you respond the same or similar to as provoked to prove treatment of another is likewise deserved by reaction generated to confirm a similarity non-existent prior to causes creating controversy or discomfort is not then the responsibility of the person affected to be looked up for help as to the side that who while trying to identify the wrong illustrated a wrong by affecting the person believed to be a wrongdoer that’s not helpful for the provoked to defend themselves as being mischaracterized to justify a non-existing discord toward them to test to see if a discord exists as made fun of, that’s not the solution to bring about consequences or reactions to prove certain a given set of conditions occur prior to reaction to make the person reacting look defensive making others look well or better than by comparison.
You can’t always get what you want. Sometimes you are in the wrong when you’re thinkings not clear it’s easy to convince yourself that you are in the right. Never be too stubborn to think outside the box, maybe you don’t know everything, and your intuitions could be off. Let people be people you can’t control what other people think, your version of how the world works is not by the same interpretation how others see the world everyone lives different lives. By your upbringing and experiences in life contribute what you can without sacrificing what you know best yourself, all others to help you change comes slowly it’s not inevitable it take patient and good decision making skills to act and behave in a way that’s appropriate under any types of pressures to change better yourself.
No one will ever be on one side in life people will always hold their own opinions in life that’s just how it works. When a side is created by default upon the happening of any wrong, the bigger person is the one least affected and by default a chosen side. Don’t therefore by default reinforce sides and become a side or create a side or justify oneself unnecessarily to set ones self aside. When the voices linger as to your own conduct do what is right now correct what is wrong by stating what is wrong that rarely is the solution moving forward, those are called opinions you hear. Once you’ve arrived to well allow the voices to stop on their own it’s usually by good deeds and well managed thoughts we steer clear of controversy not place oneself within for unwanted attentions in life.
Not everyone is going to be on your team in life and that’s okay, in a perfect world people take sides, that doesn’t necessarily mean there is something to continue to fight about, learn to let the dust settle, let things go, and move forward without rehashing the past. Learn from your mistakes and those still accepting of you in spite of your imperfections should be valued. The more you allow your worries to dictate your thought the less of you you hear and the more of them you hear. Try not to reinforce negative opinions of you and everything you say matters and how you say everything matters as to how you will be judged.
You can’t get very far in life calling people out on their stuff to feel better about yourself, one side ends up losing the side that takes it too far or the side in defense of self wasting their energies on preventing problems can also lead to contributing to causing problems when the other side does not feel well or feel like it’s won in life, that’s called a fight. Always rise above, nothing can be solved by asserting yourself to prove another side wrong the best of them win not by proving anyone wrong but by avoiding all forms of competition for rights. To do right in life one must only be good.
Always do your best, less is more. If it would hurt someone to talk about better to talk about positives, what it is you are happy about in life rather than talk about your problems. We all have problems in life it’s selfish to assume that your life is more difficult than the lives lead by others, we all face challenges in life, we all have disabilities, and we all have pasts filled with moments we are either proud of or regret ashamed of. No one is perfect. Just do your best to stand tall and moving forward not allow your past to define you ... let go more often, enjoy who’s here now, and be of value. #thankyou #lebronjames
In order to build a better future for yourself process your past but not to the extent that it disables your present ability to move forward. Those who are successful are light on their feet, they may have been through a lot in life but they don’t easily take to heart commentary as directed toward them or others empathize with either side, are focused on being the best version of themselves. Life can be painful especially while wasting time, energy, and effort conforming to a set of ideals instead of valuing what there is to love about yourself. People who truly love you will accept you just the way you are and if you change so be it. Always do your best to better yourself everyday you’ve got and not give in to negativity that is processing the negative sentiments shared by others about you or others, stay on track and never give up. You are only allowed so many energy points per day spend them wisely on what matters and who matters to you in life, you’ll be lucky enough to be rewarded ten fold if you don’t lose sight of your cares in life and your way of handling reality coping see best fit.
#leverageyourstory (Days 21-24) (07/26/18 -08/05/18)
08-01-18 (Day 21)
When things are not going well for you in life its easy to blame others for our illnesses. -You cant go backwards from errors or mistakes in life you can only move forward. -Accept what help you get in life but don’t make worse your problems or the problems of others. Knowing when to stop is knowing to stop self-harming and start valuing yourself and your future endeavors put together or not.
08-04-18 (Day 22)
Being mysterious means not allowing people to control your sense of being in life. You cannot predict the actions of others and you cannot stop the feelings that others have toward you, that does not make better situations in life. You have to be in control of yourself and your emotions, not by embarrassment respond to others. You cant stop people from not liking you in life you have to stay positive.
08-05-18 (Day 23)
It takes awhile to continue to do well after you have hit a low in life or struggled with maintaining your sense of self and self-worth. When you are not strong in life it makes it difficult to connect well with others, old patterns of behavior repeat themselves when you are not doing well in life to any bystander it becomes obvious who is well off or not doing well in life. It doesn’t matter how much money you have if people don’t like you -they will still try to connect to you to cause you harm. -That’s why you let go in life. When things are not going well for you in life always take a step back. You cant relive your life differently if you are not happy with where you are in life. It should not matter what people think -or whether they empathize with you or not misread or try to read or dictate your path in life -to align with their interests as about them. That is why its important to disconnect with others who put you in the forefront of your mind affects always your sense of self and identity as a writer -sheltered this is something I understand but not most -How me as a writer gets affected by others. -Whether or not that’s purposeful knowing who I am -is not my fault. For the purposes of embodiments and honesty its who you put in charge of you that affects your sense of person -and acceptance of you is based upon your behavior and how you feel about yourself. What may be tested for is how others feel about me -not my responsibility.
08-05-18 (Day 23 – continued)
There comes a point when you stop blaming others for your problems in life and start accepting your life as it is now. There is no cure for acceptance of negativity -either toward you or about you. -In these cases best a person can do is lay low not subject themselves to negative judgement or put themselves up as vulnerable in need of acceptance. Learn to walk away from anything that causes you emotional disturbance. What occurs outside your sense of self is not your responsibility to correct. -Just identify your own happiness in life and what works best for you. When you are not doing well in life it becomes next to impossible to make others happy around you or be accepting of you as looking weird, or weak, or with low self-esteem without a strong sense of self-identity. Whenever something negative in your life occurs always do your best to separate yourself from whats hurting you or your sense of identity in life sense of being whole. Until you are happy with your own image will others be understanding and accepting of you. You are always affected by who offends you -don’t enable the wrong kinds of people to become apart of your life and hurt your ability to succeed in life, no one deserves that kind of power over you to hurt your ability to exist and function in life hurt your sense of inner peace and ability to adapt to your surroundings and hurt your ability to connect well with others whole now [at your own expense] imperfect [as compared to the wellness that surrounds you].